Buza umuntu osemgwaqweni ukuthi iyini injongo yokuphila futhi kungenzeka uhlangane nokugqoloza okungenalutho.
Kungenxa yokuthi, ngenkathi siphila isikhathi eside kunakuqala futhi sijabulela ukunethezeka obekungaba yizinto zamaphupho eminyakeni eyi-100 eyedlule kuphela, umphakathi awuzukuthola umbuzo oyisisekelo osezingqondweni zawo wonke umuntu: liyini iphuzu lakho konke ?
Udokotela wezifo zengqondo wase-Austrian uViktor E. Frankl waqamba igama elithi ‘i-vacuum vacuum’ encwadini yakhe yonyaka ka-1946 ethi Man’s Search For Meaning futhi wayihlonza “njengomuzwa wokuphila ngokuphelele nokungenanjongo.
Njengabantu, sesizuze ikhono impilo yemibuzo okuthile okudlula okungokwemvelo okungokwemvelo kokhokho bethu bezilwane. Ngasikhathi sinye, isiko lethu lendabuko lokuziphilisa nemibono yalo emincane kakhulu selithathelwe indawo yilowo osinikeza ukukhetha okungenamkhawulo nethuba.
Asisaphoqiwe ukulandela okhokho bethu singaba yinoma yini esifuna ukuba yikho.
Futhi-ke, lokhu-ke kucela lo mbuzo: sifuna ukuba yini?
Ukuze siqale ukuphendula lokhu, sibheke emphakathini ukuthola ukuholwa futhi, ngaleli cala, umphakathi uyehluleka.
Ikwenza lokhu ngezindlela eziningi, kepha nazi izindlela eziyi-9 ezibucayi kakhulu:
1. Ukuphishekela Injabulo
Ngicabanga ukuthi sonke sifuna injabulo ngenye indlela futhi angiphikisani nokuphishekela okunjalo ngokuphambene, ngikholwa ukuthi kungaba ngumshayeli wenguquko enhle kumuntu ngamunye.
Ukungabaza kwami kubhekiswe ngqo emphakathini wethu kanye nomlayezo oyisisekelo wokuthi kubonakala sengathi kusakaza umyalezo wokuthi noma yini enye ngaphandle kwenjabulo ukugula. Ukuthi asikwazi ukudabuka, asikwazi ukuzizwa silahlekile, futhi asinakubonwa ukuthi siyalwa.
Umphakathi waseMelika ubonakala usengozini yokuthola le nhloso, kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi ubukeka ucwilile emoyeni wobumbano wesizwe.
Inkinga ilele ekutheni awukwazi ukuphoqa injabulo kubantu. Ngakho-ke, lapho uzizwa unganelisekile, ungahlanganyeli noma nje udabukile ngento ethize, umphumela uba umuzwa wokuhlukaniswa namahloni.
2. Ukuthenga / Ukuthanda Izinto
Iningi labantu libonakala lifuna okwengeziwe empilweni, kungakhathalekile ukuthi selivele linakho. Bafuna ukuthenga izinto eziningi nezinto ezinhle ngomzamo wokuzizwa bephelele.
Noma ngabe ukubiza ngokuthenga abathengi noma ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo, kunempikiswano eqinile yokuthi konke kuyimbangela futhi kuyizimpawu zokungabikho okukhona.
Imfuno yethu engapheli yokuthola incazelo ngokusetshenziswa kwayo ingubufakazi bokuba khona kwesikhala. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi sisemjahweni wezingathekiso wezikhali nontanga yethu ukubakhipha futhi sibona isikhundla sethu etafuleni leligi elithanda izinto ezibonakalayo njengophawu lwempumelelo yethu empilweni.
Vele, kunezinqwaba zezinkampani laphaya ezijabule kakhulu ukusinikeza ukusakazwa okungapheli kwezinto ezintsha nezikhethekile 'okumele-ube nazo' futhi lokhu kunikela kuphela kumjikelezo wokuziqinisa.
3. Ezokuxhumana
Bekuvame ukuthi ube nesiyingi esincane sabangane obukade uxhumana nabo nokuthi ukwenza lokho bekudinga ukukhuluma nabo ocingweni noma ukuhlangana nabo mathupha.
Dlulisela phambili kuze kube namuhla futhi ungakhuluma nanoma ubani kakhulu, noma kuphi, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Imithombo yezokuxhumana isivumele ukuthi siqoqe 'abangani' kanye 'nabalandeli' ngezinga lokuthi iningi lethu selingakwazi ukuxhumana namakhulu noma izinkulungwane zabantu ngasikhathi sinye.
