Kungaba nezizathu eziningi ezibangela intukuthelo engapheli yomyeni wakho, futhi sizongena kulokho abangaba yikho nokuthi sisebenzisane kanjani ukuzixazulula, uma lokho kuyinto ofuna ukusebenzela kuyo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuthi, ngenxa yokuthi kungaba nezizathu zangempela ngezenzo zakhe, azifaneleki futhi kusamele athathe umthwalo othile ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ukuthi kunesizathu sakho, akusho ukuthi kufanele ubekezelele.
Uma ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuthinta kakhulu noma kukwenza uzizwe ungaphephile, kunezindawo ongafinyelela kuzo ukuze uthole usizo oluthe xaxa.
Akufanele uhlale nomuntu okwenza uzizwe ungaphephile, noma ngabe yiziphi izizathu zesenzo sakhe.
Kepha uma ulaka lomyeni wakho luyinto ongathanda ukusebenza ngayo, kunezindlela zokuzama.
Khumbula ukuthi uyaphendula futhi ungumuntu omdala, futhi wena can acele ukubambisana kwakhe ekuzenzeni ngcono.
Izimbangela eziningi zentukuthelo yakhe zizobe zivela kuye futhi mancane kakhulu amathuba okuthi zingaba umphumela wakho nakancane!
Iningi lemizwa yethu livela kithi kanye nokuqagela kwethu kwaleyo mizwa nokuthi silibona kanjani izwe elisizungezile, ngakho ungazibeki icala.
Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani engaba nobunzima, nezinye iziphakamiso zendlela yokuqhubekela phambili ndawonye.
1. Unezinkinga ezingaxazululiwe.
Kunesizathu senkolelo-ze yabelaphi ababuza ngobuntwana bakho…
Ukuziphatha kwethu okuningi njengabantu abadala kususelwa kokuhlangenwe nakho esinakho empilweni yethu esemncane.
Ukuthukuthela kunoma ngubani kungavela ezinhlobonhlobo ezinkulu zezinkinga ngesikhathi sobuntwana.
Mhlawumbe umyeni wakho akazange aphathwe kahle njengengane.
Mhlawumbe bekufanele alwe ukuze azwakale ekhaya lomndeni elixakekile, yingakho manje ememeza. Uzama ukuveza umbono wakhe futhi ujwayele ukuthi abe phezulu kakhulu ukwenza njalo!
Kungenzeka ukuthi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuthola ukunakwa njengengane kwakungukuthi alingise.
Izingane eziziphatha kahle kwesinye isikhathi zinganakwa, kanti lezo ezigangile zinakwa kakhulu (noma ngabe ukunakwa okungalungile).
Umyeni wakho kungenzeka wakuzwa lokhu ngenkathi esemncane futhi manje uzizwa sengathi ukukhipha kuyindlela yokuthola ukunakwa kwakho - futhi mhlawumbe nothando lwakho.
Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu: kungazizwa kungenakwenzeka lapho umyeni wakho esesimweni esingesihle, kepha ukuxhumana nokuvuleleka kuyisihluthulelo.
Lapho izinto sezithule kancane, ungazama ukubuza ngobuntwana bakhe noma ngesineke uphakamise ukuthi uthukuthele njengomkhuba, cishe.
Qaphela ukuthi ulubiza kanjani lolu hlobo lwento njengoba ungafuni ukumcasula noma ukubeka icala kuye kuphela lapho ezizwa esengozini futhi ekuvulela ithuba.
Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uthathe icala, kepha kufanele uzame ukuba nomqondo ovulekile lapho ekhuluma ngezinkinga ezedlule.
Khumbula ukuthi ungumuntu nje! Kungenzeka ukuthi wayenenkinga yangempela esemncane, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi wayengenakho ukufinyelela ekwelashweni noma ekucabangeni noma wayenomuntu owayengakhuluma naye ukucubungula le mizwa, yingakho kuthinta indlela aziphatha ngayo namuhla.
Ukusekela ngalesi sikhathi sokubonisa ngeke kusize umyeni wakho kuphela ukuthi abone futhi alungise izinkinga zakhe, kuzonisondeza nobabili.
Lokhu kuzomsiza futhi ukuthi akubone njengomuntu ‘ophephile’ nomuntu angadingi ukuthi amthukuthelele.
Uzobonakala ungaphansi ‘njengosongo’ noma isikhumbuzi sesikhathi sakhe esidumazayo.
2. Izimo ezithile zibangele intukuthelo yakhe.
Lokhu yinto okumele siyikhumbule nawo wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke kusebenza nakubayeni abathukuthele!
Kwesinye isikhathi, abantu banezinsuku ezimbi nje.
Lezi zinsuku ezimbi zingaphenduka amasonto noma izinyanga ezimbi.
Imvamisa izinto ezingaphandle kwamandla ethu kodwa ziyasithinta futhi zisiphathe kabi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga yomsebenzi, noma kungenzeka azizwe ehlukunyezwa ngumphathi wakhe.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ube nokuxabana nomngani noma ilungu lomndeni okusamcika emqondweni wakhe.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ulwa nanoma yisiphi isibalo esikhulu sezinto wonke umuntu alwa nakho!
Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu: kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva bese uzama ukubona isithombe esikhulu.
Akacasukile ngempela kuwe uthukuthele ngezinto zangaphandle empilweni yakhe ezingaphezu kwamandla akhe.
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Futhi, asikuphakamisi ukuthi ubhekane nezenzo zakhe, kepha kungakusiza ukuthi ucabangele izimo empilweni yakhe.
Uma uhlala uzizwa sengathi intukuthelo yakhe ibhekiswe kuwe, noma kungenxa yakho, kungenzeka uphendule ngendlela yokuzivikela.
Yize lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile, kungahle kubhebhethekise umlilo kuholele ezingxabanweni ezengeziwe / ezimbi kakhulu.
Uma ungabuyela emuva futhi ubone ukuthi akusho ngawe, ngeke uzivikele futhi ngeke abe nalutho 'azolwa' nalo, okusho ukuthi impikiswano izosakazeka ngokushesha okukhulu nangokuthula.
3. Unokuzethemba okuphansi.
Futhi, umyeni wakho ungomunye umuntu ozama ukuzulazula empilweni!
Kulula ukuyeka ukubona umlingani wakho njengomunye umuntu kwesinye isikhathi, futhi, njengabantu besifazane, sivame ukukhohlwa ukuthi abesilisa bahlangabezana nemizwa efanayo nathi.
Sitshelwa ngabezindaba ukuthi abesifazane banemizwa ethé xaxa nokuthi abesilisa bavele 'baqhubeke nakho.'
Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukukhumbula ukuthi nabo balwa nezinto ezifana nokuzethemba, bakhathazeka ngokubukeka kwabo nobungani njengathi.
Zingaki izinhlelo ze-TV ezimele abesifazane abakhala ngemizimba yabo noma ekudleni? Kuhle kakhulu kuzo zonke.
Bangaki abakhombisa amadoda enza lokho? Impela.
Siyakhohlwa ukuthi bahlangabezana nezinkinga ezifanayo nezethu, futhi lezi zinkinga zivame ukuholela ekuqhumeni kwentukuthelo.
Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu: uma umlingani wakho ecasulwa futhi ethukuthele ngaso sonke isikhathi, kungaba ngenxa yokuzethemba okuphansi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga futhi uzizwa sengathi akazethembi kangako. Lokho kungenza noma ngubani athukuthele futhi athukuthele.
Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, imidiya nokuzijabulisa akuvezi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho emadodeni, ngakho-ke angakuthola kunzima ukubona ukuthi uzizwa kanjani empeleni.
Angazizwa engakhululekile ukukhuluma ngalezi zinhlobo zezindaba nabangane bakhe, ngakho-ke ukubhekana nabo bodwa.
Uma uzizwa kabi ngomzimba wakho, ngokwesibonelo, kufanele uvule i-Instagram kuphela ukuze uthole owesifazane onqunu onqunu emzimbeni ukuze akunike ugqozi, noma ushayele umngane bese wabelana ngemizwa yakho.
Amadoda amaningi awazizwa ekhululekile ukwenza lolo hlobo lwento, ngakho-ke uzizwe ukhishwa inyumbazane ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kokuzethemba okuphansi, yingakho iziveza njengolaka.
Zama ukukhombisa uzwela kumlingani wakho. Mkhumbuze ukuthi uyamthanda futhi umthola ekhanga.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kufanele kusize ekwakheni ukuzethemba kwakhe futhi kwehlise intukuthelo yakhe.
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4. Unenkinga yokukhathazeka kanye / noma ukucindezeleka.
Njengalokhu okungenhla, asivamile ukubona abesilisa behlangabezana nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo - kepha bayazibona!
Izinto ezinjengokuzindla nokucabangisisa zivame ukubonwa njengezi ‘feminine’ noma ‘hippy’ (nayo ehlotshaniswa nabesifazane ngaphezu kwamadoda ngesizathu esithile!), Futhi, ngenxa yalokho, amadoda amaningi abachitha njengamathuluzi avumelekile.
Kungenzeka ukuthi intukuthelo engapheli yomlingani wakho ivela endaweni yokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.
Zingahle zibonakale zihlelekile ngezikhathi ezithile, noma zingathinteki yingcindezi futhi zikwazi ukwenza amagumbi ahlukane futhi zikhululeke kalula, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi abalwi.
Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu: uma umyeni wakho ehlala ekuthukuthelele, kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa ekhathazekile kakhulu.
Imizwelo ayivezi njalo ukuthi iyini…
Ukwesaba akusho ukuthi umuntu wesaba ekhoneni kungasho ukuthi ufuna ukulawula yonke into futhi acasuke kakhulu.
Ukudangala akusho ukuthi umuntu ukhala kakhulu kungasho ukuthi umemeza kakhulu.
