Umqondo wobumfihlo kokuxhunyanisiwe kwethu - noma kufanele lokho 'kuxhumane ngokweqile' - umhlaba ungabonakala ngathi uphelelwe yisikhathi.
Ukukhula kwethu ngamasiko okhulayo ngokubonisa zonke izici zempilo yethu kusuka entathakusa kuze kube kusihlwa nangaphezulu kwezinkundla ezahlukahlukene zezinkundla zokuxhumana ngokusobala kuyimpikiswano yobumfihlo.
Kepha, ngakho konke lokho, baningi abangakhetha ukuzichaza njengabantu ‘abazimele’.
Ngakho-ke, kusho ukuthini lokho ngqo?
Umuntu oyimfihlo, njengoba ubungalindela, uncamela ukugcina izinto ziphansi futhi akutholi kulula ukuvulela abanye abantu.
Iningi labantu okunobumfihlo okuyisethingi yokuzenzakalelayo linokuthambekela kokungeniswa abangaze bachazwe njengezimvemvane zomphakathi futhi ngokuvamile akuniki okuningi ngobukhona babo bosuku nosuku.
Ukusakaza ukujikajika kwezimpilo zabo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana akukhona okwabo. Inhloso enkulu yomuntu ozimele ukuhlala ngaphansi kwe-radar, wazi kahle ukuthi, uma usungene emzileni wezenhlalo, kungaba nzima ukubuyela emuva empilweni engaziwa kahle lapho bajabule khona kakhulu.
Abantu abazimele bangaqondwa kahle.
Kuze kube manje, kuhle kakhulu, kumuntu okhetha ukugcina impilo yakhe yangasese eyimfihlo.
Iqiniso elingelona elokuthi abanye abantu abaphuma kakhulu - yebo, labo abazibheka 'njengabajwayelekile' - bangaba nenkinga ngalolo khetho.
Ukuziphatha okuyimfihlo, okubonakala kungeyona eyemvelo kwabanye, kungadala ukungezwani, bese kuphutha ukuzikhukhumeza noma ngisho nokuzonda.
Ukungafuni ukuchitha ubhontshisi ngendaba yempilo yakho, noma ukwenqaba ukuzibandakanya nomphakathi nomakhelwane kungaholela ekucabangeni kokuthi kukhona okufihliwe, okugcina kusolisa izinsolo nokungathembani.
Lokhu kube ngumthungo ocebile wababhali bezinganekwane phansi emashumini eminyaka uBoo Radley eHarper Lee's Ukubulala i-Mockingbird yisimo esidala, uma simbi ngokweqile.
Ngakho-ke, akulula ukuba ngumuntu ozimele lapho inkambiso yamasiko iphikisana ne-diametric.
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Ngabe umuntu wangasese unokuthile akufihlayo?
Yebo, noma lokhu kungaba ukucabanga okubanzi, akuvamile ukuthi kube njalo.
Umuntu okhetha ukugcina impilo yakhe yangasese eyimfihlo angahle abukeke enganaki futhi engenanhlonipho kwabanye, kepha izizathu zokukhetha kwabo ukuhlala ngaphansi kwe-radar mancane amathuba okuthi babe ngoba bezama ukufihla okuthile.
Kungenzeka babe nezinkinga ngokuthembana, imvamisa ngenxa yokwehliswa noma ukukhashelwa esikhathini esedlule bayikho izizungu zemvelo babheka ikhaya labo njengendawo engcwele enokuthula futhi banomuzwa wokuthi banelungelo lokujabulela ukuphila kwabo okuthula.
Futhi akukho lutho olungalungile nganoma yisiphi salezo zizathu.
Kepha, unalawo maphuzu engqondweni, mhlawumbe kungenzeka ukusho ukuthi abantu abazimele banokuthile abakufihlayo ngemuva kwakho konke: kwabo ubuntu .
Futhi lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukuthula kwabo kwangaphakathi kungcwele futhi babonile ukuthi bambalwa kuphela abantu abakufanele ukwethenjwa. Ubuyena babo beqiniso buhlala bufihlwe ngokucophelela kubo bonke ngaphandle kwalabo bantu abambalwa abayigugu abathembekile.
Abantu abazimele bashintshe umhlaba.
Ngokuthakazelisayo, abanye babacabangi abakhulu emhlabeni, abenze amagalelo amakhulu empilweni yabantu, babengabantu abazimele kakhulu.
