Ah, inkinga yekota-yokuphila. Yize i-25 yiminyaka yobudala, singadlula eyodwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi phakathi neminyaka engamashumi amabili.
Zingabangelwa ama-curveballs azo zonke izinhlobo nobukhulu impilo ethanda ukusiphonsa ngalesi sikhathi esinzima.
Kakhulu, kuza eminyakeni ngemuva kokuphothula iziqu zakho e-uni futhi usuqala ukuzulazula indlela yakho emhlabeni 'wabantu abadala', kepha nokho awukwazi ukusebenzisa igama lomuntu omdala ngaphandle kwezilinganiso zomoya.
Sinenhlanhla emangalisayo yokuphila kule nkathi. Kulezi zinsuku, iningi lethu kunanini ngaphambili linamathuba acishe angenamkhawulo ezandleni zethu.
Yize kusenebanga elide okusamele lihanjwe ngokulingana, iningi lethu lisesimweni esisho ukuthi singenza noma yini ngezimpilo zethu. Yebo, noma yini.
Ngenkathi umhlaba ogcwele amathuba ujabulisa ngendlela emangalisayo, ubuye wesabeka futhi wethuse kakhulu. Konke kuyindaba yokubuka, kepha kulula kakhulu ukuyibona njengeyokugcina lapho ubhekene nesinye sezinqumo ezinkulu zempilo futhi uzwe ukwethuka kuqala ukukhuphuka.
Kukhona lokho, kanye neqiniso lokuthi, eminyakeni yethu yama-20, iminyaka isiqale ukudlula. Isikhathi sihamba ngeminwe yethu njengesihlabathi esikhaleni seqanda bese siqala ukubona ukuthi ngeke siphile ingunaphakade, njengoba besicabanga ukuthi singaba yintsha.
Ngasikhathi sinye, sinomphakathi (futhi mhlawumbe omama bethu) abasicindezelayo ukuthi sikhuphukele esigabeni somsebenzi, sihlale phansi, futhi sibe nezingane ze-2.4 ngokushesha okukhulu.
Oh… kodwa futhi uhambe umhlaba futhi ube nokuzijabulisa okuthile. Konke ngaphambi kwethu shaya abesabekayo abangama-30 .
Akumangalisi-ke ukuthi le nkinga yempilo yesine ikhula kabi. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana nakho okwamanje ngaphandle kokuqaphela.
Ukungakhathazeki, yize zonke izingane ezipholile zikwenza.
Izimpawu Zenkinga Yekota-Yempilo
Nazi ezinye zezimpawu, ezinye zisobala ngokungaboni futhi ezinye okungenzeka ubungazicabangi, ukuthi uhlangabezana nazo.
1. Awukwazi Ukwenza Izinqumo
Ingabe ngokungazelelwe uzithole ungakwazi ukwenza izinqumo, ngisho nezincane, ezingabalulekile?
Ubhekene nezinqumo ezinkulu ezizothinta inkambo yempilo yakho, ngisho nokuthatha ezincane kube nzima kakhulu kunakuqala.
ingabe ulahlekelwa yintshisekelo kimi
Uzithola uchitha amahora esitolo ubhunga ukuthi iyiphi i-pasta ongayithenga. Ngisho nokukhetha okuthile kwimenyu yokudlela sekuyinselele engenakunqotshwa.
2. Usuqalile Ukubuza I Imibuzo Emikhulu
Funda noma yiziphi izincwadi zefilosofi muva nje? Ingabe uzithola ubuka izinkanyezi uzizwa ungabalulekile neze?
Uqale ukuzibuza ukuthi yini iphuzu lakho konke emhlabeni? Ucasulwe ukuthi izimpendulo zale mibuzo ziyaqhubeka nokukubalekela?
