Ukuba munyu kuyinto evame ukuhlotshaniswa nabantu abadala.
Akulona igama ovame ukulisebenzisa ukukhuluma ngomuntu oseminyakeni yama-20, 30, noma engama-40!
Kodwa-ke, intukuthelo imizwa evumelekile iningi lethu elilwa nayo ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene ezimpilweni zethu.
Lo muzwa ubangelwa ukucasuka nokuzisola, phakathi kweminye imizwa, futhi kubalulekile ukukuphinda lokho ohlangabezana nakho kuvumelekile.
Kepha lokho akusho ukuthi akufanele ube uhlose ukuyinciphisa.
Ufuna ukuyeka ukuba munyu?
Nawa amathiphu ethu aphezulu ayi-10 uma kukhulunywa ngokuqhubekela phambili kusuka emunyu futhi ubheke ikusasa elihle kakhulu.
1. Thatha isinyathelo emuva.
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa yimizwa yethu. Abaningi bethu bamane bakhohlwe ukuzinika isikhala sokuphefumula.
Ngokuzisusa esimweni esidala umzwelo, singathola imibono emisha.
Umunyu ungaholela ngizizwe ngicindezeleke kakhulu , okungenza konke kudideke futhi kuzizwe kubi kakhulu kunalokho okuyikho ngempela.
ungadlula kanjani ekubeni mubi
Zinike isikhathi sokuzikhipha kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho ngaphambi kokuthi uqhubeke namanye amaphuzu angezansi.
2. Kubhale phansi.
Abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima ukucubungula imizwa engqondweni.
Ngokuveza imizwa yakho ngepeni nephepha, uzokwazi ukukhulula isikhala esithile ekhanda lakho.
Isenzo sokubhala phansi izinto singenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni ozizwa ngayo.
Kuyindlela yokulawula isimo ngenkathi uvuma ukuthi kukhona okwenzekayo okukucasulayo.
Ukushicilela kuwumsebenzi omuhle kakhulu futhi kungenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni obhekana ngayo nezimo.
Uma ulwa nemizwa yomunyu, lena indlela enhle yokubuka izinto ngomqondo ovulekile futhi, ekugcineni, uthole indlela yokudlulela phambili.
3. Khulumisanani.
Le ndlela isebenza kangcono kwabanye abantu futhi singaphakamisa ukuthi siyisebenzise eceleni kokubhala kwakho.
Ngokuzwakalisa ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuzwakalayo, ubhekene nemizwa yakho ngempela.
Lokhu kuvuma kuzosiza lahla leyo mizwa yecala , ezivame kakhulu phakathi abantu abababayo .
Ukufihla izinto kungaba sengathi kuzobasiza ukuthi banyamalale….
… Kepha okuphambene ngqo kwenzeka kaningi!
Ukucindezela noma ukuphika leyo mizwa yengcindezi nentukuthelo kungayenza ibe yimbi nakakhulu ngoba umuzwa wehlazo noma wecala obazungezile umane ukhula.
Izinto esizama ukuzifihla ngokushesha zizizwa zimbi kakhulu kunalokho eziyikho ngoba siyazichitha.
Ukuba necala kuyingxenye enkulu yentukuthelo, kungaba ukuzizwa unecala ngezinqumo zethu esikhathini esedlule noma ukuzizwa sinecala futhi sizisola ngendlela esimphathe ngayo umuntu.
Khuluma nomuntu owaziyo ukuthi ungamethemba futhi uzizwe ungakhululeka ukukhuluma naye.
Noma, zama uhlobo oluthile lokwelashwa kokukhuluma nomeluleki oqeqeshiwe ongakusiza ukuthi usebenzise imicabango nemizwa yakho.
Ukwethembeka kubaluleke kakhulu ngalezi zinhlobo zemisebenzi - uzokukhipha lokho okufaka kulokhu.
