Kuningi izinhlobo zezinhloso lokho umuntu angakwazi ukukubeka, kodwa mhlawumbe okubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni yikho okuholela ekukhuleni ngokomoya.
Ngoba ukukhula kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo akuvamile ukuthi kwenzeke ngokwako. Njenganoma yini enye, kudinga uhlelo nezenzo.
Lolu hlelo lungeza ngezinhloso zezikamoya, izibonelo ezimbalwa zazo ezilandela ngezansi.
Empeleni, imigomo engokomoya yenzelwe ukusisiza sixhumane nezinkolelo nezinkolelo zethu zangaphakathi. Lokhu kuxhumana kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuhola impilo ejabulisayo nenelisekile.
Izibonelo ezingezansi zivumelekile kumuntu olandela ikhodi ethile yenkolo njengoba zinjalo kumuntu ongokomoya kepha ongakholwa.
Cabanga ukubeka ezinye zalezi zinhloso ezingokomoya - mhlawumbe eyodwa noma ezimbili ngasikhathi sinye - bese unamathela kuzo zize zibe yingxenye yempilo yakho nemikhuba yakho.
1. Cacisa ngokucacile ukuthi ziyini izinkolelo zakho.
Yini okholelwa kuyo?
Lowo ngumbuzo omkhulu, futhi okungelula ukuwuphendula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngisho nalabo abenza inkolo ethile.
Kepha ukwazi ukuthi yimiphi imigomo esemqoka onqwenela ukusekela kuyo impilo yakho kuwumsebenzi obalulekile wokucaciswa.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukwenza izinkolelo zakho uma ungazi ukuthi ziyini.
Futhi noma ngabe uyingxenye yenkolo ehleliwe, nakanjani kuzoba nezimfundiso ezizizwa zibaluleke kakhulu kunezinye.
Ukwazi izinkolelo zakho kuqhamuka ekubukeni ngaphakathi bese ubuza ukuthi uzizwa kanjani kukusondeza endaweni ozoba kuyo ekugcineni - noma ngabe unguNkulunkulu ongcwele, umthombo, indawo yonke, noma okunye.
Yiziphi izinyathelo ongazithatha - ngokwengqondo nangokwenza - ukukhulisa umoya wakho?
Mhlawumbe ezinye izinhloso ezikulolu hlu zinganikeza izimpendulo zalo mbuzo.
2. Cabanga ngezenzo zakho.
Lapho usukwazi ukuthi ukholelwaphi, kuyasiza ukugcina umkhondo wokuthi unamathela kangakanani kulezo zinkolelo empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.
Ingabe ukusebenzisile lokho okufundisayo? Ingabe wenze izinto eziphikisana nezinkolelo zakho? Ingabe uzizwe uphikisana nhlobo?
Lezi yizinhlobo zemibuzo ozofisa ukuyibuza ngesikhathi isikhathi sokuzicabangela .
Cabanga ngakho njengesikhashana sokuma ohambweni lwakho bese ubheka kokubili lapho kade ukhona nalapho uya khona.
Ingabe uphila ngendlela ofisa ukuyiphila, futhi uma kungenjalo, yini ongayishintsha ukuzibeka endleleni evumelana ngokwengeziwe ngokomoya?
Kwesinye isikhathi ungathola ukuthi lezi zikhathi zokuzindla ziphonsela inselelo izinkolelo obuzizwa uqiniseke kakhulu ngazo. Lokho akukhona ukwehluleka ohlangothini lwakho, kepha ukucaciselwa okuqhubekayo kwalokho i-your iqiniso izinkolelo.
3. Hlakulela ukuthula.
Impilo evumelana ngokwengeziwe ngokomoya ingukuthula okukhulu kwangaphakathi nangaphandle.
