Sivame ukucabanga ngozwela njengento elungisiwe kunokuthile okungafundwa noma kuthuthukiswe, kepha, empeleni, ungaqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuba bunozwela njengoba nje ungabuqeqesha ngezinye izindlela.
Ngenkathi ikhono lakho lamanje lokuzwelana nabanye lincike kakhulu kwizakhi zofuzo nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho lapho useyingane, ubuchopho bomuntu omdala buhlala bukwazi ukushintsha ipulasitiki kuze kube sekupheleni kwempilo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungazijwayeza ukuzwelana futhi ushintshe ubuchopho bakho ngendlela yokuthi bube yisifiso esingokwemvelo esiya phambili.
Futhi kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ungafisa ukukhuphula izinga lakho lozwelo kwabanye. Lokhu kufaka phakathi:
- uzobekwa kangcono ukuqonda izidingo zalabo abaseduze kwakho
- uzoxazulula izingxabano nabanye kalula
- uzokwazi ukubikezela ngokunembile ngokwengeziwe izenzo zabanye
- uzoba ngcono lapho uphikisana nombono wakho
- uzoba umthombo wokuphulukisa okukhulu kwabanye
- uzothola amakhono ashukumisayo angcono
- uzokwazi kangcono ukwakha ukwethembana nabanye
- uzokwazi ukucabanga ngobuhlungu obukubangela abanye futhi ufinyelele endaweni ukuthethelelwa ngokushesha
- uzokwazi ngokwengeziwe izinkomba ongazisebenzisi wena nabanye
Kunezizathu eziningi-ke zokufuna ukwandisa amakhono akho okuzwelana, kepha ungakwenza kanjani ukufeza le nhloso?
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Nazi izindlela ezi-8 ongazisebenzisa empilweni yakho ukuqala namuhla.
1.Prakthiza Ukulalela, Hhayi Ukuzwa Nje
Lapho ufaka ingxoxo nomunye umuntu, inkambiso yemvelo ukuthatha lokho abakushoyo, kodwa kukucubungule ezingeni elingaphezulu kokunye ukuze ukwazi ukuthola impendulo efanelekile. Lokhu kulungile uma uxoxa nabo nje ngamaholide abo noma ngezihloko zansuku zonke.
Lapho ingxoxo iba yimbi ngokwengeziwe, kepha, futhi kukhona into enkulu ngokomzwelo, udinga ukushintsha usuke ekuzweni nje amagama abo uye ekulaleleni ngokweqiniso futhi unake incazelo yawo.
Khohlwa ngokulungisa impendulo ekhanda lakho ngenkathi bekhuluma - lokhu kuzoba yisiphazamiso. Esikhundleni salokho, sula ingqondo yakho nganoma imiphi eminye imicabango bese umane ugxile kuzwi labo, emazwini abo, nasezintweni zabo ezingezona ezomlomo ukuze ukwazi ukumunca izindaba zabo eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka.
ungaqala kanjani impilo entsha kwenye indawo
Uma ukwazi ukulalela ngokuphelele, uzokwazi kangcono ukubona umehluko ongacashile phakathi kwemizwa futhi lokhu kuyinto ebalulekile yozwela.
2. Zicabange Njengomunye Umuntu
Kungazwakala kusobala, kepha ukukwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomunye futhi ubone ngamehlo abo kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokukhulisa uzwela onalo ngabo.
Kuyaqabukela sifune ukukwenza lokhu ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke futhi sikhetha ukubona abantu njengeqoqo lamalebula. Singabheka umuntu bese sicabanga ukuthi uyamangalisa, uyazenzisa, uyisilima, noma ubuthakathaka, kepha lokhu kumane kuyizinto ezakhiwe ezingabonakali ezifana nobunzima babantu bangempela.
