Ngezikhathi ezithile, sonke sihlangana nabantu ababonakala benekhono lokuhlikihla abanye ngendlela engafanele.
Lobu buntu obuthuthukisayo buxhumana ngendlela eqonde ngqo, ephikisanayo eqinisekisiwe yokusetha izinzwa zabantu ababucayi kakhulu.
Ukudala ukungqubuzana nokuhlukumezeka kubonakala kuyinto yabo ephambili. Kubonakala sengathi abanaso isihlungi sangaphakathi esilinganisa amazwi nezenzo zabanye abantu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abahlupheki kakhulu ngenxa yobuhlungu noma usizi abalubangelayo.
Kusuka ngaphandle, zibonwa njengezilimaza ngamabomu, ziyesabisa, noma zinokhahlo, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezimbili ezihlukile zobuntu obuhlukumezayo:
Umuntu uziqonda ngokuphelele imvelo yazo ehuqayo futhi uyaziqhenya ngayo.
Olunye uhlobo alunakho ukuzazi, ngakho-ke injabulo ayinalwazi ngokuhlukumezeka kwabo nemiphumela yako.
Kepha zombili izinhlobo azikwazi ukudlala umdlalo wokuxhumana komphakathi ngokuya ngemithetho eyamukelwe.
Ubuciko obubucayi, ikakhulukazi obuncane, bokuhumusha ubuso nobuso bomzimba wabantu abahlangana nabo yinto abangakaze bayazi. Amacebo nobuqili abuveli nje kumagama abo.
Okwabo ozikhukhumezayo , indlela yokubhuqa, nokuphikisana nayo yonke into enhle kunomphumela wokuncela abanye amandla, ibaqede amandla okumelana nokuhlasela okusabisayo nokunolaka.
lokho amadoda akufunayo emfazini
Ebukhoneni babo, ukuthula nokuzola kuphendukela ngokushesha ekucindezelekeni nasekwandiseni.
izimpawu zokuheha indoda
Ukwamukela umthwalo wokuhlukumezeka abakwenzayo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu endleleni akusoze kwenzeka.
Ukuxwayiswa kusengaphambili, njengoba besho, ngakho-ke uma uhlangabezane nalolu hlobo lokuziphatha phakathi kwabantu osebenza nabo, abaphathi bakho, noma neqembu lakho lobungane, kungasiza ukuba nesifinyezo sezimpawu zobuntu okufanele uzibheke.
Nazi ezinye izinkomba zakudala zobuntu obuhluphayo:
1. Bantula uzwela.
Ngokuvamile entula ikhono lokuqonda imizwa nemizwa etholwa abanye, umuntu onolaka ulwa kanzima ukubonisa umusa, uzwela, noma ukuqonda.
Abanaso isineke kulabo ababuthakathaka ngokwanele ukuthi badinge lezi zinto, ngakho-ke ungafuni ‘ukuchitha’ isikhathi sabo ngokubakhombisa.
Banobuciko obungaqondakali bokuthi basho into engafanele ngesikhathi esingalungile, mhlawumbe baze benze ihlaya lapho udaba abalukhulumayo lungelula neze.
Elinye iqhinga elijwayelekile ukushintsha isihloko kungazelelwe kunokuqhubeka nendlela lapho kulindeleke ukuthi bakhombise uzwela, abazobona njengobuthakathaka. Into yokugcina ubuntu obuhluphayo obuzohlinzeka ngayo ihlombe lokuncika kulo noma indlebe elalelayo enozwela.
2. Benza abanye bazizwe bengakhululekile noma bengenzi lutho.
Indlela ejwayelekile lapho ukuxhumana komphakathi kusebenza ukuthi ukushintshana kuyizindlela ezimbili futhi zombili izinhlangothi zenza imizamo yokubandakanya intshisekelo yomunye.
Ukushintshana ngamazwi kusekelwa ngolimi lomzimba oluhle nasebusweni, okuhloswe ngakho ukwenza abanye bakhululeke.
Lapho kuhilela ubuntu obuhhahhashazayo - lowo othanda ukuba maphakathi nokunakwa futhi onentshisekelo ekuxakekeni kwabanye - leyo ndlela iyehluleka.
ukwenza into ongafuni ukuyenza
Indlela abalawula ngayo ingxoxo imayelana nokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo, ngoba, ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, imvelo yabo eyisisekelo ayivikelekile futhi iba sengozini.
Ukuziqhayisa noma ukuhlekisa noma ungavumeli abantu bakhulume ngokuphazamisa njalo konke kuyindlela yokuziphatha ejwayelekile, ehloselwe ukubukela phansi nokubukela phansi abanye ngenkathi beziphakamisa.
Eqinisweni, kungenzeka ukuthi abahlose ngqo ukulimaza nosizi, kepha lokho kungumphumela ongenakugwemeka wokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo ngokulimaza abanye.
3. Banomlomo omkhulu futhi banemibono.
Lapho umuntu onolaka esefudumele esihlokweni sakhe, bathambekele ekuzibekeni phambili, beveza imibono yabo eqinile ngokuqiniseka.
