9 Amathiphu Obudlelwano Lapho Uthandana Nomuntu Omncane

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Cabanga ngalesi simo: uhlangana nendoda emangalisayo, une-chemistry esheshayo, futhi ulahlekile ezingxoxweni ezivusa amadlingozi amahora.



Uyahlekisa futhi unempilo, ubulili buyamangalisa, futhi ujabule kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili.

… Inkinga ukuthi, uneminyaka embalwa (noma ngaphezulu kokumbalwa!) Omncane kunawe, futhi awazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngalokho.



Abanye benu kungenzeka ukuthi bake baba kulesi simo, kuyilapho abanye bengase besabe ukubhekana naleli themba.

Kepha kungani lokhu kubonakala njenge 'nkinga'?

Kungani sixhomeke emqondweni wokuthi abesifazane kufanele bathandane nabesilisa abadala kuphela (noma ukuthi amadoda kufanele / angakhangwa kuphela ngabesifazane abasebasha)?

Kungani ungaqomi nensizwa?

Izindinganiso eziphindwe kabili zomphakathi zingaphezu kokuhlekisa kancane, akunjalo?

Isibonelo, bambalwa abantu abacabanga kabili ngosaziwayo wesilisa othandana nowesifazane oneminyaka engu-15, 20, noma ngisho engu-25 yobudala bakhe, kodwa balk uma umlingani wowesifazane odumile emncane ngisho nangeminyaka emihlanu kunaye.

UJohnny Depp wayeneminyaka engama-22 emdala kuno-Amber Heard ngenkathi beshada, kanti intombi kaLeonardo DiCaprio ingu-23 omncane kunaye.

Kepha-ke, owesifazane osekhulile + owesifazane omncane ubonakala amukeleka njengejwayelekile impela.

Ngemuva kwakho konke, abesifazane abasha babhekwa njengabathandekayo ngoba bagcwele ubungqabavu bobusha, ingasaphathwa eyokuzala. Bayabanjwa, akunjalo?

Njengoba abesifazane bevuthwa, sithambekele ekubhekweni njengabomama kunokuba sifiseleke, noma ngabe sike saba nezingane noma cha.

Isalukazi + indoda esencane ayiqondakali kalula kangako.

Lokhu kubhanqwa kuvame ukubonwa njengokungekhona okwemvelo, ngokumelene ne-biology eyisisekelo. Ukuphelelwa yithemba, ngisho.

Igama elithi 'cougar' livame ukusetshenziselwa ukuchaza lezi zibhangqwana, okusho ukuthi owesifazane osekhulile ungumzingeli ozingela insizwa engenacala.

Iqiniso ukuthi ubudlelwano nendoda esencane abuhlukile kakhulu kunobudlelwano nomuntu ontanga yakho, noma omdala.

Impela, kuzoba nezingqinamba ongazulazula kuzo, kepha lokho kuyahambisana nenkambo kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobambiswano, akunjalo?

Uke wahlangana nendoda enhle kakhulu, kepha ukhathazekile ngobuhle nobubi bobudlelwano naye?

Ake singene kumathiphu ambalwa awusizo angakusiza.

1. Khumbula ukuthi ukuvuthwa akuchazwanga ngeminyaka.

Ngisanda kweluleka umngane wami ngenkinga yobudlelwano eyamshiya ehlelekile.

Isoka lakhe belimjikijele ngento ebucayi ngempela futhi laphuma ngesankahlu endlini, lishaya isicabha ngemuva kwakhe.

Ube esehlukana nobudlelwano ngombhalo, waphikelela ekutheni aphume endlini ukuze aqoqe izinto zakhe ngaphandle kokubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukubhekana ngeziqu zamehlo.

Kuzwakala njengenkinga owesifazane angaba nayo nomlingani omncane kakhulu, akunjalo?

Ngeshwa, le ndoda okukhulunywa ngayo isineminyaka yobudala engama-50, okufakazela ukuthi ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo akuhlangene neze nesikhathi sokulandelana komuntu.

Phinda lokho kuwe: ukuvuthwa akuhlangene nakancane nobudala.

Owesifazane oseminyakeni yama-30s kungenzeka ukuthi ungene shí emsebenzini wakhe, noma kungenzeka ukuthi usahlala ekhaya, uzama ukuzithola.

Angaba ngumama wezingane ezine, noma i-skateboarder esithandayo.

Uma ehole impilo evikeleke kakhulu, angahle angakhuli ngokomzwelo, uma kuqhathaniswa nowesifazane obezihlalela yedwa selokhu aneminyaka eyishumi nambili.

