Ngifuna uyeke ukuba nenkani ? Zama le hypnosis - kuwukutshala imali okuhle kuwe.
Ukulinganisela kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo ezindaweni eziningi kangaka zempilo…
Awufuni ukuba lukhuni kakhulu, nokho awufuni ukuthamba kakhulu.
Udinga ukuzethemba emandleni akho nasolwazini lwakho, kodwa futhi udinga ukwazi ukubona lapho wenza iphutha futhi wamukele umuntu ongazi kangcono.
Izinto eziningi ezinhle azakhiwe zodwa - zingumzamo weqembu. Ubungani, ubudlelwano, amabhizinisi, noma imuphi umzamo wokubambisana owakhiwa ngampela lapho abantu behlangana futhi basebenze ndawonye.
lapho wehlukana nomuntu
Isifundo sicacile: ungavumeli inkani yakho ithikameze inqubekela phambili ezwakalayo!
Kepha, ukusebenzela ukunqanda inkani akusho ukuthi kufanele uvumele ukuhanjwa yonke indawo noma ukuhlukunyezwa. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyadingeka ukubambelela lapho wazi ukuthi uqinisile.
Ukhiye uku thola ibhalansi wazi ukuthi kufanele nini ume uqinile futhi wazi ukuthi ungazivumela nini izinto zihambe noma uvumele omunye umuntu abe nendlela yakhe.
Inhloso yokulwela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi noma yimuphi umthelela ongemuhle empilweni yakho noma enhlalakahleni yakho ubalwa nenqubo yakho yokwenza izinqumo njengengxenye yokucatshangelwa kwakho.
Kungani?
Ngoba kwesinye isikhathi uzongenwa umoya wokuyekethisa futhi usebenze ngokubambisana, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu. Nabanye abantu bazokwenza kanjalo.
Inkani ingajika ibe nobuthi ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene zempilo ngoba abantu abanenkani bavame ukungayicabangi imizwa yabantu ababazungezile. Lokhu kwenza labo bantu bazizwe sengathi imizwa noma imicabango yabo ayibalulekile.
Leyo yindlela esheshayo nephumelelayo yokuqeda ngokuphelele ukwethembana futhi usethe noma iyiphi inqubekela phambili osuyenzile.
Uyeka kanjani umuntu ukuba nenkani engaka?
Yebo, okuningi lokho kuncike ekutheni kungani unenkani.
Kungani Ngiwumuntu Onenkani?
Kukhona abanye abantu abanombono wobugovu ngokuphelele. Abamane babheke abantu ababazungezile njengabanekhono noma abakwazi ukwenza ngokwezinga abalifunayo.
Babheka isenzo noma izinqumo zomunye umuntu bese benquma ukuthi bangazenza kangcono bona ngokwabo! Bacabanga ukuthi baphelele. Ayinaphutha.
Kungani uzihlupha ngokuzama ukusebenza noma ukuqonda umbono womunye umuntu lapho engeke akulunge vele?
Lokhu kuba nenkani okweqile kungahle kukhombe izingqinamba ezithile zobuntu kumuntu, njenge-narcissism.
Kepha ... lokhu hhayi abantu abanenkani kakhulu.
Abantu abaningi abanenkani abazidli kakhulu kangangokuba abakwazi ukusebenza nhlobo nomunye umuntu.
Abaningi abanenkani ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngezikhathi ezithile lapho leyo mfanelo ethile ibangelwa kubo.
Kungaboshelwa esithombeni salowo muntu. Bangase bangashintshi izinto ngoba bezwa ukuthi yilokho abayikho. Kungenzeka badinge ukwenza izinto ngendlela ethile ngoba banomuzwa wokuthi kufanele kwenziwe kanjalo.
Abanye abantu banomuzwa wokuthi inkani ukuphela kwendlela yokuthola abakufunayo noma abakudingayo empilweni.
Bayenqaba ukusebenza nabanye ngoba babona ukuyekethisa njengobuthakathaka esikhundleni samandla okuyikho.
Lowo muntu kungenzeka ukuthi wasizakala noma wanganakwa ngeminikelo yakhe edlule, ngakho-ke baya ngokweqile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akuphindeki futhi.
Futhi-ke unabantu abanesidingo sokuzwa sengathi bayalawula. Lokho kungakhomba ezinkingeni eziningi ezahlukahlukene njenge ukungathembani , ukungazethembi, noma ukukhathazeka okuvamile.
Ukuntuleka kokulawula kungazizwa kucasula ngoba kuhlangana nenqubo yengqondo abazama ngokungazi ukuqeda ngokulawula isimo noma indawo ebazungezile.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukugxeka Ngokuphila
- Ungamisa Kanjani Ukuphinda Amaphutha Afanayo Ngokuphindaphindiwe
- Ukubhekana Nabantu Abangaze Baxolise Noma Bavume ukuthi Abalungile
Ngingakuyeka Kanjani Ukuba Umuntu Onenkani?
Thina ngempela uncoma ukuthi uzame lokhu ukuluthwa okulula okuqondisiwe njengoba kungasebenza kakhulu ekusizeni ukuguqula umqondo wakho futhi ubone izimo nabantu ngokuhlukile.
1. Gcina isinqumo komunye umuntu noma isenzo.
Abantu bavame ukweqa masinyane esiphethweni kulokho ababona ukuthi kuzoletha umphumela omuhle noma omubi. Abantu abaningi abawazi amandla enketho yesithathu - ukugcina ukwahlulela kwabo.