U-Albert Einstein uyisibonelo salokhu, ocashunwa ethi: “Ukuba wedwa nokuba nesikhathi sokuthula kuthuthukisa ingqondo yokudala.”
Ngokunjalo nobungcweti be-physics, uSir Isaac Newton, wayedume ngokuvikela kakhulu ubumfihlo bakhe, naphezu kokuba ngomunye wososayensi ababedume kunabo bonke. Ukwehlukanisa nokugqama kwamnika isikhala nesikhathi ayesidinga ukugxila ocwaningweni lwakhe.
Ngemuva kwalokho, kunzima ukukhiqiza uma uzungezwe umsindo ongapheli odalwa ngabantu abenza ibhizinisi labo.
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Ukuvala isiphithiphithi, nokuba nesikhathi sokucabanga nokucabanga kungaphazamiseki, mhlawumbe yikhona okusize ongqondongqondo abajulile bomhlaba ukuthi bashintshe umhlaba.
Mhlawumbe lokhu kunikeza abantu abazimele onqenqemeni?
Izici eziyi-8 Zabantu Abangasese
Ngakho-ke, uma ungumuntu ozibheka njengeyimfihlo, unaziphi izici?
1. Uyakugwema ukugqama.
Wona kanye umqondo wokugxilwa kukho uyisiqalekiso kothile onobuntu obuyimfihlo.
Lokhu kungahle kube okuphambene nenkambiso yanamuhla, lapho wonke umuntu eshaya impumelelo yakhe ngokuzwakalayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana futhi abelana ngezinto ezincane zobukhona babo nezwe, efuna ukunakwa nokuvunywa njengendlela yokuziqinisekisa.
Kepha, uma ungumuntu oyimfihlo, akunzima ukubhukuda ubhekane nolwandle olugcwele, ngenhloso yokunciphisa ubuntu bakho obusobala. Lokhu kungukuziphatha okungokwemvelo okwanele kothile obekiwe futhi okhetha ukuphila okuqondayo.
Lapho abanye bechuma khona ngokunconywa ngozakwabo, bethola ‘ama-attaboys’ ngokuziqhenya okukhulu naphakathi kokuthokoza kokubabaza, umuntu ozimele uyancipha kulokho kudunyiswa komphakathi.
Kuwe kwanele ukwazi ukuthi wenze kahle futhi imizamo yakho ibonakele, ngaphandle kokuzwa isidingo sokumemeza ngempumelelo yakho uphahla noma ukuthola ukwamukelwa okukhulu.
2. Uyacabanga ngaphambi kokukhuluma.
Abanye bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi ukuphela kwendlela yokuba 'nobukhona' ezweni elinokuncintisana, nokuqinisekisa ukuba khona kwabo, ukwaba yonke imicabango evukayo, ukuthululela isifufula solwazi ngabo, noma ngabe lufanele noma cha, ukuze nje uzwakale.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu oyimfihlo onjengawe, ukala amagama abo ngokucophelela futhi anganiki lutho ngaphandle kwemininingwane eyisisekelo.
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ukwethenjwa sekusunguliwe lapho uzodalula khona okuningi ngempilo yakho yangasese, bese kuba kuphela abambalwa abayigugu.
3. Uhlakulela umuntu oyisidina.
Usebenze ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuvala intshisekelo yabantu ezintweni zakho zangasese, ngakho-ke ezizimele, wukuveza isithombe sakho esingesihle kangako sokuthi bamane bakukhathalele ukufa.
Uma imibuzo yabo yokungenela ngempilo yakho iyonke, futhi ikakhulukazi ngemininingwane ethile, ihlangatshezwa nezimpendulo ze-monosyllabic noma eziyindida, bazosheshe bayeke ukubuza ngoba awusifanele nje isikhathi sabo.
Leli qhinga elifanayo lisetshenziswa kakhulu ngosaziwayo abakwazisa ubumfihlo babo: imizuliswano embalwa yokuthi 'akukho ukuphawula' noma 'Angazi' ivala ukubuza imibuzo phansi ngesikhathi esisheshayo esiphindwe kabili.
Ngenkathi impilo yakho ingahle ibe isicefe, iqiniso ukuthi uma umndeni wakho nabangane bengalutholi ulwazi abalufunayo, ngokushesha bayayeka ukubuza imibuzo futhi bakushiye uqhubeke nobukhona bakho obuyimfihlo obuthandayo.
