Umuzwa wokungabi nalutho uhluke ngokuphelele emizweni umuntu okufanele azizwe ngayo. Ihlala njengembobo emnyama esifubeni sakho, ingenayo into okufanele ibe lapho.
Kufiphaza imizwa, izintshisekelo, izifiso, amathemba, amaphupho, futhi kungadlulela ngalé kwalokho esikulindele emizweni engemihle. Ukungabi nalutho kungadla ukudabuka kalula nje njengenjabulo nethemba, kukushiye uzizwa uyinyumba futhi ulambile.
Ukubiza ukungabi nalutho umuzwa ongemuhle kungahle kungazizwa ulungile, ngoba kungumqondo oqinile, othambekayo wokungabi nalutho. Impela ayizizwa ihle, kepha kungenzeka ingazizwa ingalungile nayo. Akukho nje.
Ungazizwa ungenalutho, yonke into iyisicefe, noma ukuthi awukwazi ukuzwa noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemizwa enamandla.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukungazizwa lutho empeleni kungumzwelo wokukhuluma okuthile kuwe ngawe, impilo yakho, noma indlela ophila ngayo impilo yakho.
Abantu izidalwa ezichuma ngokushukuma kwemizwelo namandla ezilethayo. Ukungabikho kwalawo mandla kungacindezela kakhulu lapho uhlala nawo kaningi noma ungakaze uhlangabezane nakho. Uma ungakaze ubhekane nobuze phambilini, kungashaqisa ngendlela emangalisayo ukuthi ungazizwa lutho lapho kufanele uzwe konke, noma okungenani okuthile.
Abantu bakhetha ukubhekana nalobo buze ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, iningi labo alinampilo. Singazama ukugcwalisa lowo mgodi ngocansi, imali, ukuthenga abathengi, imidlalo yevidiyo, iziphazamiso, izidakamizwa, utshwala, futhi ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu - ukuzilimaza ngisho nokuzibulala. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ubuhlungu obungokomzimba okungenani buyisikhumbuzo sokuthi sisaphila, sisengakwazi ukuzwa… okuthile.
Noma yini.
Kodwa akudingeki kube njalo. Ukungabi nalutho kuyisibonakaliso esikhomba enkingeni enkulu umuntu angase angaboni ukuthi uhlangabezana nayo.
Leyo nkinga akuyona inkinga yokugula ngengqondo njalo. Kunezimo ezahlukahlukene nezinkinga ezingadala lowo muzwa wokuba yize.
Imbangela yokungabi nalutho izocacisa ukuthi yiziphi izenzo ezingasiza ekunciphiseni lowo muzwa. Kulesi sihloko, sizoxoxa ngezinye zezimbangela ezivamile nezinye izixazululo eziphakanyisiwe zokubhekana nalowo muzwa ongenalutho.
Ukungabi nalutho kungaba yinto enzima ukubhekana nayo wedwa. Kuyinkinga engahle ibhekwane kangcono nomeluleki oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo, ikakhulukazi uma unesifo sengqondo esingadala lezi zinhlobo zemizwa. Unganqikazi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe, ikakhulukazi uma uhlangabezana nezikhathi ezinde zokuba yize.
Yini ebangela umuzwa wokuba yize?
1. Ukungabi khona kwenhloso.
Abantu abaningi banenkinga yokuthola umqondo wenjongo kulo mhlaba omkhulu wamathuba angenamkhawulo.
Ngenzenjani ngempilo yami? Ingabe lokhu kusho okuthile? Yini okufanele ngabe ngiyayenza nami?
Ukwesaba okukhona okuza nokuntuleka kwenhloso kungakhulisa ukungabi nalutho njengoba kuzwakala sengathi sishoda ngento okufanele sibe nayo. Abanye abantu bazama ukugcwalisa ubuze ngezenzo zabo, njengokwenza umsebenzi wokuzithandela noma ukuthola umsebenzi emkhakheni ongasiza abantu.
