Uma ubuze umuntu ojwayelekile ukuthi uthando luzwakala kanjani, maningi amathuba okuthi kungabathatha isikhashana ukuzama ukuluchaza.
Abantu engibabuzile bazwakalise imizwa yabo ebisukela “ekubeni sengozini esabekayo” kuye “ekuvikeleni okukhulu,” nakho konke okuphakathi.
Uthando, izikhulu, ukwesaba, kanye nesifiso kungabantu ngabodwa njengoba abantu bezwa le mizwa. Njengalokhu, kuvame ukuba nzima ukugoqa amakhanda ethu ngqo kulokho esikuzwayo, futhi kube nzima kakhulu ukuzama ukukuchaza.
Yini le oyizwayo? Ukunakekelwa ngokweqile nothando, kanye nesifiso senjabulo yomunye umuntu ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye? I-Elation nenkanuko eshintshana nokwesaba ukulahleka? Imfudumalo nokwamukelwa?
Kuthiwani ngokubheka izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zothando ezikhona, nokuthi zivame ukuzizwa kanjani kwabanye.
Mhlawumbe lezi zincazelo zingakusiza ukuthi uhlele ukuthi yini ohlangabezana nayo.
Izinhlobo ezahlukene zothando, nokuthi ngamunye uzizwa enjani.
Abanye abantu bangasho ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokuzwa uthando njengoba kukhona abantu emhlabeni.
Ukwenza izinto zibe lula kancane, amaGrikhi asendulo anciphisa imizwa yothando ngezigaba eziningana: I-United States, iPragma, umdlalo, uPhil-love, uthando lwabazali, ne-agape .
Iningi lemizwa yothando esinayo ingafakwa kulezi, futhi ngamunye unamandla ngokwawo.
Shiya
Njengoba ungacabanga ngegama layo, ' iphenathi ”Yigama eliyimpande le-“ inkanuko. ”Kuyilangabi elikhulu lokuheha ngokomzimba, futhi kungachazwa njengohlobo lwe inkanuko eyeqile.
Lolu hlobo lothando aluvamile ukuhlala isikhathi eside. Kungumlilo wasendle ongadla konke okuthintayo, kodwa kushe ngokushesha.
Okwamanje, kunjalo ngothando futhi okukhulu , futhi imvamisa iyimbangela eqhuba ukuzala. I- ishayela iyashesha , futhi konke ukunaka komuntu kugxile komunye umuntu.
Ezinye zezinkondlo zothando ezimangalisa kakhulu zigqugquzelwe ama-eros, njengoba sigcina ungene kakhulu, uyazifela kakhulu , ukuthi iba uhlobo lwe-mania oludinga ukuvezwa.
Labo abakhathazeka ngokweqile ngama-eros bavame ukuba nobunzima bokudla noma ukulala, bangakhathali ukugxila. Konke ukunaka kwabo kugxile entweni abayithandayo, futhi uthando lwabo lungumqondo ogcwele-womzimba-womphefumulo.
lapho umfana ebuka emehlweni akho
Le nkondlo kunalokho iyifingqa:
Akusizi
Mama othandekayo, mina
angikwazi ukuqeda my
ukwelukwa.
Ungakwazi
usole u-Aphrodite
uthambile njengoba enjalo
cishe
wangibulala nge
uthando ngalowo mfana.- Sola u-Aphrodite nguSappho
Njengoba kushiwo, le mililo isha ngokushesha. Ngenxa yalokhu, iphenathi kungaholela ezinhliziyweni eziphukile uma omunye enamathela ngokomzwelo kunomunye.
I-Pragma
Ngokuphambene ne- iphenathi umlilo wasendle, pragma umlilo weziko. Kuthando oluqinile, oluhlala njalo olumelane nokuvivinywa kwesikhathi futhi lwaguga lwaba yi-symbiosis enhle.
Njengezithandani ezineminyaka engama-50 zishadile. Babekezelele ubunzima obuningi ndawonye, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi okuhle, futhi basekelana kukho konke.
IPragma nayo itholakala ebunganeni obusondelene, ikakhulukazi labo abasinde ebunzimeni obukhulu.
Kudinga ukubekezela nokuqonda okungakholeki, kanye nokuxhumana… kepha uzokubona nge imizwa enamandla yokunakekelwa, ukuzinikela, ukuzidela, kanye nesifiso senjabulo yomunye umuntu.
Lolu hlobo lothando luvame ukugwenywa ngumphakathi wanamuhla. Iningi labantu likhetha ukulungisa ukuqhakaza kothando lokuqala, futhi ligijime lapho izinto ziba nzima.
Lapho futhi uma uthola i-pragma, qiniseka ukuyinakekela ngokunakekela okukhulu kakhulu, ngoba ngesinye sezipho ezinhle kakhulu ongazithola.
