'Sooooo ... Ngingumzwelo.'
'Uyini ?!'
'Yekela.'
Kuzwakala kujwayelekile?
'Ukuphuma' akukaze kube lula: vele ubuze noma ngubani oke waba nobunzima bokuvuma ubunjalo babo kulabo ababazungezile.
Sinenhlanhla, okungenani, ukuthi ukwamukelwa kwezindlela ezihlukile zocansi, ubulili, kanye nobudlelwano kuthuthuke kakhulu kule minyaka eyishumi edlule.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngaphandle kwezinhlobo ezithile zomqondo ovaliwe, kunzima ukuphikisana nomuntu lapho ekutshela ukuthi ukhangwa umuntu wobulili obufanayo, noma ukuthi akaziboni nobulili ababelwe kubo ukuzalwa.
Lezi yizinkinga ezithintekayo abantu abaningi ababhekana nazo, futhi - ngethemba - ukuthola ukwesekwa nokuqonda okwengeziwe nsuku zonke.
Kwehlukile kancane uma ubatshela ukuthi ungazizwa ukuthi banjani, noma ukude.
Lo ngumqondo ongaphatheki futhi ongaqondakali, futhi abantu abaningi banobunzima bokuhlobene nezimo abangakaze bazibonele zona mathupha.
Ake sihlole ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba yimpathango, nokuthi singakuchaza kanjani okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kulabo abakwimibuthano yethu yomphakathi.
Ngethemba ukuthi, ngokuqala inkhulumomphendvulwano nokuzama ukuqeda ukwesaba nokungabaza, singasebenzela ezingeni elikhulu lokuqonda futhi ukwamukelwa .
Kusho Ukuthini Ukuba yi-Empath?
Ngamagama alula, ukuba ngumzwelo kusho ukuthi sinamandla okuzwa imizwa yabanye abantu.
Manje, i-spectrum spectrum ibanzi, ngakho-ke abantu abehlukene bazoba namakhono ahlukile.
Isibonelo, umuntu oyedwa angavele abe 'nokuzwa kwesisu' lapho umuntu akhuluma naye ecasukile, noma ngabe enza ngokujwayelekile.
Omunye angahle ahlatshwe ngomuzwa osabisayo wosizi noma wentukuthelo futhi angazi ukuthi kuvelaphi - ukuthi umuntu oseduze kwabo uzwa ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo obungavamile.
… Nakho konke okuphakathi.
Abanye banozwelo olunjalo baze bathathe lokho abakuzwayo sengathi kuyimizwa yabo.
Lesi ngesinye sezizathu esenza ama-empath amaningi asebenze ekhaya, noma ajwayele ukuba njalo loners abangaphumi endlini kaningi.
izinto okumele uzenze wedwa onyakeni omusha eve
Cabanga ukuthi bangaki abantu ongadlula kubo emgwaqweni, noma ungahle uzungeze wena emotweni egcwele esitimeleni. Noma uphithizela lapho uhamba enxanxatheleni yezitolo.
Manje cabanga ukuzwa cishe yonke imizwa yabo njengoba bedlula kuwe. Amakhulu, noma izinkulungwane zemizwa, ekushaya kusuka kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, ngokugqagqana (nangokudideka okukhulu) amagagasi.
Ungase uzwe ukwesaba kusuka komunye umuntu nokujabula okuvela komunye. Ungahle uthole amaphuzu wokukhathazeka noma wentukuthelo okuthi lapho kuqhume injabulo noma uthando olungalawuleki.
Ngokuyisisekelo ukulingana okungokomzwelo kokushaywa olwandle, ukuzama ukugcina ikhanda lakho ngaphezu kwamanzi ngenkathi imimoya ishayisa onke amagagasi okuzungezile ukuze ungakwazi ukuphefumula.
Uzwela olukhulu lungabonakala nasemzimbeni. Ukuthatha imizwa yabanye abantu kusho ukuthi ungathatha nokukhathazeka kwabo, ukudangala, noma i-psychosis.
Eminye imikhondo ikhungathekiswa kakhulu yiyo yonke into ezizwa ukuthi iba nezimo ezizimele ngenxa yokukhathala okuphelele nentela engokomzimba / engokomzwelo.
