Ingabe unayo isivivinyo esikhulu esiza? Mhlawumbe ukuhlolwa emsebenzini? Noma mhlawumbe ingane yakho igula kakhulu, noma ubhekene nenkinga yezezimali. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi mikhulu noma mincane, izenzakalo ezenzeka empilweni yethu zingasibangela ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.
Sonke sihlangabezana nengcindezi ezimpilweni zethu. Akunakugwenywa. Kwesinye isikhathi ingcindezi ingaba yesikhashana, futhi kwezinye izikhathi inamathela isikhathi eside. Ukucindezeleka kwesikhashana kwesinye isikhathi kungaba yinto enhle. Kungasibangela ukuba sithathe isinyathelo esiwujuqu futhi sithuthukise izimo zethu. Ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi eside, noma kunjalo, akunampilo futhi kungathinta kakhulu imizimba yethu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Sonke sisabela ngendlela ehlukile ekucindezelekeni, futhi akukho ukusabela okukodwa okungabhekwa “njengokujwayelekile.” Okulandelayo uhlu lokuphendula esingakuthola (imvamisa ekuhlanganeni okuhlukahlukene) lapho sihlangabezana nengcindezi ezimpilweni zethu:
Ukusabela Ngokomzwelo
Ukucindezeleka kuqala kuthinta izingqondo zethu, futhi ukusabela kuvame ukuba nomzwelo. Ukusabela okunjalo kungaba kuhle noma kube kubi ngokuya ngomuntu nangesehlakalo sangempela esidala ukucindezeleka. Izimpendulo zingasukela kosizi noma intukuthelo ziye ekuzimiseleni nasekugqugquzelweni okusha.
1. Ukukhathazeka
Cishe kuzo zonke izingcindezi, ukukhathazeka kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokusabela. Noma ngabe ukucindezela kuncane (usuku lokuqala) noma kukhulu (ukulahleka komsebenzi), wonke umuntu angalindela ukuzizwa ekhathazekile kancane ngaphansi kwalezo zimo. Ukukhathazeka kujwayelekile impela (yize nakho, kungaphuma esandleni) futhi kungathinta abantu ngokuhle nangokubi.
2. Ukucindezeleka
Abantu abahlangabezana nengcindezi evela kokuthile okukhulu nangaphezu kwamandla abo (njengokulahlekelwa yilungu lomndeni) bangathola ukucindezeleka ngenxa yomcindezeli. Bangangena ku- ukucabanga kwesisulu noma babe nobunzima ekwamukeleni iqiniso elibhekene nabo. Ngenxa yalokhu, baya ngokuya becwila osizini kuze kube yilapho kuthinta impilo yabo yonke. Ukudangala kungaba yisifo esibi sengqondo kwesinye isikhathi esidinga ukwelashwa ngochwepheshe.
3. Ukwanda Okuhle Kakhulu
Ngokuya ngomuntu nenani nohlobo lokucindezeleka, ukusabela okungokomzwelo okungumphumela, empeleni, kungaba kuhle. Okuningi abantu abazinzile ngokomzwelo phendula ekucindezelekeni ngokwandisa ukugxila kwabo futhi ubheke izixazululo zenkinga yezimpande. Bona hlala unethemba futhi ubheke ukuthi ungalungisa kanjani umcimbi ocindezelayo. Lokhu kusabela kuvame kakhulu ekucindezelekeni kwesikhashana, kepha kungatholakala nakwabanye abantu noma ngabe kwenzekani kubo. Abantu empeleni bangaziqeqesha ukuze bahlale benethemba futhi babe yizenzo ezisekelwe lapho kuvela izimo ezicindezelayo.
Ukusabela Kokuziphatha
Ngemuva kokuthi izingqondo zethu sezihlangabezane nokusabela okungokomzwelo, ngokujwayelekile silandela eyokuziphatha. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma umuntu eba nengcindezi engapheli.
4. Umlutha
Utshwala nogwayi kunikeza ukukhululeka kwesikhashana ezimweni ezicindezelayo, ngakho-ke kungajwayelekile kulabo abanengcindezi ukuphendukela kulezi zinsiza njengendlela yokubhekana nesimo. Ngenxa yokuthi lezi zinto zilutha kakhulu, kujwayelekile nokuthi abantu babanjwe ngumlutha. Kungaqala ngokuqhekeza uvule ubhiya noma ukukhanyisa ngemuva kosuku olunengcindezi, bese ikhula futhi ikhule kuze kube yilapho umuntu engeke akwazi ukumelana nayo. Okunye “ukulungisa” okuvamile kulabo ababhekene nengcindezi ushukela nokudla okunethezeka okungenampilo.