Ukufuna inhloso kuyindaba ethokozisayo ngoba ungahle ungakulungeli ukuthola inhloso ethile. Futhi asisho ukuthi ngomqondo ongaqondakali, odalelwe umqondo. Esikhundleni salokho, kungahle kube nokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo okudingeka ube nakho nokusebenza okudingeka ukwenze ngaphambi kokuthi injongo egcwalisayo ichofoze nawe.
Mhlawumbe ukuba ngumzali kukunikeza uhlobo lokugcwaliseka obekungagcwalisa lokho kuswela, kodwa ngeke ukwazi lokho kuze kube ngemuva kokuba usunengane. Noma mhlawumbe kuyinto egxile kakhulu emsebenzini. Mhlawumbe inhliziyo nengqondo yakho kuhambisana nokuba solwandle, into ongase ungayazi uze ubeke unyawo lwakho esikebheni.
Ungaze uzwe ukudonsela entweni engakunikeza ukugcwaliseka, njengenzalo ephikelelayo noma into ekhuluma nawe ngempela. Lokho kungakusiza uthole inkomba.
2. Usizi, ukufa kothandekayo.
Usizi luyindlela engokwemvelo yokusabela ekufeni kothandekayo. Kwesinye isikhathi singabona ukuphela kuza futhi sibe nesikhathi esithile sokukulungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. Ngezinye izikhathi singalahlekelwa umuntu esimthandayo ngokungalindelekile. Kuhlala kunezikhukhula zemizwa okufanele ubhekane nayo lapho kwenzeka ukufa, noma ngabe akusheshi.
uyeka kanjani ukuthanda umuntu ongakuthandi
Abantu abaningi baphendukela izinhlobo zosizi ukuzama kangcono ukucubungula nokuqonda usizi lwabo ngaphandle kokuqonda ngempela amamodeli. “Izigaba Ezinhlanu Zosizi” zingenye yemodeli enjalo. Lokho abantu abavame ukungahambi kahle ngakho mayelana nalezi zinhlobo ukuthi akuyona imithetho enzima futhi esheshayo. Akunakwenzeka ukusunduza ukugcwala okugcwele kwemizwa ebhokisini elincane kangaka, iqiniso lokuthi abadali bamamodeli anjalo bakhuluma njalo ngalo.
Zingasebenza njengesiqondisi esijwayelekile. Kunezigaba ongazithola noma ongazitholi. Abanye abantu baba nezigaba eziningi ngasikhathi sinye. Abanye bayabhampa ngezigaba ezahlukahlukene njengoba belilela othandekayo wabo.
Izinhlobo eziningi zikhuluma “ngokuba ndikindiki” noma “ukuphika” njengokubandakanyeka enqubweni yosizi futhi lokhu kungachaza ubuze obuzwayo. Kungaba yinto enzima ngoba, ngokuqondakalayo, uyazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa udabukile kanye neminye imizwelo eminingi, kepha awunalo futhi lokho kunzima ukuvumelanisa.
Usizi nokulila kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho okuvelayo. Lokho kwenza kube umqondo omuhle ukufuna umeluleki wosizi. Isazi sosizi singakwazi ukukusiza ngaleyo mizwa ephikelelayo engenalutho nokuzila.
3. Izidakamizwa notshwala.
Abantu abaningi baphendukela ezidakamizweni notshwala ukuze babhekane nobunzima bempilo yabo. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokwemvelo ngokuphuza ngezikhathi ezithile noma ukusebenzisa izinto ezisemthethweni. Izinkinga ziqala ukuthathwa lapho lezo zinto zisetshenziswa ngokweqile noma njengendlela yokusiza ukulinganisa imizwa yomuntu.
Ukugcwalisa isikhala sokungabi nalutho ngento kungaholela ekubeni umlutha, ubuhlobo obubi nabanye abantu, ukulahlekelwa imisebenzi, nokushintsha izimo zempilo.
Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa nakho kungaholela ezinkingeni ezahlukahlukene zempilo yomzimba noma yengqondo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, njengokuvusa ukugula kwengqondo okuqubekile noma isifo sesibindi. Kungenza nezinkinga zezempilo ebezikhona ukuthi zibe zimbi kakhulu.