Futhi, zama ukwenza izingxoxo ezivuleke ngempela ukubona ukuthi ngabe le yinkinga umlingani wakho abhekene nayo.
Kungasiza uma uvula futhi uveze ezakho izingcindezi.
Ukuvumela ukuqapha kwakho nokuba sengozini kususe ukwesaba okuvame ukukhulisa ukukhathazeka, nakho okunganciphisa olunye ulaka oluzungezile.
Umyeni wakho angahlala abonakala ethukuthele ngoba uyazi ukuthi uyamthanda futhi uzizwa njengendawo ‘ephephile’ yokuvumela labo buthakathaka, noma ngabe kukhombisa intukuthelo kunalokho ongacabanga ukuthi ukwesaba kubukeka kanjani.
Khombisa ukwesekwa kwakho, yenza okusemandleni akho ukusiza, futhi uzoqala ukubona izinguquko ezithile ekuziphatheni kwakhe.
5. Unezinkinga zokulawula.
Futhi, kubalulekile ukuthi, noma ngabe indlela aziphatha ngayo ibukeka ibangelwa nguwe noma yizenzo zakho, ukuthi akulona iphutha lakho.
Abantu abaningi balwa nezinkinga zokulawula, futhi bangadala intukuthelo enkulu.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uyakhungatheka lapho izinto ‘zingenjalo nje,’ noma ethanda ukuthi izinto zenziwe ngendlela yakhe.
Lokhu kungakwenza uzizwe udoti, kodwa zama ukukhumbula ukuthi akusikho ukukhombisa wena noma ubudlelwano bakho.
Nguye onezinkinga ezidinga ukulungiswa, futhi kungaba nzima ukukuqonda lokhu.
Intukuthelo ivame ukubonakala lapho sizizwa sithukuthele futhi sicasukile lapho singakwazi ukulawula izinto futhi singakwazi ukucisha imizwa engemihle.
Ukungakwazi ukulawula izinto ngokusobala kusenza sizizwe singalawuleki, okusenza sizizwe singenamandla futhi sithukuthele.
Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu: zama ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zakhe.
Uma uhlala uzizwa ungalawuleki, ubuzokhungatheka.
Akekho othanda izinto ezimbi ezenzeka kubo, futhi ukungakwazi ukumisa lezo zinto kungangena enkingeni yokulawula.
Futhi, lokhu kungadala izinkinga eziningi ngaphakathi kwabantu bese zichithela ebudlelwaneni babo.
Ngokukuqonda lokhu, uzokwazi ukukhombisa uzwela olwengeziwe kumlingani wakho futhi uzovuleleka ngokwengeziwe ekuthatheni izinyathelo zokubasiza.
Ngokusobala, ukwelashwa kungasiza ngokumangazayo ngalezi zinhlobo zezinkinga, kepha umlingani wakho angacasuka uma uphakamisa lokhu zisuka nje!
Ngobumnene nikeza izindlela ongazama ngazo ukusiza.
Lokho akusho ukuthi uthola ukulawula okuphelele kuyo yonke into nokuthi awukwazi ukuba nendlela yakho yokwenza ezinye izinto.
Kepha kusho ukuthi ungazama ukukwenza ukuyekethisa ezindabeni ezimenza azizwe engalawuleki kakhulu.
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Zingahle zingabonakali zihambisana ngokuphelele zisuka, kepha, lapho ucabanga ngokwengeziwe ngazo, zingasebenza ngokwengeziwe.
Zama ukuba nomusa - wonke umuntu unezinkinga zakhe futhi abanye bethu bakulungele kangcono ukubhekana nazo.
Uma umlingani wakho engenawo umndeni osekelayo noma engenabo abangane abaseduze noma ukufinyelela ohlelweni lokusekelwa, impela bazizwa bekhungathekile!
Lokho akukhona ukuthethelela ukuziphatha kwabo okubi, kodwa kuzochaza ukuthi kungani ukwesaba, izingcindezi, noma ukungazithokozi kwakhe manje sekubonakala njengolaka.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa enesizungu futhi ekhathazekile ngemizwa yakhe, noma engazi ukuthi angakuveza kanjani ngokuphepha ukukhathazeka kwakhe, futhi ukuthola kulula ukukukhipha ngentukuthelo nokumemeza esikhundleni salokho.
Lapho wenza noma yiziphi izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni noma engqondweni yakho, zama ukugcina umbono othile.
Kungazwakala sengathi ubelokhu emubi ngale ndlela noma ubulokhu uzizwa sengathi uhamba emagobolondweni amaqanda.
Zama ukukucabangisisa kahle lokhu - ngabe bekulokhu kunjalo ngale ndlela noma kuzwakala kanjalo manje?
Lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uyilahle imizwa yakho nje ukuzama ukukusiza ukuyilinganisela.
Uma bekulokhu kuyinkinga engaguquki futhi uzizwa ubambeke kakhulu, cabanga ngokufuna usizo lochwepheshe, kungaba ngokwakho njengendlela yokubhekana noma njengabashadikazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zakhe ezingasonjululwanga.
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