Ngicabanga ukuthi ufunda le ndatshana ngoba ufinyelele eqophelweni le-stasis: impilo emnandi yokuphila kodwa, oh my, impilo kunalokho buthuntu , unamathele ku-loop of the same-old, same-old.
Okubi kakhulu, ungabona impilo yakho inwebeka ngokungenakuphela futhi ngokungenangqondo iye esikhathini esizayo.
Impela kufanele kube nokuningi empilweni kunalokhu, ubuza: intshiseko eyengeziwe, isasasa elengeziwe futhi, okubaluleke kunakho konke, umuzwa wokufeza okwengeziwe?
Ngabe Udinga Uhlelo Olukhulu?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungenzeka ukuthi ngenze umbono ongalungile ngokuphelele ngawe, mfundi othandekayo.
Mhlawumbe ukhona ngokuphelele okuqukethwe . Mhlawumbe unamathela kwifilosofi kaJohn Lennon, ukholwa ukuthi 'impilo iyenzeka uma wenza ezinye izinhlelo' futhi uzimisele ngokuphelele ukunganikeli isipho e-altare lesikhathi esizayo.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi le ndatshana izokusiza ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngokukhomba izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zezinhloso, ungadala i- uhlelo lokuthuthukisa umuntu .
Lolo hlelo luzothuthukisa ulwazi lwakho lwempilo ngokuya phambili kepha lusenokukuvumela ukuthi ukwazise manje, hhayi okungenani ngoba imigomo yakho emisha ngeke ibe ngekusasa lonke.
Ngabe Umgede / Owesifazane Wakho Wangaphakathi Ukubambezele?
Enye indlela yesithathu ukuthi uwuhlobo impilo yakhe ilawulwa ngumuntu ongumgede wangaphakathi noma owesifazane. Umuntu ongakaze ajabule ukwedlula lapho kungekho lutho emkhathizwe okungenzeka kuphazamise ukuvumelana kwempilo yomhume.
Leyo ndlela yasizuzisa kahle lapho ama-mammoth amaningi ayedala umonakalo omkhulu, noma izizwe eziseduze zaziyisihogo sokuphanga. Empeleni, mhlawumbe yisimo esiholele ekusindeni kwethu njengohlobo, ngakho-ke izigqoko kokhokho bethu bangaphambi kukazamcolo, kepha…
Emphakathini wokuqhathanisa nokunethezeka kwama-21stubukhona bekhulu leminyaka, umgedi wangaphakathi osebenzela inhloso encane ngaphandle kokusibambezela futhi ekugcineni asivikele ekubeni yizinhlobo zethu ezinhle kakhulu.
Ungamlaleli. Bheka ngalé komkhathizwe bese uqala ukuzibekela izinhloso ezithile ngaphandle kokuphepha kwalowo mhume onethezekile.
Kungani Sidinga Imigomo?
Ngaphambi kokuthi sibheke izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zemigomo ongazibekela yona empilweni kanye nesikhathi esinqunyelwe salo naleso naleso, ake sicabange ukuthi kungani izinhloso nezifiso ezinjalo kubaluleke kangaka.
Kukhona isisho esidala esithi:
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Impilo ngaphandle kwezinselelo ayikho impilo nhlobo.
Kuliqiniso kangangani lokho?
Ukube besinakho azikho izinhlelo, awekho amaphupho, azikho izifiso futhi asikaze siziphushe nganoma iyiphi indlela, bunjani impilo eyisicefe futhi engenanjongo.
Uthisha ohlonishwayo nesishoshovu senhlalo, uBenjamin E. Mays, umemezele:
Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi usizi lwempilo alulele ekufinyeleleni umgomo wakho. Usizi lulele ekutheni ungabi nayo imigomo ongayifinyelela.
Sinethuba elilodwa kuphela kulokhu kuphila, ngakho-ke ukuphatha impilo njengohambo lokuzithuthukisa, nezinselelo eziningi endleleni, kufanele kube yindlela engcono yokuqinisekisa ukuthi sithola okungcono kakhulu kubude besikhathi esisabelwe.