Utshwala buyaziwa ngokuthinta abantu abanezinkinga zemizwelo, njengokucindezeleka kanye ne-bipolar disorder, kakhulu kakhulu kunabantu abangenayo. Kusebenza ngokuhlukile ezingqondweni zabo futhi kungabangela ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo futhi kwenze ukucindezeleka kube kubi kakhulu.
Esinye sezizathu esenza abantu basebenzise izinto ukubasiza baphile entweni abadlula kuyo. Bakholelwa ukuthi iyabasiza ngoba iyabathoba umoya okwamanje. Inkinga ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okunwetshiwe kungaba nemiphumela yesikhathi eside engabhebhethekisa izingqinamba zempilo yengqondo noma ibangele ukuthi ezintsha zikhule ngokuzayo.
4. Izingcindezi zesikhathi eside.
Abantu abakhelwanga ukubhekana kahle nengcindezi yesikhathi eside. Ingcindezi ibanga ukuthi kukhiqizwe ama-hormone ahlukene ukusiza umuntu ukuthi adlule kuleso simo esisheshayo, kepha lawo mahomoni angadala izinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu uma zikhona isikhathi eside.
Izingcindezi zesikhathi eside zingadala ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, futhi kwezinye izimo, i-PTSD. Abasindile ekuhlukunyezweni kwasekhaya, ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane, nobumpofu bangaba ne-Complex PTSD, okuvela ngokungalitholi ikhefu ezimweni abasinde kuzo.
Ukugwema izingcindezi zesikhathi eside noma ukuguqula izimo zokuphila kungasiza. Kepha uma kuvele izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, kuzodinga uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo oqeqeshiwe ukuze elaphe futhi alulame.
5. Umndeni, abangane, noma izindaba zobudlelwano.
Abantu abasizungezile basithinta kanzima isimo sethu sengqondo nengokomzwelo. Ukungabi nalutho kungashukunyiswa ubudlelwano obuneziyaluyalu, ukuhlukana, noma izingcindezi abantu esibathandayo ababangela zona kwesinye isikhathi. Kuba nzima kakhulu ukugcina impilo yakho yengqondo lapho umuntu omthandayo ehlupheka noma ethatha izinqumo ezimbi.
Ubudlelwano bezothando bungaletha zonke izinhlobo zezingcindezi ezingezekile ezingabhebhethekisa lokho. Mhlawumbe umlingani unezinkinga angazixazululi. Ungahle ungazwani kahle nomndeni wabo, okuwumthombo wengcindezi nobunzima. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi ubudlelwano buyancipha futhi busendleleni eya ekugcineni. Lolo hlobo lokudabuka kwenhliziyo lapho izinto zingasebenzi lungahlala lubhebhethekisa ukunganaki okuthile.
Lezi zinkinga zingadinga ukusetshenzelwa mathupha noma ngosizo lomeluleki wezobudlelwano. Vele, kukhona nezinye izingqinamba ongeke wakwazi ukuzilungisa, futhi kungadingeka ukuthi uphinde uhlole ukuthi ubuhlobo bunempilo yini ukuze uhlale kubo.
6. Ukusetshenziswa ngokweqile kwezokuxhumana.
Eminyakeni yamuva nje, imiphumela emibi yokusebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana ngokweqile isiqala ukuvela. Ukuhlaselwa njalo ngezindaba ezingezinhle kanye nokugqama kwezimpilo zabanye kubhebhethekisa ukungazethembi okukhulu, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, nezinye izindaba eziningi.
Kuvela ukuthi lokho akuyona inhlanganisela enhle lapho impilo yakho ingahle ibe ngaphansi kokuphelela abantu abaningi abasebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana abakhetha ukukuveza.
Lokho akubalwa ngisho nezingxenye ze-scummier zokuxhumana. Izinkampani zokuxhumana zenhlalo zifaka uhlelo lokuvuza lomuntu lwe-dopamine kanye Nokwesaba Ukuphuthelwa ukukugcina uskrolela ekubandakanyeni uphethiloli nasekuqoqeni ukuthanda.
