Ukungqubuzana kuyingxenye yemvelo yomuzwa womuntu…
Yindlela esizisingatha ngayo lezo zingxabano ezingenakugwenywa ezisisiza ukuthi sizichaze ukuthi singobani kanye nobudlelwano bethu nabanye.
Kunezindlela ezinempilo nezingenampilo zokusingatha idrama, ukungqubuzana, nezinkinga ezivela empilweni.
Abantu abangenazo izindlela zokubhekana nempilo enempilo noma amandla okuzibandakanya ezingxabanweni maningi amathuba okuthi bahlupheke imiphumela yesikhathi eside yezempilo yengqondo, izingcindezi, nobudlelwano obuxakile.
Ngo-1968, uDkt.Stephen Karpman wenza iKarpman Drama Triangle ukulingisa ukuxhumana kwabantu okungenzeka ezingxabanweni ezeqile, ezibhubhisayo phakathi kwabantu. Ukuhlukaniswa 'ngokweqile, ukubhubhisa' kuyisihluthulelo.
UDkt. Karpman ukhethe “unxantathu wedrama” kunonxantathu ongqubuzanayo ngoba imodeli ibingahloselwe ukuchaza isisulu sangempela.
Esikhundleni salokho, kuhloselwe ukulingisa indlela yokuziphatha komuntu ozwa noma ozibona eyisisulu.
IKarpman Drama Triangle nayo ayihloselwe ukufaka ukungavumelani okunempilo noma izimpikiswano, kuphela ukuziphatha ngokweqile, okonakalisayo okuyingozi kubabambiqhaza.
I-Karpman's Triangle yakhiwe ngamaphuzu amathathu nabalingisi abathathu abafanele: Umshushisi, uVictim, noMhlengi.
Umshushisi
UMshushisi ngumuntu okukholakala ukuthi uyisigebengu.
Lo muntu kungabonakala ukuthi usola icala kuMhlukumezi. Bangathukuthela futhi bacindezele, ukulawula , eqinile, egxeka ngokweqile, engenathemba noma eqinile.
Bangazibheka njengabakhulu, bazizwe bephakeme kuMhlukumezi, noma basebenze ukwenza Ohlukumeziwe azizwe sengathi bangaphansi kukaMshushisi.
Izisusa zabo kungenzeka zicace noma zingacaci. Kungaba lula njengokusebenzisa umuntu othile noma usebenzise omunye umuntu noma kungaba enye inkinga ejulile emsebenzini.
Isisulu
Ohlukumezekile uzibona elahlekile engenathemba futhi engenakuzisiza, engenamandla ngokuphelele okuzenzela noma yiluphi ushintsho olunengqondo ngokuthanda kwabo.
Bafaka ukuzidabukela futhi benqaba noma yimiphi imizamo yokusiza ukuziphakamisa noma ukwenza izinqumo. Imvamisa babaleka ezinkingeni zabo esikhundleni sokufuna izindlela zokuzilungisa.
Bangazizwa benamahloni futhi bengenamandla, beziqinisekisa ukuthi abanayo indlela noma amandla okuxazulula izinkinga zabo, ngenkathi ngasikhathi sinye bengenzi lutho ukuzama.
Isisulu esingashushiswa njengamanje singafuna uMshushisi noMtakuli ukuze baqhubeke nomjikelezo wabo wokuzidabukela.
UMtakuli
UMtakuli akayena umuntu omuhle noma ohloniphekile e-Karpman Triangle. UMtakuli uyi amandla.
Banikeza umbono wokufuna ukusiza ngokusindisa oxhashaziwe ekukhetheni kwabo okungalungile noma ekungenzi lutho.
Lokhu kaningi kuyindlela yokuzivikela ebavumela ukuthi bagweme izinkinga zabo ngenkathi bezikholisa ukuthi bayathuthuka ngokusindisa isisulu kuMshushisi.
Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi bafuna ikhredithi yenhlalo ngokuba nguMsindisi nomsizi. Lokhu kufihlwe njengokukhathalela inhlala-kahle Yisisulu, kepha kusebenza ukunika amandla ukuziphatha kwabo kokuzidabukela, njengoba kunikeza isisulu imvume yokwehluleka futhi kwehluleke ukubenza balandise ngokuzikhethela kwabo nempilo yabo.
I-Karpman Triangle In Action
Akuzona zonke izingxabano eziholele ekwakhiweni kweDrama Triangle, kepha unxantathu ungathuthuka lapho othile engena endimeni yoMhlukumezi noma uMshushisi.
Ohlukumezekile noma uMshushisi uzozama ukudonsela abanye abantu engxabanweni. Uma uMshushisi, bazobheka Umuntu Ohlukumezekile. Uma Umuntu Ohlukumezekile, bangafuna uMshushisi (uma engekho) noMtakuli.
Lezi zindima azimile futhi zizoshintsha phakathi nawo wonke umdlalo.
