“Ungalokothi uphathe kabi ulwazi ngokuhlakanipha. Enye ikusiza ukuba uphile enye ikusiza ukuba uphile. ”
Sisho kanjalo isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo, uDkt Sandra Carey, efingqa ngobunono umehluko phakathi kwalezi zimfanelo zomuntu ezimbili ezivame ukudideka.
Lokhu kubonwa okuqondayo kungakhombisa ukuthi ukuhlakanipha kuyinto ebalulekile ekutholeni ukwaneliseka kwempilo. Futhi nokho kulezi zinsuku, kubonakala sengathi ukugxila okukhulu kukuthole ulwazi nokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani.
Wonke umuntu uzimisele ngokulandela imfundo yakhe aye ezingeni le-n-th ngethemba lokuthola lowo msebenzi ophusayo, kanye nesimo senhlalo nomvuzo wezezimali owulethayo.
Ukuhlakanipha kusale emuva emncintiswaneni wabaphezulu.
Kuvela ukuthi owehlulekile kulo mkhankaso wokufuna ukugqwesa ezifundweni ukuhlakanipha okuhle okuyisidala, okwehlise amazinga ezimfanelo ezifiselekayo ezweni eligxile kulwazi futhi eliqhutshwa yinjongo.
Zingaki izincazelo zomsebenzi ozifundile ucaphuna ukuhlakanipha njengesidingo sabafakizicelo?
Kodwa-ke, isikhathi kwaba lapho lezi zimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu zaziswa kakhulu. Labo ababenobuhlakani futhi benokuqonda okuningiliziwe kokuhlangenwe nakho okubanzi kwempilo bafunwa ukuze banikeze izeluleko futhi bahambise amaparele okuhlakanipha abantu ababafisayo.
Manje-ke, kumayelana namabanga nokuthola isethi elandelayo yeziqu ukuze sikhuphule amazinga emiholo - singakhohlwa ukuqhuma nokuzikhulisa okuhambisana nokuphishekela impumelelo.
Ufaka ukuxhumeka kanzima, uzuze umklomelo wakho - umsebenzi usuqedile futhi usethelwe impilo, akunjalo?
Hhayi, mhlawumbe cha. Ukuba ohlakaniphile nokusebenza kanzima akuyona yonke into.
Yebo, impumelelo yakho yezemfundo enhle kakhulu ikhombisa ukuthi uyakwazi ukucabanga okunengqondo, ukuqonda imiqondo, futhi uhlonyelwe izinqwaba zokuzimisela nobulukhuni uma kukhulunywa ngokuqalisa ukusebenza.
Izimfanelo ezinhle yize kungaba, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ubuhlakani abuyona inkomba yenhlalakahle.
Kubukeka sengathi ukuphishekela kwethu ulwazi ngokweqile kube yingozi ekuhlakuleleni ukuhlakanipha. Lokho-ke kuye kwaholela ekunciphiseni kwesipiliyoni sempilo jikelele.
Ngakho-ke, uyini umehluko phakathi kokuhlakanipha nokuhlakanipha?
Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuchaza izimfanelo ezingaqondakali ezifana nalezi, kepha ukuvuselelwa okusheshayo encazelweni yesichazamazwi ngasinye kungaveza ukukhanya okuthile:
Ukuhlakanipha: Amandla wokusebenzisa ulwazi lwakho nolwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezinengqondo nezinqumo.
Ubuhlakani: Ikhono lokucabanga, ukucabanga nokuqonda esikhundleni sokwenza izinto ngokuzenzekelayo noma ngemvelo.
Ukusabalalisa lezi zincazelo kuze kube ezintweni ezingenalutho, umehluko omkhulu ungabonakala sengathi ukuhlakanipha kusebenzisa umbono otholwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo, kanti ubuhlakani bungaphansi kokutholwa kwamaqiniso nolwazi.
Ukufaka impikiswano yemvelo / yokukhulisa kungenye indlela yokwehlukanisa phakathi kwalokhu okubili:
Ubuhlakani buvunywa njengokuthile into ozalwa unayo ngezinga elithile (yize futhi kudinga ukukhuliswa ukuze kufezekiswe amandla ayo).