Esikhundleni salokho, uma ungazama ukuzibona usesimweni sabo, ngamava abo empilo nobuntu babo, ungahle ukwazi ukuqonda izizathu zemicabango nezenzo zabo. Uzokwazi ukubona ngale kwamalebula owanike wona ngaphambilini futhi uxhumane nomuntu wawo oyisisekelo.
3. Bheka Umuntu
Ukuhlangana nephuzu langaphambilini mayelana nokungena ezicathulweni zabanye lapho wenza ibhizinisi lakho lansuku zonke, zama ukuqaphela ngenhloso abantu abathinta impilo yakho. Ungamane uzibe noma ungahlangani nabo ngaphandle kokucabanga, kodwa bheka ngqo ebusweni babo bese ubona umuntu ongaphakathi.
Ngokuqinisekile uzoba namathuba amaningi wokuzijwayeza lokhu nsuku zonke, noma ngabe uhamba emgwaqweni, uyala i-cuppa yakho yansuku zonke esitolo sekhofi sendawo, noma uxoxa nozakwethu namakhasimende emsebenzini.
Futhi akudingeki nokuthi uhlanganyele ngokomzimba nomuntu ukuze ucabangele iwebhu eyinkimbinkimbi yokuxhumana onakho nabanye. Uma udla isemishi lakho olithenge esitolo ngesikhathi sokudla kwasemini, cabanga ngabo bonke abantu ababambe iqhaza ekwenzeni umlimi, umbhaki, umphathi wemali esitolo, abashayeli abahambisa izithako ezweni lonke, kanye nomuntu empeleni yayihlanganisa yonkana, yayisika, yakupakisha ukuze ilungele ukudliwa. Lelo sangishi lingaphezu nje kokunciphisa indlala yakho lelo sandwich liyisixhumanisi sabo bonke abantu.
Lapho ujwayele ukubona iqhaza elibanjwa abanye abantu empilweni yakho, maningi amathuba okuthi ubazise futhi uzibone uyingxenye yomphakathi hhayi njengomuntu. Lokhu kuzosiza kakhulu ekwakheni uzwela kulabo abaseduze kwakho.
okufanele ukwenze lapho unesithukuthezi ngokweqile
4. Inselele Ubandlululo Lwakho
Abantu bathambekele kakhulu ekuzibona beyingxenye yamaqembu ahlukahlukene futhi lokhu kusiza ekwakheni ubunikazi. Ziphinde ziholele ekuxabaneni nasekusolekeni lapho amalungu amaqembu ahlukene aphoqeleka ukuba abhekane nezingxabano.
Noma ngabe le migqa idonswa phakathi kobuhlanga, ubulili, isigaba, noma ukwehluka ngokwenkolo, isimo 'sethu nabo' sikhona ngokwemvelo. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo siyisithiyo kuzwela.
Uma ufisa ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokuzwelana nabanye, kufanele uzame ukufaka inselelo ezinkolelweni nasekubandlululweni okuvele ekuhlonzweni kwakho njengelungu leqembu elithile.
Eqinisweni, akukho okukuhlukanisa nomunye umuntu akukho 'thina nabo' ngoba bobabili 'thina' kanye 'nabo' bamane bakha ingqondo yakho njengengxenye yomqondo weqembu elihlangene.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze unikeze uzwela olukhulu, kufanele ususe le mingcele futhi uzwe abanye abantu njengabantu, futhi njengabalinganayo kuzo zonke izici kungakhathalekile umehluko owubonayo ngaphandle.
Ukufunda okubaluleke kakhulu kwe-empath (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Izimpawu ze-4 Ungu-Empath enembile (Hhayi I-Empath Yodwa)
- Amathiphu angu-17 okusinda ama-Empaths nabantu abanozwelo kakhulu
- Uhlangothi Olumnyama Lwama-Empaths
- Imizabalazo Yezimpi eziyi-11 ibhekene nezisekelo zansuku zonke
- Izimpawu Ezingu-7 Ungu-Impathiso Ekhulayo
- Ezinye izindlela ezi-3 zama-Empath ezikhathele ukuzivikela
5. Thola Commonalities
Ukukusiza ekulweni nobandlululo lwakho nasekufundeni uzwela olukhulu, kuyasiza ukungagxili kokukwenza uhluke kwabanye, kepha kulokho okungenzeka nifana ngakho.
