Uke wezwa ngegama elithi 'manolescent' okwamanje? Kuyinkulumo yakamuva, kepha efanelekile ukuchaza uhlobo oluthile lomfana… okungukuthi lowo, njengoPeter Pan, ayifuni ukukhula . Iningi lethu kungenzeka lazi okungenani umfana oyedwa onjengalona - onomusa okomfana futhi omnandi ukuzihlalela naye, nokho ongenamsebenzi ngokuphelele njengomuntu omdala.
Ngokobudlelwano bobudlelwano, kungaba nzima ukufika ekuqapheliseni ukuthi indoda nguwe umcabango ubukade nithandana kuyinto evikelayo, elula eyindoda-ingane enqaba ukuhlangana ndawonye.
Ngezansi kunezimpawu ezimbalwa eziqinile zokuthi umlingani wakho akayona indoda obucabanga ukuthi uyiyona, kepha kunalokho uyingane ende, enoboya ogqoke isudi yomuntu.
'Ukukhula' Kumcindezela
Ukulutha kwalo mfana kuyo yonke into emnandi nenenhliziyo elula kungathandeka kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, njengoba kungamenza ahleke ngempela ukuba naye. Angakumangaza ngempelasonto ekude, ukukuhudulela ngaphandle ukuze ube nepikinikini yaphakathi kwamabili e-zoo, noma ugcizelele ama-pancake we-chocolate chip njengengxenye yomncintiswano wamalanga wonke wekhathuni. Ngokuyisisekelo, ukuba naye kuhle ngoba kukusiza ukuthi ubalekele kukho konke ukucindezela okukhulu, kwabantu abadala kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo obhekana nayo nsuku zonke.
Umbango uqhamuka lapho lezo zingqinamba zidinga ukuthi kubhekwane nazo, lapho athukuthele futhi acasuke. Angazilahla lezi zinkinga ngokuqondile futhi agcizelele ukuthi azibalulekile kangako, noma amane aziqhelelanise nesimo ngokugxila kokunye okumnandi kakhulu, njengemidlalo eku-inthanethi.
uyazi ukuthi ngiyamthanda kodwa uyangithanda
Umnotho awunamali, ukucindezelwa umsebenzi kufinyelela kuwo wonke umuntu, isikweletu siqongelela, nezinkinga zezempilo azigwemeki. Zonke lezi zinto zidala ukuthi uMnu. Manboy abuyele esimeni sobusha obuthinta imizwa, ngakho-ke ngokuyisisekelo ushiywe nentshebe enentshebe ezosebenzisa imali yayo ukuthola izidakamizwa noma izibalo zezenzo esikhundleni sezikweletu noma zokudla.
Akakwazi Ukusingatha Ukungqubuzana. Kube bonke.
Indoda ephethwe yiPeter Pan Syndrome ngokuvamile iphendula ukungqubuzana ngenye yezindlela ezimbili:
1. Ukubaleka: uzohamba noma anyathele engxoxweni, ashiye indlu, noma ayozivalela egumbini lapho angaziphazamisa khona ngemidlalo noma avele azigoqe ngaphansi kwenqwaba yezingubo ukuze akhale njengosana lwezithandani wamahora.
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2. Ukuziphindiselela: uzolinganisa bese eletha izinto acabanga ukuthi (noma azi) ukuthi zizokucasula ukuthi 'abuyele kuwe' ngokumenza azizwe ecasukile. Ama-tantrum ajwayelekile, njengokubiza amagama kanye / noma ukuphonsa izinto.
Njengoba impilo izoba nezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi, futhi ukungqubuzana kuzoba okungenakugwemeka, lezi yizindlela ezimbili ongabhekana nazo ne-puerile manchild yakho yomlingani. Ujabule okwamanje?
Usegqoka Njengengane
Kuningi okungashiwo ngokugqoka ngendlela ekwenza uzizwe umuhle ngawe, kepha uma umlingani wakho eneminyaka engama-40 futhi egqoke isitayela esifanayo sezingubo ayezigqoka ngenkathi esemusha, lokho kancane… ukubekwa eceleni.
Ukuzivumelanisa nesitayela sakhe asithandayo kuya eminyakeni yobudala kulungile: ukuphila iqiniso lomuntu kubalulekile, futhi uma umfo ezizwa ejabule kakhulu kuma-jean, ngokuxoxa, nangehembe eligezwe kahle likaMorcheeba analo iminyaka engama-25, kuhle. Kulungile, uyazethemba futhi lokho kungaba yinto enhle. Uma enqaba ukusebenza noma yikuphi okungeke kumvumele agqoke kanjalo, noma uma lolu hlobo lwengubo luthathwa njengolwamukelekayo emishadweni, emingcwabeni, nokunye okunjalo, lokho kuyaphazamisa.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
ungasho kanjani ukuthi owesifazane uyangithanda
- Ungabuthola Kanjani Ubuhlobo Obuyimpumelelo Ne-Manolescent
- Ungabulungisa Ubuhlobo Ohlangothini Olunye Noma Kufanele Ubuphelise?
- 6 Izimpawu Ezinkulu Uzakwenu Ukubona Njengendlela Yokukhetha, Hhayi Ukuza Kuqala
- Codependency Vs Caring: Ukwehlukanisa phakathi Kokulimazayo Nokusizayo
- Izindlela Ezi-7 Zokusiza Othandekayo Kungaba Impilo
- Izindlela Ezi-4 Ukungabi Nalo Uzwelo Kuzokonakalisa Ubudlelwano Bakho
Uphezulu Noma Udakiwe Esikhathini Esiningi
Uzijabulisa nje, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke kumnandi impela ukuthi usebenzise imali yegrosa ukhula newayini elishibhile wabe esedinga ukuzitika ngokweqile ukuze abuke iNetflix ukuze athole izindaba zezindaba eziningana zemibukiso. Kwesokudla.
