Ngakho-ke, benibe ndawonye isikhashana futhi izinto zizwakala zimnandi - kepha kukhona okushodayo.
Unesifiso sokushada nesoka lakho, kodwa alikabuzwa wena futhi ngeke uyeke ukulicabanga.
Esikhundleni sokufuna indandatho futhi ungeze inqwaba yengcindezi, ungahle ubeke izeluleko kancane bese ukhuthaza izingxoxo ezithile ezizomsiza ukuthi aphakamise ngokwemibandela yakhe. Nakhu ukuthi…
1. Khuluma ngekusasa.
Ngokukhuluma ngokuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka nokwabelana ngempilo yakho ndawonye (ngaphandle kokucaca kakhulu!), Wazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyabona ukuthi ubudlelwane buhlala isikhathi eside.
okufanele ukwenze lapho othile ekucasukela
Yize nobabili ngokungangabazeki nisekhasini elilodwa ngalokho, kungasiza ukuthi ezwe ukuthi uzibona unaye isikhathi eside.
Ningakhuluma ngamaphupho enu nindawonye - qinisekani ukuthi nicela okokufaka, uma kungenjalo yena kuthanda qala ukuzizwa ucindezelekile.
Zama ukumbuza ukuthi ufunani ngokuzayo, futhi yiziphi izinto azibonayo eninazo nobabili. Lokhu kususa ingcindezi, futhi, njengoba kungeyona eyomshado.
Ungakhuluma ngohambo ofuna ukuluthatha ndawonye, impumelelo kanye nezinhloso ofuna ukuzishaya, nokuthi impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo yephupho izobukeka kanjani.
Uma kukhulunywa ngomshado, kuhle! Hlala uzolile uhambe nayo, ungamenzi azizwe sengathi ulindele noma uyayifuna, kodwa khombisa ukuthi nawe uyakubona lokho esikhathini esizayo.
Uma engakhulumi ngayo, ungayiphonsa engxoxweni ngobumnene.
Kepha uma lokhu kuyinto osukhulume ngayo kakhulu, kufanele uqaphele ukuyiveza futhi njengoba wazi ukuthi imizwa yakhe ngayo isivele ikhona. Uma ezibamba, udinga ukugwema ukumfaka ebusweni noma umphoqe ukuba akhulume ngakho.
2. Thatha isinyathelo esilandelayo ndawonye.
Kwabanye abafana, umshado ungazizwa uyisinyathelo esikhulu - futhi lokho kuvame ngoba kungukuzibophezela okukhulunywa ngakho ‘kusesekuseni kakhulu.’
Manje, awukho ngempela umugqa wesikhathi wokuzibophezela, futhi umbhangqwana ngamunye uzothola okuzobasebenzela. Uma ungahlali ndawonye okwamanje, noma kunjalo, isoka lakho lingahle lizizwe sengathi umshado ungukugxuma okukhulu!
Ayikho indlela ebekiwe, kepha kungasiza ukuhamba kancane uze ufinyelele esiphakamisweni kunokulindela eyodwa ngoba nithandana ngempela.
Isoka lakho lizokuthanda, kunjalo, kepha lingafuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi niyafanelana ngempela esikhathini esizayo.
Lokho kusho ukuhlala ndawonye, imibhangqwana eminingi, okungenani, nokubonana ngokusemandleni akho futhi okubi kakhulu.
Uma njengamanje nishintshana ngokushayisa endaweni yomunye ubusuku obubodwa ngesonto, isoka lakho lingahle lingazizwa sengathi usukulungele ukuchitha sonke isikhathi sakho ndawonye endlini eyodwa.
Kancane kancane hamba uye phambili ngamazinga ahlukene wokuzibophezela, njengokuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomndeni wakhe nabangane, futhi ninomunye nomunye.
Lokhu kuzomsiza abone ukuthi ulunge kangakanani empilweni yakhe nokuthi nihambisana kangakanani, futhi uzozizwa ekhululeke kakhudlwana ngokucela ezingeni elilandelayo lokuzibophezela - umshado.
