Ngabe kufanele sizwelane nabakwa-narcissist abaphakathi kwethu?
Lowo ngumbuzo onzima obuzwe kule ndatshana.
Ngaphezulu, ungacabanga ukuthi ngumbuzo ongenangqondo ongawubuza - kungani kufanele sinakekele noma ngubani ongakhombisi ukunakekela abanye?
Bheka ujule kancane, noma kunjalo, futhi kunezimpikiswano ezithile zangempela eziphakamisa ukuthi kufanele siyizwele le miphefumulo empofu kunokuba siyibheke njengeyingozi.
Kuyinkemba esika nhlangothi zombili, noma kunjalo.
Kunezizathu eziningi zokungazizwa lutho ngaphandle kokubacasukela, futhi sizozama ukubheka izinhlangothi zombili zempikiswano engezansi.
Uzwela Vs. Ukuzizwa Uxolile Noma Kubi
Isihloko salesi sihloko besingavele sisebenzise kalula amagama athi 'ngiyaxolisa' noma 'kubi' esikhundleni sozwela, kepha nakanjani lezi yizinto ezimbili okungafanele uzizwe zibhekisa kumuntu osebenzisa izihibe.
Okokuqala, awunalutho ongazisola ngalo uma kukhulunywa ngabakwa-narcissists.
Awuzange ubenze babe yilokhu abayikho, awubakweti lutho, futhi ukuziqhelelanisa nabo akusona isenzo esinonya nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Ngokufanayo, uma uzizwa kabi nge-narcissist, khona-ke uyaphinda uwe ngaphansi kwesiphonso sabo.
Awudingi ukuveza imizwa engemihle egameni labo akufanele uvumele usizi lwabo lukuhlise nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Uzwela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akuyona imizwa engemihle futhi akusho ukuthi kunecala ohlangothini lwakho.
Uzwela umuzwa osuselwa othandweni, ekunakekeleni, nasezwelweni.
Izizathu Zokuthi Sizwelane NabakwaNarcissist
Masenze into eyodwa icace: ukuzwa ukuzwelana nomuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi akusho ukuthi kufanele ushweleze ngezenzo zabo.
Lapho uza ukucubungula lesi simo ngokuzithoba okukhulu, noma kunjalo, unganquma ukuthi impendulo engcono kakhulu kuyo ukukhathalela.
I-Narcissism kungathathwa njengokugula ngengqondo njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuthinta kakhulu izimpilo zalabo abaphethwe yiso.
Imbangela ngqo ayaziwa futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene eziholela abantu ekubhekaneni narcissism.
Njengobuntu bakho, kuzoba inhlanganisela yofuzo kanye nesipiliyoni sempilo.
Le yingxabano ebalulekile yokuzwa uzwela kuma-narcissists.
ungigqolozele emehlweni ngaphandle kokumamatheka
Bathuthuke ngale ndlela ngenxa yezici ebezingaphezu kwamandla abo ekukhuleni kwabo.
Bangase bangabi nesibopho sezinkinga zabo kunomuntu ohlushwa ukukhathazeka okukhulu noma ophethwe yi-bipolar.
Kufanele ubuze ukuthi ngabe noma imuphi umuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist ukhetha ukuba ngaleyo ndlela ngentando yakhe yokuzikhethela.
Singase futhi sizwelane nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist lapho sithola ukuthi maningi amathuba okuthi bangajabuli (kodwa hhayi bonke).
Iningi lokuziphatha kwabo lisuselwa ku ukuzenyanya lokho kubashiya bethukuthele futhi bekhungathekile.
Bakukhiphela lokhu abanye njengendlela yokubhekana nesimo, kepha akulifihli iqiniso lokuthi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, babhekene nobuhlungu obukhulu babo.
Enye ingxenye yeqiniso elidabukisayo labaningi bama-narcissist ukuthi balwela ukwakha nokugcina noma yibuphi ubudlelwano bangempela.
Bangazizwa bengaxhumene kangako nemindeni yabo, babe nabangane abambalwa abangathembela kubo, futhi basuke ebudlelwaneni obuyinhlekelele baye kolunye.
Manje ake uzifake ezicathulweni zabo okwesikhashana bese ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuzizwa kanjani (okuthile ama-narcissists ngokuvamile angakwazi ukukwenza).
Cabanga ngempilo lapho ungakwazi ukuzwa uthando, ukusondelana, ububele, nothando.
Ucabanga ukuthi impilo enjalo ingaba nesizungu kangakanani?
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bazoshayela inani elikhulu lalabo ababanakekelayo futhi basale bengenalutho ngaphandle kwamakhoba angenalutho entukuthelo nokulimala.