Akuyona into engavamile ukuthi Ohlukumezekile avule uMtakuli, okuvumela Ohlukumezekile ukuthi abone uMsindisi njengomunye uMshushisi futhi aqhubeke nomjikelezo wabo wokuzilimaza.
Abahlanganyeli abehlukene bavame ukujikeleza besuka endimeni baye endimeni, noma ngabe umuntu ngamunye uzoba nendima ebaluleke kakhulu abavame ukuzithola bekuyo.
UDkt Karpman wayekholelwa ukuthi le ndima yenziwa ekukhuleni kwengane isencane ngaphakathi komndeni onamandla.
Umuntu ngamunye kuDrama Triangle uthola uhlobo oluthile lokugcwaliseka okungenampilo ekusebenzisaneni kwabo.
Ngezikhathi, ukuxhomekeka ingadlala indima phakathi koMhlengi noMhlukumezi.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungayigwema Kanjani Idrama Futhi Uyivimbe Ekuonakaliseni Impilo Yakho
- Ungabasiza Kanjani Abanye Ngesikhathi Sabo Sokudinga
- Izindlela Ezi-10 Ukuba Nhle Kakhulu Zizophela Kahle Kuwe
- Izibonelo Ezi-9 Zokuziphatha Okufuna Ukunakwa Kubantu Abadala
Ukugqashula Ku-The Triangle Triangle
Umuntu angakhululeka kumjikelezo weDrama Triangle ngokuqonda ukuthi bayazibandakanya, badlala yiphi indima, kungani babamba iqhaza, nokuthi yiziphi izinyathelo abangazithatha ukushintsha umbono wabo nezenzo zabo kulokhu okunamandla.
Akuzona zonke izingxabano eziyingozi nezingenampilo. Abantu bazoba nokungaboni ngaso linye, baphikisane, badinge usizo, futhi badinga ukuba umsizi ngezikhathi ezithile.
Izinkinga zivela lapho lezi zinto zenziwa ezingeni elingenampilo noma elimazayo.
Ngabe uzithola ubandakanyeka emdlalweni njalo? Cabanga ngezingxabano obukade uzibandakanya nabanye abantu noma izimo zempilo.
Kunezikhathi lapho uMshushisi empeleni eyisimo sangaphandle kunokuba abe ngumuntu.
Njengesibonelo, umuntu angahle alahlekelwe ngumsebenzi, nganoma yisiphi isizathu, angene endimeni yoMuntu Ohlukunyezwayo kube sengathi indawo yonke ihambelana naye, azinike imvume yokuzigqaja ngokuzidabukela.
Bangase basole umphathi wabo ngokuxoshwa lapho kube amaphutha abo aholela ekutheni baxoshwe.
NjengoMshushisi
UMshushisi, njengomuntu, uvame ukubheka kuye beka icala kunoma ngubani nakho konke okunye ngaphandle kwabo ngamashwa nezinkinga zabo.
Kuza isikhathi lapho umuntu edinga ukuma azibuze ukuthi akusizo yini, empeleni, isizathu sokwehluleka kwabo namashwa abo.
Bazodinga ukuyeka ukufuna omunye umuntu abazomsola ngokungajabuli kwabo, amashwa, noma izinkinga zabo futhi bafune izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nezingcindezi zabo.
NjengoMhlengi
UMhlengi uhlala efuna ukusindisa abanye abantu ngokulahlekelwa impilo yabo yengqondo nenhlalakahle yabo.
Bangazizwa sengathi konke kuzokonakala uma bengabandakanyeki ngandlela thile, belishaya indiva iqiniso lokuthi izinto zizoqhubeka nazo noma zingekho.
UMtakuli angahle adele okuningi, kuze kufike ezingeni lapho kubadalela khona ukulimala noma izinkinga empilweni yabo, ukuzama ukusindisa isisulu kubo.
Umuntu ozithola esendimeni yoMtakuli kuvame ukuthi ahlole isakhiwo semingcele esinempilo futhi afunde ukuthi abakwazi ukusindisa umhlaba, nokuthi ukuzibulala ngokwakho akuyona into enhle.
NjengoMhlushwa
Isisulu siyakuthokozela ukuzwa sengathi abanamandla okulawula empilweni. Bayachuma lapho bezwa sengathi abasalawuleki ngokuphelele, ukuthi izinto zimane zivele kubo kungakhathalekile ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo abazithathayo.
Yebo, zikhona impela izikhathi lapho impilo izobhekana nesandla esibi futhi kufanele nje sihlupheke ngalokho okuza kithi.
Kepha, kaningi kunalokho, kunezenzo esingazithatha ukunciphisa ukushaywa, sithathe umthwalo ngempilo yethu nenjabulo, futhi siqhubeke nokwakha uhlobo lwempilo esilufunayo.
Ushintsho Ku-Empowerment Dynamic (TED)
Ngo-2009, uDavid Emerald wakhipha incwadi enesihloko esithi, 'Amandla we-TED * (* I-Empowerment Dynamic).'