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuhlakanipha akuyona into engokwemvelo, edinga isikhathi nesipiliyoni kanye nokubona nokucabangisisa ukuze kuthuthuke futhi ekugcineni kuqhakaze.
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Enye indlela yokubona umehluko ukusho ukuthi ubuhlakani buyazi Kanjani ukwenza okuthile ukuhlakanipha ukwazi uma kanye / noma nini umuntu kufanele akwenze.
Ubuhlakani bungasho ukwazi ukuthi ungangena kanjani kwinethiwekhi yekhompyutha yomsebenzi wakho, kepha ukuhlakanipha ukuqonda ukuthi mhlawumbe lowo ngumqondo omubi!
Kusho ukuthini ukuhlakanipha?
Ngokumangazayo, uhlu lwezingcaphuno ezikhuluma ngobuhlakani lude futhi luyakhanyisa. Nazi ezimbalwa nje, ngakho-ke uthola ingqikithi:
UPierre Abelard: 'Ukuqala kokuhlakanipha kutholakala ngokungabaza ngokungabaza ukuthi sifika embuzweni futhi ngokufuna ukuthi singathola iqiniso.'
U-Albert Einstein: 'Ukuhlakanipha akuwona umkhiqizo wokufunda, kodwa umzamo wokuphila konke ukukuthola.'
UMarilyn vos Savant: 'Ukuze umuntu athole ulwazi, kumele afunde kepha ukuze athole ukuhlakanipha, kumele akubheke.'
USocrates: “Ukuphela kokuhlakanipha kweqiniso kukwazi ukuthi awazi lutho.”
UBenjamin Franklin: 'Umnyango wethempeli lenhlakanipho wukungazi kwethu.'
UConfucius: “Ukwazi okwaziyo nokwazi ongakwazi. Lokho ukuhlakanipha kwangempela. ”
Kunengqikithi ejwayelekile egijima kulawa magama ahlakaniphile futhi leyo ukuthobeka , ikhwalithi ethe xaxa emphakathini wethu njengamanje, lapho kushaywa icilongo kuyikho konke. Kepha ngaphezulu kwalokho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Khona lapho phakathi kwalawo magugu ungathola ugqozi oludingekayo ukukhuthaza ukuthi uthuthukise 'isazi' sakho sangaphakathi ngenhloso yokuba uhlakaniphe futhi umuntu ocabanga ngokujulile .
Kamuva sizobheka izindlela ongakwenza ngazo lokho, kodwa okokuqala ake siphenye ukuthi kungani le mfanelo ethile ikhulisa impilo kangaka.
Yini ukuhlakanipha okungasenzela yona?
Ebukhoneni bethu bokuphokophela nobunzima, akukaze kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonyiselwa ukuhlakanipha kokwenza izinqumo ezifanele ukuhlakanipha kokubhekana nokungaziwa ukuhlakanipha kokubona ubuhlakani bokubhekana nemizwelo ukuhlakanipha okumele sikuqonde kanye nokuhlakanipha esizokubona ngaphezu kwenani lobuso.
Ngokwesifundo esishiwo ngenhla…
“… Ukubonisana ngokuhlakanipha kuhlotshaniswa nokwaneliseka okukhulu kwempilo, ukuthinteka okuncane okungekuhle, ubudlelwano obungcono bezenhlalo, ukusakazeka okuncane kokucindezeleka, amagama amahle kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa namagama asetshenzisiwe enkulumweni, nokuphila isikhathi eside.”
Esinye isifundo bathole ukuthi abantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu babhekana nesizungu esincane.
Ucwaningo lukhombe izinto eziningi zokuhlakanipha:
- Ububele
- Ulwazi olujwayelekile ngokuphila
- Ukuphathwa kwemizwelo
- Uzwela
- Ukuzidela
- Umuzwa wobulungiswa
- Ukuqonda
- Ukwamukelwa kwamanani ahlukile
- Ukuthatha isinqumo
Kukhona nobufakazi bokuthi ikhono labacabangi abahlakaniphile lokubuka izinto ngombono obanzi, ovulekile kuholela ekubeni nethemba elingcono.
Ngenkathi umuntu onomqondo osondelene kakhulu, ozivikelayo futhi ongalungile ngokuvamile, esimweni esifanayo, ubona ubumnyama nelahleko kuphela.
