Ukukhanya kuyinqubo izingqondo zethu ezinamathela ngayo emcabangweni noma esitimeleni esisodwa semicabango evame ukungakhi noma ukucindezela.
Abaningi bethu bake babhekana nesimo esisodwa lapho izingqondo zethu zigijime ngemicabango emibi, futhi sazizwa cishe singenamandla okubamisa.
Kwesinye isikhathi kudalwa yizimo ezingaqinisekile noma ezethusayo, lapho okuhlukahlukene kuthi 'uma?' izimo zizungeza thina maelstrom.
ungacela kanjani indawo yonke ngosizo
Kwesinye isikhathi, zidalwa yizimo ezihlukumezayo, futhi silokhu sigaya konke esikuzwile, kaninginingi.
Le micabango emibi ingadala ukukhathazeka okukhulu - ngisho nokuhlaselwa okugcwele ukwethuka - kanye nokuqwasha, ukudangala, kanye nezinkinga zempilo ezingokomzimba.
Ngakho-ke siyivimba kanjani le migodi emnyama kanogwaja ukuthi ingasigwinyi?
Siyithulisa kanjani imicabango engemihle esongela ukusicindezela ngokuphelele?
Nazi izindlela eziyi-12 zokuyeka ukukhanyisa uma udonsa kanzima njengamanje.
1. Gxila ekuphefumuleni kwakho
Uma uzithola ushona phansi emcabangweni ongafanele, zama ukugxila ngokuphelele ekuphefumuleni kwakho.
Iya kwenye indawo ngeke uphazanyiswe mhlawumbe indawo oyithola itholile futhi iphephile.
Zama ukuphefumulela esibalweni seziyisishiyagalombili, ubambe lowo moya ukuwubala uye ku-ayisishiyagalombili, uwukhiphe ukhiphe ubala we-ayisishiyagalombili, bese kuthi cwaka uze ubala we-8.
Uma ulwela ukufinyelela kweziyisishiyagalombili kunoma iyiphi yalezi zinyathelo, nciphisa ukubalwa kokunye okunethezeka.
Yenza lokhu okungenani izikhathi eziyi-10 zilandelana, ugxile ngokuphelele ekubaleni nasekuzweleni komzimba kwesifuba sakho esikhuphuka futhi sehle.
Lokhu ngeke kuphoqe ingqondo yakho kuphela ukuthi iyeke ukuhamba ngebhayisikili okwethukile, iyoba nebhonasi eyengeziwe yokugcwalisa amaphaphu akho nge-oxygen, nokunciphisa umfutho wegazi.
Uma uthambekele kakhulu, ungakwenza okunye i-yoga pranayama imudra ngenkathi ukuyo. Lokhu kuyizandla zomzimba ezithambile ezingangeza isisekelo esengeziwe, ukugxila kokuzindla ekuphefumuleni kwakho okujulile.
Ngingumlandeli omkhulu ka nadi shodhana , eyaziwa nangokuthi “enye indlela yokuphefumula.” Ukugxila ekuthintekeni komzimba, okubhangqwe nokujula, ngisho nokuphefumula, kusebenza izimangaliso zokumisa ukuswakama emikhondweni yakho.
2. Gxila Kokuthize Okuyinselele
Uma ungene entweni eyinselele efuna ukugxila kwakho konke, akusekho indawo yemicabango engemihle.
Kufanele ubuyise konke ukunaka kwakho kusuka kuleso siphepho ukuze ugxile lapha, manje, lokhu .
Ingabe unayo iphrojekthi ohambeni oyibekele eceleni ngoba inzima? Kuhle. Khetha lokho futhi.
Sebenza kulelo phazili lezingcezu eziyizinkulungwane eziyishumi. Yazi kahle lelo thuluzi lokushisa izinkuni. Yazi imigqa embalwa yalelo phethini lentambo elibonakala lingenakwenzeka. Yenza izifundo ezintathu ufunde ulimi olwenza ikhanda lakho libhukude.
Lapho ingqondo yakho iphonselwa inselelo ngumsebenzi, awukwazi ukuzibamba uyeke ukukhanyisa.
