Kuhle ukuba nabantu abaseduze kwakho abazimisele ukwabelana ngolwazi lwabo nezeluleko ngempilo lapho uyidinga, kepha hhayi kakhulu uma ivela endaweni yokuzikhukhumeza.
I-know-it-alls ngokoqobo bacabanga ukuthi bayakwazi konke, okukhonjiswa ngokujwayelekile ngezindlela zokubukisa ezibonisa ukubukeka ngakunye, nezinengekayo.
Ngenkathi singeke silawule ngokuphelele abanye abantu, futhi akudingeki sibadedele beqe imingcele futhi basenze sihlanye.
Lapho labo abazi-all-obnoxious beqala ukukhulisa amakhanda abo aphethe, thina can avale.
Nansi indlela.
1. Babonge Ngeseluleko Sabo
Ngisho noma igazi lakho liyabila futhi ukuthambekela kwakho kungukushesha ukwazi konke okukhulunywa ngakho, ngokuvamile kungcono ukungabaniki ukusabela okungokomzwelo abasebenza nakho.
Njengoba kungaba kubhebhethekisa okwamanje, ukumane ubabonge ngezeluleko zabo kuyindlela ehloniphekile yokuqeda ingxoxo ngaphandle kokuzidumela wena.
Cishe awufuni ukubanika noma isiphi isikweletu ngokungena empilweni yakho, kodwa ukubabonga ukuze uqhubeke akusho ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi iseluleko sabo besifanele.
kungani impilo yami inzima uma uyiqhathanisa nezinye
Kufana nokuthi 'ngiyabonga ngesikhathi sakho, kufanele ngidlulele etafuleni lezikhalazo manje.'
Uma ubashaya ngokubonga bese uhamba, abakwazi ngempela khononda.
2. Sebenzisa Icebo Lokuthi “Yebo, Kodwa”
Iningi le-know-it-alls ngama-narcissists alula futhi alula, noma ngabe lokho kuvela endaweni yokungazethembi okujulile noma cha.
Esikhundleni sokuphikisana nabo ngokuqondile, yamukela iqhinga elithi 'yebo, kodwa', elingeke libasuse ngokuphelele, futhi likuvumele ukuthi nawe uzwe owakho umbono.
“Ngiyakubona okushoyo ngemikhakha yezobuciko, kodwa nakhu ngibona ...” yisibonelo esisodwa.
I-know-it-alls ayithandi ukuba ngabalaleli abahle, kepha bona uqobo bafuna ukuzizwa bezwakala, ngakho-ke noma iyiphi indlela ongayisebenzisa ngayo leyo vibe ngaphandle kokuyigxeka ngqo isebenza kangcono kakhulu.
3. Phendula Ngezindlela Ezingeyona Izingozi
Kungaba yisilingo sokuphendula kokwazi konke ngokubatshela ukuthi banephutha, kepha lokho kungabakhuthaza nje ukuthi baphikisane nephuzu labo. (Ngisho noma bengenalo nhlobo ulwazi lokuthi bakhuluma ngani.)
Ukuze uphendule ngaphandle kokubakhuthaza, yisho amaqiniso afana nokuthi 'Awu, nakhu engikuzwile ngalokho…'
Ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okungenani kuzosiza ukubanciphisa kancane, ngoba abakwazi ukuphika ngokuqondile lokho okuzwile noma okucabangayo noma ngabe bengavumelani nakho.
4. Vuma Ukungavumelani
Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele usonge ingxoxo ngaphandle kokuthola indawo yangempela, futhi kulezo zimo kungcono uvele uvume ukungavumelani.
'Ngicabanga ukuthi sinemibono eyehlukene mayelana nokuthi ngabe ikhona iminyaka efanele yokuba nezingane, u-anti Sally!'
Kugcine kukhanya, futhi kugcine kuhamba.
I-know-it-alls ingacasula ngendlela eyisimanga, kepha lokho kunesizathu esithe xaxa sokungazibandakanyi emicabangweni yabo eseceleni futhi enenkani.