Ngokufanayo, umfana odlule kokuningi phakathi nempilo yakhe angaba ngu- okuningi ovuthiwe ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo futhi onokwethenjelwa kunomuntu ophindwe kabili kuneminyaka yakhe.

Ngokuphambene, indoda eseyikhulile eboshiwe futhi yafakwa amakhodi impilo yayo yonke ingahle ibe nokuvuthwa okuphelele kwentsha.

Lokho kusho…

2.Qiniseka ukuthi indoda yakho ayifuni umama 2.0.

Kungumqondo omuhle ukunquma kusenesikhathi ukuthi ngabe umlingani wakho, empeleni, ufuna umuntu ozongena esikhundleni sakhe.

Iningi labesilisa abasebasha likhangwa abesifazane asebekhulile ngoba bayathanda ukuba nomuntu ozozinakekela.

Laba bantu bavame ukuba yibo abashiya ikhaya sekwedlule isikhathi, futhi babenomama ababenzela konke okuhle ngenkathi behlala ekhaya.

Omama babo ngabe bakwenze konke kusuka ukuwasha izingubo nokuhlunga izimali zabo, ukupheka nokuhlanza ngenkathi bedlala imidlalo yevidiyo.

Kungenzeka la madoda angabi nawo UPeter Pan syndrome ngamunye, kepha bavame ukuba nokuthambekela kokuyeka umthwalo wabo wemfanelo.

Kalula nje, bafundile ukulindela ukuthi omunye umuntu uzongena futhi anakekele izinto, ngakho-ke akudingeki.

Uma uzithola uzibandakanya nomfana onje, ungalindeli ukuthi uzokwazi ukumshintsha.

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Ungazama ukumphoqa ukuba asukume futhi aziphendulele yena, kodwa mhlawumbe uzogcina ekucasukele ngakho.

Kungenzeka abuqede ubudlelwano futhi athole omunye wesifazane ozomnakekela, noma athandane nentombazane esencane kakhulu engeke izame ukumenza enze noma yini.

Izinkomba okufanele uziqaphele:

Abantu bayehlisa ukuqapha kwabo futhi benze ngokweqiniso ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngakho-ke qaphela noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okususa amafulegi abomvu.

- Ngabe indawo yakhe ivame ukuba nobubi?

- Uyaziphekela, noma ujwayele ukungena / ukuhleleka?

- Ngabe uthola ukuthi ucela usizo ngezinto okufanele akwazi ukuzenzela zona?

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3. Ungangeni endimeni 'kathisha'.

Le yindlela eyodwa eqinisekile yokuguqula ubudlelwano bakho bezothando njengamanje bube yindawo yomngani we-platonic.

Umfana omncane othandana naye kungenzeka angabi nakho okwengeziwe empilweni njengawe, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi udinga ukumnikeza zonke izimpendulo azifunayo.

Futhi akufanele kulindeleke ukuthi umtholele izinto zakhe.

Uma uthola ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho buhamba ngale ndlela, setha imingcele ethile.

Angazizwa ekhululekile ukukucela ukuholwa, futhi lokho kuhle… ngezikhathi ezithile.

Kepha uma uhlala ubekwa kuleyo ndima, ubudlelwano obunamandla buyoshintsha ngokushesha okukhulu.

Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzokubona njengomuntu onegunya noma umnakekeli onjalo okhona ukumqondisa nokumvikela.

Ngokunjalo, imibono yakho ngaye izodlulela kokunye okungaphezulu kakhulu… kukamama.

Ngaphandle kokuthi ungene ku-Oedipal dynamics, akuwona umgwaqo ofuna ukwehla kuwo.

Uma ezwa ukuthi ufuna / udinga owesifazane osekhulile empilweni yakhe ukuthi amnikeze izeluleko nokuholwa, phakamisa ukuthi athole umelaphi noma umeluleki ongamgcwalisela leyo ndima.

Nobabili akufanele nibe yikho konke komunye nomunye, ngakho-ke gcinani leyo mingcele enempilo, noma ngabe kudingeka niqine ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze niyigcine isendaweni.

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

4. Vuma ukuthi kungenzeka unamazinga ahlukene wamandla.

Uma kunegebe leminyaka engaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu, ungathola ukuthi umlingani wakho unamandla amakhulu kakhulu kunawe.

Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma uqhubeka nomsebenzi wakho kunaye, noma uma unezingane ezivela ebudlelwaneni obudlule.