Uma ukwazi ukubona izici zomuntu ongazijwayela, uzoba nezinga elikhulu kakhulu lokuqonda nokunakekela lapho uxhumana nabo.
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Ukwazi ukuthi nabelana ngokujwayelekile - noma yini engaba khona - kuzosiza ukufiphaza imingcele phakathi komuntu wangaphakathi nobuntu babo bangaphakathi futhi kukwenze ukwazi ukuzibandakanya nemizwa yabo sengathi ingeyakho.
Ngakho-ke uzwela olukhulu lungatholakala, hhayi ngokugcina abantu besengalweni, kodwa ngokufuna izindlela zokuzizwa besondelene nabo ngokwengqondo nangokomoya.
6. Yiba Nelukuluku Njalo
Njengoba sikhula, imibuthano yethu yezenhlalo ivame ukuba mincane futhi incane futhi lokhu kungavimbela ikhono lethu lokukhulisa izindawo ezizwelayo zobuchopho bethu.
Esikhundleni salokho, funa amathuba okuzibandakanya nalabo bantu ongeke ube nesizathu sokukhuluma nabo. Qalisa ingxoxo nomuntu ongamazi bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi umbono wabo womhlaba uyini ukuthi ungakhuluma yini nabantu bobudala obuhlukene, izinhlanga, izinkolo, ukuthanda ezocansi, noma izinkolelo zezepolitiki.
Uma uphonsa inetha lakho kabanzi, izinhlobonhlobo zemicabango nezinkolelo ozohlangabezana nazo futhi lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi okwakho akuyona ukuphela kwendlela yokuphila impilo.
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Futhi, ukuqonda ozokuthola kuzosiza ukwenza abantu abanye abantu namanye amaqembu, futhi kuzokhipha imibono eyayibanjelwe isikhathi eside eyayingakuvimbela ukuthi uzwisane nabo.
7. Fake It Ekuqaleni
Kuningi okungashiwo mayelana nokuthi ingqondo ikuthonya kanjani ukuziphatha, kepha kunempendulo enkulu eya kolunye uhlangothi.
Uzwela akuyona nje inqubo yezemizwa, luyindlela yokuba, indlela yokwenza kanye nendlela yokunakekela. Noma ungazizwa uzwela ngomuntu khona manjalo, uma uziphatha ngombono onozwela, ingqondo yakho ingalandela inkombandlela yakho.
Ngokukhombisa nje isimo sengqondo sokukhathalela, ungakha umuzwa wokukhathalela futhi, kulokhu, uzwela lungakhula ngokuphelele.
8. Funda Inganekwane
Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi abantu abafunda amanoveli aqanjiwe bahlala benekhono elikhulu lozwela.
Ngokufunda nje izindaba ezinjalo, usebenzisa izingxenye zobuchopho bakho ezisetshenziselwa uzwela, ngaleyo ndlela uqinise izindlela ze-neural. Sebenzisa umcabango wakho ukungena ezicathulweni zomlingiswa oqanjiwe kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuthi wenze okufanayo uma kukhulunywa ngokusebenzisana kwakho emhlabeni wangempela.
Uzwela yinto cishe wonke umuntu anamandla okuzizwa ngayo - kuphela ngamazinga ahlukene. Akunandaba ukuthi likuphi izinga lakho lamanje lozwelo futhi noma ngabe umncane noma umdala kangakanani, UNGAKHULA futhi ukhulise leli khono usebenzisa iziphakamiso eziyi-8 ezingenhla. Njengoba kukhulunyiwe, uzwela lunezinzuzo eziningi futhi unamandla okufinyelela kuzo lapho uzisebenzisa nsuku zonke.
