Inkinga eyodwa ayanele, akunjalo? Umhlaba wonke uhlala ufuna ukuphonsa izingcezu eziningi ze-sh * t ngendlela yami sengathi uzongihlola. Noma, okungenani, yileyondlela engazizwa ngayo ilungile?
Inkinga ngalo mbono ukuthi, ezimweni eziningi, ayinembile ngokuphelele. Esikhundleni salokho, ingqondo inokuthambekela kokunaka nokukhumbula okubi, ngenkathi inganaki noma ikhohlwa okuhle. Lokhu kwaziwa njengokuchema kokunganaki.
URick Hanson, umcwaningi nombhali weBuddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom ukubeka ngale ndlela: ubuchopho bufana neVelcro ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kepha iTeflon kokuhle.
Ngakho-ke lapho kuvela inkinga empilweni yakho, ulondoloza isipiliyoni ngokushesha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngalesi sikhathi izinsimbi zama-alamu zikhala e-amygdala - ingxenye eyinhloko yobuchopho bakho obhekene nokuhlola okuhle nokubi - bese uqala ukugxila kuyo yonke into encane engahambi kahle ngaleso sikhathi.
kungani ngibaba futhi ngithukuthele kangaka
Lokhu kwenza kube lula ukuthi ungazinaki izehlakalo ezinhle empilweni yakho. Ngisho noma ume futhi ubonga okuthile okuhle okwenzekayo, uma kuqhathaniswa nokubi, kufanele ugcine ukugxila kwakho isikhathi eside kakhulu - amasekhondi angama-20 - ngaphambi kokuthi kube yinto eqinile nenomphela kwimemori yakho.
Ngakho-ke, cha, alihlali lithela njalo uma lina kwesinye isikhathi lina nje. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi lingana futhi likhanye ngasikhathi sinye futhi lenze uthingo - kuphela, mhlawumbe ubungeke ulubone ngoba uzoba matasa kakhulu uzizwe uhlushwa yimvula.
Ungalubona Kanjani Uthingo
Njengasezintweni eziningi ezibandakanya ingqondo - ukuqwashisa kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokushintsha. Manje njengoba usuyazi ukuthi umqondo usujwayelene nezici ezingezinhle zempilo kunokuhle, ungenza okuthile ngakho.
Khumbula, ubuchopho abuwona umshini ohleliwe, onentambo eqinile, kepha kunalokho yikhompyutha engacushwa futhi yenziwe kabusha.
ujohn cena akayeki
Ngalokhu kucabanga njengesiqalo sethu, nazi izinto ezimbili ongazenza ukubuyisela emuva ubandlululo lokunganaki emuva kokuhle ngezinga elithile:
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Noma nini lapho kwenzeka izinto ezinhle - noma ngabe zinkulu noma zincane kangakanani - kufanele uzame ukuhlala kuzo isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka ukufaka lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho engqondweni yakho. Kufanele futhi uzame ukuqaphela kakhudlwana izinto ezincane empilweni lezo ongase wehluleke ukuzibona lapho wenza imisebenzi yakho ejwayelekile yansuku zonke.
kusho ukuthini ukuveza imizwa yakho
Njengoba kuxoxiwe ku- le ndatshana nge-Psychology Today , abacwaningi benze imizamo yokubala isilinganiso esifanelekile sokuhle kuya kwemicabango emibi nokuhlangenwe nakho ngezici ezahlukahlukene zempilo yethu. Inombolo eqhubeka ikhuphuka ingu-5 kuye ku-1.
Lokho kusho ukuthi udinga ukuthola izinto ezi-5 ezinhle kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi ukuze uzuze ukulingana okuhle kwengqondo futhi ugweme ukubuka impilo ngokweqile.
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Uma uhlangabezana nokulandelana kwemicabango emibi, noma lapho kwenzeka izinto ezimbi futhi kubonakala sengathi isibhakabhaka siyangena, zama lokhu kuvivinya umzimba. Mane uthathe ipeni nephepha (noma ifoni nomunwe uma uthanda) bese ubhala phansi zonke izinto ongabonga ngazo okwamanje.
Ungasheshi - chitha imizuzu emi-5 noma eyishumi ucabanga uma udinga. Ngokubeka ukunaka kwakho ezintweni ezinhle empilweni yakho, ungashintsha indlela ozibona ngayo izinkinga noma izinselelo ohlangabezana nazo.
Ngenkathi kungasebenza kakhulu ukwenza lo msebenzi ngezikhathi lapho uzizwa khona indawo yonke ngokumelene nawe, kungasiza ngokulinganayo ukwenza lokhu noma okunye okufanayo njalo. Mhlawumbe ungazama nokugcina “idayari evumayo” lapho ubheka khona okungenani into eyodwa eyakhayo eyenzeka usuku ngalunye.
yini iqiniso elilodwa elihehayo ngawe
Ngenkathi ungeke ukwazi ukususa ubandlululo ngokuphelele kude nokungabi namandla, kungenzeka ukunciphisa lokho 5: 1 isilinganiso ukuze kuthathe amaphuzu ambalwa amahle ukulinganisa imicabango emibi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho.
I-Conscious Rethink: ngolwazi lwe-negativity eligcinwe ngokuphepha engqondweni yakho nangokuzivocavoca okungenhla njengengxenye ye-arsenal yakho, ungaqala kancane kancane ukulungisa ukuxhumana ebuchosheni bakho futhi uguqule umbono wakho emhlabeni kanye nezehlakalo impilo. Lesi ngesinye sezimo lapho umsebenzi owengeziwe owufakayo, uzoklonyeliswa ngokwengeziwe, ngakho-ke sicela usebenzise lokhu.
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