4. Ungakhulumi kakhulu.
Siyazi, siyazi - izeluleko eziphikisanayo!
Yize sikholwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngezinto, qaphela indlela okhuluma ngayo.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukukhuluma ngezinto kungadala ukuthi uphinde ukhulule imizwa sengathi okokuqala ngqa.
Imizwa yomunyu iyakheka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukuthi nabo bathatha isikhashana ukuphela.
Lapho uqhubeka nokubheka ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi yini ohlangabezane nayo (nokuthi kungani uzizwa kanzima ukwenziwa), maningi amathuba ozinika wona wokuphinda usebenze futhi.
Sikholelwa emandleni okubonakaliswa - okucabangayo, kuba yikho.
Khuluma ngezinto lapho uzizwa unesidingo, kodwa zibekele imingcele ethile.
Ungahlokoma futhi ukhononde ngangokunokwenzeka ngezinsuku ezibekiwe zesonto, kepha zinike (kanye nomuntu ophokophela kuye!) Ikhefu njalo.
Lapho sicasukile, ngokwemvelo sifuna ukuthola incazelo nesisombululo. Ukuphindaphinda isimo esikukhathazayo can kubukeka kuyindlela enhle yokuthola lolu hlobo lokuvalwa.
Noma kunjalo, kungathathwa kude kakhulu futhi ungagcina uzenzela izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu.
Thola ibhalansi phakathi ukuveza imizwa yakho nokuziyeka uphile.
5. Zindla.
Ukuzindla kungumsebenzi osebenzayo wokuzithuthukisa ongawufaka kalula empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.
Noma uthatha imizuzu eyi-15 kuphela ngosuku kuwe, uzoqala ukuqaphela ushintsho olukhulu endleleni ozizwa ngayo.
Ngokuzinika isikhathi sokuba wedwa usuku ngalunye, ungabheka ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani empeleni uzizwe.
Imizwa yomunyu ivame ukuhlanganisa yonke into iba ngokushesha futhi iqede yonke imicabango evukayo.
Lokhu kujwayelekile, kepha akunampilo.
Iningi lethu ligxila kakhulu kule mizwa yokuba muncu size sikhohlwe ukubheka ukuthi sisebenza kanjani ngempela usuku nosuku.
Ukusabela kwethu emadolweni kuba kubi ngokushesha okukhulu lapho sizwa umunyu.
Isibonelo, sizobona ngokuzenzakalela okubi kakhulu kunoma yisiphi isimo, ngokushesha sicabange ukuthi abantu banezinhloso ezimbi, bese siziqinisekisa ukuthi sizizwa singekho kahle ngoba sicabanga ukuthi leso yisimo sethu semvelo.
Abaningi bethu baphendula ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuthi 'ngikhathele' lapho bebuzwa ukuthi sinjani ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso noma cha kuwumkhuba nje.
Sebenzisa ukuzindla njengethuluzi lokuhlola ingqondo yakho yangaphakathi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani empeleni, hhayi ukuthi wena uzizwa kanjani cabanga uzizwe.
Ukuzindla kusivumela ukuthi sihlole ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngempela futhi kungasisiza ukuthi sishiye imizwa yokuba muncu ngokuhlola kabusha izimpilo zethu nokujula ngokujulile ezingqondweni zethu.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Impilo Akulungile - Dlula Kuyo Noma Ukhungatheke. Kuyinketho Yakho.
- Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukugxeka Njalo Isikhathi
- Kungani Impilo Inzima Kangaka?
- Lokho Okushiwo Ngempela Ukuba Nomusa Kuwe
- Ingabe Nginobuthi? Izindlela eziyi-17 Zokutshela Uma Unobuthi (+ Ungayeka Kanjani)
- Imibuzo eyi-17 okufanele uyiphendule Uma Uzizwa Ushiywe Ngaphandle Noma Ukhishiwe
6. Thola ukushaya kwegazi lakho.
Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuyisici esibalulekile sendlela yokuphila enempilo, kodwa futhi siyazi nokuthi kungaba nzima kangakanani ukungena ezimpilweni zethu ezimatasa.
