Ezweni elihamba ngokushesha, elizenzekelayo, futhi eligxile kwezobuchwepheshe, lapho sikhuthazwa khona ukuthi 'sicabange ngezinyawo zethu,' futhi 'sishaye phansi,' kukhona abantu abawunqoba ngokuphelele lo mkhuba. Bakhetha ukwehlisa ijubane, bathathe isikhathi sokucabangisisa ngezinto, futhi bacabangele izenzo zabo, umhlaba nendawo yabo kuwo.
Hlangana nomcabangi ojulile… nazi izici eziyi-10 ezingabonakaliswa kakhulu:
1. Wangenisa
Ngaso sonke isikhathi, ongqondongqondo abaningi abajulile banjalo kugodliwe , ethule engenisa. Lokhu akunzima ukukuqonda. Uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi ekhanda lakho , hhayi isikhathi esiningi ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa , ngeke ube yisiqhwaga.
ungayenza kanjani indoda eshadile ukuthi ishiye unkosikazi wayo
Yize lo kungewona umthetho onzima futhi osheshayo (azikho kulezi zici ezibalwe lapha, ngoba kuyohlale kunabantu abaphambuka “kokujwayelekile”), ongqondongqondo abaningi abajwayele ukuba ngabangenisi ngoba nje ukucabanga okujulile akuyona into eyenziwa ngabantu . Azizona izimvemvane zomphakathi, futhi zichitha isikhathi esiningi zodwa zibheka inkinga ngaphambi kokufika esiphethweni.
Khuluma impendulo? Ungalokothi. Yiba isikhungo sokunakwa ephathini? Hhayi empilweni yakho. Cishe uzobathola behleli buqamama nendawo yokudansa, bekhuluma ngomdlandla nomuntu oyedwa. Yilokho ujamu wabo.
2. Ukuqaphela
Abacabangi abajulile bathatha okungaphezulu kunalokho abakukhiphile, okusho ukuthi, bathi okuncane, futhi babone okuningi. Bazibandakanya ngokuphelele nezintshisakalo zabo, babheka ngokuphelele isihloko ngaphambi kokwenza umbono, noma bahlulele. Ngoba bathambekele ekubhekeni kakhudlwana futhi balinde ngaphambi kokufika esiphethweni, abathonywa kalula umbono odumile.
Badinga isikhathi sokucabangisisa ngesihloko, futhi baqoqe wonke amaqiniso ngaphambili ukuthatha isinqumo . Lokhu kungakhathaza abantu abaseduze nomcabangi ojulile abafuna impendulo ngokushesha, futhi babone ukuthi ngeke kuze kwenzeke. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungaqiniseka ukuthi ngomcabangi ojulile, uma sebethathe isinqumo, akwenziwa kalula. Isixazululo sabo sihlolwe kuzo zonke izinhlangothi ukunciphisa izinkinga ezingaba khona nokunikeza umphumela omuhle kakhulu. Ngubani ongakufuni lokho?!
3. Kuyahlekisa
Ngokuphikisana nenkolelo evamile, ongqondongqondo abajulile banomqondo omubi wokuhlekisa! Yebo, kunjalo, ababona abantu abadlala indima enkulu, abayisidina, nabenza izinto ezimbi ngokweqile njengoba bevezwa kuwo wonke amaphephandaba noma omagazini.
Ngenkathi empeleni kungeyona impilo yephathi, nakanjani banamahlaya amnandi, ayizilima, futhi ahlekisayo. Bangaba yinqaba, bahlakaniphe, bahlakaniphe, futhi basheshe ukuthola amahlaya kunoma yisiphi isimo. Imvamisa bayazenyeza, futhi baqonde ukuthi bangazihleka kanjani.
Abanye babafilosofi abakhulu, nababhali, abavela e-Ancient Rome, Ancient Greece, naseNkathini Ephakathi, njengoCicero, Aristophanes, noThomas Aquinas, bakholelwa ukuthi amahlaya abalulekile ekufundeni. Abacabangayo abajulile abazona izingubo zokulala ezimanzi futhi bayakuthanda ukuhleka okuhle.
