Umhlaba uyindawo egcwele ukuphakama okumangazayo nokuphansi okujule kakhulu, kuqhathaniswa nesikhundla sokuphila kwansuku zonke. Lokhu kukhuphuka nokwehla kuyaye kufike ngokungalindelekile ezimpilweni zethu futhi kushiye ngisho nabantu abanamandla kunabo bonke bethiwe futhi belimele.
Kepha kuthiwani ngabantu abazwela kakhulu?
Umphakathi wanamuhla uthanda ukupenda abantu abanemizwa, abazwela kakhulu ngokunganaki. Lezi zimfanelo zobuntu zivame ukubhekwa njengobuthakathaka noma isikweletu. Futhi kungazizwa ngale ndlela lapho umuntu eshiywe elimele yizinselelo abhekane nazo empilweni yakhe.
Umzwelo, ukukhathalela nothando akubona ubuthakathaka noma izikweletu. Kepha, lezi zinto zidinga ukulinganiswa okuphikisayo ngokuzinakekela okusebenzayo ukuze umuntu ozwela kakhulu angacwilisi ebubini bomhlaba.
Ngakho-ke, ake sibheke ezinye izinto ezidingwa yi-HSP yonke empilweni yazo…
yiziphi ezinye izinto okufanele ube nentshisekelo ngazo
1. Ukuzithanda
Ingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yozwela, uthando, noma ukuzizwa ujule ukuzithanda . Ukuzithanda kuvumela umuntu ukuthi adwebe imingcele enempilo, esebenzayo futhi ayisebenzise kahle. Lokhu kuyinto edingekayo. Akekho omunye umuntu ozonakekela umuntu onjengaye okufanele azinakekele. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kufanele siphile nsuku zonke nathi.
Ukuthembela komunye umuntu ngokuzizwa kwethu nenhlalakahle kuwumbono omubi, ngoba wonke umuntu ulwa nezimpi zakhe zangaphakathi. Abantu beka phambili izidingo kanye nezifiso zabo kuqala, ngaphandle okungajwayelekile.
isizini esibi kakhulu sehhovisi
Abantu abanozwela oluphakeme noma labo abahlangabezana nemizwelo ngokujulile bayovame ukuzwa ubuhlungu babantu abakhetha ukuba nabo. Ukuhlala ebuhlungwini bomunye umuntu, ikakhulukazi njengomuntu onozwela, kuyinto enzima ukuyenza ngaphandle kokuzithanda.
Ukuzithanda kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba kusiza ukulinganisela uzwela umuntu azoluthola nokuhlupheka emhlabeni. Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokulwisana nababhali bama-narciss nabantu abazosebenzisa ukuhlupheka kwabo ukuzwelana nabo ukuthi bakwazi ukuthi, “Lokhu akulungile futhi ngeke ngibe yingxenye yako.”
Ukuzithanda ngokwakho kuyitshe legumbi lokuhlala ujabule futhi unempilo ekusindeni ezinselele zempilo. Umuntu akakwazi ukuthanda abanye ngaphezu kwabo futhi alindele ukuhlala ejabule futhi enempilo.
2. Imingcele enempilo
Abantu abazwelana ngokujulile nokuhlupheka kwabanye kuyizisulu ezinhle kubantu abazicabangela bona ngokwabo, abakwa-narcissists nabaxhaphazi. Abantu abazwelayo nabangokomzwelo abanokuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila kungenzeka bakutholile kakade lokhu. Imingcele enempilo zibalulekile ekugcineni abantu ababi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho ekuthinteni impilo yomuntu ngokujulile.
Ama-vampire angokomzwelo womhlaba afuna ukungena kuwo ngokuvamile afuna i-target ethambile futhi elula. Ukusakazela umhlaba ukuthi, 'Ngingumuntu onothando nozwelo' empeleni kuphakame uphawu lwe-neon oluchaza igama elithi, 'TARGET.'
brock lesnar vs umbukiso omkhulu 2003
Imingcele enempilo ayenzeli nje kuphela ukuqondiswa okunzima okungavimba izilwane ezidla ezinye, kepha futhi kuyasiza ekugcineni ingqikithi yomuntu ozwelayo. Akunzima ukuthola abantu abashile ukuzama ukuba nothando nozwela kumuntu okwathi kamuva wasebenzisa ngokuphelele umusa wabo, wabaphatha kabi, futhi akatholakali ndawo ukuba abuyisele lolo thando nozwela lapho kudingeka.
Amandla okuzivikela nokuzivikela kusho ukuthi alukho uthando oludlalwe ngama-ingrate kanye nezilwane ezidlayo.
3. Ukwamukelwa Nguwe
Umshikashika wokuzemukela uyinselele, ikakhulukazi lapho izici ezingobani zingasishiya silinyazwa yizenzo zabanye noma ukuhamba okujwayelekile kwempilo. Ukulandisa okungapheli kokubaluleka kokuqina, ukuqina, nokungakhombisi noma ibuphi ubuthakathaka kungakwenza kube nzima kakhulu lokho.
Abantu abakwazi ukuba lukhuni futhi babe namandla ngaso sonke isikhathi. Badinga ukwazi ukuzwa nokuzwa imizwa yabo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba lukhuni sonke isikhathi ngaphandle kokuhlwanyela imbewu yezinkinga ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzwelo ngaphezulu komgwaqo.