Ukuvivinya umzimba, kungaba ukuthi ukuvivinya umzimba, ukusebenzisa noma ukuzivocavoca nge-yoga, kukhipha ama-endorphin asenza sizizwe singcono.
Ngokwenza okuthile ngenkuthalo ukushintsha ukucabanga kwethu, asiziniki nje kuphela ukuzihlonipha okusifanele, futhi sivumela noshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni.
Ukuphatheka kabi kwabanye abantu kuvame ukubangelwa ukungazethembi esikuthola ngathi, kungaba lokho kususelwa ebuntwini bethu noma ekubukekeni kwethu.
Asikuphakamisi ukuthi uthathe noma yiziphi izinyathelo ezinqala ukushintsha noma iyiphi yalezi zici zakho, kodwa ukuzivocavoca kuhle kakhulu empilweni yakho engokomzimba, engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo.
Ngokuthatha ukulawula okuthile futhi ngenkuthalo sithathe isinqumo sokuzinakekela, indlela esizizwa ngayo ngathi izoshintsha.
Lapho sizizwa kangcono ngathi uqobo, kulapho sizizwa kahle futhi sincipha kakhulu ukucasukela abanye.
7. Bhekana nakho!
Imizwa yomunyu ivame ukubonakala ingaqhamuki ngalutho.
Ngokungazelelwe, sizithola sesizonda kakhulu noma sigcwele ukuzisola.
Futhi, lokhu kujwayelekile. Awuwedwa lapho uzizwa ukhungathekile, uthukuthele, noma uthukuthele - into ebalulekile ukuqhubeka kulokhu.
Ngemuva kokuvuma imizwa yakho ngokukhuluma noma ngokubhala, sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo esilandelayo.
Khomba ukuthi ngubani onephutha lapha. Sizofika ekuphenduleni ngokuzayo ngokulandelayo, kodwa, okwamanje, ake sigxile ekusebenzeni kangcono nalabo abasizungezile.
Uma uzizwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi omunye umuntu kungenzeka ukuthi uyingxenye ethile noma unesibopho esiphelele sendlela ozizwa ngayo, bhekana nabo.
Uma ungaphatheki kahle ngalokhu, singaphakamisa ukuthi ubandakanye umngani ohlanganyele ukuba abe ngumlamuleli.
Lokhu kungqubuzana akuhloselwe ukuba kube nolaka, ukukhohlisa noma ukufutheka!
Kufanele kube inqubo enempilo evumela ukuthi uchaze ukuthi uzizwa kanjani futhi, ngokufanele, uthole ukuvalwa okuthile.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukungafuni khomba umunwe wecala , kodwa ukuchaza ngokusobala nangokuthembeka kungani uzizwa ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Umqondo lapha akukhona ukukhalaza nokukhononda, kepha ukufinyelela esinqumweni.
Thola indlela eya phambili eya phambili enifanelana nobabili, noma ngabe lokhu kusho ukulungisa izenzo zenu noma ukucela omunye umuntu ukuthi azi kakhulu imizwa yenu.
8. Phendula.
Yize kubalulekile ukusebenzela ukuthuthukisa imvelo yakho, kufanele yemukela umthwalo othile ngendlela ozizwa ngayo.
Cabanga ukuthi usabela kanjani ezimweni ezahlukahlukene nokuthi yini engadala le mizwa yokuba munyu kuwe.
Yebo, kungenzeka ukuthi abanye abantu bakwenza uzizwe ungalungile noma ushise imizwa yokuzisola, kepha nawe kufanele ubheke ngaphakathi.
Kungani kwenzeka ngokushesha ukuthi ufinyelele kule mizwa yomunyu?