3. Uyethuka Ukuthi Konke Kuyokwehla Ukusuka Lapha
Ushaye ama-25 akhothusuku lokuzalwa futhi wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi kuyahlekisa ukukutshela ukuthi, ngokomzimba, manje ushaye inani lakho eliphakeme, futhi izinto ziqala ukonakala ukusuka lapha kuye phambili.
Lokho nje obudinga ukukuzwa.
Ushaywa uvalo lokuthi iminyaka yakho emihle manje isemuva kwakho futhi awukenzi lutho ngayo.
4. Uthole Icala Elikhulu Le-Imposter Syndrome
Ukhathazeka ngomsebenzi owesabekayo owenzayo 'ekukhuleni' futhi uzizwe ngokweqiniso njengomkhohlisi emsebenzini, uzibuze ukuthi umuntu omdala 'wangempela' uzobona nini ukuthi kube nohlobo oluthile lokuxubana okubi futhi akubonise umnyango.
5. Awuphumuli
Awubonakali unamathela entweni eyodwa, noma ngabe kungumsebenzi noma ubudlelwano, noma ngisho nokuhlala endaweni ethile isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphandle kokuxokozela futhi ufune ukubaleka.
Awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi yini lena ofuna ukubalekela kuyo.
okufanele ukwenze uma uthanda abafana ababili
6. Kodwa Awukwazi Ukubalekela
Ngenkathi into ethile ngaphakathi ikushayela ukuthi uyifakele yonke indawo uhambe uyobona umhlaba, unyamalale izinyanga noma iminyaka ekugcineni, enye ingxenye yakho yesaba ukweqa esitebhisini somsebenzi njengoba ucabanga ukuthi uzongena ekuweni kwamahhala.
Unombono wokuthi awusoze wabuyela kukho, nokuthi wonke umuntu owaziyo uzophatha izinkampani futhi asebenze emahhovisi engilazi kanti wena uyohlala unamathele ezansi uma ulokotha uthathe ikhefu lokuqala lomsebenzi.
Ungaba kanjani nekhefu lomsebenzi uma unesiqiniseko sokuthi okwenzayo akunakubalwa njengomsebenzi vele?
7. Ukuthola Kunzima Ukujabula Ngempela Kubangani Bakho
Ngenkathi wazi ukuthi impilo akumele ibe yimali nomsebenzi, njalo lapho lowo mngani ovela e-uni osebenza embonini ethile ekhokhelwa kakhulu (futhi mhlawumbe enokuziphatha okubi kakhulu) ethola umsebenzi omusha omuhle futhi anyuse, awukwazi ukujabula ngempela yabo ngoba umatasa kakhulu ukutatazela ngaphakathi.
Wenza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu wokuzenza ngathi ujabulile ngabo, noma kunjalo.
8. Nawe kanyekanye Ukwesaba Ukuzibophezela Nesifiso Sokuthola Uthando
Wonke umuntu okuzungezile unikeza ngokukhululeka umbono wakhe ngempilo yakho yothando.
Ingxenye yabo ikutshela ukuthi ujabulele ama-20s akho futhi uyigcine ikhululekile, ngenkathi enye ingxenye ikuxwayisa ukuthi bonke abahle bayabanjwa, futhi ikunikeze nezibalo zokuthi ungabulawa kanjani yiphekula kunokushada ngemuva kweminyaka ethile, ngakho-ke kufanele uqhubeke.
Jabulela inkulumo ye-pep, bafana.
Uyesaba ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni obungathi sína, kodwa futhi awazi ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile yini ukuphola futhi, okusho ukuthi impilo yakho yothando ayibikho nhlobo.
9. I-Social Media Akuwona Umngani Wakho
Njalo lapho uqala ukupheqa ku-Facebook, ubona umngani eposa mayelana nomsebenzi omusha, noma ukuzibandakanya, noma ngisho nengane, futhi kubonakala sengathi awuzithokozi ngabo, ukuxubana nje okuyinqaba komona, ukwesaba nokudelela.
