Isizungu umzwelo oyinkimbinkimbi, futhi uma uthi uzizwa ‘unesizungu’ emshadweni wakho, kungasho izinto ezihlukile.
Mhlawumbe uzizwa ungazwakali noma ungathandwa noma unqanyuliwe kumlingani wakho, ngaphandle kokusondelana obukade ukuhlanganyela.
Kungenzeka ukuthi awubonanga ukuthi kuza, futhi isizungu obhekene naso manje emshadweni wakho sikucindezele.
Kungaba ukuqaphela kwamuva, noma kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwe unqanyuliwe kumlingani wakho izinyanga noma ngisho neminyaka.
Ngokwenyama ungahle ungabi wedwa, kepha ngokomzwelo akekho obonakalayo.
Uzizwa ukude kumlingani wakho njengoba nobabili nihoxile ezingxenyeni ezihlukene zensimu enihlanganyela kuyo.
Thola induduzo ngeqiniso lokuthi lokhu kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ongakucabanga, futhi okungcono, ngokwazi ukuthi kunezinyathelo ongazithatha ukumisa kabusha ukuxhumana okukhethekile okuholele ekubopheni ifindo kwasekuqaleni.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukushada, noma ebudlelwaneni obuzinzile, besikhathi eside, akukuvikeli ekubhekaneni nesizungu.
Kwesinye isifundo kusuka eNetherlands, phakathi kuka-20% no-25% wabantu abadala abashadile abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-64 babhekana nesizungu esilinganayo kuya kwesomzwelo noma senhlalo.
Kodwa isizungu singaba yinkinga noma ngabe uneminyaka emingaki futhi noma ngabe usunesikhathi eside kangakanani ushadile.
Senzeka Kanjani Isizungu?
Ngakho-ke ukuxhumana okusondele nothando wena nomlingani wakho enaninakho ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala kwathathelwa kanjani indawo yimizwa yokuhlukaniswa ngisho nokuhlukaniswa?
Kwenzeka kanjani ukuba umngane wakho omkhulu abe umfokazi?
Ukuzihlukanisa kufaniswa kangcono nomdlavuza obulalayo ohlasela kancane umshado wakho. Imvamisa ayibuhlungu ekuqaleni, kepha, ngesikhathi uqaphela ubuthi, ukutheleleka sekusabalele.
Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi ukuthi kwenzekeni, ungathola ubudlelwano bakho bukhinywe yiqembu nokucekelwa phansi.
Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, lapho ulambile umoya-mpilo wokusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, umshado unganqotshwa yisifo esingalapheki ngaphambi kokuthi sitholakale.
Iningi lethu lingabantu abathanda umphakathi. Njengabantu abadala, ngokwemvelo sikufuna lokho kusondelana emshadweni.
Kepha, njengoba ukujwayela kungena, ukuba matasa okujwayelekile nokukhathala kwempilo yomndeni kuyakhula futhi ukwazisa ngokuhlanganyela kuqala ukuncipha. Kulula kakhulu ukuthi izithandani zihlukane, igxathu negxathu elikhohlisayo.
Ubudlelwano buhamba ngamathrekhi amabili ahlukene, ohlangothini olufanayo, kodwa ngokuzimela.
Kukhona umuzwa wokukhishwa inyumbazane, ibanga, nokusondelana okuncane.
Nidla ndawonye, nilala ndawonye, nihlala ndawonye kusofa obuka i-TV, futhi nizala izingane ezifanayo, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye nizizwa ninodwa.
Kungenzeka kube nocansi, kodwa uthando alukho. Kukhona ukukhuluma, kepha akukho ukuxhumana kwangempela, ukuxhumana, noma ukuqonda.
Izimpawu Zesizungu Emshadweni
Ukwazi izimpawu eziwubala zesizungu emshadweni kungasiza ekunciphiseni inkinga ebhlidini.
blac chyna futhi rob ushadile
Bheka lolu hlu bese ucabanga ukuhlobana kwazo nesimo sakho.
- Uzizwa ungazwakali noma ungaqondwa kahle ngoshade naye.
- Imicabango efana nokuthi 'Ubani okhathalelayo?' noma 'Yini iphuzu?' kuvame ukufika engqondweni yakho.
