Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi wawumdala kangakanani ngenkathi ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa kuqala ukungena empilweni yakho.
Kwabaningi bethu, kwenzeke kusencane: kukhethwe okokugcina eqenjini lezemidlalo, kwahlekwa ngokuba ne-Show & Tell engajabulisi, sitshelwe ukuthi asikwazi ukuhlala nomuntu ngoba sinuka ukuhlekisa. Ubusha babugcwele izehlakalo ezikulungele ngokuphelele ukuqeda noma imuphi umuzwa wokuzethemba esasinawo futhi sakubeka esikhundleni sokungabaza okungenzi lutho ngaphandle kokubhebhethekisa impilo yomsebenzisi.
Njengabantu abadala, lokhu kungabaza kuba Ukwesaba Ukwenqatshwa kwethu ukwesaba okuvame ukusivimbela ekuthatheni imigwaqo engahambanga kangako, njengoba inkondlo edumile kaRobert Frost yafa, futhi esikhundleni salokho ihlale ingukhiye ophansi ngangokunokwenzeka, okuvame ukuholela engajabule , izimpilo ezingagcwalisekanga.
umbukiso omkhulu andre the giant
Kungakuhle ukuhlangabezana ngqo nalokhu kwesaba ubakhombise ngemibono abayikhohlisayo. Nazi izinyathelo eziyi-8 zokunqoba ezinye izinhlobo ezivame kakhulu.
Kwezothando
I-biggie. Okushisayo kwamazambane ashisayo. Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa kwezothando kwenza isisekelo sempilo yethu eningi, kuze kufike ekutheni umuthi wamazinyo ukhangiswa kanjani (abamhlophe abamhlophe kuphela abazoheha umlingani! AMAZINYO AKHO ASEMHLOPHE NJENGOBA KUDINGEKA BABE!). igxile entweni ekude kakhulu nothando: ukuphatha. Lowo muzwa wokuthi umuntu kufanele abe 'owakho.'
Asilokothi silahlekelwe yileyo ngane ngaphakathi enyathela izinyawo zayo lapho ingatholi lokho ekufunayo. Abanye bethu, nokho, bayakuthatha lokho kudumazeka bakuphendulele ngaphakathi, kucishe kube yisijeziso. (Ngemuva kwakho konke, akukhona ukujeziswa lokho esiqeqeshelwe ukukucabanga ukuthi impendulo efanelekile kulezi zingxabano?)
Qaphela
Indlela enhle yokulwa nokwesaba ukwenqatshwa kwezothando ngukuqala wazi ukuthi awulandeli umklomelo kepha unethemba lokubandakanya umuntu wangempela, futhi akekho umuntu okweleta omunye isikhathi sakhe, inzalo, intshisekelo, noma isibopho ngoba nje sifuna .
Thuthukisa
Okwesibili, zama ukuzibheka njengomuntu ophelele, hhayi umuntu ofuna isisindo somzimba esengeziwe ukugcwalisa umgodi wakho. Uma uqala ukuzicindezela, ungeza isisindo esiningi ekuthini unqatshwe kuze kudale ifayela le- isiprofetho esizigcwalisayo : ucabanga ukuthi bazokulahla, uzethula kabi, ezothando azifezekiswa, uziqamba igama lokuthi UnChosen One futhi ngomunyu unikeze ukwesaba kwakho ukuqinisekiswa okudingayo ukuze uphile.
Ukuqondanisa
Okwesithathu, susa igama elithi 'ukwenqaba' kwisichazamazwi sakho sothando. Kunezizathu ezidlulayo eziyizigidi umuntu angahle angakhombisi intshisekelo kuwe ezingahlobene nawe ngasese, kepha imiphakathi yethu iphikelela ukuthi 'nguwe' owenqatshiwe. Ngaphandle kokuthi uyisidididi, akunjalo. Uma u kukhona a jerk, ukwenqatshwa kusebenza ngokuphelele ngoba ubani okufuna lokho ezimpilweni zabo?
Yamukela
Okwesine, yamukela i-ethos yakudala 'Yini embi kakhulu engenzeka'. Futhi, ngaphandle kokuthi uyisidlakela esifanelwe ukugujwa ngamadolo kwabenza inetha, okubi kakhulu noma ngubani ozokuthobela yigama elithi 'cha.' Into encane kangaka enezinhlamvu ezi-2! Ngokuqinisekile akulona uvalo esicabanga ukuthi luyilo. Uma kukhona okuthile, kuyiphuzu elikhawulayo lokuzidela okusha!
