Ukuphela kobudlelwano kunzima ngokwanele, kepha lapho omunye ephela ngaphandle kokuvalwa kwakho, kungasabeka.
Kunzima kakhulu ukungazi ukuthi kungani umuntu ekhethe ukuqeda izinto nawe.
Ungazihlukumeza uzama ukukuthola.
Ingabe bakopela?
Ingabe bake bakuthanda ngempela?
Ngabe ukhona omunye umuntu ozokuthanda ngokweqiniso uma kukhona okungahambi kahle kuwe ukuthi i-ex yakho ngeke ikutshele nokukutshela?
Uma uvuma ngekhanda kulokhu, uyadlondlobala futhi udinga ukuzinza phansi. Lesi seluleko kufanele sisize…
1. Finyelela.
Imvamisa, sincoma ukuthi sihlukane nokuxhumana nowawungumlingani wakho manje ngemuva kokwehlukana, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kufanele wazi.
Umlayezo olula nothembekile kufanele usebenze: “Sawubona, ngiyaxolisa ukukuthumelela umlayezo, kodwa ngidinga ukuvalwa okuthile. Angikuceli ukuthi nibuyelane, kodwa ngidinga ukwazi ukuthi kungani nikuqedile. ”
Akukho lutho oludinga kakhulu futhi nakanjani olungumbhali kabili!
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Kulungile ukuvuma ukuthi ulimele futhi kulungile ukufuna ukucaciselwa okuthile.
Asikwazi ukuthembisa ukuthi bazophendula, kepha ukubuza kuyinto yokuqala ukuzama - futhi ukuphela kwalolu hlu okubandakanya ukukhuluma nowawushade naye, uzokujabulela ukwazi.
2. Gxila kokusha.
Ukuvalwa yilokho esikudingayo ukuqhubekela phambili sisuka esimweni, ngakho-ke ukungabikho kokuvalwa kungenza kube nzima ngathi ukudlulela phambili.
Kulokhu, udinga ukuphoqa ukushintshwa.
Lokho kusho ukwamukela ikusasa futhi uziphonse kulo. Lapho ukwazi ukushintsha izinto ezikuzungezile, impilo yakho iyozizwa intsha futhi yehlukile.
Shintsha inqubo yakho, ukulungiselelwa kwakho, imisebenzi yakho futhi ngeke uzizwe unamathele kakhulu empilweni yakudala, ejwayelekile ebandakanya owake wakudala.
3. Yiba matasa.
Kukhona okubi kakhulu kunokuhlala uzidabukele (yize leyo yingxenye edingekayo yokuphulukisa kwesinye isikhathi), futhi cishe njalo kuholela ekucabangeni ngokweqile.
Ukuba nesikhathi esiningi kakhulu sokuhlala nokuzitika ephathini enesihawu kungahlala isikhathi eside kangaka, ngakho-ke udinga ukuzama ukuziphoqa ukuthi ube matasa.
Ukuntuleka kokuvalwa kungakhulisa imizwa efana nosizi ohlangabezana nayo ngemuva kokuhlukana, futhi ukugcina ingqondo nomzimba wakho kusebenza kungakusiza ukubhekana nakho.
Ukuvivinya umzimba kuzonikeza ingqondo yakho ukushesha okukhulu kwama-endorphin - ama-hormone akwenza uzizwe kahle - futhi kuzosiza ingqondo yakho ukuthi igxile kokunye ngaphandle kokuthi kubi kangakanani ukungashadi.
4. Phuma lapho.
Manje, lokhu kuthatha isikhathi esithile futhi empeleni akufanele kuphuthunyiswe, kepha ukuphola futhi kungaba yindlela enhle yokudlula kothile.
Kokubili kuyiseluleko esihle kunazo zonke futhi esibi kakhulu lapho, ngakho-ke yenza ngakho lokho okuthandayo!
Abanye bethu badinga ukuqhubeka ngokomzimba futhi bazithokozise ngomuntu omusha ukuze bakhohlwe ngomuntu othile okudala .
Abanye bethu badinga isikhathi sokucubungula nokuphulukisa, futhi ukuthandana nomuntu omusha kungaba yinhlekelele ephelele, egcwele ukuwohloka.
Bona ukuthi uzizwa kanjani bese ubuza ukuthi ngabe udinga ukuphazamiseka noma udinga nje ukuhlala ubhekane nemizwa yakho isikhashana.
5. Yenza okuthile okusha.
Udinga ukuzitholela impilo eningi futhi uyeke ukugxila ekutheni izinto bezinjani nge-ex yakho. Kunokhahlo, kodwa kuyiqiniso - futhi alukho uthando olufana nothando olunzima.
Ukwenza okuthile okusha kuzokuphoqa ukuthi uphume endaweni yokunethezeka oyidalile futhi kuzokwenza wenze izinto ezingahlobene nowawushade naye.
