Indoda engacabangi ukuthi ingase ibe nephutha ibeka isisindo esikhulu somzwelo emahlombe akho.
Ngokungakwazi ukuvuma ukuthi unephutha, uyakuphoqa ukuba wenze ingxenye yakhe yomthwalo wobudlelwano wezisebenzi ezingokomzwelo.
Ezimweni eziningi, lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lungena ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo ngoba alunaki futhi luphika impilo yakho engokomzwelo.
Indoda engakwazi ukujabulela umqondo wokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi yenze iphutha ingahle ibukele phansi, ihlekise, noma iqonde ngokunganaki izikhathi lapho yenza iphutha khona. Abanye bangazama ukulawula ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni obungalingani. Abanye bazozama nje ukulawula ingxenye encane yobudlelwano.
Futhi lapho izinto zingahambi kahle lapho kungumsebenzi wakhe? Kuphuma ukungahloniphi, ukubizana ngamagama, ukubukela phansi nokungazi.
Yini ongayenza ngalokho?
1. Qaphela iziphakamiso ozifunda ku-intanethi.
Mhlawumbe uxhume umusho othi, 'umyeni wami ucabanga ukuthi akenzi lutho olubi' enjinini yokusesha bese ufika kuleli khasi. Mhlawumbe ufike kwesinye sezindatshana ezibhalwe kahle ukuze zinikeze amandla, zikukhumbuze ukubaluleka kwakho, futhi zikukhuthaze ukuthi uthathe isinyathelo!
Kuyinketho ethokozisayo ababhali balezi zihloko eziningi abazenzayo, kepha bonke bavame ukungayinaki i-caveat ebalulekile: ukuphepha kwakho.
Uhlobo lokuziphatha kwendoda engalokothi icabange ukuthi ayilungile yehlela ekulawuleni, ukungavikeleki, kanye nokuntuleka kwenhlonipho. Luhlobo lwenhlanganisela olungandulela noma lube yingxenye yodlame lwasekhaya.
Eziningi kakhulu zalezi zihloko zikhuthaza ukuthatha izindlela ezinobuqili, ezingenzi lutho zokuguqula izingxabano, ukuzibandakanya ezingxabanweni ezingakhuphuka ngokushesha uma ezwa ukuthi wehluleka ukulawula amandla akhe noma ukulimala kwakhe kulimele.
Cabanga isikhathi eside futhi kanzima ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe noma isiphi iseluleko ku-inthanethi ngodaba olubucayi. Imibhalo eku-inthanethi - ngisho nalena - ayikwazi ukuhlola kahle isimo sakho, ibheke amafulegi abomvu ongahle ungawazi, futhi uqinisekise ukuphepha kwakho.
2. Funa umbono wobungcweti kumeluleki womshado noma owedwa.
Lolu uhlobo lwesimo lapho kubalulekile kuwe ukuthola indlela yakho ngokuphepha.
Umeluleki omuhle uzokusiza ukuthi usethe imingcele, uthole izindlela ezifanele zokubhekana nezinkinga ezithile obhekene nazo, futhi ukukwazise ngokuziphatha kwefulegi elibomvu okungafanele kunganakwa.
Ezweni elihle, umyeni wakho angafuna ukusebenzela ukuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano, mhlawumbe ngosizo lomeluleki wemishado.
Ungalindeli ukuthi lokho kwenzeke.
Indoda engacabangi ukuthi ingenza noma yini engalungile kungenzeka ifune ukuya kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokwelulekwa ngoba kuzodinga ukuthi ivume ukuthi ayilungile noma ayazi okuthile.
Angakutshela nokuthi uzoya, abekhona lapho kuqokwa khona, bese ekhipha ibheyili ngezaba zokwelulekwa, 'Ukungamfanele.'
Ungalenzi iphutha ngakho, ukuqokwa okukodwa akusondele ndawo ngokwanele ukwenza lolo hlobo lokwahlulela.
Le yindlela ejwayelekile yokuthi abantu benze kubonakale sengathi batshale imali ekuxazululeni inkinga ngaphandle kokwenza lutho. Awudingi ukuphikisana ngakho, kepha fakela leso senzo emqondweni wakho uma kuyindlela aziphatha ngayo leyo.