Lapho usuqalile ngokuzibekela imigomo, ezinye izinhloso ozibonayo zizoqonde ngqo. Okunye kungenzeka kube yinselele, kepha abanye bazokuvivinya kuze kube semikhawulweni yakho.
Uma uzozizuza, kuzofanele uziphushe isikhathi eside futhi kanzima.
Ungesabi, kepha, nganoma iziphi izifiso ongahle ube nazo ezibonakala zingena ezinhlosweni ezingenakwenzeka, ezibizwa ngokuthi yi ‘moonshot’.
Lona kanye igama elithi 'moonshot' lisuselwa kumbono kaMengameli uKennedy obonakala ungenakwenzeka ngonyaka we-1961 ukuthola umuntu osenyangeni kungakapheli neminyaka eyi-10 - manje leyo bekuyinjongo enkulu kakhulu, empeleni, eyafezeka eminyakeni engaphansi kwengu-9!
Izinhlobo Eziyishumi Zemigomo Ongafisa Ukuzibekela
Ngaphambi kokuthi uqale umsebenzi wokuhlonza izinhloso ezithile, uzothola kuwusizo ukuhlukanisa izigaba ezahlukahlukene zempilo yakho.
Ezinye zalezi zindawo zizoba nokubaluleka okuphezulu kuwe kunezinye. Uma usukhombe ukubaluleka kwazo empilweni yakho, uzobe usendleleni yokubeka phambili izinhloso zakho.
Icebo ukugcina izifiso zakho zibanzi endaweni yazo hhayi ukugxila endaweni eyodwa noma kwelitshe.
Ungathola ukuthi unomgomo owodwa kuphela endaweni eyodwa nohlu lonke kwenye. Lokho akubalulekile neze! Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukuthi lena impilo yakho hhayi ukuvivinya okwenziwa ebhokisini.
Ngakho-ke, nazi izigaba eziyi-10 zokubeka izinhloso ukuqala lezo zingxoxo zengqondo zijika.
(Eyisikhombisa yokuqala isuselwa kulokho okushiwo nguJack Canfield encwadini yakhe Izimiso Zempumelelo , kuyilapho ezintathu zokugcina ziyizindawo enginomuzwa wokuthi zifanelwe ukucatshangelwa ngokulinganayo.)
Imigomo Yezemfundo
Ukukhula nokushintsha, okokuqala kufanele sifunde. Ungacabanga ngemfundo njengesikole nje, kepha iya phambili iye ezifundweni zaseyunivesithi, ezifundweni zokufundela umsebenzi, naseziqu zobungcweti.
Akumangalisi-ke ukuthi izinhloso zemfundo kungenzeka ziguquke njengoba uqhubeka nemfundo ehlelekile, uphuma uye emkhakheni wokufunda, bese uxoxisana ngendlela yakho ngokukhushulwa kanye nezinguquko zokuqondisa.
Okusemqoka ukukhumbula ukuthi isikhathi semfundo asikaze sidlule. Ukufunda impilo yonke kuyithuba lokunweba ingqondo yakho ngezindlela eziningi, ngakho ungacabangi ngemfundo njengento efanele intsha kuphela.
Izinhloso ongazikhomba maqondana nemfundo zizohluka ngokuya ngomsebenzi owukhethile. Mhlawumbe, noma kunjalo, bazokwelula baze balungiselele ushintsho lomsebenzi esikhathini esizayo oluzodinga ukuqeqeshwa kabusha endaweni entsha ngokuphelele.
Izinjongo Zomzimba Nezempilo
Umzimba wethu, impilo yethu, namandla ethu omzimba anethonya elikhulu ezimpilweni zethu nakwalokho esikwazi ukukufeza.
Izinjongo ezikule ndawo zizohluka kakhulu kuye ngeminyaka yakho nangesimo sempilo osuvele ukhona.