Umgomo ofanele, ngakho-ke, ukuthola izindlela zokuletha ukuthula okuningi ezintweni ozenzayo, ebudlelwaneni onabo, nasemicabangweni ezulazula engqondweni yakho.
yini okuthakazelisayo ngami
Ukuthula kuphambene nodweshu, ngakho-ke ukukhomba imithombo yengxabano nokusebenza ekunciphiseni ukungezwani kuyithuluzi eliphumelelayo lokukhula ngokomoya.
Okuningi kwalokhu kwehla ngendlela ophatha ngayo abanye, indlela ophendula ngayo ekuphatheni kwabanye ngawe, nasemqondweni ophethe ngawo empilweni.
Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukukhetha onakho kuwo wonke umzuzu wokunquma ukuthi uziphatha kanjani. Akunandaba ukuthi kungenzeka kwenzekani eduze kwakho nokuthi abanye abantu benzani, ungakhetha indlela yokuthula.
Ungakhetha ukuqonda, ukuxolela, ukubheka ngale kokuziphindisela noma ukubuyisela.
Ungakhetha ukubhekana nanoma imiphi imicabango nemizwelo ekhathazayo ongaba nayo.
Ungakhetha ukuba ngumenzi wokuthula nomaphi lapho uya khona.
Lokhu akusho ukwamukela ukuphathwa kabi. Akunjalo. Ingxenye yokuphila impilo enokuthula yangaphakathi nangaphandle ukwazi ukuthi kufanele ushiye nini kumuntu onobuhlungu obubangela ukuba aziphathe ngezindlela ezilimazayo kuwe.
Noma, okungenani, ukubeka imingcele kulokho ozokubekezelela nongakubekezeleli.
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4. Khombisa ububele.
Ukukhuluma ngobuhlungu bomunye umuntu, enye indlela yokuxhumana ngokujulile nomoya wakho ukufuna izindlela zokunciphisa ukuhlupheka kwabanye.
Abantu abaningi banomzwelo wemvelo wokufuna ukusiza abanye, kepha ukwenza njalo ngokungaguquguquki futhi ngaphandle kokulindela ukuthola okuthile ngokubuyiselwa kuhluke ngokuphelele.
Ukukhula ngokomoya akusiwo umvuzo wokusebenzela abanye - kepha imvamisa (yize kunjalo manje) ngumkhiqizo.
Ukuphila impilo enozwelo kukusiza ukuthi uzizwe ubonga ngokwengeziwe ngezinto ezinhle onazo futhi kusiza ekunciphiseni umuzwa ovame ukweqisa.
Lapho uzizwa futhi ukhombisa ububele kumuntu, uyazazi ukuthi ukuye. Uyabona ukuthi wena nabo anihlukile kangako.
Ngokwenza njalo, uye uthobeke kakhudlwana futhi ungadli kakhulu izifiso ezingenampilo zokuqongelela nokuqongelela izinto eziningi.
Ububele buyisiqephu esikhulu sephazili kumgomo olandelayo ohlwini lwethu…
5. Yazi ukuxhumana okuxhumene nakho konke.
Ingxenye yempilo yokomoya ifaka phakathi ukubheka ngaphakathi, kepha ingxenye enkulu ngokulingana idinga ukuthi ubheke umhlaba okuzungezile.
Ukuthula nozwela, njengoba sibonile, kuyingxenye ebalulekile yalokhu, kepha kunjalo nokuqonda ukuthi awuhlali wedwa.
ungayikhombisa kanjani intombi yakho oyithandayo
Empeleni, noma ngabe uwedwa ezinhlwini eziningi, uncike ngokuphelele kubantu nasezintweni ezikuzungezile.
Yonke into ixhuma kuyo yonke enye into ngokusebenzisa iwebhu eyinkimbinkimbi yemicu, eminingi yayo engabonakali futhi engaziswa.
Umoya esiwuphefumulayo, ukudla esikudlayo, izinto esizijabulelayo - konke kuyimikhiqizo yomhlaba oxhumeke kuyo konke okunye.
