Ngabe uchitha wonke umzuzu wokuvuka ucabanga ngokuhlangana nothando lwakho lweqiniso?
Mhlawumbe nawe uzibona uthandana nawo wonke umuntu obabheka emehlweni, noma uphupha ngempilo yakho nomuntu oweta omuhle ombonile… emasontweni amathathu edlule!
Sonke besikhona, kepha ukulangazelela kwakho uthando kungangena endleleni yokuthi uthole okuthile kwangempela.
Uma ukwazi ukuthola ukuthi ungayeka kanjani ukufuna ubudlelwano, empeleni kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kwenzeke!
Sabelana ngamathiphu ethu aphezulu ukukusiza ukuthi uyeke iphupho lobudlelwano ukuze into yangempela ize kuwe!
1. Qhubeka uphola.
Awudingi ukubeka impilo yakho yokuqomisana ukuyeka ukufuna ubudlelwano!
Ungavele uyibuke ngombono onempilo.
Awunayo isidingo ubudlelwano noma umlingani, ngakho-ke ungayeka ukujola ngendlela esheshayo, yokuphelelwa yithemba.
Esikhundleni salokho, zinike isikhathi sakho futhi ujabulele nje ukwazi abantu abasha. Ungahle ungaqedi ukuthandana nabo kepha uzobe uchithe isikhathi nomuntu ohlukile - futhi ungathola umngane omkhulu kuyo (yebo, lokho kungenzeka!)
Khumbula ukuthi ingcindezi encane oyifaka osukwini, maningi amathuba okuthi uphumule futhi ukujabulele. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uzoba nobumnandi obuningi njengoba ungeke ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokuthi uhlangabezana kanjani.
Kusho nokuthi ungahle ube nethuba lokuxhumana nomuntu ngokushesha noma ukwazi ukukhipha ngokushesha ezothando, ngoba uzobe ukhona ngokugcwele futhi ukwazi ukubona izinto ngomqondo ovulekile.
Lapho sitshale imali kakhulu enjongweni yokuphela kobudlelwano, sivame ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi amafulegi abomvu awekho, noma ukuthi sithanda umuntu ngendlela edlula leyo esiyenzayo. Okuningi kulokhu ngezansi…
2. Yiba nomfutho.
Abanye bethu balulangazelele kakhulu uthando kangangokuba sikhetha ukungazinaki amafulegi abomvu ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuthandana nothile.
Lokhu kujwayelekile, kepha kusho ukuthi iningi lethu lingena ebudlelwaneni obungasifanele, obuye buphele bese busishiya sifisa kakhulu ukuthola umuntu omusha…
… Lokhu kushisekela okwandayo kusenza singazinaki amafulegi abomvu futhi na ngaphezulu ngoba sinjalo, ngakho-ke sifuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze nothile (noma ubani!) - futhi umjikelezo uyaqhubeka.
Esikhundleni sokuvumela izindinganiso zakho ziphelelwe yithemba, hlala ugxile!
Yini ngempela oyifunayo kozakwethu kusuka kubambiswano? Gcina lokho engqondweni ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala bese uqhubeka uma umuntu othandana naye engabonakali kahle.
Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubheke kulokho okwenzayo empeleni funa ngokungafani nokufuna nje ubuhlobo… noma yini ubuhlobo.
Futhi, lapho ufika ekubeni sebudlelwaneni futhi, maningi amathuba okuthi ube nomuntu omthandayo futhi ohambisana naye!
3. Qhubeka ube nguwe.
Lapho sibanjwa sifuna ubudlelwano, siphonsa yonke imizamo yethu ekubeni yinguqulo yethu engcono ukuze omunye umuntu asithande.
Yeka ukwenza lokhu!
Sonke besikhona kepha akugcini lapho - ngokwengxenye ngoba awusoze wakhululeka ngokuphelele futhi ube nguwe, kepha futhi ngoba lokho kunikeza omunye umuntu ukulindela okungenangqondo ukuthi unjani ngempela futhi kusho ukuthi bathandana ne- umqondo kwakho.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi bazomangala lapho i-facade ekugcineni ishibilika (okuyinto engenakugwenywa!) Futhi kusho ukuthi abatholi ithuba lokubona ngokweqiniso ukuthi umkhulu kangakanani.