3. Lalela Ukuzindla Okuqondiswayo
Uma uzizwa ukhungatheke kakhulu futhi uhlakazekile ukudonsela ukugxila kwakho kude nemicabango yakho emibi, vumela izwi lomunye umuntu lisize.
Kunemizamo eminingi eqondisiwe eku-inthanethi engakukhuluma uphume kude nesimo sakho samanje, iphinde iqondise ukugxila kwakho kwenye indawo okunempilo kakhulu.
Uma une-akhawunti ezwakalayo, noma enye i-audiobook noma ukusakaza okubhaliselwe komculo, cinga ngokushesha ukuthola 'ukuzindla okuqondisiwe,' bese ulalela amasampula athile. Ngaleyo ndlela, ungathola umuntu ozwi lakhe nendaba yakhe ekuheha kakhulu.
Ngenye indlela, kuningi okutholakala mahhala kumasayithi afana ne-YouTube noma i-Vimeo.
Uma ufuna ukufuna okuthile okubhekiswe kakhulu, sincoma kakhulu le threkhi ye-hypnosis eqondisiwe - ibhaliwe futhi yarekhodwa yi-hypnotherapist nesazi sezengqondo esinolwazi futhi ibhekane ngqo namaphethini wokucabanga okhathazayo.
ukucaphuna sonke siyahlanya lapha
4. Ukwelashwa Kwe-Dialectical Behaeveal Therapy
Ngabe ujwayelene nokwelashwa kokuziphatha okuhambisanayo? Luhlobo lokwelashwa kwengqondo okusetshenziselwa ukuphatha imizwa nokushintsha izindlela zokuziphatha.
Uma uzizwa ukhungathekiswa yimicabango engemihle, bheka nxazonke bese ubala izinto ezinhlanu eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka egumbini eliseduze kwakho. Qamba amagama abo. Chaza ukwakheka, ukwakheka nenhloso ngayinye.
Bese, thatha isenzo esibandakanya ezinye noma zonke izinzwa zakho.
UMBONO: Buka noma ubuke okuthile okukujabulisa, noma okubandakanya wena. Njengephazili lokusesha amagama, noma ifilimu eliyintandokazi.
UKUZWA: Zama ukuzindla okuqondisiwe, noma faka ingoma oyithandayo.
Thinta: Thatha okugeza okushisayo, noma uphathise isilwane umngane wakho, uma unaso.
Nambitha: Yidla okuthile okujabulelayo. Akudingeki ukuthi kube ukudla okugcwele - ukulunywa ushokoledi noma ucezu lwethosi lebhotela lilungile.
Iphunga: Futha amakha wakho owathandayo, faka uwoyela obalulekile ku-diffuser, noma ukhanyise impepho ethile.
5.Sebenzisa Ishidi Lokusebenzela Lezitatimende Zokuhlangabezana Nesimo
Enye indlela ephumelelayo yokumisa ukukhanyisa ukugcina inothi leziningana Izitatimende zokubhekana nokwamukelwa okukhulu lokho kuzwakala kuwe. Uma uthola imicabango yakho ivuleka, thatha lelo nothi bese ufunda eziningana ngokuzwakalayo.
Uma uthola eyodwa ekusiza kakhulu okwamanje, thatha iphephabhuku lakho bese ubhala phansi ukuthi kungani kusiza.
6. Yenza Ukuzivocavoca Okunye Okudinga Umzimba Nengqondo Ukugxila
Amafomu wokuzivocavoca afana ne-yoga, i-tai chi, ne-chi gung izindlela ezinhle zokulwa nokuqubuka ngoba ziphoqa ingqondo yakho ukuthi igxile ekuweni, ngenkathi futhi uphefumula futhi ubala.
Futhi, ukugeleza okuyinselele nokuma komzimba akudingi nje ukunaka kwakho okugcwele: kungabanjwa isikhathi eside kuphela, ngakho-ke imicabango yakho emibi ayinaso isikhathi sokugijima.
