Izizathu Ezi-9 Zokuthi Abanye Abantu Bakhulume Kakhulu Kangaka (+ Ungabhekana Kanjani Nazo)

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Wake waqaphela ukuthi abanye abantu bakhulu kakhulu kakhulu kunabo bonke abanye?



Ungahle ucabange ukuthi bayathandeka noma bayaphuma, kepha kaningi kunencazelo ejulile ngemuva kwezinga labo levolumu.

Sizongena kwezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani abantu bekhulumela phezulu, futhi sinikeze nomzuzwana wokuzindla ngezwi lakho…



1. Bakhokha ngokweqile ngamahloni.

Abanye abantu abanamahloni kakhulu bazama ukulwa nalokhu ngokuhamba konke nokuba ubuntu obukhulu ekamelweni.

Le yindlela yabo ‘yokulawula’ ukuthi banamahloni kangakanani - uma bephakama futhi bebonakala bephuma, abantu abasoze babona ukuthi bathule kangakanani ngempela.

2. Bafuna ukuzizwa bebaluleke kakhulu.

Izwi elikhulu kakhulu egumbini yilona wonke umuntu afuna ukulilalela, akunjalo?

Akulungile!

Abantu abaningi abakhulumela phezulu empeleni bazama ukubukisa ngokubaluleka kwabo futhi bathole wonke umuntu ukuthi abanake kakhulu.

Uma bekhuluma ngabo bonke abantu, bacabanga ukuthi abantu bazokhathalela kakhulu abakushoyo kunalokho okushiwo abanye.

Lena inqubo yokulawula yakudala futhi iyindlela yesipikha yokuthola ukunakwa nokuzizwa njengabantu abakhathalele ngempela ngemibono yabo.

3. Bazama ukufakazela okuthile.

Ngokufana nokunxephezelwa ngokweqile, abanye abantu abakhuluma ngevolumu ephezulu benza kanjalo ngoba bezwa ukuthi badinga ukuveza iphuzu labo.

Lesi isinyathelo sokusuka ekuxabaneni, ngezindlela ezithile, njengoba umuntu ezama ngamandla ukwenza abantu bazizwe ukuze bakwazi ukufakazela iphuzu labo.

4. Abakaze babe nezwi phambilini.

Abanye abantu bakhulela esimweni lapho bengatholi khona ngempela izwi noma babelane ngombono.

Ubuntwana babantu buyalolonga ngempela ukuthi baphuma kanjani sebebadala, futhi ukuba phezulu kakhulu kunokujwayelekile kungaba ngumphumela wempilo yengcindezelo yasekhaya.

Njengomuntu omdala, umuntu ozwakalayo ekamelweni ekugcineni angazizwa ekwazi ukuveza imicabango nemizwa yakhe futhi usafunda ukuthi angakwenza kanjani lokho ngokufanele.

Uma bebehlale benganakwa besengumntwana futhi bengatholi mpendulo kulokho abebekusho, kusobala ukuthi bake bazizwa benganakiwe esikhathini esedlule.

Ukulwa nalokhu, baba ngabantu abadala abazwakalayo. Banesifiso sokuthola ukunakwa, ekugcineni banendlela yokuzwakala, kepha abazethembi noma abaqinisekile ukuthi balisebenzisa kanjani iphimbo labo.

5. Kungaphansi kwe-biology yabo.

Ukuziphatha kwethu okuningi kwehlela ohlotsheni lobuntu bethu nasebuntwaneni bethu, kepha okunye kwakho kuhlotshaniswa ne-biology.

Ngokuya ngokuthi imisipha yomphimbo wethu yakheke kanjani, abanye bethu bangavele bakhulume kakhulu kunabangane bethu.

Kungenzeka futhi kube ukukhubazeka kokuzwa okungatholakali futhi kusho ukuthi isipikha asazi ukuthi bakhulumela phezulu kangakanani.

6. Yindlela abakhuliswe ngayo.

Abanye abantu banomsindo omkhulu ngenxa yendlela abakhuliswe ngayo.

Umngani wami omkhulu wakhulela endlini lapho wonke umuntu wayekhuluma kakhulu futhi wakufunda kubo.

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Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngakhulela ekhaya lapho isikhathi sokuthula namazwi aphansi ayaziswa futhi esekhule waba ngumuntu omdala othule.

Sonke sifunda izinkambiso ezihlukile emindenini yethu nakubangane, futhi sonke sinokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile kokuziphatha okujwayelekile nokulindelekile.

