Ukuzethemba kuyinto exakile. Kuningi kakhulu, kuba yi-hubris. Okuncane kakhulu, kuncipha ngaphansi kwamafu okungazithembi okungapheli.
Ngakho-ke, iqiniso lokuqala abantu abanokuzethemba okukhulu abangakhohlwa yilokhu: Ukulinganisela ezintweni zonke.
1. UMthetho Wokulinganisa
Ukuzethemba kusho ukuzazi ukuthi ungubani, ukuthi uyakwazi ukufeza ini, nokubeka laba ngaphezu kwe-fulcrum engunxantathu yesifiso esithile. Inqobo nje uma lemikhawulo emibili ihlala ilinganisiwe ngobuqotho nangokuhlonipheka izinhloso , umgomo oyifunayo uvame ukufinyelelwa.
2. Zilungiselele Njalo
Uma uhlala uzibuza ukuthi kungani izinto zingahambi ngendlela othanda ngayo, izingqinamba umsebenzi wakho wokulungiselela ungasebenzisa ukulungiswa okuthile.
Abantu abazethembayo kakhulu bayazi ukuthi ukulungiselela kungamaphesenti angama-90 omsebenzi. Amaphesenti ayi-10 okugcina afika kulo msebenzi.
Isifaniso esilula kungaba ngumbhaki omkhulu. Umbhaki omkhulu uzoba nesiqiniseko sokuthi ikhekhe lakhe lizophuma kahle. Uhlungiwe, wavumela amaqanda nebhotela ukuthi kufike ekamelweni lokushisa, wafudumeza ihhavini ngaphambili, futhi unokusonga kwepulasitiki esandleni ukusonga inhlama lapho kwenziwa, kuyivumela ukuthi iphumule.
Ngesikhathi engeza zonke izithako zakhe nokunambitheka kwakhe ndawonye ukuze afake i-pan kuhhavini, ikhekhe selivele lenziwe.
Lapho iphuma kuhhavini: imiqulu yesinamoni ephelele. Ukuphela kwento esele ukuyenza i-glaze.
izinto eziyishumi eziphezulu okufanele uzenze lapho unesithukuthezi
Yazi okwenzayo, wazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani, vumela isikhathi sakho, futhi ungalokothi wesabe ukucwaninga.
3. KULUNGILE Ukungalungile
Akunandaba ukuthi uzethemba kangakanani, noma ngabe uzilungiselele kangakanani, amaphutha ayenzeka. Umbhaki wethu kungenzeka ukuthi wathimula lapho engeza isithako esiyisihluthulelo, okwenza ukuthi kwengezwe okuningi kwaleyo ngxenye kunalokho okubiziwe, mhlawumbe kuze kube sezingeni lapho iresiphi yonakaliswa khona.
Lokhu akukunyakazisi ukuzethemba kwakhe, ngoba naye akayona into engumbhaki ... ungumuntu. Abantu bayawenza amaphutha. Abantu bacabanga ukuthi baqinisile uma benza iphutha. Abantu bayakhohlwa izinto.
Umbhaki wethu ozethembayo uyazi ukuthi angahlala abhaka elinye iqoqo uma umzamo owodwa, emibili, noma emithathu wehluleka.
4. Zikholelwe Kuwe
Uyazi ukuthi uye esikoleni sokupheka. Wazi okuningi ngamakhemikhali okudla kunalokho iningi lazi ngokuthi izingane zivelaphi.
Ukuzethemba ikakhulu ulwazi. Ukuzethemba okuphezulu kufaka phakathi isilinganiso esifanele sokuzazi.
Uma umgomo ukwenza imiqulu yesinamoni ehamba phambili njalo, yazi ukuthi ungenza imiqulu yesinamoni engcono kakhulu. Akukho lutho olungaphandle kwamakhono akho uma uhlanganyela nesikhathi, usebenza, nokuzimisela ukukwenza yehluleka .
Umbhaki wethu uyayazi indlela azungeza ngayo ikhishi lakhe ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ubhake imiqulu ngamehlo akhe evaliwe. Ukungabaza lokhu akuwona ngisho umbuzo.
5. Usekuncintisaneni Nomuntu
Enye yezindlela ezisheshayo zokonakalisa umuzwa wokuzethemba ukuziqhathanisa nomunye umuntu. Kubantu - ukuba ngama-wonks aphelele kwesinye isikhathi - ukuthambekela okujwayelekile ukukwenza siziqhathanise nomuntu esicabanga ukuthi ungaphezu kwethu . Lokhu kungcwatshwa.
UDesiree (umbhaki wethu) ukujabulela ukubhaka. Imnika ukuthula kokuxova inhlama kube ukuvumelana okuhle. Lapho esekhishini lakhe, usezoni.
Akukho ngisho nomcabango owodwa kaBobby Flay, uJulia Child, noma uMartha Stewart oke ufike emqondweni wakhe.
UDesiree ujabule ngo, nangaye yedwa.
6. Yiba Nokubonga Empumelelweni, Uthobeke Ekulahlekelweni
Ake sithi uDesiree empeleni ungenela umncintiswano wokubhaka (uhlobo oluhlukile lomncintiswano), lowo aqiniseke kakhulu ukuthi anganqoba.
