Ubudlelwano obunobuthi abukhawulelwanga kuphela kusizinda sezothando. Kungenzeka ube nobudlelwano obunobuthi nabangane, amalungu omndeni, futhi kwesinye isikhathi nabantu oxhumeke kubo kancane.
'Okunobuthi' kusetshenziswa njengegama lokubamba konke ukuchaza ubudlelwano obuningi bokungasebenzi kanye / noma bokuhlukumeza.
Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwano obunobuthi abunampilo futhi buyingozi ngandlela thile kubahlanganyeli.
Ukuziqhelelanisa nalabo buhlobo obunobuthi kubalulekile ekwakheni impilo enempilo, nenelisayo. Awukwazi nje ukupholisa noma imaphi amanxeba owaphethe futhi ukhule njengomuntu ngaphandle kokuphuma kulabo buhlobo obunobuthi obukulimazayo.
Ukwenza kanjani lokho?
1. Funa usizo kuchwepheshe oqinisekisiwe wezempilo yengqondo.
Ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kungaba nzima, ikakhulukazi uma kuhlukumeza.
Ake sithi uzozama ukuqeda ubudlelwano obunobuthi noma bokuhlukumeza. Uma kunjalo, kufanele ukhulume nomeluleki oqinisekisiwe wezempilo yengqondo kuqala ukusiza ukuhlela ukuphuma kwakho.
Udlame lwasekhaya luvamile lapho umuntu ezama ukubalekela ubudlelwano obunobuthi nokuhlukumeza. Ukuze uphephe, kungcono ukuthola ukuqonda kochwepheshe ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini.
Ukuphepha akusona ukuphela kwesizathu sokufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Kunezizathu zokuthi ubambe iqhaza ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi futhi uthathe isinqumo sokuhlala kubo isikhathi eside njengoba wenza. Lezo zizathu zivame ukugxila ezintweni ezibuhlungu njengomlando ohlukumezayo noma ukungazethembi.
Lezi akuzona izinkinga ukuthi noma ubani angavele aqumbe iminwe yakhe futhi azilungise. Udinga ngempela ukuthola umsuka wokuthi kungani ubunobudlelwano obunobuthi kwasekuqaleni ukuze ukwazi ukulungisa noma yini imbangela.
Kungenzeka kungabi yinto esobala futhi. Cabanga ngokuthandana. Uhlangana nomuntu, uyishayile, muhle! Futhi zinhle isikhathi eside!
Kepha kancane kancane, bayayeka ukuba bakhulu kangaka. Baqala ukukhahlela, ukwahlulela, nokuzama ukukulawula. Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzama ukugcina ikhanda lakho lingaphezu kokungasebenzi kahle nobuthi.
Kungenzeka uthathe isinqumo sokunika lowo muntu ithuba lokungabaza ezintweni eziningi kangangokuba uzibeka nje izaba kuwe mayelana nendlela akuphatha ngayo. Akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo. Kungenzeka kunoma ngubani.
Uchwepheshe angakusiza ekuboneni lezi zinto nokuningi ngenkathi futhi ekuholela ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi.
2. Hlela futhi uveze imizwa yakho mayelana nokuziphatha okunobuthi.
Ukukhuluma ngokuziphatha okunobuthi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza kwaziwe ukuthi unenkinga yokuthi umuntu uziphatha kanjani.
Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, kufanele ukwazi ukuletha ukukhathazeka kwakho futhi uhlonishwe ngomunye umuntu. Indlela omunye umuntu aphendula ngayo emizweni yakho izokutshela okuningi mayelana nokuthi ngabe ubudlelwano buyakwazi yini ukusindiswa.
Uma benqaba ukukuzwa noma uphendula ngentukuthelo noma ngokusongela, khona-ke kuyisibonakaliso esihle sokuthi ubudlelwano ngeke busindiswe.
Uzophinda ufune ukuqaphela ukususwa kwecala. Esikhundleni sokwamukela umthwalo wezenzo zabo, bazozama ukukubeka kuwe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungakwazi ukuzama futhi nomuntu uma emukela ukuthi kunenkinga, futhi uzimisele ukufaka umsebenzi ukuyilungisa.