Njengazo zonke izinto, imithombo yezokuxhumana idinga ukusetshenziswa ngokulinganisela uma izosetshenziswa. Ukuningi kakhulu akuphilile ngokwengqondo futhi kungabhebhezela imizwa emibi njengokungabi nalutho.
7.Imidiya eyeqile nemidlalo yevidiyo.
Ngokufana nemithombo yezokuxhumana, ukusetshenziswa kwemidiya ngokweqile kungenza izinto ezifanayo.
Mangaki amahlaya noma izinkomba owake wezwa ngazo ngabantu abazitika ngokweqile ngezikhathi zonke zemibukiso kumasevisi okusakaza? Lolo hlobo lokuziphatha alunampilo ngoba lusivumela ukuthi sikhethe lokho esikubukayo esikhundleni sokubhekana nempilo eyenzeka eduze kwethu.
Lolo hlobo lokuziphatha lusiza imizwelo engemihle njengokungabi nalutho, kepha kubanga izinkinga ezengeziwe empilweni ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi asinaki izibopho zethu.
Imidlalo yevidiyo yenza ngendlela efanayo. Kulula kakhulu ukungena kumdlalo wevidiyo owenzelwe ukuba ube yisikhathi sokugcina ukugcina uzibandakanya futhi kukugcina udlala njalo. Ama-MMORPG (iMassive Multiplayer Online RolePlaying Games) nama-MOBAs (Multiplayer Online Battle Arenas) yizinhlobo zemidlalo ezenzelwe ukuba yizindawo zokunyathela ezingapheli.
Impela, ziyindlela emnandi yokudlula isikhathi esithile. Kepha ukusebenzisa imidlalo yevidiyo njengokweqa empilweni yangempela kungadala ukulutha komdlalo wevidiyo ngendlela efanayo nokulutha ukugembula. Uxhunywa ezintanjeni zomvuzo ophathekayo bese uqhubeka ubuyela ukuthola okuningi.
Akukho lutho olungahambi kahle ngalezi zinto ngokulinganisela, kepha umuntu kudingeka asebenzise isilinganiso ukuze agweme ukwenza impilo yabo yengqondo ibe yimbi kakhulu.
8. Izinguquko ezibalulekile empilweni nezinguquko.
Izinguquko empilweni nezinguquko ziletha izingcindezi okungaba nzima ukubhekana nazo. Kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kuhlelwa, kwesinye isikhathi kugxilwa kithi ngokulahleka kwemisebenzi, ukuphela kobudlelwano, ukuguqulwa kwezindlu, noma enye into embi.
Kujwayelekile ukuthi ucindezeleke futhi ungakhululeki lapho wenza ushintsho olunje, ikakhulukazi uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ikusasa lakho liholelaphi.
Isimo esimbaxa salezi zinguquko singadala ukuthi ubuchopho bakho bufune ukuvala shaqa futhi ugweme ukucindezeleka. Leyo mizwa ingabandakanya ukungabi nalutho.
Ungathola ukuthi ukungabi nalutho kuyadlula ngemuva kokuthi isimo sixazululiwe futhi uqhubekela kokunye.
Yebo, kungenzeka ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi, kepha ufaka ezinye izicelo futhi ube nolayini wengxoxo. Ubudlelwano buphela, futhi lokho kuyishwa, kepha kuhlale kunethuba lokuthola ithuba elisha nothando olungcono olufanelana nomuntu okhulela kuye.
Lezi zinguquko zizodlula, futhi uzothola indlela yakho. Kwesinye isikhathi sidinga nje ukubekezela okuncane ngenkathi impilo yethu isishisa eduze kwethu.
9. Izinhloso nokuzisola okungafinyeleleki.
Zimbalwa izinsimbi ezisindayo kunokuzisola. Wonke umuntu unokuthile afisa ukuthi ngabe bakwenze ngendlela ehlukile noma bayenze nhlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu banokuzisola okungaphezu kokukodwa noma okubili kokungena buthule ezingqondweni zabo.
Ukuhlala kuleso sikhathi esedlule nemicabango yalokho okwakungaba khona kungadala imizwa emibi njengokudabuka, ukuzisola, ukulila nokungabi nalutho.
