Ngaphambi kokuthi singene ekubeni yintombi enhle, sifuna ukukubeka kucace ukuthi akufanele uzicindezele ngokweqile!
Noma ubani onaye uyakuthanda lokho oyikho…
… Khumbula lokho.
Lawa ngamathiphu athile ahloselwe ukuba nguzakwethu onothando nokhathalelayo okuvele kwenzeke ukuthi kusebenza kwabesifazane.
Ayikho into efana nephelele, kepha lezi yiziphakamiso zethu eziyishumi eziphezulu zokuthi ungaba kanjani intombi enhle.
1. Yiba Nguwe
Isoka lakho likhethe ukuba nawe phakathi kwezigidigidi zabantu kule planethi, ngakho-ke ngokusobala wenza okuthile ngokulungile!
Uma usesezingeni lokuqala lobudlelwano bakho futhi uzibuza ukuthi ungaba kanjani yintombi enhle, khumbula ukuthi ukuba nguwe kunjalo kakhulu kubalulekile.
Ungazama konke okuthandayo ukuba nguhlobo oluhlukile, 'olungcono' lwakho, kepha, kwesinye isikhathi, uzokhathala ukuzenzisa.
Qiniseka ukuthi nguwe uqobo ezinsukwini zokuqala ukuze azi ukuthi ungubani ngempela - uzokuthanda ngakho futhi ngeke kudingeke uchithe amandla ngokufaka isenzo!
Akunasizathu sokuzama ukuthola umfana ukuba semathandweni ‘ngombono’ wakho ngaphandle kokuthi ukwazi ukukulandela.
2. Mbonise ukuthi uyamkhathalela
Kubonakala kunombono oyiphutha omkhulu wokuthi abafana abawathandi ama-PDA (ukubonisa umphakathi ngothando!) Noma ukushukuma kothando.
kungani ehlehla ngemuva kokusondela
Ngingakuqinisekisa ngokwami lokho ukuthi kungamanga aphelele!
Angikaze ngibone umuntu ojabule ukwedlula lapho Mina ukhethe ukumangaza isoka lami ngezimbali.
Wayengakaze abe nomuntu omthengela ngaphambili futhi kwakusho lukhulu kuye ukuthi ngifuna ukumenzela okuthile okuhle.
U-Chivalry uhamba ngazo zombili izindlela, ngakho-ke bonisa isoka lakho ukuthi uyakhathala ngokuhlukanisa izikweletu, ukuthenga yena isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi kwammangaza nge ukushukuma okuhle kwezothando - hamba ngezinkolelo-ze zobulili!
Uma wena nomlingani wakho nikhululekile ukuba 'coupley,' ungesabi ukuthi kube nguyena ozoyiqalisa.
Baningi kakhulu abesifazane abacabanga ukuthi umfana kufanele kube nguyena obanga noma afinyelele isandla sabo…
… Kepha uma nobabili nisekhasini elilodwa uma kukhulunywa ngokusondelana, ungesabi ukumbamba ngokumanga noma ukumgona!
Angase amangale ekuqaleni, kodwa siqinisekile ukuthi uzoyithanda.
Wonke umuntu uthanda ukuzizwa sengathi umuntu ahamba naye uyakhanga kuye futhi ufuna ukusondela kubo - kufaka phakathi amadoda.
3. Mnike Isikhala
Ngakho-ke, ukukhombisa ukukhathalela nokwenza umzamo kubaluleke kakhulu…
… Kepha kanjalo nokunikeza isoka lakho isikhala njalo!
Ukwenziwa uphawu lokuthi ‘ abaswele ‘Kuyinto thina bantu besifazane esizohlangabezana nayo, noma ngabe siziphatha ngaleyo ndlela noma cha.
Ezinsukwini zokuqala zobudlelwano ikakhulukazi, zama nje ukukhumbula ukuthi ulindele malini kumlingani wakho.
Ingxenye yokwenza isoka lakho lijabule lifaka ukumnika isikhala sakhe lapho esidinga.