Uma umncane futhi ulungile, kungenzeka ufune ukuzisunduza uqhubeke futhi usheshe, ngomgomo obalulekile wokuzivocavoca umzimba onjengemarathon njengenhloso yakho.
Uma ungumuntu ophakathi nendawo futhi owenza ideski odedela izinto zishibilike (ngayo yonke indlela!), Ukugcina nje ngaphakathi kwamabanga ajwayelekile weminyaka yakho kungaba yisifiso sakho - ungalenzi iphutha, noma kunjalo, lokho kusewumgomo!
Mhlawumbe ukhombe impilo ende, futhi uhlale ukhuthele ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba njengoba kufanele isigaba ngasinye sempilo.
Izinjongo Zobudlelwano
Yize sonke siphelele kithi uqobo, abantu ezimpilweni zethu badlala indima enkulu ekutheni sizizwa kanjani nokuthi yini esingayifeza.
Izinhloso zobudlelwano ziyaheha ngoba imvamisa ziyizinhloso ezingenabugovu ozibekele zona, futhi ezizothuthukisa impilo, kodwa futhi zizuzisa nabanye ababalulekile.
Ukuphumelela kwakho ekufinyeleleni kuzoba nomthelela ojulile enjabulweni yakho.
Ngokusobala, awukho umsebenzi ongabalulekile wokuthola umlingani wokuphila nokuthi ungakufeza kanjani lokho, uma lelo kuyiphupho lakho. Lapho lelo bhokisi selithikhiwe, ukunakekela lowo muntu kanye nanoma yiziphi izingane onazo ngokungangabazeki kuzokwakhela ezinye izinhloso.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi unikela ngesikhathi esanele sekhwalithi ebuhlotsheni bakho nasemndenini wakho nakubangane bakho, futhi nokwenza ngcono ukulinganisela kwakho emsebenzini / empilweni kungaba yilokho ohlose ukukwenza.
Izinjongo Zokuzithuthukisa
Ushintsho ukuphela kwento evamile emhlabeni wonke, futhi lokho kwenzelwa ngamunye wethu. Singakhula ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene kuye ngokuthi yini esiyazisa kakhulu.
ngilithola kanjani ithalente lami
Mhlawumbe uzizwa unesidingo sokuzelula ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba ngokufunda olunye ulimi, ngokufunda i-salsa, noma ngokufunda inqubo ethile entsha.
Mhlawumbe hhayi.
Isidingo sokuthuthuka komuntu siqu yilokho nje: okwakho.
Abanye abantu babonakala benamandla angenamkhawulo wokuthatha futhi babhekane nezinselelo ezintsha. Kulungile futhi kuyathandeka, kepha izinhloso zabo akumele kube ezakho futhi akufanele uzivumele uthuswe yizinhlungu zabo ukuze ungasuki ezindaweni zokuqala.
Ukuthuthuka komuntu kuhle, kepha idrayivu idinga ukuvela ngaphakathi.
Ukunweba ingqondo yakho ngokuhamba noma ngokufunda, ngokufunda amakhono amasha, nangokubamba konke 'ukuzithuthukisa' konke kuba ngaphansi kwesambulela sokuzicebisa komuntu siqu.
Kungenzeka ube nemibono embalwa kulesi sigaba. Akunandaba ukuthi uhlu lude noma lufushane.
Imigomo Yomsebenzi
Sichitha isinqamu esikhulu sezimpilo zethu sisebenza. Ngakho-ke awucabangi ukuthi kuwukuhlakanipha yini ukuba nezinhloso ezithile endaweni enjalo ebaluleke kangaka empilweni yakho?
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, lesi sigaba sixhumeke ngokungenakulinganiswa nemfundo ngoba awukwazi ukuba nomunye ngaphandle kwesinye. Ukwenza umzamo wokutadisha nokuthuthukisa ngenkuthalo isethi yamakhono akho kungakuvulela izindlela ezintsha zomsebenzi.