Ukuhamba okude kungaba kuhle ukusula ingqondo, kodwa kuphela uma zinselele, njengokunyuka kwamahlathi.
Uma uchitha isikhathi eside ukuphindaphinda, ukunyakaza kwe-methodical, ungangena esimweni esifana ne-trance esingenza imicabango yakho emibi iqine nakakhulu.
Awukufuni lokho.
Esikhundleni salokho, hamba ndawondawo okubandakanya ukuzikhandla kwangempela nobuhle bendawo, futhi lokho kudinga ukuthi uhambe indlela yakho. Lokhu kuzokuvimbela ekulahlekelweni yimicabango yakho.
7. Dala Igalari 'Yemicabango Ejabulisayo'
Izithombe ezimnandi, ezijabulisayo, ezingenangqondo nezikhuthazayo zilungele ukususa izingqondo zethu komaye wethu.
Uma ungenayo i-Pinterest noma i-Instagram okwamanje, zihlole, bese uzakhela ezinye zemibukiso. Sesha amagama angukhiye, futhi lapho uthola izithombe noma amavidiyo akwenza umomotheke, noma okugqugquzelayo, uwagcine.
Okungcono futhi, zigcine bese uzihlela zibe amafolda. Lokhu kufeza izinhloso ezimbili zokwenza ukumamatheka, nokugxilisa ukunaka kwakho kokuthile okukhiqizayo.
8. Zibandakanye Nokwenza Izinto Ozithandayo
Kwesinye isikhathi, indlela elula yokuyeka ukukhanyisa futhi uphume emicabangweni engemihle ukuzithululela ekwenzeni okuthile okuthandayo.
Umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa owuthandayo - lokho kukubeka futhi kukwenza uzizwe wanelisekile - ungaba ne- ukutholisa okusheshayo kuwe.
Ngenkathi ukucwiliswa kwiphrojekthi enzima kungakukhulula ekukhathazekeni, ukuchitha amahora ambalwa upenda, udweba, uqopha izinkuni, noma enye inombolo yokuzilibazisa ehilelekile kungakuphumuza futhi kukududuze kakhulu.
9. Ingabe Ukwenza Ijenali yokubonga
Kuhlala kunokuthile okufanele ubongwe ngakho, noma ngabe yonke into izwa sengathi iyawa eduze kwakho.
Lapho uqala ukuzizwa ukhungathekiswa yimicabango engemihle, bamba ipeni bese ubhala phansi izinto ezinhlanu ozibongayo kulowo mzuzu.
Ukukunikeza isibonelo nje: kulokhu ukusa okukhithika nokubandayo, ngiyabonga:
- Itiye elimnandi, elishisayo, lemony engiliphuzayo
- Umngane wami omuhle kanogwaja, ohlezi eduze kwami
- Amasokisi athambile, afudumele, athambile
- Vala abangane engibathandayo
- Incwadi engithunyelelwe umuntu engimthandayo
Kuthiwani ngawe? Kubhale phansi!
10.Funda ezinye izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo noma ama-Mantras (okungcono ngokuzwakalayo)
Ingabe unayo iqoqo lezingcaphuno noma amazwi aphindaphindwayo lokho kuzwakala ngempela kuwe? Ngiyazi ukuthi ngiyakwenza, futhi bangasiza kakhulu ngokumangalisayo ngezikhathi zobunzima.
Uma ubhekene nemicabango engathandeki, engemihle, thatha lawo magama uwafunde ngokuzwakalayo.
Ukuzithwebula ngokubuka nje ngeke kube nomthelela odingekayo wokukukhulula ekucabangeni okucabangayo. Udinga ukuhlanganiswa kokucutshungulwa komsindo nokubukwayo ukukukhipha esivunguvungwini, bese uqondise ukugxila kwakho kokuthile okuhle nokulusizo.
11. Memeza ungene Emqamelweni
Ngokuzimisela, zizwe ukhululekile ukuyidedela. Uma uzizwa sengathi unokukhathazeka okukhulu okwakhiwe ngaphakathi kuwe uze ucabange ukuthi uzokhamuluka uma kufanele ukugcine kungakapheli umzuzwana owodwa, bese ungakugcini.