Noma kunjalo, akaphumeleli. Ngokungafani nemidlalo yaseshashalazini yemincintiswano yokupheka yethelevishini, akapheli izinyembezi zokonakala.
Uma kukhona okuthile, unethemba lokuthola ukunambitheka kokungena okuwinayo, mhlawumbe akhothoze isithako angakaze asisebenzise ngaphambilini. Ngeke acele iresiphi yomnqobi, kodwa yena kuthanda halalisela owinile ngobuqotho obufanele.
Ukubonga ku impumelelo futhi uthobekile ukwehlulwa kusho ukuthi uDesiree uzofunda, akhule, futhi aphumelele kwenye indawo.
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7. Hlonipha
Uma kukhona umuntu omdala oyedwa kuyo yonke iplanethi ongayazi ingoma ye-Aretha Franklin ethi 'Respect,' kunobufakazi bokuthi ososayensi be-animation abamisa okwesikhashana badinga. 'R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Thola ukuthi kusho ukuthini kimi.'
Abantu abazethembayo (kufakwe uDesiree the Baker) bayazi ukuthi ukuhlonipha amakhono nobuntu babanye kukhombisa ukukhanya kwabanye emuva kaninginingi.
Ukuzethemba okususa ukuzethemba kusho ukuthi ngeke uzicabange ungcono kunabo bonke abanye abantu. Ukuzethemba nge i-ego icasula ibhalansi yomuntu futhi iletha ukugcwala kwezifiso kushayeka phansi.
8. Ukulalela Kungamandla
Uma othile engena egumbini futhi ngokushesha ezizwa ephoqelekile ukukutshela ngenzalo yakhe nangalokho akufezile, lowo muntu unxephezela kabi. Abantu abazethembayo kakhulu abasizwa isidingo sokuziqhayisa.
Kunalokho, bayakwazi lokho ukulalela ivulela wonke umhlaba kubo. Bangathanda ukuzwa kakhulu ngokufeza kwakho, imicabango yakho ezintweni, nangezixazululo zakho zokudala.
9. Ungalandeli Isixuku
Umuntu ozethembayo kakhulu akanantshisekelo “yokuba” ngomunye umuntu. Ngaphezu nje kokuneliseka esikhunjeni sabo, bayakhangwa yilokho abayikho, hhayi ngenxa yezizathu zobudlabha, kodwa ngoba bazijabulisa ngokweqiniso ngokuphila.
Imfashini = Ubuwula Futhi Iyaphazamisa. UDesiree akasoze afaka ama-kale emigqeni yakhe yesinamoni, noma ngabe kuthanda kangakanani.
Umuntu ozethembayo onjalo angavele asungule noma azame ukuphelelisa, azi ukuthi ngesikhathi isixuku sesithukuthele ngokuya emibuthanweni, sizofuna ubumsulwa bento eyenziwe kahle.
10. Azikho Iziqinisekiso
Kwesinye isikhathi ungenza yonke into kahle, uzilungiselele ngokusemandleni akho, bese 'ulahlekelwa' UDesiree kungenzeka angawunqobi umncintiswano. Ungahle ungakutholi lokho kukhuphula ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ulwele ukuthola.
Ukuzethemba akukaze kuqinisekise ngomphumela kubeka nje ukungavumelani kwakho, kepha noma kunjalo ku-99-to-1 esivuna thina, kwesinye isikhathi lokho 'okukodwa' kuphenduka kufanele kuzo zonke izimpilo zethu.
ungamtshela kanjani umngane wakho omkhulu oyithandayo
Esikhundleni sokuvumela lokhu kunyakazise ukuzethemba kwabo, umuntu ozethemba kakhulu wenza ukungaqiniseki kube yisisekelo sokuzethemba kwabo: baphila ukuze 'balwe' ngolunye usuku.
11. Izinjongo Zingcono Kunamaphupho
Uma uDesiree engenalutho ngaphandle kwezidingo nezifiso (efuna ukuya esikoleni sokupheka, efisa ukubonwa njengompheki wezinkwa) wayengeke ajabule kakhulu. Wayengeke azethembe.
Ukuzethemba kuqhamuka ekusebenzeleni entweni ethile futhi uyifinyelele, bese usebenzela kokunye futhi ukufinyelele lokho, kuze kube yilapho izindlela zomuntu zangaphakathi zazi inqubo yokuhambisa izifiso zakho ukusuka ephuzwini A kuye ekugcineni B.
Ukufinyelela umgomo, umuntu kufanele ahambe. Akunjalo ngamaphupho. Amaphupho angabakhona elele ngomhlane ngaphandle kokulahleka okukodwa kokuzijabulisa.
Abantu abazethembayo kakhulu babhaka ukunyakaza ezimpilweni zabo zansuku zonke, kungaba ngokomzimba ngempilo, ukuqina kanye / noma ukungabi nalutho, ingqondo yokukhula kobuchopho, noma ukukhumbula iphakethe eliphelele.
Bayazi ukuthi yini abangayenza, ukuthi yini abazimisele ukuyenza, nokuthi yini abangadinga ukuyiguqula, okuyizimiso ezintathu okungekho noyedwa wethu okufanele azikhohlwe.