Esikhundleni sokucasuka uma ethatha isikhathi ukuphendula (angavele abe matasa!) Noma afune ukuthi achithe isikhathi ngasinye sokuvuka nawe, funda ukwethemba ukuthi imizwa yakhe iyiqiniso nokuthi akadingi ukukukhumbuza lokho njalo.
Wonke umuntu udinga isikhathi sokuba yedwa, kungakhathalekile ukuthi umthanda kangakanani umuntu ahlala naye.
Hlela isikhathi esithile ngokuhlukana futhi uthole izindlela zokuzigcwalisa wedwa - zigcine umatasa ngokwenza okuthile okujabulisayo ukuze ungahlali nje ekhaya umlahlekile futhi ukhathazeke ukuthi unesikhathi esingcono ngaphandle kwakho!
Ngithembe, isikhathi sokuhlukaniswa sizoba sihle kini nobabili, futhi kuzoba kuhle kakhulu ukuphinde sibonane ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ninodwa.
4. Khombisa Intshisekelo
Asisho ukuthi ngokungazelelwe kufanele uthole iqembu lebhola elizolisekela (noma ezinye iziphakamiso zobulili ukuthi omagazini abakhohlisayo bazokutshela ukuthi uzilandele), futhi nokuthi kufanele uzenze umuntu ongeyena…
… Kepha ukukhombisa intshisekelo kokuzilibazisa kwesoka lakho kubalulekile.
Njengoba nje ubungafuna ukuthi abandakanyeke empilweni yakho (okuningi ngalokho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi!), Kuyosho lukhulu kuye ukuthi wenza umzamo naye.
Ungahle ungathandi ukuyobuka i-movie afuna ukuyibuka, kepha iqiniso ukuthi lapha ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi naye wenza okuthile okumjabulisa.
Ukhombisa nesoka lakho ukuthi ubuthathela phezulu ubudlelwano bakho - ngokutshala isikhathi sakho nomzamo wakhe nasempilweni yakhe, umazisa ukuthi ubalulekile kuwe.
5. Zenzele Isikhathi Sakhe
Manje njengoba wenze umzamo wokungena empilweni yakhe, udinga ukumnika ithuba lokwenza okufanayo.
Mfake ezintweni ozithandayo futhi umkhuthaze ukuthi achithe isikhathi nabangane bakho.
Le yindlela enhle impela yokumazisa ukuthi usho ukuthini kuwe - akekho umuntu ofuna ukuzizwa njengomuntu ophathina wakhe enamahloni okwethula kubangani babo.
Mmeme lapho uzophuma uyophuza iziphuzo nabangani bakho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyamfaka!
abantu abangenandaba nanoma yini
Gcina izingxoxo jikelele ukuqala ngazo ukuze ezizwe ehilelekile.
Kuyisikhathi esesabekayo sokuchitha isikhathi nabantu abaseqenjini ongeyona ingxenye yalo futhi ungakwazi ukujoyina ezingxoxweni zabo ngomuntu ovela emsebenzini / ekolishi labo.
Yenza isikhathi nesikhala empilweni yakho nesoka lakho futhi lizophela lizizwa laziswa futhi liqiniseka ukuthi ujabulile futhi unethezekile ukuba naye empilweni yakho.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungamenza Kanjani Umuntu Azizwe Ebalulekile, Ekhethekile, Futhi Ethandwa
- Izimpawu Eziyi-12 Zobudlelwano Ozibophezele (+ 6 Izinto Kusho Ukuthi Kimi)
- Imithombo Yezokuxhumana Ingabuthinta Kanjani Ubudlelwano (+ Ungabumisa Kanjani Ukulimaza Kwakho)
- Ungayibona Kanjani Futhi Unqobe Ukukhathazeka Ngobudlelwano
- Indlela Yokwakha Ngemuva Kokulwa Futhi Uyeke Ukuxabana Ebudlelwaneni Bakho
- Izinto Ezi-7 Zokukhunjulwa Uma Ungakaze Ubekhona Ebuhlotsheni Noma Wathandana
6. Lalela Futhi Ukhulume
Akuwona amantombazane kuphela adinga ukulalelwa, okuphambene nezinsumansumane zamasiko.