Kungenzeka abe semcabangweni wokuyophuza ngobusuku bangoMgqibelo futhi angakhasuki aye ekhaya kuze kube yizikhathi zeSonto ekuseni, kuyilapho uthambekele kakhulu ekuzihlanganiseni neNetflix nebhodlela elihle kakhulu leCabernet Sauvignon.

Yilapho ukuxhumana nokuyekethisa kungena khona: ungahle ubhekane nobusuku ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi angahle ajabulele ubusuku obuthile e.

Lapho ungenawo amandla okuba 'WOOOOOO !!' Kuthi kuze kuse, umthume yena nabalingani bakhe. Bangaya enkantini futhi angakutshela ngakho konke nge-brunch sekwephuzile ngeSonto.

Ngokufanayo, uma ephuma nabafana, chitha isikhathi nezintombi zakho, noma ujabulele ubusuku obudingeka kakhulu wedwa.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuba nomuntu osemncane empilweni yakho kungakugcina usebenza kakhulu kunalokho obuyoba khona.

Uma uthola imisebenzi yomzimba eningayijabulela nobabili, kuhle lokho! Kuzoba yindlela enhle kakhulu ukuba nobabili nichithe isikhathi ndawonye, ​​ngenkathi futhi nizigcina nilungile futhi nisebenza.

U-Same uya ocansini: i-libido yakhe ingahle ibe phezulu kakhulu kuneyakho, ngakho-ke leyo yinto oyodinga ukuyibhekana ngokuhlakanipha.

Kungenzeka angabi namandla okuziqhayisa indoda esikhulile, kepha angakukhokhela lokho ngokulungela ukuhamba izikhathi eziningana ebusuku.

Njengebhonasi eyengeziwe, abesifazane abaningi bathola ukuthi ukushayela kwabo ngokocansi empeleni kukhuphuka kakhulu ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engama-35.

Uma ubandakanyeka kowesilisa osemncane, maningi amathuba okuthi ungaqondaniswa kahle kunokuba ukhathele.

5. Yivulele imibono emisha nokuhlangenwe nakho.

Lokhu kungahle kuye ebhodini, empeleni.

Ungahle ube nethani lezinto enifana ngazo, kepha maningi amathuba okuthi abe nomunwe wakhe ekushayweni kwezinto ezithile ongakaze uzizwe, futhi ngokufanayo!

Isibonelo, umehluko weminyaka embalwa nje wanele ukuthi nina nobabili nibe nezinhlobonhlobo zezintshisakalo zomculo omunye angakaze ezwe ngazo. Leli yithuba elihle kini nobabili lokuthola inqwaba yamaqembu 'amasha-kini'.

Okufanayo kuya kwezincwadi, ifilimu, imibukiso ye-TV, imidlalo, ubuciko… uyiqamba igama.

Uma ungakaze udlale umdlalo wevidiyo phambilini, ungahle uthambekele emcabangweni wokwenza kanjalo ngoba uwuthatha njengowentsha.

Kepha kuwumqondo omuhle ukuzama okuthile ngaphambi kokuvula ikhala lakho: ungathola ukuthi empeleni ukujabulela kakhulu ukudlala.

umuntu angashintsha yini owesifazane amthandayo

Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzobe uhlangana nezinsuku zasebusuku zeSkyrim futhi uzoqhuma ngenkathi wenza kanjalo.

6. Qonda ukuthi kulungile impela ukuba nezintshisekelo ezahlukahlukene.

Umlingani wami mncane kunami, futhi sisebenza kahle ngokubambisana emazingeni amaningi.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, yize umehluko weminyaka ungemkhulu, ubanzi ngokwanele ukuthi sinokuthambekela okuthe ukuhluka kancane uma kukhulunywa ngokuzijabulisa nezinto esizithandayo.

Impela, ungiklolodela ngobumnene ngokuthi empeleni ngiyathanda ukunitha, futhi ngigingqa amehlo ami ngokudlala lapho echitha amahora ecabanga ngomdlalo wevidiyo, kodwa konke kumnandi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, izintshisekelo zethu zisinikeza isikhathi nendawo sodwa ukwenza izinto zethu, noma ukuphuma nabanye abangane.

Awudingi ukuba nayo yonke into oyithandayo nokuzilibazisa ngokufana nomlingani wakho. Eqinisweni, kunempilo uma ungenjalo!

Kubaluleke kakhulu kini nobabili ukuba nibe nezinto zokuzilibazisa nezintshisekelo ezahlukahlukene eningazenza ngesikhathi senu.