Kusho futhi ukuthi umdlalo wakho ophelele awutholi ithuba lokuhlangana nawe ngoba umatasa kakhulu uzenza umdlalo ofanele womunye umuntu.
Izimpawu ezi-7 zikuthola ukhanga
Impela, yiba nenhlonipho, ube nemikhuba emihle lapho udla, unciphise isiqalekiso, bese wenza umzamo omncane wokuba nethemba…
… Vele ungazami ukudweba isithombe sakho esingakhombisi iqiniso.
4. Gxila kuwe.
Lapho ugxila kakhulu ekugcwaliseni impilo yakho ngezinto ezimangazayo (kunokuzama ukuyigcwalisa ngokumangazayo umuntu ), lapho uzofika uyeke ukufuna ubudlelwano kabi kakhulu.
Abaningi bethu banxanela umuntu okhethekile ezimpilweni zethu futhi bayeke ukuzama ukuzifeza, ngoba siqinisekile ukuthi lo muntu uzosenzela lokho.
Lokhu akulindelekile ngokweqiniso - akekho umuntu oyedwa ongaba yikho konke esikudingayo empilweni! Sidinga abangani nezinto zokuzilibazisa nezintshisekelo ezingaphandle kobudlelwano bethu.
Lapho uhlakulela impilo yakho emangalisayo, kulapho uzoqala khona ukubona umlingani wakho njengebhonasi kunokuba abe yikho konke kuphele konke.
Uzakwethu kufanele angene empilweni yakho futhi engeze kuyo, kunokuba ukuba it!
Zigcine umatasa ngokwenza izinto ozithandayo futhi uzoyeka ukululangazelela kakhulu uthando. Lapho uthando luvela, uzoba sendaweni enempilo ukuze uluthokozele kunokuba ululangazelele futhi ukhokhele noma yini engaphansi kokufanele.
5. Chitha isikhathi nabantu obathandayo.
Ukuchitha isikhathi nabantu obathandayo kuyisikhumbuzo esihle sokuthi usuvele uyathandwa futhi uyaziswa.
Akufani nokuba nomuntu ofuna izingubo zakhe uziklebhule, siyakuthola, kodwa kusathandeka ukuba nabantu abakwaziyo nabakwamukelayo.
Uma uzizwa unesizungu futhi kukwenza ufune ubudlelwano ngempela, ungakuyeka lokhu (noma okungenani ukubunciphise) ngokubona umndeni nabangane lapho udinga ukuthokoza, udinga iseluleko, noma nje udinga ukwangiwa okukhulu.
Khumbula ukuthi uyathandwa futhi uyaziswa ngabantu vele, futhi kuzokwenza uzizwe ungasafani nawe isidingo ukuba sebudlelwaneni ukuze ujabulele leyo mizwa.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzothola umuntu ongakunika uhlobo lothando olulandela ngempela, kepha ngokwamukela lolo thando selukhona vele empilweni yakho, lolo hlaka lokuphelelwa yithemba luyasuswa.
6. Yiba namaqiniso ngothando lwangaphambili.
Ukuze uyeke ukufuna ubudlelwano, thembeka kuwe ngobuhlobo obudlule.
Abaningi bethu bayaziqinisekisa ukuthi ama-exes ethu ayamangalisa futhi uthando lwethu lweqiniso ukuthi saba nesikhathi esihle kangaka nabo konke isikhathi!
Empeleni, noma ngabe simthanda kangakanani umuntu, kuzoba khona ukwehla nokwehla ebudlelwaneni.
Zikhumbuze ngalezi zingcezu ukuze ubudlelwano bakho obumnandi bungasekho kuzisekelo ezinjalo.
Lapho sicabanga ngokwengeziwe ngobudlelwano ‘obuphelele’, kulapho sikhungathekela kakhulu ukubuthola futhi nezinqumo esizithathayo futhi ezingenampilo senza.