Uyazi ngokugcwele ukuthi akufanele ube nomona ngokufunzwa kwabantu ku-Instagram, njengoba balayisha kuphela izinto ezinhle, njengoba nje wenza, kodwa lokho akukuvimbi ekuzizweleni amawele wemizwa engachazeki.
Uyamangala ukuthi noma ngubani kufanele enze lezo zinto kulesisikhathi, futhi adelele kancane… bese uthola ukuthi sekuyinsizwa leyo empeleni.
Uyazi futhi ukuthi awufuni ngisho nokushada noma unezingane okwamanje (uma kwenzeka ?!), Kepha lokho akukuvimbi ukuphazamiseka okuncane. Eqinisweni, kukwenza ukhathazeke ngokuthi NGABE KUFANELE ufune lezo zinto okwamanje.
10. Umbono Womama Wakho Usengumnqobi
Yize ulahlekelwe yikhono lokwenza izinqumo (bona iphuzu 1), ubona ukuthi kufanele ngabe uyazenza… kuphela awufuni ngempela. Usafuna umbono kamama wakho ngakho konke okuhle.
11. Ucabanga Ukuthi Nguwe Kuphela Ozizwa Ngale Ndlela
Uqinisekile ukuthi wonke umuntu unesenzo sakhe ndawonye futhi uhlelo oluhambisanayo lweminyaka emihlanu, futhi nguwe wedwa okwenzayo njengoba uqhubeka futhi uphambana nezinyathelo zonke zendlela.
Ngenhlanhla, unenkampani enhle. Sonke sisemkhunjini ofanayo ovuzayo futhi onolaka, futhi noma ngubani obukeka sengathi uyitholile phansi le nto yabantu abadala ungumlingisi omuhle nje.
Mane ulalele izwi elihlakaniphile elingaphakathi kuwe elizama ngokuzolile ukuzenza lizwakale phezu kwawo wonke umsindo osekhanda lakho.
Izwi elikukhumbuza ukuthi akugcini nje ngokuceba noma ngokuba nomsebenzi oncomekayo, nokuthi iminyaka yakho yamashumi amabili yenzelwe ukwenza amaphutha nokuthola kancane kancane impilo.
Njengoba uJohn Lennon ehloselwe ukusho, 'konke kuzolunga ekugcineni, futhi uma kungenjalo, akusona isiphetho.'
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Kungani Iminyaka Eyinkulungwane Eminingi Kangaka Idlula Enkingeni Yekota-Yempilo?
Izinkinga zempilo yekota ziye zaba yinkinga yobudala besimanje, kepha ngani?
Sengathi sibhekene ne izingqinamba ezikhona cishe iminyaka engama-20 kungekudala kunezizukulwane ezingaphambi kwethu.
Uma uhlala uzizwa ucindezelekile, elahlekile , futhi uzithole ukhala eshaweni, awuwedwa. Uvalo mnyama omusha…
Inkinga Entsha Yaphakathi Nempilo
Sonke siye sancokola ngabazali bethu abanezinkinga eziphakathi neminyaka yokuphila - ukuthenga izimoto zezemidlalo, ukuthandana ngokungafanele, nokuthola ama-tattoo 'akhululayo'. Yize konke lokho kuhle futhi, kukhomba kokuthile okungahambanga kahle.
Kuyaqondakala, empeleni, uma kunikezwe ukuthi abantu abadala abaningi babhekane nezinhlungu ezahlukahlukene zenhliziyo, ezehlukaniso, nezinguquko ezimbi ngesikhathi lapho befika kuma-40.
Bafanelwe ukuba nokwethuka okwesikhashana bakhohlwe ukuthi bangobani nokuthi benzani ngezimpilo zabo.
Kepha kuthiwani ngathi ngathi esibonakala sinezinto ezincibilikayo eminyakeni yethu engama-20?!