Abaningi bethu banemibono embalwa ephakamisa imikhono yethu mayelana nekusasa lethu lokusebenza. Inhloso yakho kungaba ukuqala ibhizinisi lakho, ukuthola udumo oluthile, ukuthola ukukhushulwa, noma ukukhulisa amandla akho okuhola.
Isenzo sokwenza uhlu olubambekayo lwezinhloso zomsebenzi, sakha isisekelo sohlelo olukhulu lokuzithuthukisa, siyakunika amandla. Kungaba yisinyathelo sokuqala esizayo esizayo.
Izinjongo Zezezimali
Imali yenza umhlaba ujikeleze - noma okungenani, uyakwenza ngezinga elithile.
Akumangalisi ukuthi ingenye yezindawo ezithandwa kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokubeka imigomo. Akunandaba ukuthi yiliphi iladi esikuyo njengamanje, iningi lethu linezifiso nezifiso ngenhloso enkulu yokwenza imali ethe xaxa.
Mhlawumbe unebhadi ngokwanele ukuba ube sezikweletini njengamanje. Uma kunjalo, ukubeka imigomo yesabelomali sakho nokufuna izindlela zokulungisa indlela osebenzisa ngayo imali kuzoba phezulu ohlwini lwakho.
Uma iphupho lakho ukuthenga indlu, ukukhomba izindlela zokonga ukwenza lelo phupho lifezeke kuzoba phezulu ku-ajenda.
Ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kungenye indaba edinga ukucatshangelwa ngokucophelela nokuhlela kusengaphambili, ngakho-ke kungahle kube nezinhloso ezithile ‘zokunyathela itshe’ lendlela unalokhu engqondweni.
Imigomo Engokomoya
Njengoba impilo yakho yokomoya iyikhampasi yakho, lena enye indawo exhunywe nezinye izinhlobo zezinhloso - ubudlelwano nentuthuko yomuntu siqu, isibonelo.
Ukuthi ulandela inkolo ethile yezenkolo noma cha, ukukhula kohlangothi lwakho olungokomoya kusekela konke okwenzayo.
Mhlawumbe uzozibekela umgomo wokukhulula isikhathi sokwenza umsebenzi othile wokuzithandela noma ukunikela ngemali ethe xaxa kulabo abaswele.
Mhlawumbe izifiso zakho ukuthi ubambe iqhaza kuphrojekthi yentuthuko esiza phesheya kwezilwandle.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungahle uzizwe unesidingo sokucabanga ngokwengeziwe noma ukuzindla njalo.
Izinhloso Zengqondo
Umqondo wakho ukuthi ukuphi. Impilo leyo. Esikwenzayo, okwenzekayo kithina nokusizungezile, esikucabangayo nesikuzwayo - konke kucutshungulwa futhi kusengqondweni.
Ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukuthi ungahle ufune ukubeka izinhloso ezithile ezihlobene nokuthi ingqondo yakho ixhumana kanjani nezwe. Uzibona kanjani izinto, okukholelwayo, isimo sakho sengqondo ngemicimbi nakubantu, ingqondo yakho.
Ingqondo yakho iyithuluzi elinamandla kunazo zonke onalo ekhabethe lakho, ngakho-ke zimisele ukusebenzela kulo bese uzibekela imigomo yokuthi ungathanda ukuthi isebenze kanjani.
Mhlawumbe lokho kusho ukufunda ukuhlala uzolile ezimweni ezikucindezelayo njengamanje. Mhlawumbe ukuba nomqondo ovulekile ngokwengeziwe ngamathuba azivelelayo.
Noma ngabe kuyini, ingqondo yakho iyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi iguquke uma unesifiso sokwenza lokho kwenzeke.
Izinjongo Zangaphandle
Iningi lemigomo ligxila kuphela empilweni yakho, empumelelweni yakho, noma emaphusheni akho, kepha futhi ungazibekela imigomo ebeka omunye umuntu kuqala.
Lokhu kwathintwa ngaphansi kwezinjongo zokomoya nokwenza umsebenzi wokupha, kepha kungaba ngaphezulu kakhulu kwalokhu.