Njengalokhu, imiphefumulo eminingi idinga isikhathi esiningi sokuncipha nokuzinakekela. Izikhala ezithulile, ukuba wedwa, ukudla okuphulukisayo, kanye isikhathi esichithwe emvelweni konke kubaluleke kakhulu - akusizi nje kuphela.
Lokhu konke kwenza ukuba umsindo we-empath ube mubi impela, kepha lokho akukude neze necala.
Kukhona nezinzuzo eziningi emakhonweni anjalo okuzwisisa. Abaningi bangabeluleki abanesiphiwo, ikakhulukazi uma befundile ukuthi bangazivikela kanjani ukuze bangakhungatheki.
Ukuba yi-empath nakho kuzuzisa kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokuxhumana nomlingani wakho, izingane, ngisho nezilwane.
Labo abanenkinga yokuziveza ngomlomo bangazithola beqondakala ngokushesha ngaphandle kokusho igama elilodwa, ngoba nje omunye umuntu angayizwa imizwa yakhe, futhi aphendule ngendlela efanayo.
Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokusondela kubantu ngalolu lwazi?
Ukudweba kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, isikhathi esihle sokukhuluma ngemvelo yakho yozwelo sibonakala lapho uhlangabezana nokwabelana ngemizwa mathupha.
Lokhu kusebenza kahle nabantu abavame ukungabaza kakhulu ngesihloko.
Ngizokunikeza isibonelo.
Eminyakeni edlule, ngasebenza nomuntu owayengabaza ngokuphelele noma yini ngokomoya.
Eqinisweni, wadlulela ngalé kokungabaza ukuze adelele futhi ahlekise nanini lapho othile eletha isihloko angakholelwa kuso.
Wayenama-stoic kakhulu, futhi kwakucishe kube nzima ukusho ukuthi wayekulo hlobo luni lomzwelo kusuka osukwini olulodwa kuye kolandelayo.
Kulesi senzakalo esithile, sixoxe kafushane ngesikhathi sekhefu lasemini, futhi bengibona ukuthi kukhona okumkhathaza kakhulu.
Ngokweqile, wayebukeka emuhle: isimo sakhe esijwayelekile, esizimele… kepha ngaya phambili ngambuza ukuthi ngabe ulungile yini.
Ubebonakala emangele kancane ngalo mbuzo, wathi ukahle, futhi wabuza ukuthi kungani ngibuze.
Ngimtshele ukuthi ubenikeza amagagasi entukuthelo nokuphelelwa yithemba futhi bengikhona uma ezizwa ethanda ukukhuluma.
kusho ukuthini ukushisekela okuthile
Impendulo yakhe kwaba ngukuthula kakhulu, wase ehamba ngaphandle kwezwi ...
Ungigweme izinsuku ezimbalwa, wagcina esengithumelela i-imeyili engazisa ukuthi yena nengoduso yakhe bahlukane ngaphambi nje kokuba sikhulume.
Ngangimthuse kakhulu ngokumcela, ngoba wayezishaya isifuba ngokuthi uyakwazi ukugcina ukubukeka okuzolile ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Njengoba wayematasa ekuhlukaneni, wayengenawo amandla okucubungula okwenzekile futhi azame ukukuqonda ngamehlo ososayensi, futhi Ngakuhlonipha lokho .
Saqhubeka nokuxoxa okuncane futhi sigwema ngisho nokunciphisa ukungakhululeki, futhi ngahamba ngayothatha omunye umsebenzi ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho.
Kwamthatha iminyaka ukuthi afinyelele kimi ngalolo lwazi, futhi yize ayesenobunzima bokukholelwa emandleni okuzwelana naye, wayengenakuphika ukuthi kwamethusa ukuthi acabangele ukuma kwakhe ezintweni eziningi.
Ngixoxile ngamakhono okuzwelana nabantu abaningi eminyakeni edlule, futhi kuhlale kuhamba kangcono lapho ngikwazi ukuyikhulisa ngokususelwa kokuhlangenwe nakho okubambekayo, kunokuyifiphaza ngokungahleliwe ngenkathi ngiphuza ikhofi. (Lokho kungakhishwa nje kumongo bese kuba nzima impela.)