- Ubonakala ungakwazi ukujabulisa oshade naye noma ukuhlangabezana nokulindelwe kwabo kuwe.
- Uzizwa sengathi umlingani wakho uhlukanisiwe nawe futhi uhamba ngendlela yabo.
- Uyabuphika ubuqiniso besimo bese uzenza kwabanye ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle, yize wazi phansi ukuthi akunjalo.
- Uyakugwema ukukhuluma ngodaba kunokuba ulukhulise futhi uzilimaze wena noshade naye.
Izindlela Ezi-6 Zokunqoba Isizungu Emshadweni
Ukuthi uzizwa unesizungu emshadweni wakho, akusho ukuthi unethikithi lokuya kuphela enkantolo yesehlukaniso.
Akudingeki nokuthi wamukele isimo esikhona manje.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezindlela ongaxhuma ngazo futhi noshade naye, uvule kabusha iziteshi zokuxhumana kweqiniso, uphinde uthole ukusondelana nokusondelana okufunayo.
1. Zihlole kuqala.
Khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu oyedwa, hhayi ingxenye eyodwa kuphela yabashadikazi.
Bheka impilo yakho ngaphandle kobuhlobo bakho. Ngabe umsebenzi ubudla lubi? Uke waba nobunzima bokulala?
Zama ukuzinika isikhathi esithile esingabandakanyi umyeni / unkosikazi wakho. Thatha ikhefu losuku, geza, uye ekilasini lokudansa / lokuzivocavoca, uzindle.
Ukuzondla kubalulekile njengokukhulisa umshado wakho, noma ngabe lokho kuyinjongo yakho enkulu.
Ukugxila kuwe nasenhlalakahleni yakho kuzokunika amandla nokuqina njengoba uthatha izinyathelo zokubuyisa ukusondelana okufisayo emshadweni wakho.
2. Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala.
Kulula kakhulu ukukholelwa ukuthi uwena wedwa ozizwa uphatheke kabi futhi uhlukanisiwe emshadweni wakho.
Eqinisweni, kunawo wonke amathuba okuthi owakwakho abhekane nemizwa efanayo yokuba nesizungu.
Uma iqembu ngalinye likholelwa ukuthi elinye kufanele liqaphele umhosha okhulayo - 'babezobona ukuthi bebekhathalela ngempela yini' - kulula kakhulu ukuthi ukuziqhenya nokuba nenkani kungene endleleni nokuthi izinto zifinyelele kwangqingetshe.
Othile kufanele enze isinyathelo sokuqala ukweqa ukwahlukana okuvuliwe.
Ukuthi omunye umuntu angaba nguwe.
Kepha akudingeki ukuthi kube isenzo esimangazayo empeleni, kungcono uma kungenjalo. Izinyathelo zezingane konke okudingekayo.
Uma uphuma uhamba, vele ushelele isandla sakho koshade naye noma umange ngokumangala ngenkathi bamatasa ngomsebenzi othile noma okunye (ukunikela ngokubasiza ukuze baqedele lo msebenzi kungaba umqondo ohlakaniphile futhi).
Noma bamba isandla sozakwenu ngenkathi nibuka i-TV ndawonye.
Kuzoba yisikhumbuzo esibalulekile sobunye bakho bangaphambili. Iphindwa kaningi nangothando lwangempela, umlingani wakho kufanele ngethemba aphindisele.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Izindlela eziyi-16 zokubuyisa umshado wakho
- Okufanele Ukwenze Ngobudlelwano Obungenabo Ukusondelana Nokuxhuma
- Uma Ufuna Ukuzizwa Uthandwa Ngaphezulu Futhi Ufuna Ebudlelwaneni Bakho, Yenza Lezi Zinto Ezi-10
- Izimpawu Ezingu-15 Ozozithathelwa Ukunikezwa Ebudlelwaneni Bakho
3. Phinda uvule inkhulumomphendvulwano.
Ukuxhumana emshadweni kalula kungaba 'okwentengiselwano,' kukhulunywa ngezidingo ezingokoqobo zezingane, ezezimali, umsebenzi, imisebenzi yasendlini, njll.
Zama ukwethula izihloko ezahlukahlukene ezingxoxweni zesidlo sakusihlwa, kunezinto ezijwayelekile zansuku zonke.