Abantu abaningi kubonakala sengathi bacabanga ukuthi badinga ukwenza yonke into ngokuphelele nabalingani babo, kepha iqiniso ukuthi ukubumbana kakhulu kungaba yingozi.

Ngokufanayo, kubalulekile kuwe ukuhlanganyela nabangane ngokuzimela, noma ngabe ukuhlangana endaweni yokucima ukoma, noma imidlalo yeqembu, noma ukuphuma kwegalari yezobuciko… noma yini okuyo. Isikhathi kude nomunye, nabantu emangalisayo obakhathalelayo.

Ngabe ujwayelene nesisho esithi “ukujwayela kuzala ukwedelelwa”?

Ngamazwi alula, isikhathi esiningi ndawonye singenza nibambe izinzwa zomunye nomunye. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma kunokungafani okuqaphelekayo ezithakazelweni zakho.

Isibonelo, angahle afune ukuthi inkampani iye emcimbini ongenandaba ngempela nawo.

Ungahle uhambe naye ngomuzwa wesibopho, kepha ube nesikhathi esibuhlungu.

Uzolicasukela iqiniso lokuthi awuzijabulisi, uzoba nobumnandi obuncane, futhi ungagcina unengxabano ngakho.

Noma okuphambene nalokho.

Mkhuthaze ukuthi abe nombuthano wakhe emphakathini, nawe uhlakulele owakho.

Ngeke nje nobabili nenze izinto enizithandayo nabantu abesabekayo, nizoba nezindaba ezintsha enizozaba lapho nibuya.

7. Dedela noma yikuphi ukuphepha.

Abanye besifazane bathe bayesaba ukuthandana nowesilisa osemncane ngoba 'nakanjani' uzomshiya aye komunye wesifazane - ikakhulukazi lowo abacabanga ukuthi muhle / ulungile / unentshisekelo kunaye.

Darling, uma efuna ukuba nomunye umuntu, ubengaba njalo.

Unawe ngoba efuna ukuba, ngoba uyamangalisa. Ukuphela kwe-.

Abesifazane bafundiswe ukuthi bancintisane njalo, nenkolo yentsha ifuna ukuthi sizame ukubukeka sisebancane ngangokunokwenzeka, isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.

Eqinisweni, wonke umuntu ukhangwa yizici ezahlukahlukene, futhi amadoda amaningi akhetha abesifazane asebekhulile ngezizathu eziningi ezahlukahlukene.

Okunye kwalokhu ukuthi umuntu ovuthwe kakhulu ngokwasemoyeni mancane amathuba okuthi adlale imidlalo.

Futhi, sonke sikhula ngamanani ahlukene, kunezici ezisukela kwezofuzo kuya kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu nobunzima konke kucatshangelwe.

Igumbi eligcwele izingane ezineminyaka engama-35 engama-35 lizokhombisa indawo ebanzi yabantu. Abanye bazobukeka bebancane, abanye bazobukeka bekhulile.

Kuzoba namazinga ahlukahlukene okuqina namandla, izinwele ezimpunga (noma ukungabi bikho kwazo), kanye nezintshisekelo ezisukela ekushibilikeni ngesikebhe kuye kuma-Agatha Christie TV marathons.

Uma uwuhlobo lowesifazane othathe isithakazelo - nenhliziyo - yendoda esencane, kungenxa yokuthi umangalisa ngokuphelele emehlweni akhe.

Ngumnikazi wayo.

8. Khumbula ukuxhumana.

Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke ubudlelwano, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu lapho kuvalwa igebe leminyaka.

Ukufunda ukuxhumana kahle kuthatha isikhathi, futhi uma umdala ngeminyaka eminingana kunomlingani wakho, unaleyo minyaka eyengeziwe yokufunda ufunde ukuthi ungaziveza kanjani, nokuthi ulalela kanjani ngokucophelela nangokunaka.

Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungakuzwa kanjani okushiwo omunye umuntu ngaphandle kokuthatha izinto mathupha, noma ngokushesha weqe ngomphimbo.

Kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho akazange awathuthukise wonke lawa makhono okwamanje, futhi kuzodingeka ubekezele kulokho.

Eqinisweni, angafunda esibonelweni sakho futhi athuthukise amakhono wokuxhumana asebenza ngokushesha okukhulu, kepha kungumbono omuhle ukuthi uzilungiselele ukuqhuma ngezikhathi ezithile okungahambisani nezinga lakho lokuvuthwa.

Uma lezi zingxabano zenzeka futhi nini, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuzikhomba kumlingani wakho kunokuba umane uzibe.