Impela, ukuxhumana okunjalo okusheshayo kungashukumisela ushintsho - bheka nje iqhaza elibanjwe yi-Twitter kwi-Arab Spring - kepha futhi kusinika iwindi ezimpilweni zabantu abaningi kakhulu.
Ngokubona izimpilo zabantu abaningi, nakanjani ungazigweba ngokhahlo. Kunabantu abanemisebenzi engcono kunawe, abalingani ababukeka kangcono, izindlu ezingcono, izimoto ezingcono, amaholide abukeka kahle, imali eningi, nokuphila komndeni okujabulisayo akupheli izindlela esingaziqhathanisa nabanye ngazo.
Lapho abantu abaningi 'obaziyo', kulapho abantu oyobona ukuthi benza kangcono kunawe. Ngaphambi kwezinkundla zokuxhumana, ungahle ukwazi ukuziqhathanisa nabangani bakho, amalungu omndeni, mhlawumbe nabantu abadumile. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi abangani bakho abasondelene kungenzeka babe nesizinda sezenhlalo nezomnotho esifanayo nawe, umehluko kwingcebo nempumelelo yemali wawumncane kakhulu. Konke lokho sekuphelile manje.
4. Ukuvuka Kosaziwayo
Umphakathi wanamuhla ugcizelela osaziwayo futhi, ngenxa yemithombo yezokuxhumana kanye nejubane izinto ezihamba ngalo, kungenzeka ukuthi noma ngubani athole izinga losaziwayo ngesikhathi esifushane.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje sesinokufinyelela okukhulu nakakhulu kosaziwayo ngenxa yemidiya ye-24/7, izinhlelo ze-TV ezincike ngokuphelele kumqondo wosaziwayo, kanye nentuthuko kwezobuchwepheshe.
Kubonakala sengathi sizifela kakhulu ngalezi zibalo zomphakathi, sichitha isikhathi sethu esiningi kakhulu sihlanganyela nabo, kangangokuthi ezethu izimpilo ziqala ukubonakala zinganelisi kangako. Leyo nhlupho yokuqhathanisa iphinde ibuye ikhanda layo elibi njengoba silwela ukufana nezithixo zethu nganoma yiziphi izindlela esingazenza.
5. Imidiya Yesintu
Ubuningi besikhathi somoya namakholomu wamakholomu kuzindlela zokuxhumana zendabuko zomsakazo, ithelevishini nokuphrinta zinikezelwe ezindabeni ezinemizwa engemihle.
Nakhu isiphakamiso esithile ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka ngokwengxenye ngenxa yokuncamela kwethu izihloko zezindaba zokubhujiswa nobumnyama - ukuchema kwethu kokunganaki - okuyinto imithombo yezindaba ehlangabezana nje nayo.
Kepha, ukuncika kwabezindaba ohlangothini lokwehliswa kwempilo kungenza sizizwe singajabuli kangako ngokujwayelekile? Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuthambekela okuphezulu kwezindaba ezingezinhle kungehlisa okulindelwe onakho ngekusasa.
Uma konke owake wezwa futhi wafunda ngakho ukubulala, impi, indlala kanye nenhlekelele ezungezile yemvelo, ungaqala ukuzibuza ukuthi liyini iphuzu lakho konke.
Futhi-ke, i-vacuum ekhona iyaqiniswa.
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6. Isiko Lezinkinga Esikhundleni Sezixazululo
Noma ngabe kusezingeni likahulumeni, umphakathi, noma umuntu ngamunye, kunokuthambekela kokugxila kakhulu ezinkingeni nasezindabeni esibhekene nazo kunasezixazululweni ezingaba khona.
Ngeshwa, lapho konke okwenzayo kubheka izinkinga, impendulo ejwayelekile yabaningi ukusola omunye umuntu noma enye into. Lokhu kudala isiko lokusula emsebenzini nokungabi nalusizo.
Leli siko liyashesha ukusabalala phakathi kwabantu njengoba befuna ukubopha umthwalo ngokuhlanganyela. Njengoba isimo samukelwa ngabantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe, kanjalo-ke futhi kwamukeleka ngokwengeziwe ukushalazela.
Lokhu yikho kanye okwenzekayo ezindabeni ezifana nokuguquka kwesimo sezulu, ububha, ukungalingani, nempi.
Yebo, kukhona abantu phakathi kwethu abalwela izixazululo zalezi, nezinye, izingqinamba ezinkulu, kepha bambalwa futhi bakude kakhulu.
izibonelo zokutshela umuntu ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngabo
Kepha, iningi lethu, umuzwa wokungabi nalusizo ngokushesha uholela ekuphelelweni yithemba bese siqala ukuhlupheka izingqinamba ezikhona .