I-Escapism iyisici esivame kakhulu phakathi kwezingane, ngakho-ke uma eyinhlobo 'yokuvuka abhake' noma aqale ukuphuza ngokushesha nje lapho evela ekhaya evela emsebenzini (uma enomsebenzi…), kunesizathu sokukhathazeka. Ukuphuza nabangani ngempelasonto kuyinto eyodwa, kepha uma ngokweqiniso ungazi ukuthi umlingani wakho unjani lapho engasangulukile, kuhle, lokho kuyamangaza futhi kuyakhathaza kumazinga angenakubalwa.
Izinto Eziza Kuqala Zakhe Ziyanqotshwa
Kungadingeka ukuthi akhunjuzwe ukuthi akhokhe irenti yakhe njalo ngenyanga futhi ngeke ahlanze izingubo aze aphelelwe yizingubo ezihlanzekile, kepha ungabheja ukuthi uchithe amasonto amaningi ecwaninga ngezakhiwo ezikhethekile nezingubo zomlingiswa wakhe weWorld of Warcraft… uye wakhuphukela esimweni esihle ngenkathi wenza izinto ezifana nokuhlela izikweletu noma ukuhlanza ifriji.
Angakhala futhi akhononde ngokuhamba yonke indlela eya esitolo ayothatha amanabukeni noma okokuhlanza izingubo ngoba lokho kuzobeka isifaca esikhulu osukwini lwakhe, kepha ungabheja ukuthi ngeke abe nankinga ukunikela usuku (noma amathathu) ukuphinde abuke wonke amafilimu ama-Avengers ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akaphuthelwa lutho okokuqala ngqa.
Akenzi Isabelo Sakhe Sokuhlanzwa Kwezindlu
Lapho abantu abadala asebekhulile abangamadonki behlanganyela endaweni yokuhlala, ngokuvamile kulindeleke ukuthi nabo babelane ngemisebenzi yokugcinwa kwendlu. Akunjalo ngomuntu wesilisa. Mhlawumbe uwuhlobo lomuntu onabazali abenza konke ukuhlanza ngakho-ke bekungeke kudingeke (ngiyabonga ngalokho, umama nobaba!), Ngakho-ke manje akaboni lapho le ndawo iyisikhukhukazi sezingulube, futhi akanakho cabanga ukuthi ungaziwasha kanjani izingubo noma uhlanze.
uma uzongithanda
* Isimemezelo senkonzo yomphakathi kubazali: ngenkathi wena ucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi wenzela ingane yakho umusa omkhulu ngokungayenzi ukuba yenze noma imiphi imisebenzi yasekhaya, empeleni uyayilimaza nganoma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane angazibandakanya naye ngokuzayo. Gcina lokho engqondweni.
Awukwazi Ukuthembela Kuye
… Ngaphandle kwalapho eyolanda ubhiya endleleni eya ekhaya evela emsebenzini, noma enye into ayithatha njengemnandi noma ebalulekile. Uma ukwenza kucace ukuthi umcimbi othile ubalulekile kuwe, kuzofanele uzenzele wena wonke amalungiselelo awo ngaphandle kokuthi umthande ezingeni le-epic, ngeke akwenze kwenzeke. Ngokufanayo, uma kunokuthile okubalulekile okudinga ukwenziwa, kodwa empeleni akafuni ukubhekana nakho, uzohlehlisa, abeke izaba zokuthi kungani kungenziwa, futhi / noma achezele umthwalo ngokuphelele. Kuzodingeka ukuthi athembele kuwe, kunjalo, ikakhulukazi ngokwezezimali, kepha uma izindima zidinga ukubuyiselwa emuva, uzolahlekelwa yi-shit yakhe futhi angazi nakancane wtf ukwenza.
ngubani i-youtuber ecebe kakhulu
Ngezansi: uma kungabalulekanga ngempela kuye, akubalulekanga nakancane.
Kuyakhathaza ngendlela emangalisayo futhi kukhungathekise ukufika ekuqapheliseni ukuthi yize ningaba umbhangqwana, ukuphela komuntu ongethembela kuye nguwe uqobo. Ngethemba ukuthi ukuqaphela kuzosheshe kusheshe, ngakho-ke ungakhululeka ebudlelwaneni ngaphambi kokuba unamathele ekubhekaneni nezinto ezinjengokukhulisa izingane nokukhokhelwa kwempahla yakho wedwa.
Kunezici eziningi ezingaba neqhaza kuPeter Pan syndrome, kusukela ekushodweni kwesiyalo ngesikhathi sobuntwana kuya ekungalingani kwamakhemikhali, kepha zimbalwa izindlela zokukuguqula. Uma umfana wakho ekhombisa konke (noma ngisho nokuningi) kwezici ezingenhla, kuzofanele uziqinise ngekusasa lapho uzoba ngumzali kakhulu kunomlingani. Uma lokho kukukhanga, uzobe usuthole ilotho yobudlelwano. Uma kungenjalo… kahle, kungadingeka ukuthi uthembeke kakhulu kuwe mayelana nezidingo zakho zobudlelwano, bese unquma ukuthi ngabe lokhu kungukusebenzisana okungakwenza ujabule.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi wenzeni ngesoka lakho elingavuthiwe? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