Thola igumbi lapho ungeke uhlukumeze umuntu, uthathe umcamelo noma isiguqo, bese umemeza kulo ngamandla nangamandla njengoba udinga.
Kungathatha ukukhala okungaphezu kokumbalwa ukukukhipha konke, futhi ungahle ukhale futhi / noma uconse amathe ngenkathi ukuyo, kepha ungahle uzizwe ungcono kakhulu ngemuva kwalokho.
Ukumemeza emanzini kuyasebenza futhi. Ngihlala ezinyathelweni ezimbalwa kude nomfula, futhi ngibhukuda kuwo kusuka entwasahlobo kuya ekuqaleni kwekwindla, kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi uyazi ini? Ukumemeza ngaphansi kwamanzi kusebenza ngokuphumelelayo ekumiseni imicabango ekhanyayo.
Akubakhathazi nakancane omakhelwane, ngoba abezwa lutho.
Noma ngabe umemeza echibini lomphakathi, noma kumcamelo wosofa, nakanjani uzizwa ungcono kakhulu ngemuva kokuveza ngokwanele imizwa yokwakheka ezulazula esiswini nasesifubeni sakho.
12. Chitha Isikhathi Nabangane Abasekelayo Nomndeni
Lokhu kungashiwo kalula kunokukwenza, kuya ngezimo zamanje nokuthi unabantu abasondele, abasekelayo empilweni yakho.
Kubantu abaningi, kukhona omunye umuntu okungenani oyedwa abangaphendukela kuye lapho bebhekene nobunzima.
Lokhu kungaba ngumzali noma ingane yakini, umngani osondelene naye, noma umeluleki wezikamoya: umuntu onganikeza ngesisekelo kanye nombono lapho umhlaba ubonakala ungalawuleki.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuchitha nje ihora noma ngaphezulu nomngane onobungane, onemfudumalo kunganele ukwehlisa amahemuhemu obhekene nawo.
Vele, ngicela ubabuze noma ngabe banamandla angokomzwelo atholakalayo okulalela ngaphambi kokuqalisa kukho konke okwenzekayo kuwe. Asazi njalo ukuthi kwenzekani ezimpilweni zabanye abantu, futhi ukuphatha abangane bethu njengabahlengikazi lapho bebhekene nokuningi ngokwabo kungabacindezela futhi kubalimaze.
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Njengoba ukwazi ukubona lapha, uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nemicabango emibi, edala ukukhathazeka, kunezinketho eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokuyeka ukukhanyisa nokuzola ukwehla okuphansi.
Ngaphezu kwalezi zinqubo ezahlukahlukene zokubhekana nesimo, ungahle uthande ukuchitha isikhathi esithile uzama ukuvimba ezinye iziqephu ukuthi zenzeke ngokuzayo.
imibuzo yokubuza umlingani omusha
Imikhuba eminingi yanamuhla yokomoya igcizelela kakhulu ekucubunguleni ngokugcwele konke okuhlangenwe nakho. Yize lokhu kuncoma ngezinye izindlela, akuyona indlela evumelana nawo wonke umuntu. Kwabanye abantu, ukukhanyisa njalo mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo okungekuhle kusho ukuthi abakaze badlulise ukuhlukumezeka.
Cabanga ngokufunda ezinye zezincwadi zokuzisiza mayelana nokuphila kumzuzu wamanje, noma ukuthi ungakwamukela kanjani futhi ukwenze isitekisi. Umhlaba omusha ka-Eckhart Tolle ulungele owokuqala, kuyilapho uMarcus Aurelius no-Epictetus belungele laba bakamuva.
Ekugcineni, ngaphandle kokuthi bangazizwa beqine kangakanani okwamanje, imicabango nemizwelo yethu ayinamandla phezu kwethu ngaphandle kokuthi siyivumele.
Hlala ukhona, hlala ugxile, futhi ubuke ukuthi isenzo esiqaphelayo, esingaguquguquki siholela kanjani kunguquko ehlala njalo.
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