Kubukeka sengathi nsuku zonke, sonke sikhungathekile ngodlame olusha lwezinto okufanele sikhathazeke ngazo noma sicace ngazo.
Ukungabi nabulungisa kwezenhlalo, izinhlekelele zomhlaba, izinhlekelele, kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zonya zigcwala iziteshi zethu zezindaba kanye nokuphakelwa kwemithombo yezokuxhumana, kanye nezingxoxo ezithinta inhliziyo ezenzeka nxazonke zethu.
Ngezinye izinsuku, kubonakala sengathi kuncane kakhulu okuba kuhle ngakho.
Akumangazi kangako ukuthi abantu abaningi basebenzisa imishanguzo yokulwa nengcindezi noma yokulwa nokukhathazeka lapho bevezwa ubunzima obukhulu nosizi nsuku zonke.
Ngakho-ke yini esingayenza ukuze sihlale sinethemba ezweni elibi?
Izixazululo zingaba lula kunalokho ucabanga.
1. Hlakulela ama-stoicism.
Uma ungakayijwayeli imisebenzi kaMarcus Aurelius, zijwayelanise nalokho ayezokusho.
Imibhalo yakhe yokuthi angahlala kanjani ezolile futhi aqotho ngisho nasezimeni ezinzima kakhulu isasebenza futhi inamandla namuhla njengalapho eyibhala eminyakeni ecishe ibe ngu-2 000 edlule.
Zitholele okuqoshiwe kokuzindla kwakhe (zama okuzwakalayo noma kwe-YouTube), bese ulalele imizuzu eyi-10-15 njalo lapho uqala ukuzizwa ukhungathekile. Ukuqonda kwakhe kuzokusiza ukukuthulisa futhi kukubuyisele kulokho okubaluleke ngempela njengamanje.
Lokhu kuzokwenza akuvimbe ekukhanyeni mayelana nazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezenzeka kuyo yonke enye indawo.
2. Shintsha izimo ezicindezelayo zibe ngamathuba okufunda.
Abanye abelaphi batusa ezigulini zabo ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho bezizwa bekhathazekile ngokuthile, bazitshela ukuthi 'ngijabule' esikhundleni salokho.
Lolu hlobo lokuqiniswa okuhle luqeqesha ingqondo ukuthi isuke ekuphendukeni okukhathazayo iye kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokucindezeleka iye kulokho okunesasasa ngalokho okungaba khona. (Hlola le vidiyo ukuthola incazelo egcwele.)
Zama ukubona izimo ezicindezelayo njengezinselele ongazijwayela futhi ufunde kuzo, bese uzama ukubona okuhle kuzo esikhundleni seziphazamiso.
Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuxaka ukuthi kungenzeka ubhajwe ngaphakathi inyanga ngenxa yesimo sezulu esesabekayo sasebusika, zama ukubona lokhu njengethuba lokuhlala uthokomele. Uzoba nethuba lokuthola ukufundwa ngomlilo, uphuze itiye elishisayo noma ukhokho.
Ukuze uhlale unethemba ezweni elibi, zama ukubona inselelo kunokuba umthwalo. Njengoba u-Aurelius asho “isithiyo siyindlela.”
3. Ziphazamise ngokuthile okubambekayo nokuhle.
Esikhundleni sokubamba ngazo zonke izinto ezingahambi kahle emhlabeni, gxila kokuhle ongakwenza, khona manje futhi manje.
Thola inselelo enqobayo noma ukuphishekele kunokukhathazeka ngokuthile ongenakukulawula.
Ngabe ukhungathekile ngendlala yomhlaba? Hlanganyela nabanye omakhelwane bese uqala ibhange lokudla lendawo, noma ngabe lingelinye nje lamakhekhe amancane omphakathi ekugcineni komgwaqo.
Ngabe ukhathazekile ngabantu abangenamakhaya ababanda ebusika? Hlanganisa abashisekeli bezintambo esikhungweni sabadala bendawo ku-knitting drive: kuzoba nezigqoko eziningi, izikhafu, kanye nama-mittens kunokuba uzokwazi ukuthi wenzeni maduze.