Ukuxhumana kwangempela kungahle kube ngaphandle kwesilinganiso sabo samanje, ngakho-ke gcina amandla akho ngesimo esithile lapho ungazuza khona ngokuyisebenzisa.
uzithokozisa kanjani futhi
Okuthunyelwe okuhlobene (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Lapho Othile Edonsa I-Trigger Yakho: Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukuzivikela
- Izimpawu Ezi-8 Uxabana Ne-Psychopath
- Izindlela Ezi-6 Zokuzibulala Akufanele Uphendule Ekugxekweni
5. Yethula Eminye Imicabango
Esikhundleni sokunikela ngombono wokuthi 'mina ngiqhathanisa nawe', ungabenza futhi bacabangele ukuthi kanjani okunye abantu bangahle bacabange ngesihloko esiseduze.
Hamba nokuthile okufana nokuthi “Hmm, ngamunye wethu unemibono ehluke kakhulu mayelana nendlela engcono yokwehlisa isisindo Ngiyazibuza ukuthi abanye abantu abanjengochwepheshe bezokudla okunomsoco bazizwa kanjani ngokuthi ushukela wezithelo ukukwenza ukhuluphale.”
Le ndlela ingahle ibenele ukubakhumbuza ukuthi abekho enkabeni ephelele yendawo yonke, futhi eminye imibono ingahle ibe khona… okungenani okwamanje.
6. Qala Ukubabuza Imibuzo Kunalokho
Uma usesimweni lapho ukwazi konke kuza kuwe ngamaqiniso (ayiqiniso noma amanga), ungawanciphisa ngokubabuza imibuzo yokulandelela.
Ungabeki imibuzo efana nokuthi uphonsela inselelo ulwazi olubanzi ngomzamo wokubabeka phansi, kodwa bacele ngokujulile ukuthi bakuchazele uma ungakuqondi okuthile abakushoyo.
'Ungachaza kabanzi ukuthi ufunde kuphi kakhulu ngokunitha, bengingazi ukuthi empeleni ungumthungi ...'
Uma imibuzo yakho icacisiwe futhi inemininingwane ethe xaxa, maningi amathuba okuthi babone ukuthi mhlawumbe abanawo wonke amaqiniso abo ahlelwe kahle.
7. Hola Ngesibonelo
Kwesinye isikhathi wena ngempela kufanele uhlanganyele nokwazi konke, njengalapho usebenza naye futhi usebenza eqenjini elilodwa.
Kulezo zimo, kwesinye isikhathi kufanele ugwinye ukuziqhenya kwakho futhi uhole ngesibonelo ethembeni abalitholayo.
Ukuvuma ukuthi awunazo zonke izimpendulo kungabakhombisa ukuthi kulungile ukungazi konke, kepha noma kunjalo zethemba futhi uphumelele kulokho okwenzayo.
Lokhu akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuguqule ukuziphatha kwabo ngobusuku obubodwa, kodwa othile kufanele atshale lezo zinhlamvu uma ziyohluma.
Izinto ezimnandi okufanele uzenze lapho unesithukuthezi
8. Gcina Umuzwa Wamahlaya
Noma nini lapho ukwazi khona, gcina amahlaya akho ngenkathi usebenza nokwazi konke kuzokhipha ingcindezi enkulu kuwo wonke umuntu.
Uma besho okuthile okuthukuthelisa ngokuphelele, ungahlala uhleke ubuze balo bese uqhubeka.
Noma bephendula ngokwedelela, ungavele ubaphonse okuthi 'ngiyitholile' noma 'kulungile' bese uqhubeka nokujabulela uhlangothi lwakho lwengxoxo.
Zikhumbuze ukuthi ayinabungozi ngokuphelele nokuthi ukucasula kokuziphatha kwabo akuhloselwe ukukuhlanyisa wena uqobo.
9. Dedela
Indlela engcono yokuqinisekisa ukuthi i-know-it-all ayikuhlanyi ukuthola indlela yokuyiyeka nje.
Lokhu kungadinga ukuthi usebenzise i-monologue yakho yangaphakathi ukuzithobisa futhi ubuyise isikhungo sakho, kepha imvamisa kuyindlela enhle yokuzivikela ekucasukeni okwamanje.
Uma ukwazi konke kungakwazi ukukhuphuka kuwe, bangahle babe nesithukuthezi bese bedlulela kumuntu ozobanikeza isinongo esithe xaxa engxoxweni.
Hlala uzolile kungakhathalekile ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaphakathi, hamba uma kufanele, bese uvumela ingxoxo ihambe.