Ukwamukela wena nokuthi sizizwa kanjani ngathi kuyindlela ehamba phambili yokuthola ikusasa elizinzile. Ukwamukela indlela esizizwa ngayo ngabanye abantu nezwe lonke kungamatshe omfula wokuzinakekela. Ukwamukelwa kusivumela ukuthi sizihlole ngeso eliqonda kakhudlwana, sikhombe amandla ethu nobuthakathaka bethu, bese sakha kubo.
Kulula ukuthi umuntu azitholele iphutha yena nemizwa yakhe uma ngabe yilokho kuphela akufunayo. Ukwamukelwa kusiza ukulinganisela lokho. Akumelwe sivume amaphutha ethu kuphela, kodwa nezinto ezinhle nezakhayo esinganikela ngazo uma besisesimweni sengqondo esifanele sokwenza lokho.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
amaqiniso okufanele wazi ngempilo
- Amathiphu angu-17 okusinda ama-Empaths nabantu abanozwelo kakhulu
- Ngaphakathi Engqondweni Yomuntu Ozwela Phakeme
- Izinto Eziyi-12 Abantu Abazwela Kakhulu Abazibonayo, Ukuthi Abanye Abaningi Abazi
- Ubudlelwano be-6 'Kumele Benziwe' Ngezimpumputhe Ne-HSPs
- Izinzuzo ezingaziwa zokuba ngumuntu ozwela kakhulu
4.Indawo Yokuthula
Njengoba sesisungulile, umhlaba ungaba yindawo enesiphithiphithi futhi enzima. Umuntu ozwela kakhulu udinga ukuba nendawo yokuthula kwenye indawo lapho angabuyela khona ukuze avuselele amabhethri akhe futhi asuke esiyaluyalaneni isikhashana. Wonke umuntu uyakudinga ukuphumula emsindweni nakumahloni okuba khona, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu kwi-HSP. Bazokhathazeka ngokweqile, bashise, futhi bavale uma besezinhlwini zezinto isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Indawo yokuthula akudingeki ibe yindawo ebonakalayo, noma kungaba njalo. Mhlawumbe ukuhamba ngemoto ngomculo othile onomsindo, uhleli ngasemfudlaneni udwebe izihlahla ezithile, ungene shí encwadini entsha, noma umsebenzi nje ongahleliwe ukuze uphume ujabule. Akunampendulo engalungile uma nje iveza ithuba ukungahlangani nezinxushunxushu uphumule isikhashana. Thola noma wakhe indawo yokuthula.
5. Imimoya Ehlobene
Indlela ephumelelayo yokunciphisa izinselelo umuntu ahlangabezana nazo empilweni ukuchitha isikhathi uzungeze abanye abantu abanezinhloso ezifanayo noma izinkinga ezifanayo. Ikhono lokuzibandakanya nabantu abaqonda izinhlobo zezinselelo abantu ababucayi ababhekana nazo kungaba yindlela enempilo yokugcina izinto zisendaweni efanele. Lolu hlobo lwento luvame emibuthanweni yabanakekeli abangochwepheshe, lapho bangencika komunye nomunye ngokungaqondile ukuze babhekane nezinselelo zomsebenzi wabo.
Vele, akubona bonke abazithola beyimibuthano enempilo. Ukudakwa ndawonye ukuhweba izindaba zempi akuyona indlela yokubhekana nempilo enempilo. Ukuthola abantu abaqondayo futhi abasebenzisa izindlela zokubhekana nokuphila okunempilo kunganciphisa kakhulu ukucindezeleka futhi kunikeze ukuthula kwengqondo. Ukuba phakathi kwabantu abanomqondo ofanayo kuyasisiza hlala phansi futhi uqaphele lokho asisodwa ezinkingeni esibhekene nazo.
6. Uhlelo
Impilo imatasatasa futhi imatasa. Lapho sizama ukufeza ngokwengeziwe, lapho sibeka imithwalo yemfanelo ethe xaxa emahlombe ethu, kulapho konke kungaba namandla kakhulu. Ukuzingcwaba emigomweni noma emisebenzini eminingi kakhulu kuyindlela esheshayo yokuqalisa ukumemeza uqhume, ikakhulukazi ngoba izingcindezi zempilo zingashaya i-HSP kanzima kuneningi. Ngakho-ke, uhlelo esenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukunamathela kulo luba ithuluzi elibalulekile lokuzinakekela.
indlela yokuba yintombi enothando
Kumele siqiniseke ukuthi sinesikhathi esanele sokwenza zonke izinto okudingeka sizenze futhi singazeluli sizaca kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzinakekela kanye nendawo yemisebenzi yokuthula kufanele kusetshenziselwe uhlelo olujwayelekile lokuqinisekisa ukuthi thina empeleni zenzeni. Imisebenzi efana nokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuhlela ukudla, noma ukuzilibazisa kufanele ibe nesikhathi sayo esabiwe esingakugwema ukuphazamisa ngangokunokwenzeka. Impilo izogwinya isikhathi sakho uma singayivikeli.
Abantu ababucayi kakhulu bathambekele ekupheni. Imvamisa bathatha injabulo enkulu ekubukeni abanye abantu bathola injabulo futhi bephumelela. Leyo yinto ebalulekile izwe elidinga kakhulu kuyo. Ngeshwa, asingethemba ukuthi abanye abantu bazozinakekela izidingo nemizwa yethu ngendlela esenzela ngayo abanye. Iningi labantu lishukunyiselwe kakhulu ezimpilweni zabo nasezinkingeni zokuthi bangenzi ngendlela yabo yokubheka ngokujulile izimpilo zalabo ababazungezile. Isisekelo esiqinile sokuzinakekela kuyisihluthulelo sokugcina ukuthula nokuzinza kule mpilo njenge-HSP.