Into eyodwa okufanele ngabe ishiwo ukuthi kunezikhathi ezinhle, nezingaphansi kokufanele ukukhuluma ngokuba yimpumelelo.
Ukubiza umuntu othile ngaphandle uma wazi ukuthi uyakuqamba amanga kuwela esigabeni sokugcina.
Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuluma ulimi lwakho lapho wazi ukuthi umuntu uqamba amanga ebusweni bakho ngoba ungazizwa ukuthi ukungathembeki kuvela kuye ngamagagasi, kepha kukhona indlela elungile nendlela engafanele yokusondela kulokho.
Ukusho ukuthi 'Ngiyazi ukuthi ungiqambela amanga ngoba ngiwumzwelo futhi ngiyayizwa into oyizwayo' kungahle kube nomphumela wokuzivikela nobutha.
angazi noma ngiyathanda yini ukuhlotshaniswa nalokhu
Indlela efana nokuthi, “Nginomqondo wokuthi usho lokho ukuvikela imizwa yami, kodwa ngiyethemba uyazi ukuthi ungahlala uthembekile kimi, noma ngabe kunzima” ayibeki cala kangako, futhi ibavumela isikhala sokunyathela phezulu.
Lapho ungabaza ukuthi ungaxoxa kanjani ngalezi zinto nothile, sebenzisa ulwazi lwakho nabo kuze kube manje, bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi bangathanda ukuthintwa kanjani.
Bese uthembela umuzwa wakho .
Okunye ukufunda okusemqoka kwe-empath (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Amathiphu angu-17 okusinda ama-Empaths nabantu abanozwelo kakhulu
- Izimpi Zezimpi eziyi-11 zibhekene nezisekelo zansuku zonke
- Umthambeka Obushelelezi Wokunganaki: Isexwayiso Kuwo Onke Ama-Empaths
- Umzuzwana Uyabona Ukuthi Uyimpilo
- Lapho Impathana Emibili Ithandana
INGABE KUFANELE Ngitshele Abantu ukuthi Ngingu-Empath?
Njenganoma iluphi olunye ulwazi lomuntu siqu oluphakeme kakhulu, ukuthi uyavuma noma cha uyawavuma yini amakhono akho okuzwelana nabanye kukuwe ngokuphelele. Asikho isibopho sakho sokwenza kanjalo.
Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile ngethemba lokutshela abantu ngalesi sici sakho, ungabe usakwenza lokho.
Ayikho imithetho yokuthi kufanele utshele abantu noma cha ukuthi uhlangabezana nani: indaba yawo wonke umuntu ingeyakhe, futhi kungukukhetha kwakho ukuthi ungathanda ukuthi ivele kanjani.
Kukhona, yiqiniso, ubuhle nobubi bokutshela abanye uma kuqhathaniswa nokugcina lolu lwazi kuwe.
Okuningi kuncike ekutheni usesimweni esinamandla okukunikeza ukwesekwa nokuqonda, noma kungakukhipha inyumbazane ngenxa yokwethembeka kwakho.
Izinzuzo ezikhona:
- Ungathola ukuthi abanye embuthanweni wakho wokuzwana bayizwela futhi, ngoba manje bazizwa 'bephephile' ngokwanele ukuthi bangavulela omunye mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe.
- Izinga elikhulu lokuqonda kusuka kulabo abaseduze kwakho: manje njengoba sebazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani njalo, bazobe besesimweni esingcono sokunikeza ukwesekwa njengoba kudingeka.
- Inhlonipho enkulu emsebenzini. Umqashi wakho angakwazi ukukunikeza indawo yakho yehhovisi, futhi osebenza nabo bangagwema ukukulahla ngokomoya ngaphandle kokubuza kuqala.
- Ukwenza abanye babone futhi bawazise amakhono akho.
- Ukuvula amazinga amasha okusondelana nobungane ebudlelwaneni bakho bomuntu siqu.
Ububi Obukhona:
- Ukuba nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kuncishiswe noma kususwe njengokuthi ushukunyiswa ngokweqile noma ukufuna ukunakwa .
- Okungahle kuhlukanise labo abangeke bakwazi ukukuqonda, futhi bakhethe ukuziqhelelanisa nawe 'uma kungenzeka' ungena ezimpilweni zabo.