3. Mkhumbuze ukuthi zinkulu kangakanani izinto, hhayi ukuthi yini 'engekho.'
Uma ukhathazeka ngokweqile ngomshado noma konke ongakucabanga ngoba uvele.akakwenzi.phakamisa, udinga ukuthatha umoya.
Lokhu kuyinto eningi esihlangabezana nayo, kepha ingaba nomthelela omubi kakhulu ebudlelwaneni uma ungeke ubulawule.
Ungaqala ukucasulwa iqiniso lokuthi isoka lakho alikaphakamisi, noma ukhathazeka ngokweqile ngalokho ongakwenza ngokuhlukile ukuze likufune ngokwengeziwe.
Lapho ugxila kakhulu kulokhu, kulapho ubeka khona ubunzima obuningi kuye nobudlelwano, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kube nomthelela omubi ezintweni.
Cabanga uma isoka lakho belihlala likucela ukuthi wenze okuthile obungakulungele. Uzoqala ukuzizwa unecala ngokungazizwa ukulungele, kanye nokukhungatheka ukuthi ngeke bakunikeze isikhala.
Ungazonda ukuthi abayihloniphi imizwa yakho, futhi uzizwe ukwazi kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakho, kuze kufike ezingeni lapho ubudlelwano buzoqala ukubhekana khona.
Esikhundleni sokwenza lezo zinto, vele uzame ukugxila kokuthi izinto sezivele zinkulu kangakanani. Yiba nguzakwethu omangalisayo, susa ingcindezi ngokuyidedela okwamanje, futhi ubonise isoka lakho ukuthi bukhulu kangakanani ubudlelwane.
Lapho ebona ngokwengeziwe lolu hlangothi lwakho 'olujwayelekile' (kunokuba abheke wena), kulapho eba nokholo ezintweni ezisebenza isikhathi eside - futhi maningi amathuba okuthi azethembe, futhi zikhululekile, zanele ukukuphakamisa.
4. Khuluma ngokukhululekile ngakho.
Kunokukhululekile, siyazi, kepha lokhu kuyinto abaningi bethu abavame ukugwema ukuyenza uma kukhulunywa ngeziphakamiso!
Futhi, uma usukhulumile ngomshado nesoka lakho futhi akuhambanga kahle ngendlela ofuna ngayo, singaphakamisa ukweqa lokhu.
Kepha uma ungakaze ukhulume ngakho ngempela nesoka lakho phambilini, kungenzeka ukuthi wawuyigwema indaba yomshado ngoba awufuni ukuba yilowo ‘muntu’ ophikisayo futhi ocela indandatho.
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Uma kungeyona into okhulume ngayo ngaphambilini kodwa uke wacabanga ngokuningi, kulula ukwethula engxoxweni futhi ujabule kakhulu - phela, ukuhlelele konke ekhanda lakho, ngakho-ke ukhululekile ngesihloko.
Kungenzeka angabi sisekhasini elifanayo nawe (okwamanje!), Ngakho-ke angamangala kakhulu futhi azizwe ecindezelekile uma uqala ngo 'Ngakho-ke, bengicabanga ukuthi sizoshada - besingenza u-X, bese sithola u-Y. ukudlala, futhi ngakhuluma nodadewenu mayelana nokuthola indandatho kagogo wakho yomshado. ”
Uyabona ukuthi sisho ukuthini? Gcina lolo hlobo lwengxoxo yabangane bakho futhi uyigcine ipholile nesoka lakho - okungenani okwamanje.
Ungamazisa ukuthi kuyinto ongathanda ukuyikhomba, noma into engasho lukhulu kuwe.
Chaza ukuthi awufuni ukumfaka ingcindezi, nokuthi awulindelanga lutho kodwa ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi usekhasini elifanayo ngokuzibophezela kanye nezinhloso zesikhathi eside.
Linganisa i-vibe bese ubona ukuthi uzizwa kanjani - uma ebonakala engakhululekile, mtshele ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, uyajabula ukukhuluma ngakho, nokuthi ungaphinda uvakashele lesi sihloko ngesinye isikhathi uma ethanda.