3. Setha imingcele ngosizo lochwepheshe.
Abantu basiphatha ngendlela esivumela ukuthi basiphathe ngayo.
ungenza kanjani impilo yakho ibe ngcono
Lokho akusho ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe kuyiphutha lakho noma umthwalo wakho wemfanelo. Akunjalo.
Ukuthi nje abantu abaningi benza izaba ngokuziphatha kabi kothandekayo wabo, bakushaya indiva ukungahlonishwa, abazimele, noma bangahambi besuka lapho bengaphatheki kahle khona.
Abantu benza lokho ngezizathu eziningi. Ngezinye izikhathi bazizwa sengathi bakufanele. Kwesinye isikhathi bazizwa sengathi abaphathi kahle umlingani wabo, noma bavele bangazi ukuthi bangalulungisa kanjani udaba. Futhi noma kunjalo, uthando lungasenza singaboni iqiniso esingase singafuni ukulamukela.
Iqoqo lemingcele enempilo likuvikela. Imingcele iqinisekisa ukuthi awukwamukeli ukuziphatha okungafanele noma uvumela abanye abantu ukuthi bangakuhloniphi.
Amathuba mahle kakhulu ukuthi uma umyeni wakho engacabangi ukuthi angenza noma yini engalungile ukuthi imingcele yakho ingahle ingabi nempilo njengoba udinga. Leyo yinto ongayithuthukisa futhi usebenze kuyo.
Ezinye iziphakamiso zemingcele okufanele usebenzele kuzo akukhona ukwamukela ukungabi nhlonipho, ukubona abantu ukuthi bakuphatha kanjani ngqo, nokuthi ungasingatha kanjani ingxabano evelayo lapho uqala ukuphoqelela imingcele yakho. Uchwepheshe uzokwazi ukunikeza iseluleko esithile ongasilandela.
Uma ungumuntu onenkinga enzima nemingcele, ungahle ube nabantu osondelene nabo abasebenzisa lokho. Bangase basabele ngenzondo lapho uqala ukusho ukuthi kwanele. Lindela ukulahlekelwa abangane mhlawumbe uzokwenza.
4. Qala ukucabanga ngohlelo lokuphuma lwalesi simo.
Uhlelo lokuphuma? Kakade? Yebo. Futhi yingakho.
Ungasetha imingcele, ungaba nezingxoxo, ungazibandakanya kunoma yiziphi iziza ezicashile, ezi-coy Machiavellian labo baqeqeshi bobudlelwano abangakubeka engcupheni ngakho. Noma kunjalo, zonke lezi zinto ziziba iqiniso elilodwa eliyisisekelo:
Indoda engakwamukeli ukuthi ayilungile ikhomba ekuntulekeni ngokuphelele kwenhlonipho yokuthi ungumuntu onjani, imizwa yakho, kanye nombono wakho.
Ungavumelani ngezinto futhi ube nemibono ehlukile yempilo ngenkathi uhlonipha umlingani. Iqiniso lokuthi akakwazi noma ngeke akwenze akuyona indlela yokuziphatha ehambisana nendoda ekuthandayo nekhathalelayo ngawe.
Akufanele ube ukholisa umyeni wakho ukuthi akuhloniphe. Lokho akuyona into okufanele yenzeke kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunothando.
Ngabe le nkinga ingaxazululwa ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ubudlelwano? Impela. Uma evuma ukuthi wenze iphutha futhi uzimisele ngokusebenza kukho. Izinto eziningi zingalungiswa uma sinokuzithoba kokwamukela ukushiyeka kwethu futhi sizimisele ukuthuthuka. Kodwa ukube bekunjalo, ngabe awufundanga lesi sihloko njengamanje, angithi?
Yiba nohlelo lokuphuma ngaphambi kokuqala ukubeka imingcele noma ukuthatha isenzo. Ngaleyo ndlela, uma ephendula ngodlame, ngeke ulahleke ngokuthi wenzeni noma uqhubeke kanjani.
Yenza ukuphepha kwakho kube yinto eza kuqala. Awukwazi nje ukuthi amanye amadoda alawulayo azophendula kanjani lapho ukulawula kwawo kusongelwa, kepha imvamisa akukuhle.
Awukaqiniseki ukuthi wenzeni ngokuziphatha komyeni wakho? Ufuna izeluleko ngalokho okufanele ukwenze nokuthi ungahlala kanjani uphephile? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
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