Esikhundleni sokufinyelela esiphethweni esihle noma esingesihle, mane uthathe imininingwane bese uyayicubungula. Lokho kuzokugcina ungagxumeli ngokushesha empendulweni engokomzwelo.
Ukuthobeka akukona ukuba phansi kunomunye umuntu. Imayelana nokubamba wonke umuntu ezingeni elilinganayo, kufaka phakathi nawe.
Ngokwenza kanjalo, unga yeka ukwenza izahlulelo ezisheshayo ngemicabango yomunye umuntu, amakhono akhe, ukukhetha kwakhe izenzo, noma ukuthi uqhubeka kanjani nokuphila impilo yakhe.
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Bangaba nezizathu ezinhle zokwenza izinqumo abazenzayo. Izizathu ongahle ungazazi. Izizathu ongazicabangeli.
2. Zikhumbuze ukuthi ungumuntu nje, nokuthi awuhlali njalo.
Ukuhlolwa kwe-ego kufanele kube yinto ethobisayo. Umuntu udinga ukukhumbula ukuthi bamqondo munye kuphela olwandle lwezigidigidi.
Kuneminye imibono nemibono eminingi kakhulu laphaya, kanye nabantu abanikele ngempilo yabo ekuqondeni izifundo ezithile.
Ngeke uhlale ulungile njalo futhi kulungile.
Akekho owake waba njalo.
Yingakho ukubambisana nempendulo yangaphandle kungasiza kakhulu empilweni yakho.
Unelungelo lombono wakho nemibono yakho, kodwa kanjalo nawo wonke umuntu.
3. Sebenzisa izinyathelo ezincane ukwakha ukwethembana nabanye abantu.
Isenzo sokusebenzisa izinyathelo ezincane ukwakha ukwethembana nabanye abantu sikunikeza ithuba lokuthi ubone ukuthi bangabantu abanjani ngaphambi kokwenza utshalomali olubalulekile.
Kukhona abanye abantu abadedela noma yiliphi inani lenkululeko noma lamandla liqonde emakhanda abo. Imvamisa kulula kakhulu ukuzibona lapho zinikezwa ithuba elanele lokukhombisa ukuthi zingobani ngempela.
Lesi isinyathelo sokuqala esihle uma uke waba nezinkinga nabantu abasebenzisa kabi ukwethenjwa kwakho esikhathini esedlule.
Akudingekile - noma ngisho nomqondo omuhle - ukuvele uvule iminyango bese uthemba umuntu ngenhliziyo yonke ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlolwa. Lokho kuzobona nje ukuthi usizakale ngabantu abanobuthi noma ababhubhisayo.
4. Vumela abantu babe nendlela yabo ezindabeni ezibaluleke kubo ezingabi zimbi kuwe.
Ukuyekethisa kuyikhono. Kwesinye isikhathi kusho ukuvumela umuntu ukuthi enze indlela yakhe entweni abona ukuthi ibalulekile.
Akudingeki ukuthi ube yisinqumo sokuqala noma umshayeli ngemuva kwazo zonke izinqumo. Futhi, kunikeza inzuzo eyengeziwe yokuvumela abanye abantu bazizwe betshaliwe kunoma yini ozama ukuyifeza.
Amandla okuyekethisa kukhuthaza ubuhlobo obuseduze nokwethembana okujulile.
Musa ukumela ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukusizakala, kodwa vumela abanye abantu babe nendlela yabo ezintweni ezithile, noma ngabe kusho ukuthi ungenzi izinto ngendlela efanele njengoba ungathanda.
ungabona kanjani uma umuntu enomona
Kuyasiza ukuthi abantu bafunde ngokwenza, futhi lokho kwenzelwa ukuyeka ukulawula nokuvumela omunye umuntu ahole.
Okubalulekile ukuthi uqale ngokubheka ukuthi isinqumo noma umsebenzi ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe. Uzokuthola kunzima ukuyeka izintambo ezintweni ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ngakho-ke vumela abanye abantu baphathe izindaba ezingasho lutho lapho ungeke uzizwe unesifiso esivuthayo sokungenelela ubenze bakwenze ngendlela yakho.
Ngemuva kwalokho, cabanga ukuthi bekuzwakala kanjani ukuvumela omunye umuntu aziphathe. Cabanga ngezinzuzo ebenazo njengokungadingi ukuchitha isikhathi sakho esiningi ucabanga noma uhlela.
Ingabe kwakukubi ngempela noma kunzima njengoba wawucabanga ukuthi kuzoba njalo?
5. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe njengoba ulwela ukwenza lezi zinguquko.
Ushintsho alwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa. Kuyinselele, kudinga isikhathi, futhi kuthatha umzamo ongaguquguquki wokuguqula ingxenye esemqoka yobuntu bakho. Inkani nayo ayihlukile.
Cishe uzokwenza amaphutha bese ushelela. Uzothatha izinqumo ezimbi futhi izinto zingahambi kahle. Uzomba izithende zakho lapho kufanele uzidedele futhi uzidedele lapho kufanele ume phansi.
Kulungile kodwa. Konke kuyingxenye yenqubo ephelele yokuzithuthukisa.
Zithethelele bese uzama futhi uma umoshile. Lapho wenza ngokwengeziwe, kuzobalula ukuthola isikhathi nokuzilolonga. Ekugcineni, inkani yakho izoguquka ibe ukuqiniseka okunempilo nokuqondene ngqo nezimo.
Ngabe lokhu ukuzindla okuqondisiwe kungakusiza yekani ukuba nenkani ? Sicabanga kanjalo.