Kungani ulwa nemizwa ethile ukwedlula eminye?
Iyiphi indima osuyidlalile ngendlela ozizwa ngayo?
Le mibuzo ingazizwa ingakhululekile futhi akuhlali kumnandi ukuyiphendula njalo.
Kuyisici somuntu ukuzivikela, okuvame ukuthi kusho ukungazinaki ukuthi sizibandakanye kangakanani ekwazini kwethu.
Zibonise inhlonipho ethile futhi uzivumele ukucubungula imizwa yalokho okwenzekayo.
Uzothola ngokushesha yini ebangela le mizwa bese ungathatha izinyathelo ezinempilo zokugwema lezi zinto ezibangela noma ulungise indlela yakho yokuziphatha ngokufanele.
9. Zibekele imigomo bese wenza izinhlelo.
Ngokuthatha iqhaza elibonakalayo kunokungenzi lutho empilweni yakho, ungaqala ukubumba ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi ulizwa kanjani ikusasa lakho.
Khetha izinto ozozengeza kukhalenda yakho ezizokwenza uzizwe kahle.
Lokhu kungaba ukuya ekilasini le-salsa, ukuhlangana nabangane ngesiphuzo ngemuva komsebenzi, noma ukumane uhlele isikhathi esithile sodwa ukuze unciphise ngemuva kosuku olunengcindezi.
Ungacabanga isikhathi eside, futhi, ngokungeza ku izinhlobo ezahlukene zemigomo nokuzibophezela.
Bhalisela isigaba se-ceramics, bhuka iholide maduzane, noma ujoyine ijimu bese uzibonisa ukuthi ufanele ukuzibophezela kukho.
Lezi zinhlobo zemisebenzi azikwenzi uzizwe kahle kuphela, kodwa futhi zikhombisa ukuthi uthatha ukunakekelwa ngokungathi sína.
Lapho sizizwa sinomunyu futhi sicasukile, sigxila kakhulu kule mizwa emibi kangangokuba sivame ukungakunaki esikudinga ngempela njengabantu.
Dala impilo oyifunela wena noma ngabe uzizwa ungayifanele.
Ngokushesha uzojwayela ukujabulela izinto nokuba nezinto ongabheka phambili kuzo, okungazizwa njengoshintsho olwamukelekile kakhulu ngemuva kwaleyo mizwa ecasulayo yokuzisola, ukucasuka nentukuthelo.
Ufanele izinto ezikwenza ujabule, futhi ulawula ukuthi uyazenza noma cha.
10. Nquma ikusasa lakho.
Sizwa ubuhlungu kuphela maqondana nezehlakalo ezedlule ngoba sinamathela kuzo njengendlela yokuqhubeka sizizwa siphephile.
Lokhu kunamathela kokudlule yilokho okuvame ukuletha imizwa yomunyu, intukuthelo, nokuzisola.
Ukungakhululeki kwethu akuxhunyanisiwe nezehlakalo ezedlule, kepha ukungafuni kwethu ukukuyeka.
Ukuzizwa umunyu kungaxhunyaniswa nemizwa yebhizinisi elingapheli kanye nokuntuleka kokuvalwa.
Nquma ukuthi ufuna ikusasa elingafaki le mizwa, bese wenza okudingeka ukwenze ukuze ukufeze.
Ukudedela okwedlule kungaba nzima, kepha kukuvumela ukuthi uqhubekele phambili ngokukhululeka futhi wakhe ikusasa ongalifanele kuphela kodwa ozozijabulela ngokuphelele.
Kuzwakala kulula kakhulu kunalokho okuyiqiniso, njengoba kwenza izinto eziningi ezihlobene nokuzinakekela, ukuqhubekela phambili nokuzithuthukisa.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, ukusebenza kanzima nakanjani kuzokuzuzisa futhi uzozizwa unethemba, uthokoze futhi wondleke - njengoba nje kufanele uzizwe.