Esikhundleni salokho, sidinga umphakathi osikhuthazayo nosenza sikwazi ukwenza ushintsho lwangempela ngezenzo zethu kuphela lapho sizoqala khona ukufuna izixazululo kunezinkinga.
7. Ukuwohloka Kwemindeni
Kuliqiniso elidabukisayo lesikhathi samanje ukuthi imishado engafika ku-50% izophela ngesehlukaniso kuya ngokuthi uhlala kuphi emhlabeni. Okudabukisa kakhulu ukuthi okuningi kwalokhu kwehlukaniswa kuzobandakanya ingane noma izingane.
Ngenkathi abanye abahlukanisile bengathola isimo sinika amandla, abanye abaningi bazoba namahloni, isizungu noma ubuze. Futhi kukhona ubufakazi bokuphakamisa ukuthi izingane zemindeni enomzali oyedwa zithambekele ekukhathazekeni, ekucindezelekeni nasekusebenziseni kabi izidakamizwa ezimpilweni zazo zabantu abadala (izimpawu zesikhala esikhona u-Frankl asibonile).
Kungayiphi indlela okuwohloka ngayo umndeni, imiphumela, ngokuvamile, imibi kulabo abathintekayo. Umphakathi wanamuhla, nokho, wemukela kakhulu imindeni 'engaphelele,' ngakho-ke amathuba okuba abantu abaningi bakhulele ekhaya elinjalo.
8. Ukwehluleka Kwesistimu Yezemfundo
Yize imfundo yendawo yonke ingakabi iqiniso emhlabeni wonke, lapho itholakala khona, itholakala iswele.
Kaningi kakhulu, izinhlelo zemfundo yanamuhla zigxila ekuhlomiseni umfundi ngamakhono adingekayo azowadinga ukuthola umsebenzi. Okuxakayo ngukuthi, yize baneziqu, abantu abaningi balwela ukuthola nokubamba umsebenzi.
Lokho kungenxa yokuthi uhlelo lugxile kakhulu olwazini nasekuqeqesheni, futhi luthatha kakhulu ulwazi nolwazi engikubiza ngokuthi yimfundo eyiqiniso. Ubuntu buyancishiswa, ubuciko abukhuliswa, futhi ukubuza isimo se-quo akubonwa njengokuhle.
Abantu abasha baphothula ohlelweni lwezemfundo ngobuchopho obugcwele ama-hows, kodwa bambalwa kakhulu kungani. Bangakwazi ukugcwalisa kahle indima, kepha akuwona njalo ama- abantu abavuthiwe, abayindilinga abaqashi abayifunayo.
Uma uhlelo lwezemfundo lusebenzise isikhathi esiningi nezinsizakusebenza ukuthuthukisa imimoya yabafundi, ngicabanga ukuthi bazokwazi kangcono ukukhetha indlela evumelana nabo. Esikhundleni salokho, bahlanganiswa njengezinkomo ngesakhiwo esinqunyelwe esingenzi lutho ukubasiza ukuthola ubunikazi babo beqiniso.
Akumangalisi ukuthi i-vacuum ekhona inamandla phakathi kwentsha yomhlaba.
9. Ukwelashwa Kwasebekhulile
Emasikweni amaningi asentshonalanga, inani elibekwe kubantu asebekhulile liphansi impela. Uma sebengakwazi ukuzinakekela, abadala baqoqwa beya emiphakathini yomhlalaphansi lapho behlukaniswe khona nomndeni nabangane.
Qhathanisa lokhu namasiko amaningi endabuko - ikakhulukazi lawo aseMpumalanga Ekude - lapho izizukulwane ezindala zihlala khona, futhi zinakekelwa yizingane zazo ezindala. Lapha bahlala beyingxenye esebenzayo yempilo yomndeni.
Ngabe lokhu kungachaza ukuthi kungani izingqinamba zaphakathi nesikhathi sokuphila zivame kakhulu eNtshonalanga? Ngabe siyabheka izihlobo zethu esezikhulile bese sifuna ukugwema ukubona ukuthi nathi, siyakhula nsuku zonke ezidlulayo?
Noma ngabe yiziphi izimbangela, akukho mbuzo wokuthi umhlaba ubhekene nenkinga yokuchazeka ukuthi iningi lethu lihlupheka ezimpilweni zethu zonke ngenxa yokuntuleka kwalo futhi kungumsebenzi wethu sonke ukuguqula indlela yethu yokuhambela siphishekele impilo enenjongo.
Ngabe ubhekene nenkinga ekhona, noma wake wabhekana nayo phambilini? Shiya amazwana ngezansi bese wabelana ngemicabango yakho nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho.