Ngisho nesikrini ofunda kuso lesi siyisandiso sempilo, esenziwe ubuhlakani besintu nezinsizakusebenza esithembele kuzo.
Uxhumeke kulezo zinto - labo bantu, lezo zinto - ngendlela esondelene kakhulu. Bathinta impilo yakho nawe uthinte eyabo.
Lokhu ukubona okujulile ngezindlela eziningi, futhi okungaqhuba ukucabanga okungokomoya, isenzo, nenkolelo ezingeni elisha.
6. Zijwayeze ukubekezelelana.
Yize sonke senziwe ngezinto ezifanayo futhi sixhunywe ngezindlela ezisondelene kakhulu, abekho abantu ababili abafana ncamashi.
Futhi ezinye zehluke kakhulu kithi ngezindlela eziningi. Bakhetha kanjani ukuveza imizwa yabo, izifiso zabo, izinkolelo zabo, izinqumo abazenzayo.
Lokhu kwehluka kungaba yimithombo yengxabano uma sikuvumela, kepha ukubekezelelana kungakuvimba lokho ukuthi kungenzeki.
Ukubekezelela ukwamukela lokho kwehluka futhi kungazenzi izizathu zokungathembani.
Ukubekezelelana kuyisithako esiyinhloko sokuthula, kodwa njengoba ngenhla, akufanele kuholele ekwamukelweni kokuphathwa kabi.
Bekezelela ukungaboni ngaso linye kwethu, yebo, kepha ungababekezeleli labo abafisa ukukulimaza.
Uma unikezwe ithuba, kufanele udlulele ngaphezu kokubekezelela umehluko wethu futhi ukujabulele.
Kuyisimangaliso esikhulu empilweni ukuthi singaba nezigidigidi zabantu abahluke ngokuphelele, bonke bephethe izipho zabo abazonikela ngazo emhlabeni.
7. Bazise abantu abasempilweni yakho.
Amaphuzu amaningi wangaphambilini abuyela entweni eyodwa ebalulekile: umphakathi.
Kepha ngenkathi ungacabanga ngomphakathi njengeqembu elibanzi labantu abahlala lapho uhlala khona, sikhuluma ngomphakathi wakho uqobo.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, labo bantu abayingxenye esebenzayo (noma kwesinye isikhathi engenzi lutho) yempilo yakho.
Umndeni wakho, abangani, ophathina, osebenza nabo… laba bantu kungenzeka banethonya elikhulu empilweni yakho kunanoma yini enye.
Kungakho ingxenye enkulu yokukhula kwakho ngokomoya igxile ekusebenzisaneni kwakho nalaba bantu nokuthi uyazisa kanjani indawo yabo empilweni yakho.
Qaphela ukuthi kumele ubusebenzele ubudlelwano bakho nokuthi awukwazi ukubuthatha kalula.
Sebenzela ukukhombisa ukubonga kwakho kwabanye abantu, umusa wakho kubo, kanye nokuqonda kwakho lapho benza kusuka endaweni yobuhlungu noma yokulimala.
8. Thula.
Njengoba uhamba endleleni yakho yokomoya, kuyasiza ukunqanda umsindo ongapheli wamazwe angaphandle nangaphakathi futhi uthule nje.
Ungabiza lesi sikhathi ngomthandazo noma ngokuzindla, noma ungavele ukubize ngokuthi wedwa onokuthula.
Noma ngabe ithatha yiphi indlela kuwe, ibinzana elithi 'ukuthula kuyigolide' lifanele ngempela.
Kuyithuba legolide lokuthi wena uphumule futhi uvumele 'umphefumulo' wakho, ngokuswela igama elingcono, ukuthi uze ebusweni bakho.
Kuyamangalisa ngempela ukuthi isikhathi sokuthula singasenzelani ingqondo, umzimba, futhi, nomoya.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungayisebenzela kanjani ingokomoya lakho? Khuluma nomqeqeshi wempilo namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