Phinda Uhlole
Okwesihlanu, yeka ukucabanga ngezothando njengezimpi. 'Udutshulwe wahlaselwa.' 'Ungavumeli uthando lukushaye.' Isidingo 'sendoda enamaphiko' emibuthanweni yokuzijabulisa. 'Konke kulungile othandweni nasempini.' Uma umqondo wakho usuvele ungowengxabano, ubuhlungu, nokubulawa kwabantu, ngisho nangengathekiso, usuvele uzisusile kuwo wonke umbuso wezothando futhi wathathela indawo ukuxhumana kwakho negeyimu engajwayelekile, yekhathuni.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Isizathu Sangempela Sokuba Ukwesabe Ukwehluleka (Nalokho Ongakwenza Ngalokho)
- Ungakunqoba Kanjani Ukwesaba Inguquko Futhi Ngokuzethemba Ubhekane Nezinselelo Ezintsha
- Izinto Eziyi-10 Ngempela Akufanele Uzesabe Empilweni Yakho
- Izimpawu Eziqinisekile Zokuthi Uthando Lwakho Ngomunye Umuntu Azifuneki (Futhi Yini Ongakwenza Ngayo)
- Izimpawu ezingama-20 Umuntu Unezinkinga Zokulahlwa
Emsebenzini
Kufika iphuzu kuyo yonke imisebenzi yethu lapho sibona khona ukuthi sifuna okuningi. Ukukhushulwa. Ukukhuphula. Mhlawumbe ukumane kuhlolwe kabusha kwemisebenzi. Kodwa asibuzi. Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa kuyasala, futhi siza nezinhlobonhlobo zama-chestnut zokuthi kungani kungafanele sizikhathaze, kusuka ku- ' asifanele ngokwanele 'Ku' bazovele bathi cha vele 'ukuze' kungani uzihlupha? '
Kubuhlungu ukucabanga ukuthi mangaki amaphupho asebunile futhi afa ngenxa yokuntula ukuzinisela okufanele. Ake sidlule kulezi zivimbamgwaqo ezingaphakathi bese sibona ukuthi kungani ukuzishaya phansi kulula kunokuba besicabanga.
Zazise
'Ayikho indlela engizosithola ngayo leso sikhundla, anginele ngokwanele' ... yize kungenzeka ukuthi ubusenza imisebenzi iminyaka ngaphandle kokuzuza ngesihloko (noma ukhokhe). 'Angilungile ngokwanele' wukwesaba ingubo yokuphepha yokwaliwa. Chitha lokhu kwesaba ngokukulinganisa ngamagama amathathu anamandla alinganayo: 'Yebo nginguye.' Izingxoxo ezingezinhle esinazo nathi zivame ukuya ohlangothini olulodwa kuze kube inselelo.
Gwema Ukuzisola
Ukucabanga ukuthi othile uzothi cha akunjalo wena ukuthi cha noma kunjalo, hhayi omunye umuntu. Kungukuphakela ukwesaba kwakho okumbathiswe ngengubo, okunethezekile lapho sekuvele kugcwele. Vimbela lokhu ngokuqaphela ukuthi kuyinto ukucabanga okuzenzakalelayo okuzenzakalelayo lokho kungena ekhanda lakho ukukukhubekisa noma kunini lapho usondela egoli.
Yisho Yebo
Lokhu kulula kakhulu ukukuqeda. Kungani uzihlupha? Ngoba ufanele. Kwenziwe futhi kwenziwe. Abantu bavame ukuthatha iphuzu lokukhungatheka njengokungenangqondo, lapho bobabili behlukene kakhulu omunye nomunye ukuba sezimbeni zesikhathi ezahlukahlukene.
Yenqaba Le Ndatshana
'Ukwenqatshwa' kuyingxenye engenakugwenywa yazo zonke izidalwa ezikhona kule planethi, ngisho nalabo ababizwa benenhlanhla: abantu abahle, inhlanhla, bonke labo esibafaka ezinganekwaneni njengoba ngandlela thile bengakaze babhekane nochungechunge lwabo lwama-NO wobuntwana. Ungathola into ewusizo lapha noma ungayilahla ngokuphelele engakushintshi iqiniso lokuthi sihlangane nokuphila kuyaqhubeka.
Ukwesaba ukungathandwa esikoleni esisha ukwesaba ukungabi ovelele ephathini ukwesaba ukuthi umuntu akubone ungaphansi kwalokhu ozibiza ngakho. Ukwesaba phezu kokwesaba. Lokho kuyingcindezi enkulu emhlabeni ovele ufuna ukusebenzisana nathi uqhubeke. Singabantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho, sidinga ukuxhumana nokuzizwa kusuka emithonjeni eminingi ezimpilweni zethu, futhi kuyaqabukela ngendlela efanayo kabili. Ukuthi othile uthi cha kuwe kumane kusho ukuthi, ngaleso sikhathi esithile, isibopho sokuxhumana phakathi kwakho nabo besingakabi - futhi kungenzeka singabi namandla. Kepha kukhona ukuxhumana okuyizigidi eziyizinkulungwane okufanele kwenziwe.
Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa wukwesaba ukungazinzi, ukwesaba ukuthi uzokhohlakala, ukwesaba ukuthi akukho okwakho. Empeleni, usuvele uyingxenye yakho konke, futhi asikho isidingo sokubambelela kukho konke ukuxhumana njengokungathi kuyikhambi lomlingo.
Qaphela. Qinisekisa. Ukuqondanisa. Yamukela. Phinda uhlole okulindelwe nokucatshangelwayo. Zazise. Gwema ukuzisola. Yisho yebo ithuba.
Zimbalwa kakhulu izinto ezake zahamba njengoba sifisa, ngakho ukwesaba okungenzeka kuyinto ewubuwula. Uma sima bese sicabanga ukuthi luvelaphi uvalo nokuthi kungani sibambelela kuzo, singaqala ukukuqeda. Siqala ukubona ukuthi siyilokho okubabambe ndawonye njengamabhulokhi ngenkathi impilo igeleza futhi isizungezile kwenzeka okungahle kwenzeke.
Siyabona ukuthi ubunikazi bethu abwenqatshwa, ukuthi ubuciko bethu, umbono wethu, intshiseko namandla asongelwa, futhi nokuzithemba kwethu akuyona ingxenye yesibalo.
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