Ziyalwa, futhi nezinga lokukholelwa ekwethulweni kwazo ngokuzethemba kuvame ukubona ukuthi labo abanemibono engafani bayanikezela lapho bebhekene nesimo esinjalo sokucabanga nemibono.
Esikhundleni sokujabulela ukushintshana okuqinile, abanye ababamba iqhaza engxoxweni bavame ukungakhululeki kancane kancane futhi bazofuna ukuqeda isimo esingesihle.
Ngenkathi abanye bekubona ngokusobala lokhu kuziphatha kobudlwangudlwangu ukuthi kuyini, umuntu onolaka akayinaki inkathazo ayibangelayo.
Kakade, basho nje abakucabangayo ngaphandle kwenhloso yokuphatheka kabi. Ukuthi nje abakwazi ukulinganisa ukuphendula kwabanye futhi abanakho ukuzithiba lapho beveza imizwa yabo.
4. Ababekezeleli ukwehluleka.
Kukonke, lolu hlobo lobuntu luvame ukusebenza kanzima futhi luzibophezele ukugqama kunoma iyiphi indima noma imbangela abayithathayo.
Kodwa isifiso sabo siphenduka ukukhungatheka noma intukuthelo lapho bengakwazi ukufeza izinhloso zabo abazibekele zona.
Lokhu kwehluleka kungabangelwa ngisho nokushiyeka kwabo, kepha bayizingcweti zomdlalo wokusola, bedlulisela kahle umthwalo kwabanye.
Bazizwa ngendlela efanayo ngokwehluleka kwabanye abantu futhi bayashesha ukwahlulela labo ababona bengaphansi kwabo empilweni noma emphakathini.
5. Azibekezelelani izindawo 'ezimpunga'.
Kumuntu onomlingiswa ohluphayo, omnyama umnyama nomhlophe umhlophe futhi abakwazi ukubhekana nokungaqondakali. Abahlali ocingweni futhi, ngaphandle kokungabaza, bazokhetha uhlangothi bese banamathela kulo.
isoka lami lingiphatha njengengane
Lapho sebefinyelele umbono wabo abawukhethile, bazoyivikela ngokuqinile, ngokuzimisela okuqinile.
Inkinga ngalo mbono we-monochrome womhlaba, lapho ukuyekethisa kungenzeki, ukuthi babona abantu abanemibono ehlukile kweyabo njengabaphikisi. Ngakho-ke impilo ingaba yimpi engapheli futhi engenakulungiswa.
6. Banobukhosi futhi abanasineke.
Ukulindela okuphezulu okujwayelekile ngohlobo lwe-abrasive kubenza babekezelele kakhulu noma ikuphi ukwehluleka.
Ngokunjalo, abanaso isineke kulabo abangakwazi kangako kunabo futhi abazigodli ekuvumeleni ukucasuka kwabo kubonakale.
Banokuthambekela kokucindezela njengoba bephuma bonke beya empumelelweni, beshiya abalimele belandelana ngaphandle kokucabanga kwesibili.
Yize imizamo yabo ephikelelayo yokuphumelela ingafinyelela imivuzo abayifunayo, lokhu nakanjani kulimaza abanye. Kepha kumuntu onolaka, lokhu kumane kungumonakalo wesibopho futhi akunandaba noma yini.
Noma ngubani obonwa emi phakathi kwabo nenhloso yabo uzodudulwa aye ohlangothini ngalunye nganoma yimaphi amandla adingekayo ukuze bafeze imiphumela abayifunayo.
7. Ziqonde ngqo.
Akekho owayengasola umuntu onolaka ngokuvika le ndaba eseduze. Basho imibono yabo kunoma yisiphi isihloko esinikeziwe ngokuqondile nangokwethembeka.
Yize lokhu kungabonakala njengokuziphatha okuhle, kodwa indlela uhlobo oluhlukumezayo oluveza ngayo umbono wabo lujwayele ukubangisana futhi lube nolaka kunokwakha nokusiza.
Ngenxa yokuthi abanalo ikhono lokungacunuli, uzwela, kanye nanoma yimaphi amandla okuqonda eminye imibono, bayehluleka ukubona ukuthi indlela ethembekile neqondile abayithandayo empeleni iyabalimaza abanye.
enza malini ama-bts
Uma kungukuthi babizelwe kulokhu, bazophendula ngokwenqaba noma ngokuhlasela noma ngubani ozama ukubhekana nabo.
8. Banendlela yokubusa.
Uhlobo lobuntu obuhluphayo luhlamvu olukhulu kunokuphila (noma kungenjalo ngendlela enhle).
Babambe iqhaza ekushiyeni abanye ngokuzethemba okungaba kuhle uma benobubele nokuqonda okudingekayo ukuze bathandeke futhi bahlanganyele.
Kepha nansi into… yize bengabonakala sengathi bayayala futhi bayalawula, empeleni kungenzeka ukuthi bakufihla ubungozi babo obubonakalayo, ngaphandle kobuhlakani babo obusobala namakhono abo.
Ukweqa ngokweqile lokhu kukhathazeka, baveza lo muntu othembeke kakhulu kepha onama-spiky persona, ongakubekezeleli konke okuhle nawo wonke umuntu futhi ongenayo intshisekelo noma uzwela kubantu abahlangana nabo usuku nosuku.
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