- Ukuthathwa njengongazinzile ngokomzwelo noma ngokwengqondo yilabo abangakholelwa eziqondisweni noma benqabe ngisho nokuvuma ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuluma iqiniso.
Ungakhetha ukutshela kuphela abantu abambalwa, abathembekile ukuthi uyi-empath, noma ungakhetha ukukugcina lokho okwamanje.
Kungaba nesimo lapho uthola khona umqondo oqinile wokuthi wena kufanele vula ngakho, ngaleso sikhathi kuhle ukulandela leso silwane.
Abanye baveza kuphela izinto ezinjalo ngokungaziwa, kuma-blogs noma kuma-akhawunti we-Twitter, futhi kunjalo futhi.
Kungithathe iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-40 ukuthi ngivulele abantu * abaningi * ngamakhono ami, ngolwazi olugcwele lokuthi kunabantu abathile abangeke bakuthole.
Ngiyakuqonda futhi ngiyakuhlonipha lokho.
Ekugcineni, kuya ngokuthi unethezeke kangakanani nabantu abaningi abaseduze kwakho bazi leli qiniso lomuntu uqobo - futhi elingase lihlukanise - ngawe.
Kuthiwani Uma Bangangikholwa? (Ngisho nabelaphi?)
Ngeke ngiqambe amanga kuwe: kuhlale kunengozi yokuthi ngeke bakukholwe.
Okusemqoka lapha ukuxoxisana ngomugqa ophilile phakathi kokwamukela / ukuhlonipha ukungakholelwa kwabanye abantu, nokuqinisekisa ukuthi usesikhundleni lapho uthathwa khona ngokungathi sína.
Uma umelaphi wakho engakholelwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kokuzwela, impendulo ilula kakhulu: thola omunye umelaphi.
Kunezinto ezimbalwa njengokunciphisa amandla, ngisho nokudabukisa inhliziyo, njengochwepheshe wezokunakekelwa kwempilo ongakholelwa kuwe.
Ufanelwe ukuzwakala, futhi ulalelwe, futhi wenze okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kuqinisekiswe.
Umelaphi wakho angahle amangalisa, kepha uma enza iqiniso lakho lingasebenzi noma uzama ukukwenza ucabange ukuthi unephutha ngoba okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho akuhambelani nemibono yabo, kungenzeka ukuthi usushiye ukunakekelwa kwabo.
Kunabeluleki abaningi, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, odokotela bengqondo, nodokotela bezengqondo abakholelwa emandleni okuzwelana nabanye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lalabo belaphi zizwela ngokwazo , okungenzeka kube nomthelela ku- izindlela abazikhethile zomsebenzi .
Kunzima ngokwanele ukuzulazula emhlabeni osindayo ngokomzwelo ngaphandle kokuzama ukuthululela ithani lamandla ekukholiseni abanye abantu ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kungokoqobo, futhi kuvumelekile.
Uma unokukwenza ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo ukwenza lokho, zizwe ukhululekile ukubanika inqwaba yezixhumanisi izindatshana zesayensi ukuthi ukusekela amakhono empathic . Bese-ke bazenzele owabo umsebenzi.
Yize kungaba yisilingo ukuzama ukukholisa nokufundisa abanye ngolwazi lwakho, akuwona neze umsebenzi wakho ukwenza lokho.
Kuyakhathaza ngokuphelele ukuzama ukwenza abanye baqonde ukuthi abazimisele yini ukufaka amandla ekwenzeni lokho.
ukuxhumana kwamehlo okude nomfana okusho
Lokhu kwenzelwa abelaphi, amalungu omndeni, abalingani, abangani, osebenza nabo, futhi cishe wonke umuntu ongasebenzisana naye njalo.
Kuthiwani Uma Abasekeli?
Ukunwebeka phezu kwephuzu langaphambilini, kunethuba elingokoqobo lokuthi abanye abantu ngeke babe yibo bonke abanozwelo kwinjongo yethu.
Kungase kudingeke ukuthi samukele ukuthi abanye babantu esisondelene nabo kakhulu, esibakhathalele kakhulu, ngeke bakwazi ukusinikeza usizo esiludingayo, lapho siludinga khona.