4. Abafundi Abavuthayo
Abacabangayo abajulile bahlala becwiliswa ezincwadini. Banokomela ulwazi kanye nesidingo esijulile sokufunda kabanzi nokwandisa ukuqonda kwabo. Izincwadi yizindawo zazo 'zokuya' ukuthola ulwazi. Izincwadi nazo zingabangane bazo, nenduduzo yazo, zinikeza isiphephelo emsindweni nasekuphazanyisweni komhlaba wangaphandle. Ukuze wazi okwengeziwe, udinga ukufaka imininingwane eningi ngangokunokwenzeka - izincwadi ukubheja kwakho okuhle kakhulu. Abacabangi abajulile bayakwazi lokhu futhi badla izincwadi ngamaloli.
5. Uyakhohlwa
Kungenzeka kanjani lokhu, ubuza?! Bacabanga ngakho konke! Yebo, leyo yinkinga, bacabanga kakhulu ukuthi imisebenzi yansuku zonke ikhishwe emakhanda abo, noma okungenani, ifake i-burner yangemuva. Bancamela ukukhanyisa izingqinamba ezicindezelayo, ukuxazulula izinkinga, noma ukufunda ngenkuthalo kunokukhumbula ukucosha isinkwa esitolo lapho begoduka.
Oshade naye ocabangisisa kahle angahle akuthande, kodwa ukhohlwe usuku lokuzalwa, usuku lokuzalwa, noma wehluleka ukuza endaweni yomzali wakho ngesidlo sangeSonto. Bayakhohlwa ukuhlangabezana nezibopho zomphakathi ngoba lezi zinto azibalulekile kubo kangako, okungukuthi, ukuzijabulisa akuyona into ephezulu ohlwini lwabo lwezinto ezibalulekile. Akuyona into yomuntu siqu, futhi ayinabungozi ngamabomu, ukuthi nje lezi zimo kaningi zibandakanya ukuhambisana nokulindelwe ngumphakathi njengokukhuluma okuncane noma ukuxoxa ngezinto ezingabathokozisi kabi, ngakho-ke ukuya kalula kushelela izingqondo zabo.
Ukucabanga ngomqondo wabo omkhulu olandelayo, kusho ukuthi abanasikhathi sokulalela udadewenu drone mayelana nesiqephu sakamuva sika 'Ukuhambisana namaKardashians,' noma uxoxe ngezikolo zebhola nobaba wakho. Akukho ngisho kwi-radar yabo, ngakho-ke ezinye izikhumbuzo zokubekezela, ukuqonda, nezincane zizohamba ibanga elide nomuntu ojulile empilweni yakho.
6. Ufuna ukwazi
Abacabangi abajulile banelukuluku lokufuna ukwazi ngomhlaba obazungezile. Bafuna ukuqonda ukuthi izinto zisebenza kanjani, kungani ezinye izinto zenziwa ngale ndlela, hhayi ngaleyondlela, nokuthi yini eyenza abantu bakitaze.
Umlando, ipolitiki, imibhalo, isayensi, uyiqambe igama - bafuna ukwazi kabanzi, ngoba ulwazi luyabajabulisa. Umhlaba uyi-oyster yabo eyisaga. Bangaba ngabantu ababambe iqhaza ngokuphelele oyohlangana nabo, bazi okuthile okuncane ngayo yonke into.
ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngaphandle kokuzihlaza
Impilo iyabathakazelisa, futhi abaze babhoreke. Abadingi umuntu ozobabungaza bayazi ukuthi bangayenza kanjani impilo ibe mnandi kubo, nalabo ababazungezile.
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7. Abahleli
Lapho ucabanga okungaka, nakanjani uzobheka impilo yakho nokuthi ufunani kuyo. Akukona nje ukuqondana kwezinto ukuthi abantu abaphumelelayo bathambekele ekubeni abacabangi abajulile. Bathathe isikhathi sokucabanga ngekusasa labo, nokuthi balingene kuphi (noma cha), futhi banecebo lomdlalo empilweni.