Uma uneminyaka eyinkulungwane futhi ungazi ukuthi wenzani ngempilo yakho, ungethuki - awuwedwa. Ngokwengeziwe kwethu kubonakala sengathi kunzima ngezinhlelo zethu zesikhathi esizayo, kanye nobukhona bethu bamanje.
Sivame ukuzizwa sengathi asenzi izinto kahle ngokwanele, noma kusenesikhathi ngokwanele ezimpilweni zethu. Sinamathuba amaningi kakhulu, kepha konke kuyasinda, bese sigcina sesididekile, silahlekile, futhi singenele ngokwanele.
ukuhlukana nobudlelwano besikhathi eside
Kubazali bethu nakubadala, simangele futhi siyadabukisa, kepha kungenzeka kube khona okuthile ngemuva…
Imidiya Yezokuxhumana Nokulindelwe Okungeke Kwenzeke
Manje, ngiyithanda kakhulu i-Instagram njengomuntu olandelayo - kuze kufike lapho ngizobheka khona ifoni yami ngaphambi kokukhuluma nesoka lami eliseduze kwami embhedeni. Rude, ngiyazi, kodwa sekuwumkhuba ongajwayelekile futhi sobabili siyakwenza.
Futhi asisodwa.
Amahlaya amaningi weminyaka eyizinkulungwane mayelana nemilutha yabo yezokuxhumana, futhi sonke sijwayelene nomthetho wegolide we-Instagram - uma ungawuthwebanga, ngabe udle ngisho nalawo brunch wamahhala we-hipster-vegan-gluten?!
Imithombo yezokuxhumana ingaba yinhle ngezindlela eziningi, futhi ivumela abantu ukuthi bakhe imiphakathi esekelanayo eku-inthanethi, bathuthukise amabhizinisi abo, futhi bagcine wonke umuntu evuselelwa nge-selfie yansuku zonke.
Kepha kwenzani ukuzethemba kwethu kanye nezifiso zethu?
Sonke sijwayele ukubona abantu abahle, abashukiwe bedla ukudla okumangalisayo emabhishi angenamuntu. Impela, siyazi ukuthi kukhona isihlungi esithombeni, kepha kungani kungenjalo yethu impilo enjengaleyo?
I-Instagram neFacebook ziyashintsha izindlela esizizwa ngayo ngezimpilo zethu, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi angingedwa ukuzizwa ungalondekile ngokuthi ngikuphi ngempilo yami.
Kufanele ngabe ngiyakwenza lokho, lapho, nabo ?! Ukubona ukuthi bonke laba abanye abantu benzani kuphakamisa imibuzo eminingi ngempilo yethu. Mhlawumbe kufanele ngabe sihamba kakhulu, ngenkathi sisebenzela ubudlelwano bethu, futhi sikhuphuka ileli lomsebenzi.
O, kanye nesiteji sempahla, ngokusho kwe-Facebook yami. O, nokuba nengane nomlingani wethu weminyaka emihlanu, noma ngabe ubudlelwane bethu bokugcina buhlale cishe izinsuku ezintathu ezingezinhle neze.
Imithombo yezokuxhumana ingaba muhle, kepha futhi ifaka umuzwa wokwethuka futhi yenza okwethu, okwangempela, izimpilo zethu kubonakale kunganele.
wazi kanjani uma enye intombazane ikuthanda
Kunezithombe nemiyalezo eminingi esitshela okufanele ngabe sikwenza konke kuba nzima kakhulu.
Siqala ukwakha okulindelwe okungenangqondo ngokususelwa kulokho wonke umuntu kubonakala esizokwenza, okwenza impilo yethu yonke ibonakale ingafaneleki futhi ingaphumeleli.
Lokhu okulindelwe kuqala ukungahambi kahle lapho siqala khona ukuhlola izimpilo zethu, siqhathanisa njalo ukubukeka kwethu nokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu nalezo esizibona ku-inthanethi.