Zama ukuthola ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa kanjani ngezinkinga ezijulile ngaphandle kokuthi izingane ziqhuba kanjani nokuthi ngubani ozokhokha isikweletu sikagesi.
Asikho isidingo sokuzabalaza lapho uqhamuka nemibono - sikutholile. Thatha ugqozi esihlokweni sethu: Imibuzo eyi-115 Yokubuza Okunye Okubalulekile Kwakho Ukuqala Ingxoxo
Yigcine ilula futhi ikugcine kumnandi, uqiniseke ukuthi ayikwenzi kube sengathi kuphenywa ngemibuzo.
Futhi ungakhohlwa ukulalela izimpendulo zabo. Imibono yabo ingakumangaza futhi ikunikeze ukuqonda okungcono kumuntu ocabanga ukuthi umazi kahle kangaka.
4. Thembeka futhi ubonise imizwa yakho.
Indlela enhle yokuxhumana nomuntu okuthandayo ngukuthi ikhombisa ukuba sengozini kwakho .
Njengoba imizwa yakho yokuhlukaniswa ikhula, kulula ukubeka imigoqo ngokuqina nokuzimela, okujulisa kuphela uqhekeko.
Ukubonisa imizwa yakho yangempela kungaba isambulo kumlingani wakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi bangokoqobo kakhulu futhi ababusiswa ngemvelo enembile. Mhlawumbe badinga izinto ezichazwe ukuze ‘bathole’ ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela.
Kepha qiniseka ukuthi ungabi umangaleli, okwenziwa kalula lapho uzizwa ulimele futhi ukhishiwe. Musa ukubashaya, 'Kungani ungaboni ukuthi nginesizungu, ngedwa, futhi ngikhungathekile?'
Indlela engcono yokuvula ingxoxo ukusho into enjengokuthi, “Ngizizwa nginesizungu esikhulu muva nje. Ngikukhumbulile. Kungakuhle uma singaba nesikhathi sethu kule mpelasonto. ”
Mhlawumbe udinga ukuthola umzanyana noma uhlele kabusha izinhlelo ezikhona. Ukuphosa imibono nje kuzokusiza kukusondeze. Kepha qiniseka ukuthi usebenza ngazo - ukukhuluma kushibhile, kepha isenzo sidinga umzamo.
Lapho wembula imizwa yakho, qiniseka ukugwema ukuthi, “ wena ngenze ngizizwe. ” Lokho kuzobabeka kwezokuvikela futhi kungenzeka baphikise ukuhlasela.
Esikhundleni salokho, hlela ingxoxo ngombono wokuthi kanjani wena uzizwe.
5. Chithani isikhathi ndawonye.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi kulula kanjani, noma ngabe izithandani ‘ezihlangene’ ngempela, ukuthi zihlukane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Impilo inendlela yokungena ngaphakathi futhi ibeka uqweqwe ngokuqinile phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi, ikakhulukazi uma nobabili nisebenza futhi kunezingane okufanele zinakekelwe futhi zigcinwe zijabulisa
Lapho izingane zihamba phambili, kulula ukuthi umshado udlale i-fiddle yesibili futhi ekugcineni ngomlingani oyedwa azizwe enganakiwe, engathandwa, futhi ekhishwe inyumbazane.
Uma ungeza uhlelo lomsebenzi oludingayo ekuxubeni, kuyindlela yokwehlukanisa, ukukhipha inyumbazane, nokuzihlukanisa.
Ukuhambisana nemithombo yezokuxhumana kungenye into edla isikhathi esithile (funda: Imithombo Yezokuxhumana Ingabuthinta Kanjani Ubudlelwano )
Simatasa kakhulu ukusebenzisana nokuxhumana nabantu ku-inthanethi sikhokhela ukuchitha isikhathi nalabo esibathandayo futhi empeleni sabelana ngempilo yethu no-24/7.
Ukuhlela ubusuku obujwayelekile bosuku kuyindlela ekahle yokukhombisa ukuthi niyayazisa inkampani yomunye nomunye futhi niyabonga ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye.