Ukuyiphaphalaza nje akukhona okwabo. Azihambi zihlale esihlalweni samabhulukwe azo, ngoba zidinga ukwazi zonke izinketho ezingazithola ngaphambili. Ukuba necebo elibambekayo empilweni kudinga ukubekezela, ukucabanga okuningi, nokulungiselela ngokucophelela - izimfanelo eziyinhloko zabacabangayo abajulile.
8. Izixazululi Zezinkinga
Abacabangi abajulile benza izixazululo zezinkinga ezinhle kakhulu. Njengoba ukucabanga okujulile kuza ngokwemvelo kubo, bangabona amaphethini nezithiyo ezingaba khona ngokushesha. Ukubekezela kwabo ekunciphiseni zonke izixazululo, kusho ukuthi mancane amathuba okuthi benze amaphutha abizayo ngoba bathathe isikhathi sokucabanga ngezinketho kuzo zonke izinhlangothi.
Laba ngabantu abasehhovisi lakho oya kubo lapho ubambekile. Bangabantu obafunayo eqenjini lakho ukusebenzisa lezo zinombolo zokugcina bese uhlola ukubona ukuthi wonke ama-i amachashazi futhi awelekile. Vele ungalindeli impendulo esheshayo impendulo eqinile, ecatshangwe kahle, yebo, kepha lungela ukulinda.
okufanele ngenzele isoka lami ngosuku lwalo lokuzalwa
9. Ukungahlaliseki Komphakathi
Abacabangi abajulile, ngaphezu kokuthambekela ekungenisweni, abathandi imikhuba nokuziphatha okuningi okwamukelwa ngamasiko okulindeleke kithi nsukuzonke. Bayazizonda izinkulumo ezincane, a.k.a, ‘izingxoxo zekheshi.’ Bakhuluma kuphela lapho okuthile kubalulekile ngokwanele ukukusho, hhayi nje ngenjongo yokukhuluma ukugcwalisa ukuthula okungaxakile. Abakutholi ukuthula noma ukungakhululeki ngoba imvamisa bayalahleka ngemicabango, futhi bakhetha inkampani yabo kunengxoxo engenangqondo nabantu abangabazi.
Lokhu kungenza ukuhlangana nobunzima kube nzima kubo njengoba bezonqamula ngokushesha ezinhlebo nasezingxoxweni ezivamile futhi bangavela njengabazithobayo, noma abazidelayo. Kukude neqiniso, njengoba ongqondongqondo abajulile empeleni bejwayele ukuba phansi emhlabeni, abanenqondo, kanye nemiphefumulo eyiqiniso, kodwa bazizwe uma bengenanto ezuzisayo abangayengeza, ngeke nje basho. Bakhetha izingxoxo zomuntu ngamunye lapho bengagxila khona isikhathi namandla abo kulowo muntu futhi babe nokuxhumana okujulile.
10. Ukuzimela
Ngoba ongqondongqondo abajulile bavame ukungena, futhi loners , bavame ukuqondwa kabi . Ngenxa yalokhu, bafunda kusenesikhathi ukuthi bathembele kubo futhi bakwazi ukuzimela ngonya. Bayakujabulela ukuchitha isikhathi wedwa , hhayi ukusaba noma ukusaba, ngoba bayazi ukuthi kulapho-ke lapho bangakwazi khona ukuvuselela amandla amasha, futhi bacabange ngalokho abafuna ukukwenza ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Futhi, ngoba imicimbi ejwayelekile yokuzijabulisa ingakhululeki futhi iyakhathala kubo, bafunda ngokushesha ukuthi bangakuthokozela kanjani ukuba wedwa futhi bakusebenzise ngokugcwele.
Ingabe uzibheka njengomcabangi ojulile? Ingabe uzibona ukulezi zici ezichazwe ngenhla? Mhlawumbe ubona osebenza naye, othandekayo, noma umngane lapho? Ngenkathi izici ezibalwe zikude nokuqedela, ziyindawo okufanele uqale ngayo uma ufuna ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyenza (nokuthi yini edingekayo ukuba) ngumcabangi ojulile.