Ekugcineni, ungazizwa uzwelana nabakwa-narcissists ngoba abanawo amandla okukhula - bobabili uqobo kanye nangokomoya.
Abaningi abasoze baqonda umhlaba nendawo yabo kuwo, abasoze bazizwa benomuzwa ojulile wokuxhumana nayo yonke indawo, futhi abasoze bakwazi ukuzithuthukisa njengabantu.
kufanele ngilithathephi isoka lami ngosuku lwalo lokuzalwa
Hlanganisa konke okungenhla ndawonye futhi ungaqala ukuqonda ukuthi omunye umuntu angakhombisa kanjani ukuzwelana nabakwa-narcissists.
Ukufunda okubaluleke kakhulu kwe-narcissist (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungayilimaza Kanjani i-Narcissist
- ICoververt Narcissist: Izinhlobo Ezinamahloni, Ezingenisiwe Zingaba Narcissists Kanjani
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Izinto eziyi-8 i-Narcissist Angeke ikwenzele zona (Noma Noma ngubani omunye)
- IRollercoaster Yokubuyiselwa Okusuka Ekuhlukunyezweni KwamaNarcissistic
- Uthando Lokuqhuma Amabhomu: Isibonakaliso Sesexwayiso Sokuqala sokuthi Uthandana Nomuntu OyiNarcissist
Izizathu Zokungafanele Sizwelane NamaNarcissist
Labo abake baba ngaphansi kwenkampani yomqaphi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi eside ngokungangabazeki bazokutshela ukuthi bangaba nentela emangalisayo kanjani.
Ngakho-ke, akumangazi ukuthi izimpikiswano eziyinhloko ezimelene nokuzwelana nabo ziphathelene nokuziphatha kwabo nokuphatha kwabo abanye abantu.
Futhi cishe kunjalo emhlabeni wonke ukuthi ama-narcissists anobuntu obonakalisayo ikakhulukazi okumele abekhona.
Abazona izibani zokuthula nokuzola nakancane. Kubonakala sengathi bayajabula ngezinxushunxushu nakudrama.
Mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuzinza lunikeza izingqondo zabo isikhathi sokucabanga ngomuzwa wabo wokungajabuli ukuthi bafuna izindlela zokuphazamisa njalo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abazithola besebudlelwaneni obusondelene nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa - bobabili ophathina namalungu omndeni ngokufanayo - abhekana nokuziphatha okuya ngokuya kuba kubi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ekugcineni, indlela umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi aphatha ngayo laba bantu ifana nokuhlukumezeka okuyingozi kakhulu.
Banomthwalo wokucekela phansi izimpilo nokwenza abanye bazizwe bengelutho.
Bayakwazi ukuhlaselwa ngesihluku ezingqondweni zalabo abasondelene nabo futhi bangashiya izisulu zabo benesibazi sempilo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho umphakathi ngokuvamile ucace bha ekuziphatheni okungamukeleki nokwamukelekayo, ngakho-ke abakwa-narcissists bazi kahle ukuthi izenzo zabo zithathwa njengeziphikisayo ngabanye.
Kumele-ke kuthiwe, basebenza benolwazi oluphelele ngokungalungile abakwenzayo nangezimpilo abazithintayo.
Okuyinto enzima ikakhulukazi ukuyisisu kwabaningi ukuthi abakwa-narcissists bavame ukukhombisa ukuzisola okuncane noma ukungazisoli ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo, kepha bazame ukubeka icala kubo bonke abanye abantu.
Bafika bebanda futhi bebala, akuthinteki nakancane usizi abalubangelayo.
Futhi okudabukisa kunakho konke, mhlawumbe, ukuthi bambalwa kakhulu abakwa-narcissist abake benze izinhlobo zezinguquko ezidingekayo ukunciphisa umthelela wabo omubi.
Ukwelashwa kungasiza abanye ukuthi bathambise indlela abasebenzela ngayo abanye, kodwa ‘ukwelapha’ ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obenziwa ngobudlabha cishe akuzwakali.
Ngakho-ke Ngabe Kufanele Sizizwe Sinozwelo NgabakwaNarcissists?
Lo ngumbuzo ozodinga ukuziphendulela wona.
Izimpikiswano ezingenhla aziphelele nganoma iyiphi indlela futhi, impela, kunezincwadi eziphelele ezikhuluma ngalesi sifo nendawo yaso emphakathini.
Indlela ozizwa ngayo ngama-narcissists, ngokwezinga elikhulu, incike kulwazi lwakho siqu ngabo.
Ekugcineni, akekho umuntu ongakwenza uzwelane nosizi lomuntu osebenza ngezidakamizwa futhi nokubeka izingxabano nokuphikisana ngendlela enengqondo kungahle kungakusizi.
Ukuzikhethela kungokwakho wedwa ongakwenza.