Abesilisa banemizwa eminingi abadinga ukukhuluma ngayo, ngakho-ke yiba intombi enhle ngokumane ube khona lapho ufuna khona.
Thola izindlela zokuxhumana uma enenkinga yokukuvulela izinto.
Ungakhungatheki uma kuthatha isikhathi ukuthi azizwe ekhululekile ukuhlanganyela nawe izinto eziningi ezingokomzwelo.
Ukuxhumana kuhamba ngazo zombili izindlela, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uvulelekile futhi uthembekile nesoka lakho uma ngabe yilokho okufunayo.
Ungaphoqeleli, kodwa yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba lapho lapho ekudinga khona.
Lapho ezizwa ekhululekile ukukuvula, ubuhlobo bakho buzoqina futhi ube namandla ngokwengeziwe ukwazana .
7. Khumbula Ukuthi iTrust Ihamba Zombili Lezi Zindlela
Njengokuxhumana, ukuthembana kudinga ukuba kube yinto eniyinikezayo nobabili.
Uma kungekho ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni, akukho lutho lwangempela lokulugcina luqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumethemba.
Noma, uma uke wazabalaza noma wakhohliswa ebudlelwaneni obudlule, uvunyelwe ukuzizwa ungavikelekile kwesinye isikhathi.
Khuluma nesoka lakho ngalokhu futhi ukwenze kucace ukuthi uyazi ukuthi akayona i-ex yakho, kepha ukuthi manje usuthambekele ekuzondeni ngalolo hlobo lwento.
Uzoba nokuqonda futhi ungasebenza ezindleleni zokukusiza uzizwe uvikeleke kakhulu.
Zikhumbuze ukuthi unawe ngesizathu - ingxenye yokuba yintombi enhle ukubona ukuthi usuyenye!
Ngokulingana, qiniseka ukuthi isoka lakho liyazi ukuthi lingakwethemba.
Abesifazane abaningi bazama ‘ukuhlola’ abalingani babo - kubenze babe nomona ukubona ukuthi baqala yini ukwenza umzamo omningi noma ukubalwela.
Lokhu kuphetha kabi njalo!
Akekho ofuna ukufakwa esimweni esinyantisayo, ngakho-ke yiba nengqondo futhi uvuthwe futhi wakhe ubuhlobo obufunayo ngokuhlonipha imingcele .
8. Zithande
Ukuzethemba akugcini ngokuheha ngendlela eyisimanga, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano.
Lokhu kuhlangana nakho konke esesikhulume ngakho vele, kepha kuyisici esikhulu ngokwanele sokuba yintombi enhle okufanele incazelo yayo!
Ngokuzithanda, uzivumela vula ngokwengeziwe othandweni kwabanye abantu.
Zitshele ukuthi uyamangalisa nokuthi ufanele uthando futhi uthando .
Abaningi bethu bakuthola kunzima ukukholelwa ukuthi umuntu esinaye uyasithanda ngempela.
Akungenxa yezenzo zabo…
Kungenxa yokuthi asizithandi, ngakho-ke asikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani omunye umuntu engenza kanjalo, noma kungenzeka thanda thina!
Gxila kuwe nakwisoka lakho ngokuzinakekela, ukuchitha isikhathi wedwa, nokwenza izinto ezikuthokozisayo.
Thatha zonke izindlela okhombisa ngazo isoka lakho ukuthi uyalithanda (izipho ezinhle, ukupheka ukudla okumnandi, ukujabulela ingilazi yewayini nge-movie) uziqondise kuwe.
anginantshisekelo yanoma yini
Lokhu kuzokusiza uzizwe ukhululekile futhi uzethembile kuwe futhi, ngenxa yalokho, nobuhlobo bakho.