Izinkinga zempilo, noma ngabe isiphi ubudala, azijabulisi neze - zigcwele ukungazethembi, ukukhathazeka, ukuqhathanisa nokukhathazeka. Ngokuzibona thina kanye nezimpilo zethu njengabaphansi kunakho konke okuhlungiwe, izimpilo ‘zokubambisana okukhokhelwayo’ kwama-Insta-idol wethu, sithambekele ekuhlangabezaneni nalolu hlobo lobunzima.
'Ngikhathele'
Sonke sibonakala sikhathele njalo. Ukuzama ukwenza yonke into kuyakhathaza ngakho-ke kungenzeka uzithole ucabanga unomphela ngombhede wakho.
Uma singasebenzi amahora angamahlongandlebe ngamehlo ethu ethe njo ekwenyusweni, sizama ukuqhubeka nezinsuku, sihlele izinhlelo nabangane esibonakala sengathi asizilandeli, noma sigijimisana nendlu (esingakwazi ' t afford) ukuwasha izingubo.
Impela, asinakho okunzima njengabazali bethu noma ogogo nomkhulu, kepha sisalwela.
I-intanethi iyamangalisa, ubuchwepheshe buhambele phambili kakhulu, futhi sinokufinyelela kuzinsizakusebenza eziningi kakhulu ezazingenazo izizukulwane ezingaphambi kwethu. Kepha, ngandlela thile, silahlekile kancane endleleni futhi sihlala sikhathele futhi sicindezelekile hhayi kakhulu.
Kubukeka sengathi wonke umuntu ukuhlobo olungajwayelekile lomjaho ukwenza izinto kuqala, noma okungcono, ngaphandle kokwazi ngempela ukuthi ziyini ngempela izinto.
Konke kuyadida futhi kugcina sekukhipha kakhulu futhi akumnandi neze.
Izinketho Eziningi kakhulu?
Kulezi zinsuku, singenza kakhulu noma yini esiyifunayo.
Iziqu zaseyunivesithi zivame kakhulu kunakuqala, ukuhamba kulula kakhulu, uma kubiza, futhi kunezinketho eziningi zempilo ejwayelekile esizitholayo.
Lokhu kuhle ngandlela thile, kepha kungacindezela kakhulu.
Kufana nokuthi simi endaweni yokudlela futhi sitshelwa ukuthi sikhethe phakathi kwe-avocado ku-toast nesitsha se-smoothie. Ngiyazi, kuzwakala kumnandi kakhulu kunaleyo ‘yedwala nendawo enzima,’ kodwa kuyadida futhi awusoze wazi kahle ukuthi wenze ukukhetha okulungile.
Kuthiwani ukube amaqanda abanjwe amaqanda abe yizinga elifanele lokugijima ngabe bangeze amajikijolo e-goji kanye nempova yezinyosi ?!
Sinezinketho eziningi phambi kwethu, futhi zonke zibonakala zizinhle. Kepha senzelwe kanjani ukuthi sazi ukuthi iyiphi indlela esifuna ukuba kuyo empilweni lapho singakwazi nokwenza isinqumo esithinta usuku olulodwa?
Kuzwakala sengathi kufanele siminyanise konke - ukuthandana okwanele ngaphambi kokuzinza, izinsana, indlu, ukukhushulwa, impilo enempilo yomphakathi… Wonke umuntu osizungezile ubonakala ekuqeda, futhi lokhu kwenza kube nzima nakakhulu.
Lapho sizama nokuqhubekela phambili kakhulu konke into, lapho sibonakala sibambeke kakhudlwana.
Yize kumangalisa kakhulu ukuba ne-buffet yokukhetha phambi kwethu, utshani buvame ukuzizwa buhlaza kakhulu ngakolunye uhlangothi.
Noma yikuphi ukukhetha kuzwakala njengokukhetha okungalungile, okusenza sibuze ubukhona bethu kanye nengcindezi nangaphezu kwalokho esikwenzayo.