Incwadi ka-Emerald ifuna ukunika abantu amandla ekuphunyukeni kulo mjikelezo wezingxabano ezingezinhle ngokuguqula indima ngayinye iye ohlangothini oluhle kakhulu ngemibono enempilo kanye nokuziphatha okunamathiselwe kuyo.
Isisulu sishintshela kuMdali, uMshushisi udlulela kwi-Challenger, uMhlengi ushintshela kuMqeqeshi.
Kusuka Kumuntu Ohlukumezekile Kuya KuMdali
Ukushintshwa kusuka ekuhlushweni kuye kuMdali kuncike ezicini ezimbili ezibalulekile.
1. UMdali kumele akwazi ukuphendula umbuzo othi, 'Ngifunani?' futhi bathuthukise amandla abo okuthola indlela eya enjongweni yabo yokugcina.
Ukushintshwa kombono kuvumela uMdali ukuthi agudluke engqondweni yokugxila enkingeni nokuthi ibathinta kanjani baye endimeni enika amandla yokuba yisazi esicabanga ngezixazululo.
Ukugxila emphumeleni kunika amandla emuva kuMdali, kubayeke bathole izinyathelo zabo futhi benze inqubekela phambili ezinkingeni zabo.
2. UMdali kumele afunde ukukhetha izimpendulo zabo ezinkingeni eziphonswa yimpilo kubo.
Wonke umuntu uzobhekana nobunzima obuqala kokuncane kuye kokubi. Ukuphela kwento esinamandla okuyilawula ukuthi sikhetha ukusabela kanjani kubo.
Manje lokho akukhona ukujivaza noma ngubani oyisisulu noma osindile esimweni esibuhlungu. Inhloso ukungangeni ogibeni loKunukubezwa, lapho umuntu azifaka emjikelezweni ongemuhle wokuthi akanalusizo futhi akanathemba.
Ukuhlushwa ngumqondo yomaye oqhubekayo njengami, okungeyona into efanayo nomuntu olinyazwe ngomunye umuntu noma ngesimo.
Kusuka Kumshushisi Kuya Ku-Challenger
INselelo ngumuntu noma isimo esiphoqa kuMdali. Lokhu kungahle kungabi ngumuntu. Kungaba inkinga yezempilo noma isimo sangaphandle esizibeka kuMdali kungakhathalekile ukuthi bakhetha ini.
Njengomuntu, i-Challenger ingaba ithonya elibi noma elihle. Umehluko uzoba sekugqugquzeleni koMphikisi.
Umuntu ongemuhle endimeni yeChallenger angafuna ukugcina nokubeka ukulawula phezu koMdali.
Imvamisa benza lokho ngezizathu zobugovu, ukugwema ukuba yisisulu ngokwabo, noma ngoba bedlulisela izinkinga zabo kuMdali.
Umuntu ovumayo endimeni ye-Challenger angasiza ukudala amathuba amasha futhi akhuthaze ukukhula kuMdali ngokuziphonsela inselelo ngezindlela ezingonakalisi.
Umuntu ozidelayo endimeni yeChallenger anganikeza ukugqugquzela okunengqondo okuzokhuthaza uMdali ukuthi aphakame kakhulu.
Kusuka Ekutakuleni Kuya Kumqeqeshi
Umehluko phakathi koMtakuli noMqeqeshi ubudlelwano babo noMhlukumezi noma uMdali.
shane mcmahon vs aj izitayela
Umqeqeshi uyaqonda ukuthi abanawo amandla wangempela okulungisa noma ngubani ngaphandle kwabo. Badweba imingcele enempilo, banganikeza ukugqugquzela kanye nokuholwa, kepha abalweli ukuthwala isisindo esingokomzwelo sempi yoMdali.
Bazogcina imingcele enempilo futhi bangazivumeli ukuba bangene engxabanweni eqhubekayo phakathi koMdali no-Challenger.
Ukwenza Izinguquko Ezinhle Ebudlelwaneni Bomuntu Siqu
Amandla okuba nokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo nabanye abantu bususelwa ekuziqondeni komuntu uqobo.
Umuntu kumele aqonde ukuthi kungani benza izinto abazenzayo, kungani bezizwa izinto abazizwayo, uma benethemba lokuvula amandla abo futhi bakhule njengabantu.
Iningi lawo wonke umuntu lifuna impilo ejabulisayo nenokuthula. Ukuze ube nokuphila okujabulisayo nokuthula, umuntu kufanele akwazi ukuba nezingxabano nezinqumo ezinempilo.
Wonke umuntu uzozizwela - futhi wonke umuntu angathuthukisa amandla abo okuzibandakanya nomhlaba futhi afeze izinhloso zabo.
Ukwamukela isifiso sokuzenza ngcono futhi ufake umsebenzi wokuzithuthukisa kusisiza ekujabuleni nasekuthuleni kwengqondo.
