Ingabe ukudlala ngothando nokuzijabulisa akuyona into yakho? Ingabe uyabasaba abahlanganisi, ukuphola ngejubane, namakilabhu anomsindo ngomculo wokudansa? Ukhathele 'yisehlakalo' futhi ngokuswayipha efonini yakho kuze kube yilapho isithupha sakho siwa? Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa.
Ukungashadi kungaba nzima ngokwanele kwezinye izinsuku njengoba ubuka abangani bakho bemasha phansi, noma uskena ukuzibandakanya okungapheli nezithombe zezingane ku-Facebook. Ngeza ukungabi mnandi emphakathini ekuxubeni futhi kwanele ukukwenza ufune ukuphonsa ithawula, ulahle umhlaba, futhi ube yindela / indela.
Ngaphambi kokuba ubaleke futhi ujoyine isigodlo / isigodlo sakho sendawo, funda lokhu bese ubona ukuthi lawa macebiso amathathu angakusiza yini ukuthi unqamule umugqa wakho owodwa unomphela.
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Hlangana namaqembu: Ukuzijabulisa ngokugxila
Lapho umhlabathi onyathela phezulu weird and expats, indawo yokuhlangana isikhulile futhi yathuthuka kakhulu. Amaqembu okuhlangana avele emhlabeni wonke kuwo wonke amadolobha. Ngaphandle kokuthi uhlala ngaphansi kwedwala phakathi nendawo (kuleso simo, lokhu kungenzeka futhi kube yingxenye yenkinga yakho), ungathola kalula iqembu elifanela izintshisekelo zakho, kungaba ukubhala, ukunitha, ukugijima, ama-movie, umculo , noma amaqembu amakilabhu.
Kukhona izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuhlangana nabantu abanezintshisakalo ezifanayo. Phuma ubone okwenzekayo, futhi nje jabulela ukuba phakathi kwabantu abathanda okuthile okwenzayo.
Okokuqala, izindaba ezinhle ukuthi amaqembu ajwayele ukuba mancane, futhi abe nomongameli ozosiza izingeniso futhi anciphise ukwesaba kwabasanda kufika. Esinye isici esihle ngamaqembu wokuhlangana ukuthi amanye awo angaba yinhle kakhulu. Ubhasikidi ongaphansi kwamanzi uluka into yakho? Vampire cosplay fan? Ukuhamba ngezinyawo kututu? Cishe kukhona iqembu lalokho. Ngikholwe, wena kuthanda thola abantu bakho.
Okwesibili, njengoba begxila entshisekelweni ethile, lapho uqhamuka, awunankinga yokwephula iqhwa. Lokhu kususa ukuqagela kokuzama ukuthola indawo esivumelana ngayo, noma ukukhathazeka ngokuthula okungathandeki. Ungangena engxoxweni wazi ukuthi umuntu okhuluma naye unentshisekelo entweni efanayo oyiyona. Ukuhlangana nomuntu omusha kanjena kungakusiza ukukunika amandla emnyangweni wokuzethemba.
Okokugcina, leli yichibi labantu okungenzeka awukaze uhlangane nalo ngaphambili. Lokho kuyinto enhle. Ukuba nabangane abakumiselayo kuhle, futhi ukuya ezindaweni lapho wazi khona ukuthi wonke umuntu akanciphisi neze, kepha awusoze wahlangana nanoma ngubani uma ucasha ngabantu obajwayele nezindawo.
Ungahle ungazi noma ngubani, kepha okungenani khumbula ukuthi nonke ninesizathu esifanayo sokuba lapho. Sebenza nalokho futhi kuzokwenza izinto zibe lula. Lokhu kuthatha uhhafu wesici sokungakhululeki kumxube.
Ukudalulwa okugcwele: Ngihlangane nomlingani wami kokunye kwalokhu kuhlangana futhi bengingafuni ngisho umuntu engizophola naye ngaleso sikhathi! Ngisanda kuphuma ngiyoba nobusuku obuhle futhi kwenzeke ngengozi. Awume kahle, le kungaba yingozi yakho emnandi!
Phuma WODWA!
Ngokuphikisana nombono odumile, shisa i-wingman (noma i-wingwoman) lapho uphuma. Umsindo ophikisanayo? Akukona lapho ucabanga ngakho. Ngenkathi ukuba nomngane oseduze nawe kungabonakala kuwumqondo omuhle ngoba unenkinga emphakathini futhi bangasiza ukuhambisa ingxoxo, empeleni kungaphazamisa amathuba akho okuhlangana nomuntu.
Kungani?
Kokunye, uma uletha umngani ophumayo, onomsindo, kunethuba elihle lokuthi bangantshontsha ukuduma kwakho. Kungaba okungahlosiwe ngokuphelele ukuthi bamane nje bayabukeka, bayazixoxela, kodwa lokhu kusho ukuthi bangagcina begqame, ngenkathi wena ume ethunzini labo, ubabone bexoxa nomuntu omthandayo. Ayikho into edina njengokuhamba nomngani wakho uyohlangana nabantu, kuphela umuntu omthandayo ashiye nenombolo yocingo yalowo oshade naye, kanti wena ufika ekhaya uhlupheka ngo- $ 50, futhi ungaphethe lutho.
Okwesibili, abangane bangaba yisiphazamiso. Ulapho ukuhlangana nabantu, hlanganisa, futhi uthole usizo ngokwenza inkulumo encane. Umngani wakho ukhona ukuze aphulwe futhi aqhume umusi osukela ngosuku olubi emsebenzini. Ama-ajenda amabili ancintisanayo angahlangani neze. Lokhu kungagcina njengokuhluleka ngokuphelele endaweni yokuqomisana, lapho uchitha khona iningi lobusuku ugada umngani wakho odakiwe, futhi ungalitholi ithuba lokuxoxa nanoma ngubani.