Futhi kuzokukhulisa kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho, wazi ukuthi unekhono futhi uyakwazi ukwenza izinto ngokwakho.
lapho udedela okwedlule
Lokho kungazwakala kukuxaka, uma ubheka ukuthi ungumuntu omdala, kodwa kungaba lula kakhulu ukuzijwayeza ukuthembela kumlingani wakho futhi nenze naye izinto.
Cabanga ukuthi sekunesikhathi esingakanani wenza okuthile ngeqiniso wedwa. Impela. Manje phuma lapho bese uyishaya.
6. Buyekeza inqubo yakho.
Yeka ukuya ezindaweni ezikukhumbuza owake wakudala!
Kukhona uhlobo oluthile lokuhlushwa olubandakanya ukuchoboza umphefumulo wakho ngokuphelele nokuthola lowo muzwa omubi wokuhlushwa ngamathumbu. Kubandakanya kakhulu ukuthungatha owedlule ku-Instagram futhi uzizwe ugula njalo lapho ubona ubuso bakhe - yize ubazi ukuthi uzokwenza kanjalo.
Kuwubuwula kakhulu kepha nokho abaningi bethu bayakwenza futhi bazizwe bemangele ukuthi sizwa imfucuza ngemuva kwalokho.
Udinga ukuthola izindlela zokuphila ezingabandakanyi umuntu wakho wakudala - lokho kusho ukuthi akukho ukuthungathwa kwe-inthanethi, futhi akukho lapho uzoya khona enkantini / kubha yakho yangakini futhi unethemba lokuthi uzongena kuye (kodwa futhi ukwesaba ungagijima kuye).
Lapho uhlala kakhulu empilweni obukade unayo futhi ukhumbula isikhathi sakho ndawonye (kodwa uwedwa), kuzokuthatha isikhathi eside ukuthi uqhubeke.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Kungani Ukuhlukana Kubuhlungu Kangaka? Ubuhlungu Bokuphela Kobudlelwano.
- Uma Uthando Lwakho Lufile, Ungazitsheli Lezi Zinganekwane Ezi-8
- Uma Izinto Zingasebenzi, Le Yindlela Efanele Yokuhlukana Nomuntu
- Ungashada Kanjani Futhi Ujabule Ngemuva Kokuba Ubuhlobo Obude Buphele
- Ubudlelwano obubuyayo: Izimpawu Okufanele Uzifune
- Ungamsiza Kanjani Umngani Ngokuhlukana (+ What To / Not To Say)
7. Zisuse empilweni yakho.
Yenza ushintsho lomzimba ukushintsha imizwa uma unenkinga yokuqhubeka ngaphandle kokuvalwa.
Susa izingubo zakhe nokunye akushiye endlini yakho. Susa izithombe zakhe - uma lokhu kunzima kakhulu, thumela zonke i-imeyili kuwe futhi uzigcine kufolda ongayibheki.
Kungabonakala njengokuxakile, kepha kungisebenzele - ngangiphatheke kabi ukwamukela ukuthi kuphelile, kepha ngangazi ukuthi ngizoqhubeka ngithole izithombe ezindala. Bengingafuni ukubasusa njengoba lokho bekuzwakala sengathi ukwamukela empeleni asisekho sindawonye, ngakho ngibagcine bephephile kwikhompyutha yami kunocingo lwami.
Ngenze okufanayo ngemiyalezo yombhalo neye-WhatsApp - ungathumela ngaphandle izingxoxo, uzigcine kwenye indawo ngeke uzibuke futhi ube nefoni enhle ehlanzekile engenazo izinto ezingase zivele futhi zikunikeze lowo muzwa omubi wokuhlushwa ngamathumbu.
Kulula.
Akusikho ‘ukuphela’ ncamashi, ngakho-ke awudingi ukuthi usetshenziselwe lokho, bonke bakhona uma kwenzeka udinga noma ufuna ukubheka emuva kubo. Kodwa ngeke ube nezimbangela ocingweni lwakho ezizokucasula nakanjani.
Futhi, ngingaqinisekisa ukuthi awusoze wayivula leyo folda noma kunjalo…
8. Khulumisanani.
Xoxa ukuvala umndeni nabangane bese ukukhipha konke.
kungani abafana besuka lapho bethandana
Ukukhuluma kuyingxenye enkulu yokucubungula ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, futhi kuhle ukudedela imizwa nemicabango yakho.
Emasontweni ambalwa okuqala, uzodlula entweni efanayo - kaninginingi.
Abangani bakho bazokwamukela ukuthi uyacubungula nje, ngakho ungazizwa unecala lokukhuluma nabo ngemizwa yakho! Yilokho abakhona ngakho futhi bazofuna ukukusiza.
Kuhle ukukhuluma ngezinto ezikwenza uzizwe kabi, noma ngabe zinamahloni.
Abathandekayo bakho bazokwazi ukukhuluma nawe ngakho, bakuqinisekise ukuthi awenzanga lutho olungalungile futhi bazokusiza ukudlula kukho.