IBard iluchaza kahle lolu thando:
Uthando alulona uthando
Okushintsha lapho ushintsho luthola,
Noma ugoba ngesisusa ukususa:
O, cha! kuyimpawu ehlala ihleliwe,
Lokho kubheka izivunguvungu futhi akukaze kuzanyazanyiswe- Kusuka ISonnet 116 , nguWilliam Shakespeare
ULudus
Uyakhumbula ngesikhathi sokuqala lapho waba nokuthakazelisa okukhulu? Ungahle uzwe okuthile okufana nakho isicanucanu noma ukugaya ukudla lapho omunye umuntu eseduze, futhi giddiness , futhi Ukuxakeka okungakholeki.
ULudus wuhlobo lothando lokudlala oluvamise ukubonwa ngabantu abasha. Kufaka phakathi ukuhlekisa nokudlala ngothando okulula abantu abakwenzayo lapho beqala ukukhangana. Kukhona injabulo , futhi futhi ngokuphelele rollercoaster yemizwa uma kunokukhathazeka ukuthi omunye umuntu kungenzeka angaphindiseli.
Luhlobo lothando olugqugquzela izinkondlo ezesabekayo ngempela, kodwa futhi nezigigaba ezinjengamapikiniki aphakathi kwamabili namathikithi we-impromptu aya ePrague.
Uma ubuhlobo bakho buqhakaza ludus , lapho-ke ukugcina lokho kudlala nokusebenza kwasebusheni kuphila kuzoba ukhiye ekwenzeni ubudlelwano bakho buhlale. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ingaphuma ngokushesha ngokushesha iphenathi kujwayele.
UPhilia
Wake wathanda umngane othandekayo ngokujulile ukuthi ubungabenzela noma yini , kodwa ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuheha ngokocansi?
Lokho kuyi-philia.
Luhlobo lothando uPlato alwazisa kakhulu, yingakho igama elithi “ mhlongo ”Kusetshenziselwa ukuchaza lolu hlobo lothando olukhulu, ngaphandle kokusondelana ngokomzimba.
Njenge-pragma, i-philia nayo ibonwa yilabo abanesikhathi eside bazana, futhi asebeke babhekana nobunzima ndawonye.
Uma uhlangabezana ne-philia ngomunye umuntu, ungahle uthokozele ukuchitha isikhathi nalo muntu, futhi ubakhumbule kabi lapho nihlukene isikhathi eside.
amaqiniso amnandi ukutshela ngawe
Kungenzeka uzizwe ujabule kakhulu phakathi kwabo, futhi unga phuma endleleni yakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi bathola izinto ezinhle. Kuya nge ulimi lothando , ungabanikeza izipho, noma wenze imisebenzi yensizakalo ngomzamo wokulethela injabulo.
I-Philia ingaba uhlobo oluhle ngempela lothando, kepha futhi ingalimaza ebudlelwaneni, kuya ngokuthi bobabili bama kuphi. Isibonelo, umbhangqwana ungathandana ngokujule kakhulu, kepha uma kuwuhlobo lwe-philia lothando, ukusondelana ngokocansi kungahle kube nobunzima, noma kubekwe eceleni.
Kuyinto uhlobo olukhulu, oluhle lothando ezimeni ezilungile. Ngokuyisisekelo, ungahle uzimisele ukuziphonsa kuthrafikhi ezayo ukusindisa lo muntu, kepha awufuni ukubalalisa.
Ukuzimela
Akukona nje ukukhuluma ngobudlabha nokuzicabangela wena wedwa, uhlobo lokuzithanda olwaziwa njengephilautia lufana kakhulu… ukuqonda nokuzwela kuwe.
Ngokwazi ukuzibona sinalolu hlobo lobumnene nokubekezela, nathi singathanda abanye ngendlela efanayo.
Ingabe uzizwe ukhululekile esikhunjeni sakho , ngaphandle kokuzikhulumela kabi?
Lapho-ke ungahle uthande abanye ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukugxeka.
U-Aristotle wawufaka kahle lo mqondo lapho ethi: 'Yonke imizwa yobungane kwabanye abantu iyisandiso semizwa yethu kithina'. (Kuchazwe ngokubandakanywa kobulili.)
Storge
Uthando esinalo ngabazali bethu noma izingane zethu alulona uthando olufanayo esinalo kubalingani bethu, kepha alunamandla amancane. Ngempela, kungahle kube olunye lwezinhlobo zothando ezinamandla kakhulu.
UStorge uyi uthando, uhlobo lokuvikela uthando lokho kuvame kakhulu ukuhlobene nobuhlobo. Kungaba phakathi kwamalungu omndeni asondele, abangane abaseduze, osebenza nabo, ngisho nomphakathi wethu owandisiwe, kuya ngokusondelana.