4. Wethembele kubantu abambalwa kuphela.
Akekho owesilisa (noma owesifazane) oyisiqhingi, njengoba kusho isisho esidala, futhi nomuntu oyimfihlo kakhulu uvame ukuba nenani elincane kakhulu labantu abathembekile abathembele kubo ngokuphelele.
Lokhu kwethembana akuzi kalula, ngoba kuvame ukwenzeka ngamacala okukhaphela okwedlule okukuholele ekutheni uvikele imininingwane eyimfihlo ngempilo yakho uqobo.
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5. Uyakugwema ukuphendula imibuzo ebuzwayo.
Eqinisweni, lokhu ukuguqule kwaba ubuciko. Ngakho-ke unekhono lokuphambukisa imibuzo engathandeki, ukuthi umuntu okhuluma naye angakuboni nokuthi wehlulekile ukuphendula umbuzo wakhe ngendlela egculisayo.
Uyazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ukuthi ukwembula okuningi ngempilo yakho kuvame ukuphela ngabantu abagxeka izinqumo zakho.
Okubi kakhulu, noma ngabe ucele ngqo imininingwane ethile ukuthi igcinwe iyimfihlo, uyazi ukuthi kunethuba elihle lokuthi lo muntu abelane ngemfihlo yakho nabanye.
Ufundile ukuthi kungcono ukugcina iseluleko sakho ukuze ugweme ukuphoxeka noma ukudumazeka abantu abangathembekile .
6. Izimfihlo zabantu ziphephile nawe.
Awusiyena nje kuphela uchwepheshe wokugcina izimfihlo zakho zangaphakathi zivikelekile, kepha futhi usebenzisa leli khono elihlonishwe kahle ukugcina imininingwane eyilungelo labanye mayelana nokusongwa.
Lokhu kukwenza ube ngumngani othembekile futhi othenjiwe ngoba awusoze wakhaphela ukwethenjwa kothile noma uqale ukuhleba ngabo ngemuva kwabo.
Uhlonipha ubumfihlo babanye abantu futhi ngokubuye ulindele ukuthi baphathe okwakho ngokucatshangelwa okufanayo.
7. Imingcele yakho iqinile.
Kunezinto ezimbalwa ezikwenza uzizwe usengozini kakhulu kunokuthi ube nabantu ababonela empilweni yakho.
Lapho uzizwa uhlaselwa ngale ndlela, uzokwenza konke okusemandleni ukuvikela imingcele yakho yangasese.
Abantu be-Nosy nemibuzo engenayo ingahle ingabekezeleleki kuwe, kodwa ngophawu olufanayo, awusoze wazama ukungena ebhizinisini labanye abantu. Wena, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uyaliqonda ilungelo labanye abantu lokugcina ubumfihlo babo.
Unezinto ezithile zempilo yakho ongahle uthande ukuzabelana nabanye kepha konke okuningi othanda ukukugcina kuyimfihlo.
Ngokubeka imingcele yakho ngale ndlela, ngeke uzithole ukhohliswe ukuthi unikeze ngephutha imininingwane eminingi ngawe kunokuba ubuhlelile ekuqaleni, kungaba kumngani, ilunga lomndeni, osebenza naye, noma omunye umuntu ohlangana naye .
Nguwe olawula izihloko okhululekile ukukhuluma ngazo futhi ungumpetha wokukhetha ngokucophelela amagama owasebenzisayo nokuthi ukhuluma nobani.
8. Uyazixhuma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi awusebenzisi nhlobo imithombo yezokuxhumana, kodwa ngeke unqotshwe ubhadane olweqisayo.
Ukubuyekezwa kwesimo somuntu siqu njalo nokuthumela ama-selfies abonisa impilo yakho yonke ku-Insta, Twitter, noma ku-Facebook akuyona eyakho.
Noma yikuphi ukubakhona okuku-inthanethi onakho kungenzeka ukuthi kukhethwe ngokucophelela, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi kuveza ubuncane ngempilo yakho yangasese.
Uma ubungcweti bakho budinga ukusebenzisana online - futhi kukhona okuyigugu okumbalwa okungekho kulo mhlaba oxhumene ngokwamadijithi - lapho-ke ugcina ukulawula ngokucophelela kulokho okuvezayo ngawe ngesisekelo sokwazi kuphela. Kungumsebenzi webhizinisi, ngemuva kwakho konke.
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