7. Bayazithanda futhi bayazicabangela.

Akusona isizathu esihle kunazo zonke, kepha siyasebenza: abanye abantu banomsindo ngoba banobhiya.

Abantu abazithandayo bavamise ukuba yizipikha ezinomsindo ngoba abanandaba ngokweqiniso uma bekwenza kabi ngenkathi bekwenza.

Eqinisweni, kwesinye isikhathi bazokwenzela ukucasula abanye abantu ngenhloso.

Lesi yisici sakudala se-narcissism - ukunganakwa kwemizwa yabanye abantu nenhloso yokubakhungathekisa noma ukubacasula ukuze uzizwe kahle ngawe.

8. Bangakhathazeka.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi lwe-spectrum, abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngoba balwa nokukhathazeka.

Lokhu kungenza izwi labo lizwakale kakhulu kunabanye ’ngoba bazama ukufihla indlela abazizwa bekhathazeke ngayo, noma bangazi ukuthi bakhuluma kanjani ngoba miningi imizwa egijima ezingqondweni zabo.

Lapho sizizwa sikhathazekile, imizimba yethu iya kumodi ethusayo, yokulwa noma yokundiza. Lokhu kubangela amazinga amakhulu e-adrenaline ukuthi apompe emzimbeni wethu futhi kuvame ukusheshisa ukukhuluma kwethu futhi kukhuphule amazinga wevolumu yethu.

9. Banenkinga yokulawula.

Lokhu kungenye iningi lethu elingaziqonda ngayo - ngesikhathi esithile, sonke sizamile ukuphakamisa amazwi ethu ukuze sizigomele.

Abanye abantu bakwenza lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma kunjalo, futhi kaningi kungenxa yenkinga yokulawula egxilile.

Kungenzeka ukuthi okhulumela phezulu udinga abantu bazi ukuthi baphethe ngokuba yizwi elikhulu kunawo wonke ekamelweni.

ukuthanda umuntu vs ukuthanda izingcaphuno zothando

Noma kungenzeka ukuthi bazizwa belawula kakhudlwana uma izwi labo liminyanisa imicabango yabo.

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

Ungabhekana Kanjani Nezikhulumi Ezizwakalayo

Kungaba kubi ukutshela umuntu ukuthi aguqule indlela aziphethe ngayo, noma ngabe uyamazi futhi uyamthanda, usebenze naye, noma ungamane nje abezwe bephuma beya komunye umkhawulo wenqola yakho yesitimela.

Lawa ngamathiphu okuthi ungasisingatha kanjani isimo ngokunethezeka nokuthi ungathola kanjani imiphumela engcono kakhulu yawo wonke umuntu othintekayo…

1. Yiba ocabangelayo.

Zama ukuqonda izizathu zalokho.

Yiba nesineke kulokhu - wonke umuntu uhambe, noma usazoqhubeka, ngokusebenzisa into ongayazi.

Kungaba nzima ukwehlisa ijubane futhi ungakhungatheki zisuka nje, kodwa kuyikhono elihle lokuzijwayeza nokufunda.

Cabanga ngezinye izindlela abaziphethe ngazo - ingabe zinomsindo omkhulu futhi ziyabheda (kungaba ukukhathazeka) noma zikhohlakele (kungaba ezokuziqhenya) noma zine-anal kakhulu (kungaba yizinkinga zokulawula).

Kungaba nzima ukucubungula izenzo zomuntu ngokomongo ngoba imvamisa sivele sicasuke ngokwenzeka phambi kwethu, kepha ungathanda ukuthi umuntu akwenzele okufanayo uma esinye sezenzo zakho sibacasulile.

2. Faka umongo.

Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, kulula ukwenza izinqumo ngokungaziphathi ngokuziphatha kwabantu - ikakhulukazi uma kuyinto ecasulayo njengokukhala kakhulu.

Zama ukucabanga ukuthi kungani omunye umuntu engenza kanjena.

Hhayi izincazelo ezijulile ezinjengenhla, kepha ngokomongo.

Ngabe bamemeza kakhulu emhlanganweni wakho wangoMsombuluko ngoba benobugovu, noma ngoba abantu abaningi baxoshiwe muva nje futhi bazizwa bengavikelekile?

Mhlawumbe umngani wakho ubanga umsindo kunokwejwayelekile - yingoba bazama ukulawula ingxoxo noma yingoba abazali babo bahlukanisile nje futhi bazizwa bengekho esimeni futhi bekhungathekile?