Noma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bangahle bakuthathe bakufake eqophelweni lapho uphazanyiswa khona yinjongo bese ugcina usudakwa kakhulu ukuthi ungakhuluma nanoma ngubani ngokuhambisana. Ngaphandle kokuthi nobabili ninesizathu esifanayo, ungahle ufune ukuphuma wedwa ukuze uthole ithuba langempela lokukhanya, futhi uhlale emzileni.
Iyiphi indlela engcono yokwenza lokho uma wesaba ukuzijabulisa? Indlela enhle yokwenza lokhu ngesibindi kumcimbi usele wedwa . Yebo, kunjalo, yedwa . Ngiyazi ukuthi unamahloni, awunangqondo emphakathini, udoti lapho uxoxa nabantu, umdansi owesabekayo, futhi ukhuluma amahlaya amabi - uhlu lokuhlanza izembatho lungaqhubeka, ngiqinisekile. Akunandaba. Okubalulekile ukuphuma lapho.
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Yeqa ‘Isimo’
Uma unenkinga emphakathini, ungaphumi uye ezindaweni ozizondayo ngoba ucabanga ukuthi kulapho ukhona kufanele hamba. Kungani ungake ucabange ukuthi uzothola umfana noma intombazane oyiphupha lakho ngokuchitha isikhathi nemali endaweni oyizondayo ngokuphelele? Akunangqondo nje. Kuyisu elibi cishe wonke umuntu ongena kulo lapho ezama ukuthandana ngaphandle kwendawo akhululekile kuyo.
Bayaziphoqa ezimeni abacabanga ukuthi ziyindawo efanelekile abangaba kuyo ngoba ‘Wonke umuntu uya lapho’ ukuhlangana nabantu, kepha iqiniso ukuthi, awusiye wonke umuntu (yingakho ufunda lokhu okuthunyelwe kwebhulogi!). Uma amakhono akho okuxhumana nomphakathi eseduze kwe-nil, noma ukukhathazeka kwakho kwezenhlalo kuphakeme impela, ngokuqinisekile ngeke kukusize ngokuzibeka ezimeni lapho uhlangana khona noma ubangele ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe okudingekayo esimweni esivele sikhukhumezekile sezinzwa.
Manje, lokhu akusho ukuya enkantini yakho yangakini futhi ubone abantu abafanayo ohlale ubona - kusho ukuhamba izindawo ezihlukile, kodwa , izindawo okujabulela ukuba kuzo. Njenge-opera? Kuhle, hamba uyoyibona, bese uxubana nebha nabantu abathanda i-opera. Njengamamnyuziyamu? Iya kweyakho wedwa bese uqala ingxoxo ngomdwebo noma into oyibhekile nomuntu. Iya embukisweni wokuvula, noma inkulumo yomgcini, bese uhlala futhi uxoxe nabantu abakhona ngoba babelana ngentshisekelo efanayo.
Njengokugijima? Joyina iqembu eligijimayo, bese ubamba ingxoxo ethule esitolo sekhofi noma e-pub. Uthambekele kakhulu ekubeni nguwe, khululeka, futhi uhlangane nomuntu omthanda ngempela uma ujwayele ukuya ezindaweni Nina ufuna ukuba lapho, hhayi izindawo abangane bakho abathi 'kufanele ube' kuzo.
Khumbula: awudingi ukwenza okunye ngaphandle kokuthi Iba nguwe , futhi uma lokho kungayi kubha enomsindo noma kwi-nightclub, lokho kulungile impela. Uzoteleka uma ngabe yonke imicu yobuntu bakho ikumemeza ukuze uphume kuleyo ndawo ngokulula, ungayi kulezo zindawo.
Ukuqomisana kunzima. Kunzima ukuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka. Akunasidingo sokwandisa lezi zinto ezimbili ngokuba lapho ungafuni ukuba khona, eduze kwabantu ongazihlanganisi nhlobo nabo, noma obathandayo. Abantu bavame ukwenza lelo phutha lapho 'bephuma endaweni yabo yokunethezeka.'
Kusho ukwenza okuthile okwehlukile, ngoba ukwenza into efanayo kuveza umphumela ofanayo, kepha lokho akusho, ukwenza izinto ezihlanya ongakaze uzenze ngaphambili ukufakazela iphuzu. Lokho kuyisibindi, umcimbi wesikhathi esisodwa onempilo ende.
Inhloso lapha ukuthola ukuzijabulisa kwakho ngokwenhlalo ngokujola nesikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ukuya endaweni oyithandayo kungahle kungabi okusha, ukuhamba wedwa kancane nokuxoxa kuzoba njalo. Kuyisinyathelo sengane, kepha ngokuqinisekile kubalwa njengokuya ngaphandle kwebhokisi.
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Abantu abangakhululekile ngokwenhlalo bavame ukwenza iphutha ngokuzama ukuthatha izeluleko zokuthandana nabantu abangafani nabo. Izeluleko eziningi zokuphola ziqondiswe ezinhlotsheni ezixokozelayo nezingenayo, ngakho-ke kwenza ukuthandana nomuntu ongathandeki emphakathini kube yiphupho elibi. Iseluleko esihle kakhulu ukuthi ungasithathi leso seluleko, wenze lokho okukufanele: hlangana nenhloso, phuma ngokwakho ukuze ukhanye ngokweqiniso, futhi ube lapho wena ngithanda ukuba njalo.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungaqala kanjani ukuphola uma unenkinga emphakathini? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