Isibonelo, ake ucabange ukuthi ufuna ukuphila impilo yakho ngendlela ebangela ukuhlupheka okuncane kwabanye. Lokhu kungahlanganisa ukuba imifino kuphela (noma ukudla kuphela umkhiqizo wamahhala), ukunciphisa umthelela wakho emvelweni, noma ukukhokha okuthe xaxa ngezingubo ezitholakala ngokuziphatha.
owen hart ukufa eringini
Noma, ukugxila komgomo wakho kungaba seduzane nasekhaya. Mhlawumbe ufuna ukusiza ingane yakini ukuphuma esimeni sezezimali esikhohlisayo noma ukweseka umngani wakho omkhulu lapho behlukanisa.
Izinhloso zangaphandle zivame ukuhlangana nezinye izindawo ezinjengezezimali noma umsebenzi. Mhlawumbe udinga inani elithile lemali ukusiza othile ukuphuma, noma umsebenzi oguquguqukayo okunikeza isikhathi sokuzinikela kunhloso ethile.
Izinjongo Zokuhlangenwe nakho
Impilo yethu yakhiwe ngochungechunge lwezifundo. Okunye okuhlangenwe nakho kuyinto ejwayelekile - ukushayela uye emsebenzini, ngokwesibonelo - ngenkathi abanye beqinisekisa impilo ngempela.
Uma kukhona okuthile ofuna ukukwenza ngaphambi kokuphela kwesikhathi sakho, beka umgomo okuzungezile.
Ngabe ufuna ukubamba izibani ezisenyakatho nabo bonke ubuhle bazo obumibalabala?
Kuthiwani ngokuhamba kukhaphethi obomvu ku-premiere yefilimu yaseHollywood?
Noma ingabe iphupho lakho lokuzungeza iziQhingi zaseGalapagos ukubona izilwane zasendle ezimangalisayo lapho?
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi, izinhloso eziningi zokuhlangenwe nakho zizophinda zihlangane nezinye izinhlobo zezinhloso.
Ukuhlonza Isikhathi Esinqunyiwe Sokufeza Izinjongo Zakho
Lapho usudabule izingxenye ezahlukahlukene zempilo yakho zaba yizindawo ezihlukile zokubeka izinhloso futhi wakha imibono embalwa, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukubheka ubude besikhathi somgomo ngamunye.
Uzothola ukuthi ungawahlukanisa abe yizinhlobo ezintathu ezibanzi: isikhathi esifushane (amasonto ambalwa kuya eminyakeni emi-2), isikhathi eside (iminyaka emi-2 kuye kwengu-10), nempilo yonke (iminyaka eyi-10 kuhlangene).
Lezi zikhathi ziyazikhulumela, kepha ezinye izinhloso zizoba khona zontathu.
Ukulondolozela umhlalaphansi onethezekile, isibonelo, kuzodinga isenzo sesikhashana, ukukhula kancane kancane esikhathini eside njengoba ubeka izinhlelo ezifanele, kepha ekugcineni kuyinjongo yokuphila kwakho konke.
Ngabe Isikhathi Sokuthola Imigomo ethile Esendaweni?
Lapho usugayile umqondo wokuzibekela imigomo futhi wakhomba izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zamagoli, maningi amathuba okuthi uzophetha ngokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokucabangisisa.
Sekuyisikhathi sokuzibekela imigomo ethile ezokukhipha kuleyo ndawo ethokomele.
Ngeke kube yimisebenzi elula ukwedlula yonke, kepha uma isiqedile, uzoba nohlobo lomgwaqo wokukunikeza ukuqondiswa nokubuyisa umqondo wakho wenjongo.
Ngeke ube khona nje, uzohambela phambili futhi kwazi bani ukuthi umgwaqo ungaholela kuphi?
Ngabe awunasiqiniseko sokuthi yimiphi imigomo yokuzibekela yona empilweni? Ufuna usizo ukukuqonda? Khuluma nomqeqeshi wempilo namuhla ongakwazi ukukuhambisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhumana nenye.
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