Isikhathi asipholisi wonke amanxeba. Kwesinye isikhathi, ibahlanganisa nje futhi ibenze babe babi kakhulu uma singatholanga indlela yokubhekana nabo ngenkuthalo siphinde siphume kubo.
Lokho kungadinga usizo lomeluleki ukuthola ukwamukelwa ngalokho obekukhona nokungazange kube khona ukuze ubheke phambili ezintweni ezingcono zamanje nekusasa lakho.
10. Ukunganaki impilo yokomoya.
Impilo engokomoya ayisho inkolo noma uhlobo lwenkolo olungokomoya. Esikhundleni salokho, yinkulumo umphakathi wezokwelapha oyisebenzisayo ukuchaza izinto ezingaphatheki zomuntu uqobo.
Impilo engokomoya ihlanganisa izinto ezisenza sizizwe siphelele, sijabule, sihle, noma siphelele.
Abanye abantu basebenzisa inkolo ukuthola lolo hlobo lomuzwa, kepha kungatholakala nasemsebenzini wokuzithandela, ukudala ubuciko, ukwenza okuhle kwabanye abantu, ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obunothando, ukuphuma emvelweni, nezinye izinto eziningi.
Siphila impilo ematasa lapho kuhlale kunokuthile okumele kwenziwe. Kuqabukela kubonakala kunamahora anele ngosuku ukwenza konke kufezwe. Lokho kushiya isikhathi esincane sokuzilibazisa nokufeza uhlangothi lwethu olungokomoya ngaphandle kokuthi ngenhloso senze isikhathi sokudlala.
Ukuzama ukuhlala ugaya ingapheli ngaphandle kwamakhefu, amaholide, noma ukudlala kuyindlela yomlilo eqinisekile ukusha , ukudangala komoya, futhi kudale ukungabi nalutho.
11. Izinkinga zezokwelapha nezengqondo.
Izinkinga eziningi zezempilo nezengqondo zingadala imizwa yokungabi nalutho - ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo, ukuphazamiseka kwemingcele, ukuphazamiseka kokudla, i-dysmorphia yomzimba, i-schizophrenia - kanye nezifo zomzimba ezithinta izingqondo nemizimba yethu.
Uma kungabonakali sengathi kukhona noma yini ejwayelekile empilweni yakho futhi uzizwa ungenalutho, kungaba umqondo omuhle ukubonisana nodokotela ngale nkinga. Ukungabi nalutho kungaba uphawu lokugula ngokomzimba kunokugula kwengqondo.
Ngibhekana kanjani nezikhathi zesikhashana zokuba yize?
Njengoba sibonile kule ndatshana, izinkinga eziningi ezibanga ukungabi nalutho kungenzeka zibe ngamaphrojekthi amade adinga uhlobo oluthile losizo lochwepheshe. Lokho ulwazi oluwusizo lokwenza izinguquko empilweni yesikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, lokho akusizi kangako uma uxakwe kuleyo mizwa okwamanje.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezindlela zokudlula kulezo zikhathi eziphansi kuze kube yilapho ungathola usizo lochwepheshe ongaludinga.
Finyelela kunethiwekhi yakho yokusekela.
Ungahle ukwazi ukuthola ukusekelwa nabangani bakho nabantu obathandayo ngenkathi uhlangabezana nalokhu kuphansi.
Kodwa-ke, akuwona wonke umuntu onenhlanhla eyanele yokuba nabantu abanjalo empilweni yabo. Ungase futhi uthole ukwesekwa ngemithombo eku-inthanethi njengamaqembu ezokuxhumana noma umeluleki oku-inthanethi ukuze anikeze ukuxhaswa okwesikhashana.
Kuyalinga ukufuna ukuzisonga lapho uzizwa ungenalutho, kodwa zama ukungafuni. Ziphoqelele ukufinyelela okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka kubantu owaziyo ukuthi ungabethemba.