Lolu hlobo lothando yilona olusigqugquzela ukuthi sigcine umlindelo oseduze kombhede eduze komuntu ogulayo, noma sihambe amamayela emvuleni enisa imvula ukugcina isithembiso.
Lokhu kungenye yezinhlobo ezilula zothando ukuhlobana nazo. Umndeni wakho nabangane abaseduze bangakuhlanyisa, kodwa bayohlala bekukhona. Imvamisa ungaluthemba lolu hlobo lothando, njengoba iqinile futhi ithembekile.
Futhi luhlobo lothando olungaholela ekutheni abantu baphazamise izinqumo zempilo zabanye abantu, ngenxa yesidingo sokubavikela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulimala okubonakalayo noma usizi. Lokhu kungaholela ekuxabaneni okuningi uma kungekho ukuxhumana okucacile, nokumakwa kwemingcele.
I-Agape
Okokugcina, kepha ngokuqinisekile, okungenani agape .
Abantu abanokholo oluqinile lwenkolo bajwayelene nalena. Isetshenziswa kakhulu ukuchaza uthando lukaNkulunkulu womuntu, kanye nothando olungenamibandela lukaNkulunkulu esintwini.
Ingachazwa ngokuqhubekayo njenge uthando olufudumele, olwamukela konke umuntu angaba nowakwakhe, izingane / abazukulu, njll.
Kubhekwa njengenye yezinhlobo ezinhle kakhulu zothando, futhi kuye kwadunyiswa izazi zefilosofi ezivela kuzo zonke izizinda zezenkolo izinkulungwane zeminyaka.
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Uzokwazi ukuthi uhlangabezana ne-agape lapho uzizwa u umuzwa osabekayo wobumnene nokufudumala kwabanye. Njengohlobo lwemfudumalo nenjabulo oyizwayo lapho ilanga ligeza ebusweni bakho ngosuku oluhle lwehlobo.
Ngakho-ke, ingabe uthando lwakho luzwa kanjani?
Eziningi zalezi zinhlobo zothando zingagqagqana, kanti ezinye zingashintsha zisuka kolunye ziye kolunye.
ILudus ingahle ibe yi-pragma. I-Philia ne-storge zingahambisana, futhi ama-eros angavela lapho kungalindelekile.
Uthando lungazizwa ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene, ngokuya ngemizwa yakho nohlamvu lwakho. Njengoba inobuso obuningi, ungazizwa izinhlobo eziningana zothando lwabantu abaningi kumbuthano wakho wokuxhumana nomphakathi.
Ngomlingani omusha, kungenzeka umdlalo ukudlala nge i-eros ' inkanuko yenyama.
Ngokuya ngesimo sakho, ungahlangabezana nakho isifiso esinamandla, sokubulala ingqondo , noma a uthando olujulile, olulawulayo, olubambekayo lokho kungakugqugquzela ukuthi wenze cishe noma yini ukugwema ukulahlekelwa yinto oyithandayo.
Ngenye indlela, kungaba uthando olumsulwa, oluhloniphekile, olungenabugovu. Noma i-banter eqinisekisayo, nethenda evela kuphela eminyakeni yokwazana ngaphakathi nangaphandle, lapho wazi khona ukuthi ungathembela kulo muntu ukuthi akusekele futhi akuthande, noma ngabe ulwe kabi. Ngoba bangumndeni.
Kodwa-ke uzwa uthando, kwangathi lungaba luhle.
Yigubhe, ubhale ngayo, ube khona nayo ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi uma unenhlanhla eyanele yokuthola zonke lezi zinhlobo zothando, ubusiswe ngempela.
Ngabe awunasiqiniseko sokuthi lokho okuzwayo uthando? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
Uthando alukho konke: akuyona inyama noma isiphuzo
Noma ukulala noma uphahla ngokumelene nemvula
Futhi ayikaze ibe yindawo entantayo emadodeni ecwilayo
Futhi vuka ucwile futhi uvuke uphinde ucwilise futhi
Uthando alukwazi ukugcwalisa iphaphu eliqinisiwe ngomoya,
Noma uhlanze igazi, noma usethe ithambo eliphukile
Yize kunjalo amadoda amaningi enza ubungani nokufa
Noma ngikhuluma, ngokuswela uthando kuphela.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ngehora elinzima,
Kuphinwe phansi ngubuhlungu nokububula ukuze kukhululwe,
Noma ubangwa amandla esinqumo esidlule,
Ngingaqhutshwa ukuthengisa uthando lwakho lokuthula,
Noma uhweba ngenkumbulo yalobu busuku ngokudla.
Kungenzeka kube njalo. Angicabangi ukuthi bengingathanda.- Uthando Alukho Konke (Sonnet XXX), ngu-Edna St. Vincent Millay
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