Lapho uvikeleka futhi umthanda ngokwengeziwe uzivumela uzizwe, buyaqina ubuhlobo bakho futhi isoka lakho lizojabula ngokwengeziwe.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, yini indoda engafuni ukuzethemba, onothando owesifazane wentombi?
9. Yamukela Isikhathi Sokuphumula
Ubudlelwano bungazizwa njengamathuba okwenza izinto eziningi ezintsha nezijabulisayo, futhi kunjalo.
Mane ukhumbule ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa ukuthi umuntu umangalisa kanjani lapho uthola imisebenzi emisha nabo ngaso sonke isikhathi!
Ubani ongeke akujabulele ukuchitha isikhathi nomuntu uma ukhuphuka intaba noma uhamba izintaba noma ujet-setting ngaso sonke isikhathi?
Kuhle uma ubudlelwano bakho buhilela lolo hlobo lwento, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi leyo mizwa iqhubeke lapho nihlala ndawonye ubusuku bonke, noma nichitha iSonto lamavila esitolo sekhofi.
Ukuba nguzakwethu omuhle akukona nje kuphela ukuthokozisa ezimeni zobuhlanya ngaso sonke isikhathi kwenza umzamo ngesikhathi sokuphumula futhi.
Ungathanda noma ngubani lapho ekuhambisa eParis ngempelasonto, kepha uthando lweqiniso nobudlelwano obuqinile bakhelwe ezikhathini ezithulile zokujwayelekile…
… Emisebenzini yansuku zonke engcono kakhulu uma ninomunye nomunye.
Yenza umzamo lapho wenza okujwayelekile, ‘uyisicefe’ futhi isoka lakho lizobona ukuthi likuthanda kangakanani ukuba nawe, hhayi nje ukuthi lithanda ukuba nani ezinye eyodwa (noma ubani!) yezikhathi ezimnandi.
10. Khetha Izimpi Zakho
Lokhu kuyiqiniso kubo bonke ubudlelwano oyoze ube nabo (ukuthandana, nobungane, noma nomndeni) futhi kubaluleke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokuba yintombi enhle nomuntu ngokujwayelekile.
Sikholwa ngokuphelele ukumela lokho ocabanga ukuthi kulungile futhi ungalahli izindinganiso zakho ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo…
... kodwa siyazi futhi ukuthi zonke izinto ezinhle zidinga ukuyekethisa.
Uma kunenkinga eqhubekayo ebudlelwaneni bakho ekucasulayo, bhekana nayo. Umuntu onaye akumele kube umuntu oqhubeka ekuhlisela phansi.
Ngokulinganayo, funda ukuvumela ezinye izinto zishelele!
Uxabane kangaki (kuncane noma ngenye indlela) ngaphezulu kwento engenandaba ngempela?
Ingxenye yokuba ku ubuhlobo obuvuthiwe nobunempilo , nokuba yintombi enhle, ukuthola izindlela zokubhekana nezinto eziqhamukayo.
Thatha isinyathelo emuva, buza ukuthi ngabe unengqondo nokuthi inkinga ikufanele yini ukuba nengxoxo.
Uma kungenjalo, yiyeke iqhubeke!
Kungazwakala kuyinselele, kodwa kuzoba kuhle kakhulu kini nobabili.
Lokhu kuhamba ngazo zombili izindlela, kunjalo, ngakho-ke uma isoka lakho likukhathaza ngezinto ezingabalulekile, ungesabi ukuphakamisa ukuthi nobabili niyayekethisa noma vele nidonse umoya futhi niqhubeke nezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Njengoba sishilo, abukho ubuhlobo okufanele bukwenze shintsha ubuntu bakho noma ukubukeka kwakho , kepha okuhle kuhlala kukuvulela amathuba okukhula komuntu siqu.
Vele uzame ukujabula nokukhululeka kuwe ngangokunokwenzeka ukukhombisa yena naye uqobo uthando nokunakwa okukufanele.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungaba kanjani intombi enhle? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