'Cabanga emhlabeni wonke, yenza indawo yangakini' kuzwakala kuyisisho esibuhlungu, kepha kunjalo. Futhi ngokwenza INTO, ngeke uzizwe uphelelwe yithemba futhi ungenakuzisiza ngabo bonke ububi obenzeka laphaya.
Isisho esithi “ukuqeda lokho okuqalile” naso siyasiza kakhulu emoyeni. Ukujwayela ukuqeda imisebenzi kududuza kakhulu. Ngisho nento elula njengemisebenzi yasekhaya ingaba nenzuzo enkulu ngokomzwelo.
Awusoze wakwazi ukuzisiza. Kuhlala kunokuthile ongakwenza ukuzithuthukisa, izimo zakho, indawo okuyo, kanye nomphakathi wakho. Isenzo siyindlela enhle yokuhlala unethemba ezweni elibi.
ngizizwa sengathi angikwazi ukwenza noma yini ngokulungile
4. Yeka ukuvumela abanye abantu bakusebenzise njengesikhwama sokubhoboza ngokomzwelo.
Nciphisa isikhathi phakathi kwabantu abakhononda ngokungapheli, noma abakhuluma ngemicimbi yangaphandle.
Uyazazi izinhlobo. Abantu abaziphatha njengo 'Askholes' ngokuthi bahlala bekhala ngezimo zabo ezibuhlungu kodwa bangenzi lutho ukubashintsha. Noma buza izeluleko zakho kukho konke futhi ungalokothi uthathe ngoba akuyona into abafuna ukuyizwa.
Laba bantu bavame ukulahleka kakhulu. Banamathele emigodini yabo, futhi noma ngabe abazi, benqaba ukuvuma ukuphika kwabo, noma ekujuleni kwenhliziyo abafuni ukuqhubekela phambili, okulungile.
Kodwa-ke, ngaphandle kokuthi bakukhokhele idola eliphezulu ngehora, awudingi ukubalalela. Awukho kule planethi ukuzwa inhlebo yakamuva noma ipolitiki, futhi ungasindwa izinsizi zabanye abantu.
Chaza ngesizotha kodwa ngokuqinile ukuthi awunantshisekelo, bese uzama ukushintsha isihloko siye kokuhle noma okukhiqizayo.
Uma bengayinaki imingcele ozama ukuyidala noma bakuphazamise ngokuzama ukubuyisela ukunakekela ekulandiseni kwabo, bese ubaphatha ngendlela obengenza ngayo komunye umnyuzi onenkani. Zizovele zilume zikhahlele kungakhathalekile ukuthi wenzani. Noma ubanikeza i-apula elimnandi kakhulu, bazoziphatha ngendlela efanayo.
Ngakho vele uhambe.
5. Thola umzimba.
Ungahle uqaphele ukuthi lapho ukukhathazeka, ingcindezi, intukuthelo, nokunye okunjalo kwakha, kuzwakala njengamandla la angaphatheki kepha aqhakazile emzimbeni.
Uma ungayikhiphi ngandlela thile, ingabonakala kunoma yiliphi inani lezifo ezahlukahlukene.
Ngakho-ke kusebenze. Bamba iqhaza emisebenzini ephathekayo edinga ukuthi uthele lawo maphenti amandla ekunyakazeni.
I-Yoga, ukudansa mahhala, nokugawula izinkuni kuyizinketho ezimbalwa, njengokushaya izikhwama, ukuqeqesha isisindo nokusebenza. Noma yikuphi ukuzivocavoca ozivumela ngokwakho i-catharsis.
Ngandlela-thile esiphikisana nobuntu bethu obuyisisekelo asisavunyelwe ukuthi sizulazule nje sizinqamule konke okusibangela ukukhungatheka. Ngakho-ke kunconywa kakhulu ukukhetha izinkulumo ezingezona ezebhadi ukuze ususe emaphethelweni.