Zicabange nawe, - kukangaki lapho ukuziphatha kwakho okujwayelekile kushintshile lapho ubucindezeleke kakhulu noma uthukuthele noma ucasulwe okuthile?

3. Xhumana nabo.

Uma othile empilweni yakho eqhubeka nokukhulumela phezulu futhi iqala ukuba yinkinga kuwe, kungakuhle ukuthi umtshele.

Manje, indlela owenza ngayo lokhu incike ebuhlotsheni bobudlelwano bakho nabo.

Uma kungumngane oseduze noma ilungu lomndeni, yiba nomusa lapho ubatshela futhi uzame ukungabasoli ngakho.

Ungayisho ngesinye isikhathi ngesineke, 'O, unomsindo kakhulu namhlanje, uyaphila?' kunokuba, 'Hawu, uwena njalo kakhulu! ”

Uma bezwa sengathi kade ucabanga ngalokhu, maningi amathuba okuthi bakuthathe mathupha futhi bazizwe bekhashelwa nguwe.

Ngozakwethu osebenza nabo, nabangane nomndeni, ungavele uthembeke ngaphandle kokuvusa inkanuko.

Sondela kulesi simo kahle, ucishe usenze ihlaya uma udinga, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ukubenza bazizwe bekhululekile.

“Ngiyakuthanda, kodwa umemeza kancane! Ake sinqabe umculo ukuze singadingi ukukhuluma kakhulu. ”

Lokhu kubenza bazizwe bephephile futhi bengahlaselwa, futhi, ngokuzisho wena emshweni kunokuba uzikhulumele ngabo futhi yabo ukuziphatha, awubahlukanisi noma ubasole, umane nje udonsela ukunaka kukho.

4. Yiba nenhlonipho.

Kungenzeka ukuthi othile osesitimeleni sakho ekhaya ukhulumela phezulu ocingweni, noma itafula eliseduze kwakho ngesikhathi sokudla liminyanisa imicabango yakho.

Ukusebenzelana nomuntu ongamazi okhulumela phezulu kunzima kakhulu futhi kuyisimo abantu abaningi abazama ukusigwema.

Uma uzizwa unesidingo sokusho okuthile, kwenze ngokuhlonipha okukhulu!

Sondela kuleso simo ngomoya ophansi, uqiniseke ukuthi izwi lakho liphansi futhi lithule.

Qiniseka ukuthi uthi 'ngiyacela' nokuthi 'ngiyabonga.'

Ungazisola kancane uma udinga ukuba njalo. Okuthile okufana nalokhu:

“Ngiyaxolisa, ungakhathazeka yini uma uthi ukuthula, uma kungenzeka, Ngibe nosuku olubi futhi ngizizwa ngikhungathekile impela. ”

Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi uyavuma ukuthi nguwe ocela ukuthi bashintshe indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngenxa yesizathu somuntu siqu, kunokuba umane ubatshele ukuthi bathule ngoba bayacasula kakhulu!

Uma usesikhundleni somphakathi, ungahlala ucela abasebenzi ukuthi bakwenzele lokhu - abasebenzi abalindile bazokuthokozela ngenjabulo ukuya etafuleni okukhulunywa ngalo futhi basikisele ukuthi behlise amaphimbo abo kancane ukuze bangaphazamisi amanye amakhasimende.

Khumbula, uma ngabe ucele othile ukuthi ayigcine phansi, kufanele uhloniphe leso sicelo - lokho kusho ukubeka ifoni yakho buthule, kungenjalo uzoba namahloni kakhulu ngokuzuma ukuthi ube ozwakalayo.

Ungabhekana Kanjani Nezwi Lakho Elikhulu

Uma ufunda lokhu futhi ubona ukuthi kungenzeka kube nguwe onezwi elikhulu, kufanele uthathe imizuzwana embalwa ukucabanga ukuthi kungani lokho kungaba njalo.

Kungaba esinye sezizathu esizibalulile ngenhla, noma kungaba okuhluke ngokuphelele.

Kunoma ikuphi, kunethuba lokuthi othile akuthole uphakamise kakhulu futhi kuhle ukuzazi futhi usebenze ngokunciphisa izwi lakho kancane.

