Ukwakha ibhalansi phakathi kwezenzo zobugovu nezinto esizenzela abanye kubalulekile. Impilo yethu nenhlalakahle yethu kuncike emandleni ethu okuzinakekela. Kodwa-ke, njengabantu bezenhlalo, iqhaza lethu emphakathini nalo lisekela umthethosisekelo wethu kuze kube sezingeni elingako, kungaphikiswa ukuthi yizenzo zethu ezisekela inhlalakahle yethu.
Ngakho-ke kusho ukuthini ukuba yi-egocentric noma i-allocentric, futhi sikudala kanjani ukuzwana phakathi kwalezi zici ezimbili eziphikisanayo? Ukuze ubuke lokhu ngokuningiliziwe, sidinga amakhukhi aphekwe ekhaya!
Ukuziphatha kwe-egocentric imayelana nokudlala indima yokuhola empilweni yakho. Kudinga isibindi futhi ukwethembeka uku zithande . Ukwamukela amaphutha akho nokwazi iphupho lakho wuhambo lwempilo yakho yonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo sethu njengezidalwa zenhlalo senza ukwehlukanisa u-'Ime 'kunqubo ethi' Thina 'inqubo edidayo futhi edonswayo. Ezweni elisheshayo, imithombo yezindaba egcwele, ukungazinaki izingcingo zokuncintisana 'nebheji lokugcina' akulula.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uthola indlela eya 'kimi' weqiniso, usadinga ukusebenza ngaphakathi kwesiko lethu lomphakathi. Ukuziphatha okugxile kakhulu kuholela ezenzweni zobugovu. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kokuzicabangela kungakunqamula kumphakathi wakho. Kodwa-ke, ukuba yi-egocentric akuyona eyokuhlala uthatha ikhukhi lokugcina, kumayelana nokwazi ukuthi uyayifuna.
Ukuziphatha kwe-Allocentric kubukeka ngaphandle ukunaka kwakho nezenzo zakho kwabanye. Isibonelo: idrayivu yokubhaka amakhukhi ukuze kujatshuliswe omunye. Izici ze-allocentric zikusiza ukuthi ubone umuntu ngamunye njengenkanyezi empilweni yakhe, ngaleyo ndlela zikushiye nendima yokusekela. Imayelana nokubeka izidingo zabo kuqala.
Uhlu ‘lwabanye’ lungaba ngumndeni ongapheli, abangane, nomakhelwane kuze kufike emphakathini obanzi womhlaba. Imizamo efana 'namanzi e-Afrika' noma 'ukusindisa iplanethi' isivumela ukuthi sixhumane ngaphesheya kwemiphakathi yethu yezwe futhi sizizwe sinesibopho sezimbangela ezikude kakhulu.
Lapho senza izenzo ze-allocentric, amandla angancipha ngokushesha ngaphandle kwethu, futhi kungabi ukuthi atshaleke ekuqondiseni lapho sikhetha khona. Futhi nokho izenzo zethu zivame ukwamukelwa ngokwenhlalo. Ngakho-ke ibhalansi ilala kuphi?
Enye yezinkinga ekuzameni ukudala ukuzwana phakathi kwalezi zinhlangothi zombili indlela eyodwa ngayinye eyinkimbinkimbi ngayo. Ukwenzela abanye izinto kusenza sizizwe sibahle, ngokwesibonelo ukuthola ukuqashelwa ngalokho kusenza sizizwe singcono kakhulu.
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Ngakho-ke, buyela kumakhukhi… uma ubhaka ithileyi eligcwele amakhukhi bese uwadla wonke, uzizwa unecala (futhi mhlawumbe uyagula futhi!) Kodwa-ke, ukubhaka nokunikeza amakhukhi kude kukwenza uzizwe kamnandi. Abantu bayawazisa amakhukhi akho enziwe ekhaya. Abanye abaze bazenzele okwabo, ngakho-ke thanda ngempela lapho ubenza. Abanye balangazelela ukuvakashelwa okuza nokulethwa kwekhukhi. Abanye bayakujabulela ukuthi kuyakujabulisa ukwenza amakhukhi. Ngenkathi abanye bema ngemuva kokudla okumnandi.