Lokhu kuvame ukubangelwa ukucwasa kwabo, ngisho nokwesaba. Lapho othile engakwazi ukuhlobana nesimo, uzovame ukuzama ukuthulisa abanye noma ababacindezele kude ukuze izindawo zabo zokududuza zingafakwa engozini.
Yebo, lokhu kuyakhungathekisa kakhulu, kepha kubalulekile futhi yiba nozwela ngalokho abangase babhekane nakho.
Labo abanobunzima ekwamukeleni amakhono akho okuzwelana nabo kungenzeka ukuthi babhekene nezinkinga ezithile ezingokomoya, noma banezinkinga ezingenakubalwa eziqhubekayo esingazazi thina.
Uma ubhekene nalesi simo, ukhiye ukuthola isizwe sakho.
Lokhu kungasho ukuthola amaqembu amasha wabangani ozoxhumana nabo, ochwepheshe abasha bezokunakekelwa kwezempilo abazokuthatha ngokungathi sína, futhi nomsebenzi omusha uma umqashi wakho engomunye walabo bantu abangakwazi / abangakukholwa noma abasekele iqiniso lakho.
Kunzima ngokwanele ukulwa usuku lonke ehhovisi lapho ubhekene nemizwa eyeqisayo evela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, ungalokothi ukhumbule futhi ukuthi kufanele uvikele ukukhathala kwakho kumphathi ocabanga ukuthi wenza konke.
Abanye abantu imindeni yabo igcina isithukuthezi noma inkolo yabo bangesabi nje ukungakholwa, kepha basolwa ngokuthi banephutha, badukile, noma babi uma bevela baveze lokho abazizwa ngakho .
Kulezo zimo, kungaba umqondo omuhle ukukhuluma nomeluleki omethembayo owaziyo ukuthi uyi-empath, okholelwa futhi akusekele, futhi ubuze izeluleko zabo zokuthi ungaya kanjani kubathandekayo bakho ngendlela engeke isabise noma ubahlukanise.
Uma Bangikholelwa, Yini Abangayenza Ukuze Basekele?
Uma bekwamukela obatshele kona, sebethathe igxathu elikhulu lokuthi bakusekele, futhi lokho kuhle kakhulu.
Manje ukukhula okuthile kwangempela kungenzeka kuzo zonke izinhlangothi.
Okokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, baqinisekise ukuthi - yize Izinzwa8 - awubezwa beya ocansini, futhi awufundi izingqondo zabo njengokungathi bahlunga i-imeyili.
Khumbula ukuthi labo abangazange babhekane nohlobo lokuxhuma okwenzayo kungenzeka bangaqondi kahle ukuthi uyakwazi (noma awukwazi) ukukwazi.
Yize bengaba nobunzima bokuhlobene namakhono okuqonda, lokho akusho ukuthi abakwazi ukuba ngumugqa wokusekelwa nokuzivikela kuwe. Yilapho ukuxhumana okucacile kusebenza khona.
Wonke ama-empath anezidingo ezihlukile, ngakho-ke asikho isisombululo sosayizi oyedwa lapha. Kubalulekile ukuthi unqume ukuthi yini oyidingayo kubani, ukuze uzizwe uzolile futhi uvikelekile.
Isibonelo, umuntu oyedwa angahle adinge ukuthi umlingani wakhe abe ngumugqa wezokuvikela ukuze abasize ekubahlolweni kokunganaki noma ekuhlukumezeni kumafilimu, izinhlelo ze-TV, noma ezincwadini.
Omunye angahle adinge abangani bakhe noma amalungu omndeni ukusiza ukunakekela izingane zabo lapho zikhungathekile ngakho konke okwenzekayo okuzungezile.
Thola ukuthi yiziphi izindawo zakho ezibuhlungu, ukuthi ungakuhlakulela kanjani ukuzinakekela, nokuthi labo abakuthandayo bangasiza kanjani.
Bese ubazisa.
Khumbula ukuthi ukulangazelele kangakanani ukusiza labo obathandayo? Akungabazeki ukuthi nabo bazizwa ngendlela efanayo ngawe.
Banikeze ithuba lokuba babe sebabazekayo, futhi bangavele bakumangaze.