Khumbula ukuthi umshado, neziphakamiso, kungumgwaqo onhlangothi zombili futhi udinga ukuhlonipha indlela azizwa ngayo njengoba nje ufuna ukuxhumana nokuthi wena uzizwe.
5. Chitha isikhathi nabangane abashadile noma abashadile.
Abanye abantu bakhathazeka ngokuthi umshado uzoshintsha izinto zibe zimbi. Bangase bangabi nalo ulwazi lobudlelwano besikhathi eside futhi bakhathazeke ngokuthi konke kuzoshintsha futhi ngeke besakwazi ukuzimela.
Qala ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa nemibhangqwana eshadile noma eshadile. Awudingi ukwenza umbukiso omkhulu weqiniso lokuthi bashadile, ngoba lokhu kungamenza asole izinhloso zakho!
Esikhundleni salokho, yigcine ikhululekile - isikhathi esiningi asichitha nabantu abazibophezele komunye nomunye, kuzoqala ukujwayeleka kakhulu.
Uzobona ukuthi abangane bakhe besilisa abashadile basenempilo yabo futhi bayakujabulela ukushada, futhi uzoqala ukukubona lokho nobudlelwano bakho ndawonye.
Lapho ekhululeka ngokwengeziwe ngomqondo womshado, maningi amathuba okuthi azifunele yena futhi empeleni akuphakamisele!
6. Khuphula ezothando.
Ngokufana nokuzenza ubaluleke empilweni yakhe, ukuthola ukuthandana kaningi kuyindlela enhle yokusheshisa izinto nesoka lakho.
Lapho ezizwa ekhululekile futhi esothandweni kakhulu, uzoba nokuzethemba okukhulu nokunethezeka uma kukhulunywa ngokuyisa ezingeni elilandelayo.
Uma ezwa sengathi kusenokuningi okuqhubekayo ebudlelwaneni bakho, futhi usajabule kakhulu futhi uyathandeka, uzoqala ngokwemvelo acabange ukuthi kungakanani ukuzibophezela angakwenza kuwe.
Kuzoqala ukuzwa ngathi okwakhe umqondo, okusho ukuthi uzozethemba kakhulu ekwenzeni isinqumo sokuphakamisa.
Uma ebona ukuthi izinto ziqinile phakathi kwenu futhi nisenza isikhathi sothando ndawonye, uzoqala ukubona isithombe esikhulu sokuchitha izimpilo zenu ndawonye.
Yenza umzamo omkhulu ngobusuku besikhathi, noma hlelani impelasonto yothando ndawonye. Zama ukuthola isikhathi lapho ningahlala nodwa ndawonye futhi nigxile kakhulu ekutheni izinto zinhle kangakanani phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Ukuthola imizwa yothando ngokwemvelo kuzomholela ekucabangeni ngezinto ezifana nekusasa lakho, umshado, izingane, njalonjalo. Lapho ezwa kakhulu ukuthi kuyindlela engokoqobo, maningi amathuba okuthi azovusa umbuzo omkhulu.
Ngakho-ke, sifunde ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthi umfana azizwe ethanda yena ufuna ukuphakamisa lokho nje - ukukwenza okwakhe isinqumo.
Lokho kusho ukudilizwa emsebenzini uma kukhulunywa ngengcindezi namazwana aphikisayo, futhi ngimbonisa nje ukuthi nobabili nibabili kangakanani. Lapho ejwayeleka futhi enethezekile ngomqondo womshado ngokwemibandela yakhe, kuzoba ngcono.
Lokho kusho ukuthi udinga ukuzibonela yena kunokuba wena uzame ukumphoqa ngaso sonke isikhathi!
Lapho kungukuphela kwento ongacabanga ngayo, kunzima ukungacindezeli indoda yakho ukuthi iphakamise, kepha izobuyela emuva kuphela. Esikhundleni salokho, ake eze emcabangweni ngokwakhe - futhi alungele ukuthi yebo!
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