Ngokunokwenzeka, bazodinga usizo lwangaphandle oluvela kumeluleki ngoba abantu abaningi ngeke bakwazi ukulungisa lolo hlobo lokuziphatha bebodwa.
3. Sika ukuxhumana nomuntu.
Ngokuthatha kwakho unquma ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuqeda ubudlelwano obunobuthi, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukusika noma ukukhawulela ukuxhumana nomuntu.
Ukuxhumana okuningi onakho, kuzothatha isikhathi eside ukuthi welaphe ebudlelwaneni bese uqhubekela phambili.
Ukunqamula ngokuphelele ukuxhumana akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungaba nezingane, uxhumeke ngomndeni, noma ube nemithwalo yemfanelo ngokuhlanganyela edinga ukuthi uxhumane nabo.
Uma kunjalo, ungasebenzisa Indlela yeGrey Rock . Ngamafuphi, yigcine ingcweti, emfushane, futhi kuze kube seqophelweni. Ungazivumeli udonseke ezingxoxweni noma ubungaze noma yini ethi 'kuthiwani' evela komunye umuntu.
Uma kuwubudlelwano bothando, ungadlali ngothando noma uhlanganyele nabo ezocansi. Hlalani ibanga phakathi kwenu ukuze nobabili nibe nesikhathi esifanele sokululama.
4. Zinike isikhathi nemvume yokwelashwa.
Ungagxumeli uqonde kobunye ubuhlobo usuka kobo obuyingozi
Abanye abantu banomkhuba omubi wokweqa besuka ebudlelwaneni baye ebuhlotsheni ngoba besaba ukuba bodwa noma bazizwe bengaphelele uma bengekho.
Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lungaba yisizathu sokuthi ungene futhi ubekezelele ubudlelwano obunobuthi kwasekuqaleni.
Ngemuva kokuthi noma yibuphi ubudlelwano buphelile, uzodinga isikhathi sokuzivumela ululame. Abantu abaningi abazithola sebenobudlelwano obunobuthi futhi bazizwa sengathi balahlekelwa ukuxhumana nokuthi bangobani noma yini okubalulekile kubo. Thatha isikhathi sokuzihlanganisa kabusha nokuthi ungubani, ukuthi yini oyithandayo, nokuthi yini ekulethela injabulo.
Futhi yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuthatha izinto zokuzilibazisa ezindala noma ezinye izici zakho okungenzeka ukuthi uyaziziba ngenxa yobudlelwano obunobuthi.
5. Ungahlali ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni kuvula umnyango wokubuyela emuva. Lapho uhlala ugxile kukho, amathuba amaningi lapho unikeza ubuchopho bakho ukukhumbula zonke izinto ezinhle ngomunye umuntu bese unganaki okubi.
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Ubuchopho bethu bunomkhuba omubi wokwenza lokho. Sifuna ukukhumbula izinto ezinhle ezisisondeze kumuntu, kepha ngasikhathi sinye, sibunciphisa ububi babo.
Ungazivumeli uhlale ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi, ukuthi izinto zazinjani, noma ukuthi kwakufanele zibe kanjani. Okubalulekile manje ukuthi wenze ukhetho lokuziqhelelanisa futhi welaphe. Gxila kulokho.
Uma udinga, finyelela kubangani, umndeni, noma ukusekelwa lapho uthola isinqumo sakho sintengantenga.
Ungakwazi futhi ukubhekana naleyo mizwa ngokushicilela noma ngokubhala. Abaningi bathola ukubhalela umuntu incwadi bese beyichitha kube yindlela yokwelapha ukucubungula imizwa yabo.
6. Buyisela ubudlelwano obuyingozi nobuhle.
Uma usuthole isikhathi esithile sokukhula nokupholisa amanxeba akho, ungagxila ekuqedeni isipiliyoni sakho sobuntu ngobudlelwano obuhle ngokwengeziwe.
Ungahle uthande ukwenza imisebenzi ethile yokuzijabulisa noma uthole izinto zokuzilibazisa ezintsha ezizokusiza ukuthi uhlangane nabantu abahle futhi ukhulise imibuthano yakho.
Isikhathi esincane esilahlekelayo ebuchosheni obunobuthi bokukhipha imizwa nengqondo, kunesikhathi esiningi sokuba ngokwakho nobudlelwano obuhle.
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