Bazobuye babe khona ukukuhambisa ebusuku bamantombazane lapho usukulungele ukujabula futhi!
9. Vuma ukuthi ungaludinga usizo.
Lokhu kuyinkohliso ngoba asikuphakamisi ukuthi udokotela wakho uzokusiza ukuthi weqe owedlule - kepha kubalulekile ukufuna usizo uma udonsa kanzima.
Kungabonakala njengokumangazayo futhi ‘kudabukisa,’ kodwa udinga ukuhlonipha imizwa yakho futhi uthole usizo lapho uludinga.
Abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima ngempela ukubhekana nokuhlukana, futhi abakwazi ukulala noma ukudla kahle.
Leyo impendulo engokwemvelo, yomuntu lapho ezizwa ecindezelekile futhi akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo. Abanye bethu banezinkinga ngokujwayelekile, futhi ukwahlukana kanye nezehlakalo ezicindezelayo kungazibangela futhi kubenze babe babi kakhulu.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwe ukhathazekile empilweni ejwayelekile nokuthi ukwahlukana kukusunduzela emaphethelweni kuze kube ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo noma ukucindezeleka.
Lokhu kungaba nzima ukubhekana nakho, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu oyedwa ofuna ukukududuza engasekho empilweni yakho.
Lesi yisikhathi sokuthi welule isandla futhi uthole usizo - udinga ukwazi ukulala udle, udinga ukwazi ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi nokuphila impilo yomphakathi - futhi kufanele.
Ukuthola usizo kuyisinyathelo esikhulu futhi mhlawumbe sekudlule isikhathi eside uma uke waba nezikhathi ezingaphansi kokukhathazeka nokudangala isikhashana - zihalalisele ngokwenza okusemandleni akho nokwamukela ukuthi udinga ukwesekwa okwengeziwe.
Akunamahloni ngokudinga, noma ukufuna usizo.
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10. Zilinganisele.
Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, ukukhuluma ngakho kuyindlela enhle yokucubungula imizwa yakho futhi uqhubeke nobudlelwano ngaphandle kokuvalwa.
Lokho kushiwo, kuyeza isikhathi lapho udinga khona Ima ngikukhuluma. Kukhona umugqa omuhle phakathi kokucutshungulwa nokucatshangelwa, ngakho-ke qaphela ukuthi ukhuluma malini ngesidala sakho - kangaki, isikhathi esingakanani, nokuthi bangaki abantu obathumela umbhalo ofanayo lapho uzizwa udabukile.
Bengihlala ngithumela umbhalo ofanayo, okhihla isililo kubantu ababalelwa kwabayisishiyagalombili bese ngiba nezingxoxo ezi-8 ezihlukene ngendlela engizizwa ngayo udoti. Abanye babephendula ngokushesha futhi abanye baphendule ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa, ngakho-ke yonke into yakhishwa ngaphandle.
Xoxa nomuntu oyedwa mayelana nomcabango owodwa noma umuzwa owodwa bese uyeka.
Ungazenzi zibe zimbi ngokwedlulele kuwe futhi uzame ukugwema ukungena kumkhuba wokuziqhenya, noma ukufika ekhaya futhi ukhale ngokushesha nje lapho ungena emnyango. Kungaba wusizo ekuqaleni uma ubulokhu ufaka amabhodlela emsebenzini, kodwa kungenampilo lapho kuba umkhuba kunokuba kube yinto evele yenzeke.
11. Yamukela ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu lapha ukwamukela ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi. Ungagcwalisa izinsuku zakho kakhulu njengoba ufuna futhi usebenzise sonke isikhathi sakho ku-tinder, kepha udinga ukwamukela ukuthi kusazoba nezikhathi lapho uzizwa khona udoti.
Lokhu kujwayelekile ngokuphelele ekugcineni kwanoma yini - ubuhlobo, ubungani, ukushiya umsebenzi wakho, ngisho!
Luhlobo losizi futhi kuyacasula ukuzwa, kepha isikhathi siyaphola, noma ngabe kuthatha isikhashana uma ungenakho ukuvalwa okufanele okudingayo.
Zinike ikhefu futhi ungazijezisi ngokuthukuthela namanje.
Uzolunga futhi, futhi uzothola omunye umuntu, kodwa futhi udinga ukuzinika isikhala futhi uvume ukuthi inhliziyo yakho ngeke ilungiswe ngobusuku obubodwa.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungadlulela kanjani kumuntu ngaphandle kokuvalwa?Ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi lokhu kuyinto okufanele uzenzele yona, kodwa lokho akudingeki ukuthi kusho ukuthi ukukwenza wedwa. Indlebe elalelayo nezeluleko ezicatshangelwe kahle zesazi sezobudlelwano zingakusiza impela ukubeka ubuhlobo bakho obudlule embhedeni unomphela.Ngakho-ke kungani ungaxoxi ku-inthanethi nochwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ngalokhu. Kalula.