Lapho ungaba yinoma yini oyifunayo, ukhetha kanjani?
Konke Kubiza Imali
Ususukile ekhaya lomndeni, waya e-uni, wasebenzisa imali yakho oyibolekile kuma-Sambuca shots, manje awunandawo yokuhlala futhi unesikweletu sonke.
Ukubuyela ekhaya ngemuva kokuphothula kuyinto hhayi ikhanga kakhulu kuma-somethings angama-20. Ikhaya ligcina izinkumbulo zentsha enama-angst, ukwakheka okungalungile, nesikhathi esibekiwe sokufika ekhaya. Kuhle ukuwasha nokudla isidlo sangempela, kodwa kumane kuzwakale njengesinyathelo esikhulu emuva.
Enye indlela? Akunjalo futhi, njengoba kuvela.
Imali ediphozithi nezinkampani osebenzela kuzo uzibhalile izitho ezahlukahlukene ku-Craigslist, futhi okuwukuphela kwezindawo zokuhlala ezingabizi ngamagaraji (ngithole indawo yokupaka ebhalwe ukuthi nje ‘$ 500 ngenyanga).
Konke kubiza kakhulu kulezi zinsuku!
Impela, konke kuhlobene nokunikezwa kokukhushulwa komholo omncane, kepha imakethe yezakhiwo imane izwakale njengehlaya elilodwa elikhulu. Akumangalisi ukuthi sonke sisele sizizwa silahlekile futhi sicindezelekile lapho irenti egumbini elincane, elinamaqhuqhuva iyimpango.
Ukungakwazi ukukhokhela indawo enhle, noma ngisho nenesizotha yokuhlala akuyona yonke into ekhuthazayo, yingakho sinezinkinga ezikhona njalo lapho sibheka ukuvumela amasayithi e-ejensi.
Ngeza kukho konke lokhu ukuthi sinezikweletu ezinkulu ngokufunda / impilo yethu yeGap-Yah / jikelele, futhi kuyaqondakala ukuthi kungani sinenkinga.
Izinkinga zezezimali azihloselwe ukuthi zibe nalezi zingcindezi uma sesineminyaka engama-20 - siyikota yendlela ezimpilweni zethu, asiwudingi wonke lo mbhedo ‘wabantu abadala’.
Akukubi Konke
Kuyesabeka njengoba kungaba nenkinga yekota-yokuphila, kubalulekile ukuzama ukubona ulwelwesi lwesiliva.
Ukuba nalenkinga yokuzethemba zisuka nje ezimpilweni zethu sizizwa singenabulungiswa futhi singekho isidingo, kepha kuvame ukubandakanya ukuseshwa komphefumulo. Lokhu kungaba okuhlukumezayo, futhi kuvame ukufaka inani elifanele leBen & Jerry's (noma i-tequila, noma yikuphi), kepha empeleni kungaba yinto enhle…
izinto ezimnandi okufanele uzenze uma uwedwa ekhaya
Ngokungabaza izici eziningi kangaka zezimpilo zethu, singaphumela kolunye uhlangothi lwenkinga sizizwa sicace kakhudlwana.
Ukuhlaziya ngokukhathazeka konke esikwenzayo kungaba yinkinga enkulu, kepha kuvame ukusishiya sizizwa sigxile kakhulu lapho isiphepho sesiphelile.
Kulezi zimo, uphoqeleka ukuthi ucabange ngempela ngalokho ofuna ukukwenza ngempilo yakho. Lokhu kungasho ukuthola izinto zokuzilibazisa ezintsha noma izintshisekelo, noma ukuthola kabusha izinto ezindala okhohlwe ukuthi uzithandayo.
Ukuhlola impilo yakho kungazizwa kabi okwamanje, kepha kungakusiza ukuthi uhlele ikusasa lakho futhi usebenzele izinhloso ezinhle…