Izenzo ezinempilo zokuveza okudala (noma ukudlala ezenzweni zokudala zokuzala) nazo zibandakanya kakhulu, ziyavuza futhi ziyanelisa.
6. Zama ukusebenzisa kuphela lokho okunempilo nokunomsoco.
Mhlawumbe ungathuka impela uma ubhekisisa imiphumela emibi izinhlobo ezahlukene zokudla neziphuzo ezingaba nayo enhlalakahleni yakho yangasese.
Zama ukugwema ukudla ushukela noma i-caffeine ngenani eliphakeme kakhulu, ukunciphisa inani lokudla okusetshenzisiwe ekudleni kwakho, futhi kudle kuphela okuphathwa ngokulinganisela.
Zama ukwamukela ukudla okuqukethe amanzi ahlanzekile, ukudla okuhle okusezingeni, umoya ohlanzekile, nokuzivocavoca umzimba njalo. Uyomangala ukuthi uzizwa ungcono kangakanani emva kwamasonto ambalwa.
Ukudla kuphela okunempilo, okunomsoco akusho nje ukudla nokuphuza, futhi.
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza ukuze uhlale unethemba ezweni elibi ukunciphisa ubudedengu obudlayo. Kwenze lokhu ngokunciphisa noma ngokuqeda imithombo yezindaba ezimbi, ezicindezelayo nezikhathazayo.
Umphakathi wethu uchuma ezintweni ezingaphandle, ngakho-ke cishe konke esikwenza nsuku zonke kugxile ekuphenduleni ezintweni ezahlukahlukene.
Iningi lethu lichitha izinsuku zethu liphendula izinto esizibona ezikrinini zethu zamakhompyutha, kumathebulethi, ezingcingweni, nakomabonakude, kunokufunda, ukusebenza ngokomzimba, noma ukudala.
Zibuze ukuthi yini oyinakile, bese unquma ukuthi imbuyiselo ikufanele yini lokho okutshalile.
Lo mhlaba ufisa ukunakwa namandla ethu, kepha sidinga isikhathi sokususwa kobuso ukuze sigcine isimo esithile sokuhlanzeka kuqinile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, khumbula ukuthi siyilokho esikudlayo. Uma sibheka ekukhanyeni isikhathi eside ngokwanele, singaba yiso. Ngokucabanga okufanayo, ngokubheka ukudabuka, usizi, ukungabi namandla, nokukhohlisa, nathi siyazisebenzisa lezo zimfanelo.
7. Chitha isikhathi emvelweni.
Ugcine nini ukuhamba ibanga elide ehlathini, noma uchitha amahora ubuka izinkanyezi?
Zonke izinto ezingezinhle ezisongela ukusicindezela usuku nosuku zingabonakala zingabalulekile ohlelweni olukhulu lwezinto lapho sichitha isikhathi kulokho okungunaphakade.
Uma uku noma yikuphi eduze kogu, vala yonke i-elekthronikhi yakho bese uyahamba uyochitha isikhathi esithile uhleli ngasolwandle. Buka amagagasi angapheli agelezela ogwini bese ephinda ebuyela emuva futhi. Bebekwenza lokho izigidi zeminyaka, futhi bazokwenza lokho ngezigidi ezengeziwe ngemuva kokuthi sihambile.
Ulwandle alunendaba nezepolitiki, noma inhlebo yosaziwayo. Akukhathazi ngodaba lwakamuva lwezempilo ukuthi imithombo yezindaba izama ukwethusa wonke umuntu ngayo, noma ukuthi yikuphi ukudla okuye kwashiwo ukuthi kunempilo manje kunobuthi.
Ulwandle luyilokhu oluyikho, futhi lwenza lokho olukwenzayo ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya nganoma yini enye ngaphandle kokuba ulwandle.
Zikhumbuze ukuthi zonke izinto zabantu zibalulekile, kepha mhlawumbe zenzelwe thina kuphela.
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