Asisho ukuthi kufanele uhlebe noma ungalokothi ube nothando noma uthokoze lapho ukhuluma, kepha kuhlale kungumqondo omuhle ukucabanga ngokuziphatha kwakho…

1. Lalela kabanzi.

Enye into eyenzekayo uma sikhulumela phezulu ukuthi siyeke ukulalela okushiwo abanye abantu.

Sigoqeka kakhulu emibonweni yethu futhi siyidlulise, noma sitshele ihlaya elihlekisa kakhulu kunawo wonke, size silahlekelwe umkhondo walokho okwenzekayo okusizungezile.

Ngokuzifundisa ukulalela kakhulu, sizohambisana nezwi lethu futhi sithole izindlela zokulilawula.

2. Qapha okwenzayo ngaphambi kokukhuluma.

Esinye sezizathu esenza ngokuzumayo sibe phezulu kakhulu ukushintsha kwemvelo.

Ukushayela umuntu ucingo ngemoto okusho ukuthi kufanele sikhulume kakhulu kunokujwayelekile, okuzizwa kujwayelekile. Lokhu ngokuzumayo kunomsindo omkhulu lapho sikhuluma nomuntu ubuso nobuso.

Ngokulingana, ukulalela umculo onomsindo ngaphambi komhlangano kuzolahla amazinga wevolumu yakho futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzwakale kakhulu kunokujwayelekile lapho ukhuluma.

Cabanga ukuthi iyiphi indawo ozobe ukhuluma kuyo ngokulandelayo (ukuhlangana, ibha ematasa, ikhefi elithulile) futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba nesikhathi phakathi kwezindawo ukuze ukwazi ukulawula ivolumu yakho.

3. Prakthiza izivivinyo zokuphefumula.

Le yindlela enhle yokuthola ukucabanga okuthile osukwini lwakho.

Siphakamisa ukuthi wenze le nto yokuqala usuku ngalunye - kuzokusiza ukujwayela ukuphaphama futhi ubeke ingqondo yakho endaweni enhle ngaphambi kokuthi ukhulume.

Lokho kusho ukuthi uzozixakekisa kancane futhi ube nesikhathi sokuzilungiselela noma yini ephethwe usuku lwakho.

Uzongena osukwini lwakho uzizwa ulinganisile futhi ulungele, ngakho-ke mancane amathuba okuthi uthole wonke ama-het up and off-kilter nomsindo!

Futhi kuyindlela enhle yokuqala usuku futhi uthathe isikhathi sakho.

4. Khuluma wedwa kakhudlwana.

Lokhu kungazwakala kukuxakile, kepha kuyindlela enhle yokuzilungisa ngokwakho kanye namazinga wevolumu yakho.

Uma uthola isethulo, ungajayeza wena ukuthola ithoni efanele (nevolumu) yezwi ongayisebenzisa.

Ukukhuluma wedwa nakho kukujwayeza izwi lakho.

Kuzwakala kuyisilima, ngiyazi, kodwa ezinye izikhulumi ezinomsindo azisetshenziswanga ukuba nezwi, noma ukulisebenzisa, yingakho izinto zingaphuma kakhulu.

Ngokuchitha isikhathi esithile ufunda ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani, okuzwakala kukuhle futhi kuyimvelo kuzokusiza ukwazi ukuvumelana nalokho okufanelekile.

Zama izinto ezimbalwa bese ubona ukuthi yini ekusebenzelayo.

Uma othile ekutshela ukuthi ukhulumela phezulu impela, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuthi ungathathi lukhulu kuwe uqobo.

Kungaba yizizathu ezingaphezu kwamandla akho, noma kungaba umzuzu omuhle wokuzicabangela wena.

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Thatha isikhashana ukuyicubungula - ungaqali ukuqagela ukuxhumana kwakho noma ukwethuka ukuthi wonke umuntu emsebenzini uyakuzonda ngoba unomsindo kancane!

Abantu bakutshela ngoba bayakukhathalela futhi funa ukukulalela, ngevolumu ephansi nje kancane.

Usenelizwi futhi kusabalulekile ukuthi uveze indlela ozizwa ngayo noma lokho ocabanga ngakho, ngakho ungavumeli ukuphawula komunye umuntu ngezwi lakho elikhulu kukuphazamise.

Esikhundleni salokho, zinike isikhathi sokuzijwayeza ukukhuluma kahle futhi ugxile ekutheni umuntu othile ukukhathalela ngokwanele ukuthi athembeke futhi abe nomusa nawe.

Futhi khumbula - izwi elikhulu kakhulu ekamelweni alihlali liduma njalo!