Bekani eceleni noma yikuphi ukulimala okungenzeka nikufukamile futhi niphakamise ukwenza okuthile enanikujabulela ukukujabulela njengombhangqwana.
Ukukhokhela umhlali ngaphezulu kokukhokhela ukuphuma kusihlwa kungabiza kakhulu, kepha kubheke njengokutshala imali ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Nokho, empeleni, akudingeki nokuthi uphume endlini. Vele wenze ukuzibophezela ekuchitheni isikhathi ndawonye ngemuva kokuthi izingane zifakwe embhedeni, noma ngabe kumane kuwukubuka i-TV kusofa kungekho okunye okuphazamisayo, ikakhulukazi izingcingo.
Ukwabelana ngemibono ngemuva kwalokho nganoma yini oyibukile kuyindlela enhle yokwenza isikhathi se-TV sibe umsebenzi wokuxhumana.
Uma kusihlwa kuyinselele enkulu ngezingane nangamashejuli amatasa, zama ukuhlangana isidlo sasemini ngenkathi izingane zisesikoleni noma zithathe ikhofi ndawonye. Ngisho nemizuzu eyishumi nanhlanu yanele.
Ukuhambahamba uzungeze ipaki, ukupheka isidlo ndawonye - uhlobo lwezinto enangizenza lapho niqala - ngezinye izindlela zokubuyisa ukusondelana.
Noma uma unesikhathi esithe xaxa ezandleni zakho ngoba izingane zakho zigibele esidlekeni, ungazama ukuthola ukuzijabulisa okusha njengezithandani .
Noma yini ingena ezinhlelweni zakho futhi ikunikeza ithuba lokuba ndawonye.
Yenza isikhathi sezithandani hhayi nje uku kuqala, kepha i okuza kuqala.
ufunani endodeni
6. Vala igebe lomzimba.
Into eyodwa okungenzeka iwele eceleni kwendlela ukusondelana ngokomzimba nothando.
Lezo zithiyo esikhulume ngazo phambilini zivame ukuba ngokomzwelo, kepha zona lezo zindonga zikuvumela ukuba unqabe ukuthintana nomzimba, yize ulangazelela induduzo okulethayo.
Uma umlingani wakho ezizwa enesizungu njengawe, lapho-ke uzoba nezakhe izikhali, kwakheke esinye isithiyo phakathi kwakho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi usathola ukukhishwa ocansini, kodwa lokho kube yisenzo somkhuba, isenzo esijwayelekile kunokuba isenzo sothando.
Futhi inkinga ekhona ilele entukuthelweni eyakheka ngokumelene nalezi zimpendulo ezizenzekelayo lapho ububele bungekho.
Izenzo ezizenzekelayo zothando lomzimba, kude negumbi lokulala futhi ngaphandle kohlelo olufihliwe, yizo ezizosiza ukudiliza izithiyo futhi zibuyise ukusondelana phakathi kwakho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi azosiza ukuthuthukisa ukusondelana ngokocansi futhi.
Uma niphuma nihamba ndawonye, zama ukubamba isandla sozakwenu. Noma faka ingalo emahlombe noma okhalweni uma lokho kuzwakala kulungile.
Naka ukuqabula okuhle nokubingelela bese ubenza bafudumale futhi basuke enhliziyweni, kunokuba babone nje futhi bazenzekele.
Ukuthinta okuncane, umthelela omkhulu.
Ukuphetha…
Kubi impela ukuzizwa unesizungu emshadweni wakho, kodwa iqiniso ukuthi ngisho nobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu buhamba ngezikhathi lapho oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bezizwa behlukanisiwe noma bekhishiwe.
Kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi yonke imishado idinga ukukhuliswa ngenkuthalo nangokomdlandla, igcinwe ngothando nokusondelana okwabiwayo.
Akufanele kube khona umqondo wokwehluleka ukuzitholela lapho ukhona manje, okungenani ngoba ubeke inhloso yokulungisa uqhekeko olwenzile ukuthi nihlukane.
Manje unamathuluzi athile wokukusiza ubuyisele ubambiswano lwakho.
Kuyasiza njalo ukukhumbula ukuthi sonke singabantu abanamaphutha futhi umshado ophelele uyinto eqanjiwe, hhayi iqiniso.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokwenza ngomshado wakho? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