5. Ulaka
Abanye abantu basabela ekucindezelekeni ngolaka. Kungenzeka sola abanye ngomcimbi ocindezelayo, noma kungenzeka ukuthi abazi nje ukuthi bangakusebenzisa kanjani okuhlangenwe nakho ngaphandle kwentukuthelo. Uma uke wabona umuntu eshaya ngodonga noma ememeza ngaphandle kwesizathu, kungenzeka kube ukusabela ekucindezelekeni kohlobo oluthile. Ukuhlukumezeka kungaba yinto encane futhi yesikhashana, noma kungashintsha kube njalo ukushintsha kwemizwelo eguquguqukayo . Abantu bangaba nolaka futhi bahlukumeze abanye, noma bangaze bazilimaze bona ngenxa yalokhu kusabela kwengcindezi.
6. Ukuqwasha
Ukucindezeleka kunomthelela omkhulu ebuchosheni bakho, futhi, ngenxa yalokho, kungaba nzima ukucisha ebusuku. Lokhu kwenza ukuqwasha kube yinto eyejwayelekile kubantu abacindezelekile. Lapho amalambu ecishiwe, futhi abantu bebodwa ekuthuleni kobusuku, ingcindezi ingadala imicabango yabo iphume ekulawuleni kubi kakhulu kunasemini.
7. Ukungakwazi Ukuhlala Uphapheme
Ngenkathi abanye abantu bengabonakali ukulala, abanye bangathola okuphambene ngqo. Ngoba ubuchopho babo busebenza isikhathi esengeziwe ngenxa yakho konke ukucindezeleka kanye nokungezwani, bangaba nenkinga yokuhlala bephapheme, ikakhulukazi phakathi nosuku.
8. Ukuhoxa
Ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kuvame ukushaya lapho othile ecindezelekile isikhathi eside. Kungenzeka ukuthi abasakholelwa emandleni abo okubhekana nezimo zenhlalo, ngakho-ke baqala ukuvala futhi bazihlukanise.
Izimpendulo Zomzimba
Akuzona zonke izimpendulo ekucindezelekeni okungukuziphatha. Ukucindezeleka kungaba nomphumela wangempela emizimbeni yethu futhi kubonise njengezimpawu zomzimba. Ingqondo nomzimba kuvame ukuhambisana, ngakho-ke uma ingqondo ihlupheka, nomzimba uzohlupheka. Ngezansi kunezibonelo ezimbalwa zezimpawu zokutshela ukuthi othile uphethwe yingcindezi.
9. Ukuphathwa yikhanda
Kunengqondo ukuthi umuntu onengcindezi eningi angathola ikhanda. Ubuchopho buhlala buqaphile njalo lapho ubhekene nengcindezi. Lokhu kungaholela ekuxabaneni futhi, ngemuva kwalokho, kube yikhanda kanye ne-migraines.
10. Imisipha Yamadle
Uma ushaywa yingcindezi, imisipha yakho iyaqina ngokuzenzekelayo. Ukungezwani kwemisipha kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuphendula ekucindezelekeni ngoba kuyisivikelo somzimba wakho ekulimaleni. Ngokucindezeleka okungapheli, noma kunjalo, imisipha ihlala ivulekile futhi inganciphisa noma ifake isikhathi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ibangele ubuhlungu nokuncipha kokuhamba.
11. Ukulimala Komzimba
Cishe noma iyiphi ingxenye yomzimba ingathinteka kabi ngokuxineka - ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Kusukela ezindabeni zesisu kuya ezinkingeni zemisipha, ukucindezeleka kungadala konke. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta umbono wakho noma amandla akho okuphefumula ngokwemvelo. Kungathinta uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa, inhliziyo yakho, kanye nohlelo lwakho lokuzala. Ingcindezi ingaba nemiphumela engalungiseki emzimbeni wakho uma ukusabela kwengcindezi kuqhubeka noma kungapheli. Ukucindezeleka kwezinye izikhathi kungabulala.
Yize kungezona zonke izingcindezi ezimbi, ukuchayeka isikhathi eside ekucindezelekeni okungapheli kungalimaza izingqondo nemizimba yethu. Kungashintsha impilo yakho yonke futhi kuthinte abantu abaseduze kwakho, kufaka phakathi labo obathandayo. Uma uhlangabezana nanoma yiziphi kulezi zimpawu ezingenhla (noma inhlanganisela yazo), kungenzeka ukuthi uphendula ukucindezeleka. Ngenkathi ukucindezelwa kungenakugwemeka, kufanele wazi izimpendulo zakho ezihlukile ekucindezelekeni futhi wazi ukuthi ungazithatha nini izinyathelo zokukuxazulula.