Uyayithanda indlela ekwenza uzizwe ubona zonke lezi zinto zokudla ezijabulisayo zamakhukhi, ngakho-ke uqhubeka ubhaka. Singabantu bezenhlalakahle abanakekela abanye abasicebisa nge umqondo wenhloso nenhlalakahle. I-biology yokuziphendukela kwemvelo isikhomba kulolo hlangothi. Isisho esithi ‘ayikho into efana nokuzidela’ sikhombisa ukuthi kuhlale kunomvuzo wokuzidela.
Umbuso wezilwane unikeza izibonelo eziningi zokuziphatha ngokuzidela. Lapho isimo senhlalo siyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe, ukuzidela okuvamile kuvame ukuba phakathi kwesiko laso. Izinkawu zakwaVervet zizobeka impilo yazo engcupheni yokuphakamisa inhlabamkhosi lapho kukhona umhlaseli. Izintuthwane, izinyosi namanye amakoloni ezinambuzane zomphakathi asebenza njengeqembu futhi anikela ngempilo yawo endlovukazi yawo. Umbono kaDarwinian uphakamisa ukuthi ukukhetha kwemvelo kuvame ukuvumela labo abathanda abanye.
Ngakho-ke, buyela esibonelweni sokwenza amakhukhi… umndeni nabangane bathanda umenzi wamakhukhi akhokha izincomo ezinhle mayelana namakhukhi, kodwa futhi babheka inhlalakahle yakho. Ukuxhumana nomphakathi kuyenzeka okukuqinisekisa - umenzi wamakhukhi - unendawo emphakathini. Kukhokhela ukuba ngumenzi wamakhukhi. Empilweni yangempela, lokhu kungaphezu kwesenzo esihle esisodwa.
Lapho-ke kuzovela ubukhulu obungaphezu kokukodwa kokuziphatha kwe-allocentric:
- Isenzo semvelo somusa ngaphandle kokucabanga.
- Isenzo sokuthakazelisa abanye esiholela kumzwelo wokuthi 'uzizwe kamnandi'.
- Ukuziphatha okunomthelela omuhle emvelweni noma emphakathini.
Lokhu kuphakamisa umbuzo: kulo mhlaba womhlaba wonke esihlala kuwo, ‘umphakathi’ udlulela kude kangakanani? Ingabe ikhona imingcele yemithwalo yemfanelo ye-allocentric engaba khona? Ulwazi oluyimfihlo luyaziwa ngomndeni wethu nabangane ezingeni elingakaze libonwe izizukulwane ezedlule. Ngokwandayo, sihlala amabanga amade ngaphandle kwabathandekayo, kepha manje sesiyakwazi ukuthi yini omunye nomunye ayidlayo kusuka engxenyeni eyodwa yomhlaba ngoba inamathiselwe ngekhompyutha kumadivayisi ethu amaningi. Ngabe lokhu kukhulisa umuzwa wethu wokuzibophezela emphakathini wethu womhlaba?
Izindaba ngezinhlekelele zemvelo nezinhlekelele ezenziwe umuntu amamayela ukusuka lapho sihlala khona zihlala zigqunywa egumbini lethu lokuphumula. Ingabe lezi zindaba zikhulisa uzwela lwethu ngokuhlupheka kwabantu esikanye nabo? Inkinga, yiqiniso, ukuthi izinsiza zilinganiselwe. Uyawakhumbula lawo makhukhi? Ngemuva kokubhaka usuku lonke, uhlala phansi ukhathele, ulungele ukwelashwa, kodwa awunawo amakhukhi asele. Ubanike bonke wasala umuzwa othathwe kalula .
Ibhalansi phakathi kokuziphatha kwe-egocentric ne-allocentric itholakala ngokulinganisa izenzo zakho ngokuya ngezimo zakho nezinto ozithandayo. Kufanele uzinakekele wena uqobo ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi unamandla namandla okubheka abanye . Ukunakekela abanye kuzokunikeza impendulo yomphakathi (imizwa emihle yenjabulo, ukuncipha kwemizwa engemihle enjengokuzizwa unecala) ethuthukisa ukuzethemba kanye nenjabulo yangaphakathi.
Ekugcineni, sikhunjulwa ngalokho esikwenzela abanye lezi yizinto ‘ezenza umehluko’. Khumbula, uma ungadli ikhukhi njalo, ungahle ulahlekelwe yisimo sokubhekela abanye!