Kungumqondo omuhle ukwenza lolu hlobo lokuhlelwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi nomngane noma umsekeli othile, noma kunjalo. Babuze ukuthi ngabe bazimisele ukukusiza ngezikhathi zakho eziphansi, ukuze bazi ukuthi izinto zibucayi kangakanani. Kuyindlela engcono ukwedlula ukudubula imiyalezo nokuzwa okungekho muntu.
Bhala usuku lwakho nemizwa yakho.
I-journaling iyithuluzi elinamandla uma isetshenziswa kahle. Kungasiza ukubhala ngezenzakalo zosuku, ngokwenzekile okuvusa ubuze, nokuhlola imizwa yomcimbi.
Ukungabi nalutho futhi kungaba wuphawu lokuzama ukucindezela imizwa, okudingekayo kwesinye isikhathi ukudlula osukwini. Ngemuva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukuchitha usuku lwakho ukhala emsebenzini, empeleni.
Ongakwenza ukubuya futhi ubuyekeze leyo mizwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho unesikhathi sakho nobumfihlo bakho.
Kunemiyalezo eminingi engenamusa yokuthi 'uyimunce' futhi udlule kuyo, kwesinye isikhathi okudingekayo. Yini leyo mqondo ongakunaki ukuyisho ukuthi ungabuyela emuva uyohlola leyo mizwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Iningi labantu abavala imizwa yabo ukuze babhekane nalo ababuyeli emuva bahlole ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokho kunikeza leyo mizwa isikhathi sokuhlangana nezinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu ezakha futhi zigcine ubuze.
Cabanga ngezinhloso zakho nokuthi usebenzela ini.
Unayo imigomo? Uma kungenjalo, kufanele usethe imigomo emifushane neyesikhathi eside. Ukwazi ukuthi unezinto osebenzela kuzo kungasiza ukukhahlela ukuqala kwezinqubo ezingokomzwelo ezizungeze lezo zinhloso.
Ukukwazi ukudlulela phambili ngokuqhuma kwethemba noma ukwamukela okufeziwe esikhathini esedlule kungahle kwanele ukukhanyisa ukukhanya ngokungabi nalutho kancane.
Gcina amarekhodi noma iphephabhuku mayelana nezinhloso zakho, ukuthi ufuna ukuzifinyelela kanjani, nokuthi yini onethemba lokuzuza kuzo. Kuzoba wusizo ukubheka emuva ukuze ubone ukuthi uhambe ibanga elingakanani lapho uhlangabezana nesikhathi esinzima.
Yenza izinto obukade uzithanda.
Ukudana, ukungabi nalutho, nemizwa engemihle ezungeze lezi zinto kunganciphisa ukujabulela kwethu imisebenzi esiyithanda kakhulu.
Noma ungeke ukwazi ukuwajabulela okwamanje, kungasiza ukuhlanganyela kuwo noma kunjalo. Kuyithuba lokuphinda uxhumane nenjabulo nenjabulo ongeke ube nayo uma uzikhethela imisebenzi engenangqondo noma engagcwalisi.
Yenza lezi zinto ngokulinganisela nangokucabangela. Zama ukucabanga ngalokho okukujabulisa ngalo msebenzi.
Zama ukugwema imisebenzi ongangena kuyo kalula kalula, njengokubuka ukuzitika ngocansi kombukiso wakho owuthandayo. Lokho kungashesha kuphenduke umsebenzi ongenangqondo obhebhethekisa ubuze esikhundleni sokulwa nawo.
Funa usizo lochwepheshe.
Funa usizo lochwepheshe uma uhlangabezana nemizwa eqhubekayo yokungabi nalutho. Azijwayelekile, futhi aziyona indlela enempilo yokuzwa impilo yakho.
Uma iqhubeka isikhathi eside, kulukhuni kakhulu ukubhekana nokuphulukiswa kuyo. Uma udonsa kanzima noma kubonakala sengathi awutholi isixazululo uwedwa, akukho hlazo ekufinyeleleni kochwepheshe ukuze akusize.
Ngabe awunasiqiniseko sokuthi kungani uzizwa ungenalutho ngaphakathi noma ukuthi wenzeni ngakho? Khuluma nomelaphi namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
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