Ukukhula noshintsho akwenzeki lapho sigcina isimo esikhona ngenxa yokuthula.

Lapho izinto sezizolile, mchazele uhlangothi lwakho lwezinto, bese wenza iziphakamiso zokuthi nizokwazi kanjani ukuxhumana ngokucacile ngokuzayo.

Ngendlela efanayo, zama ukugwema ukwehlisa noma ukukhubeka kwamandla uma ucasukile.

Iningi labesilisa abasebasha lingahlushwa i- 'foot-in-mouth syndrome' uma bengakafundi ukuthi bangaba nekhono elingakanani kunokuqhumisa noma yini esemqondweni wabo, lapho ivela.

Ukusabela kwakho emadolweni lapho ulinyazwa ngamazwi angenamusa kungenzeka kube ukumlimaza naye, kepha zama ukubuyela emuva ubone konke ukushintshana ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka ngokomzwelo.

Ngabe wayebukeka sengathi wayehlose ukulimaza?

Noma ngabe usho okuthile okuvele ekhanda lakhe ngesikhathi esingafanele?

Cabanga ithoni yezwi lakhe, ukushukuma komzimba, njll. Ingabe wayenonya, noma engakhohlwa?

Lezi yizinto okungadingeka ukuthi ubhekane nazo nomlingani osemncane kuze kube yilapho efunda ukuqaphela kakhulu izimo zomzwelo zabanye abantu nezingqondo zabo. Kungadingeka nokuthi afunde kabanzi ngemingcele.

Ngokufanayo, uma usemodini lapho angakwazi khona ukuzicwilisa ngempela, kungadingeka ukuthi umlethele lokho ngendlela emnene, engahluleli.

Ukusikisela ukuthi nobabili nichithe isikhathi esithe xaxa nenza izinto ezimnandi ndawonye kuyindlela enhle.

Ukumthethisa ukuthi ayeke ukukuphatha njengefenisha ngenkathi edlala imidlalo efonini yakhe akusebenzi kangako.

9. Ungayiphatha kanjani imibono yabanye abantu ngobudlelwano bakho.

Ukusesha kwe-inthanethi okusheshayo mayelana nemibhangqwana 'yowesifazane osekhulile, owesilisa osemncane' kuzokukhombisa okubi kakhulu umphakathi ongakunikeza.

kungani ngifuna ubuhlobo kabi kangaka

Hlala kude nanoma yini ethunyelwe ku-Twitter, futhi uvikele isigaba samazwana kunoma iyiphi indawo yokuhleba yosaziwayo.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, uzokhungatheka kakhulu ngamazwi abantu adelelayo.

Ngokuphambene nalokho, lapho empeleni unaka okushiwo ngamadoda amancane ngabalingani / abafazi babo asebekhulile, bakhuluma ngokuthi bakhula kangakanani ngothando nokusekelwa okungenamkhawulo abakutholayo.

Ngenkathi iningi labesifazane abasebasha liphendukela emadodeni amadala ukuze bazizwe bephephile, abesifazane asebekhulile bayazethemba futhi bayazethemba ngokwabo.

Abesifazane abangadingi ukuqinisekiswa njalo bakhanga kakhulu kwabesilisa, ikakhulukazi abasebasha abakhathele ngabaswele, amantombazane anamathele abafuna konke ukunakwa kwabo.

Abesifazane asebekhulile banezintshisekelo zabo, futhi bayakwazisa indawo yabo, futhi, futhi, bakhuthaza abalingani babo ukuthi bakhule njengabantu ngabanye - hhayi nje njengezandiso zabo.

Kuzoba khona abantu ababukela phansi ubudlelwano bakho, impela… kodwa-ke, lezo zinhlobo zabantu zingathola iphutha cishe kunoma yikuphi ukubambisana.

Lokho akuhlangene nakancane nawe, futhi konke kuhlobene nezinkinga zabo siqu.

Iphuzu eliyinhloko yilokhu: abantu bazocabanga noma yini abayithandayo, futhi kukuwe ukuthi unqume ukuthi imibono yabo ibalulekile yini kuwe noma cha.

Ekugcineni, ubudala empeleni buyinombolo nje, futhi uthando lweqa imingcele yabantu.

Uma nithandana, futhi nijabule, yilokho kuphela okubalulekile.

Yibani nobuhle komunye nomunye, nijabulelane, futhi ningazivumeli ukuba nivinjelwe yinkohliso yesikhathi.

Ngabe awunasiqiniseko ngokungena nokuphuma kokuthandana nendoda emncane kunawe? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.