Esikhundleni salokho, zikhumbuze ukuthi impilo yakho imnandi uma ungashadile nokuthi ufuna ukuba nomuntu okujabulisa ngokweqiniso - okusho ukudedela uhlobo lwakho oluthandwayo lobudlelwano obudlule.
7. Gcwalisa izikhala.
Cabanga ukuthi yini oyifisayo ebudlelwaneni bese uthola indlela yokugcwalisa leso sikhala.
Inkampani? Abangani bahle!
Usuku lobusuku? Thatha isidlo sakusihlwa esimnandi!
Ubusuku obumnandi ngaphakathi? Isikhathi sesofa nezilwane ezifuywayo!
Kulungile, uyabona ukuthi siyaphi nalokhu, kepha, kukho konke ukungathí sina, kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zokugcwalisa lezi zinhlobo ze-voids ezizokusiza ukuthi unqamuke ekutheni ufuna ubuhlobo obungakanani.
Ungathola induduzo enkulu, ukunakwa, nothando kubantu obathandayo esivele isikhona empilweni yakho. Siyazi ukuthi akufani nokuba nesoka noma intombi, kepha kufanele kusize ukwehlisa lokho kuphelelwa amandla okungenani isikhashana.
Kuzokwenza futhi ukuthi uqonde ukuthi zingakanani izinto ezinkulu esezivele zisempilweni yakho, ezizokusiza ubone ukuthi uzakwethu uyisengezo empilweni esele igcwele, hhayi ukuphela.
8. Khumbula ukuthi kungani impilo eyodwa ingagungqi.
Ukungashadi kuhle! Futhi, cha, lokho akuyona nje into abantu abangashadile abayishoyo…
Abantu abaningi abasebudlelwaneni baphuthelwa ukungashadi kwesinye isikhathi.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukhululekile ukwenza okufunayo futhi awudingi ukucabangela imizwa yomlingani wakho.
Ungaphuma uyohlangana nomuntu othola ekhanga ngempela (inqobo nje uma uphephile, kunjalo!), Ungachitha njalo ngempelasonto wenza lokho wena funa, hhayi ukushintshanisa phakathi kwakho nezifiso zomlingani wakho.
Awudingi ukuthi ukhathazeke ngokukhohliswa noma nge-panic yangezinsuku yokuthi 'kungani bethatha isikhathi eside kangaka ukuthumela imiyalezo emuva?!'
Ukungashadi kuhle futhi, lapho uthola umuntu ofanele, uzothola izindlela zokugcina izingcezu ezinhle kakhulu zempilo eyodwa eceleni kokuba sebudlelwaneni.
izimpawu ex isoka ufuna wena emuva
Kepha, okwamanje, jabulela inkululeko nokungcebeleka okunikezwa nguwe ukuba ungashadile.
Lalela, sonke besisesikhathini empilweni lapho sizizwa silulangazelele khona uthando futhi sengathi sidinga ubudlelwano ukuze usiqedele.
Yize lokhu kujwayelekile, akunampilo ikakhulukazi - futhi akumnandi kakhulu, nakho!
Ngethemba ukuthi lawa macebiso wokuthi ungayeka kanjani ukufuna ubudlelwano azokusiza uthathe isinyathelo emuva futhi uhlole ukuthi yini ngempela oyifunayo - nokuthi kungakanani lokho osekuvele kusempilweni yakho.
Lapho ululangazelela kakhulu uthando, maningi amathuba okuthi uvulekele ukuxhumana kwangempela, futhi uvalo oluncane lapho uzoba ngokwenqaba izinto ezingakulungele.
Lokhu kungukucabanga okunempilo kakhulu ongaba nakho uma kuziwa ekufuneni umaqondana, futhi kusho ukuthi uzokwazi ukuthi ingakanani into yangempela uma ifika…
Namanje ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungayeka kanjani ukufuna ubuhlobo kabi kangaka? Ufuna usizo lokuthola umuntu ofanele wena? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
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