Okunye okuhle okuhambisana nokuhlakanipha ukubekezelelana okukhulu kanye nempendulo elinganiselayo ngokomzwelo.
Ukuzazi okuza nokuhlakanipha kukhuthaza ukuzithiba futhi kugcina isivalo semizwa emibi njengokuthukuthela nokukhungatheka.
Yizwi langaphakathi eleluleka ngokungqubuzana nokushaya izibani kothile noma ukumemeza amanyala - akukaze kube ukukhetha okuhlakaniphile. Izibonelo ezimbi kakhulu, kepha uthola ingqikithi.
Okunye futhi okuza nokuhlakanipha yikhono lokubuka izimo kusuka kufly-on-the-wall, umbono oqhele kude okuyisici esibaluleke kakhulu ekwenzeni izinqumo ezingcono.
ukwehlisa umoya lapho uthukuthele
Ukuziqhelelanisa ngale ndlela kubeka isimo esimweni esibanzi, kuzuzwe umphumela olinganiselayo nogculisayo.
Umphumela awusona nje isinqumo esihlakaniphile, kuyisinqumo esihlakaniphile futhi lezi yizo ngokuvamile eziholela enjabulweni enkulu kakhulu.
Bonke lobu bufakazi buzokhombisa ukuthi, ngaphezu kokucindezela ulwazi oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze sifeze amandla ethu futhi sibe ngcono kakhulu emkhakheni wethu esiwukhethile, kubalulekile futhi ukuhlakulela ukuhlakanipha ukuze sifinyelele inhlalakahle engokomzwelo, ukwenza thina ngokwethu abantu abaphelele, abaphelele futhi abagcwalisekile.
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Ukuhlakanipha akusikho ukulondolozwa kwesizukulwane esidala ukwethuka kwezinwele ezimpunga nobuso obunemigqa obufunda njengemephu yomgwaqo akuyona into edingekayo yokuba uhlakaniphe.
Kunezinyathelo ezithile ezisebenzayo ongazithatha ukuthuthukisa 'isazi' sakho sangaphakathi, esizonwebisa futhi sijulise isipiliyoni sakho sempilo, senze umzamo ufanele:
1. Thatha umoya.
Ukuzithwesa umthwalo wokuba matasa njalo nokusebenza kanzima ukukhokhela ukungafaneleki kwakho okubonakalayo (okungenzeka ukuthi akukho), kungahlaba umxhwele abaphathi.
Nokho, ngeke kukwenze uhlakaniphe.
Qiniseka ukuthi ubeka eceleni isikhathi usuku ngalunye sokuthula nokuzola, uzivumele uphumule futhi ushiye izingcindezi zokuphila isikhashana.
Sebenzisa isikhathi sakho samahhala ukufunda noma ukubuka ama-documentary kuzosiza kakhulu kunokugcwalisa isikhala nge-c ** p TV noma imidlalo yevidiyo.
Okungcono futhi, ukunyuka ehlathini kuzokuvumela isikhathi sokuphumula, uphefumule, ubonise, futhi wandise ingqondo yakho.
Ngalezi zikhathi zokuzola, chitha isikhathi ukucabanga ngomuntu wakho wangaphakathi . Akunakwenzeka ukwazisa imicabango kanye nokugqugquzela kwabanye uma ungenaso isibambo kulokho okukwenza ukitaze ngempela.
Ukufunda ubuciko bokuzindla kungenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokwakha ‘iso elingaphakathi.’
Uzothola ukuthi imibono emisha ivuleleka kuwe lapho ingqondo yakho ingakhinyabezekile ngomsindo wezinto ezixakile.
2. Cabanga ngaphambi kokukhuluma.
Kukhona i-aphorism ehlonishwa isikhathi ethi: “Ulwazi ukwazi ukuthi uzothini. Ukuhlakanipha kuyazi ukuthi kufanele ukusho noma cha. ”
Esikhundleni sokuvumela isifiso sokuphendula ngokushesha, zama ukuzinika isikhala nesikhathi sokucabangisisa ngaphambi kokukhuluma.
Yamukela futhi ulalelisise, kodwa ungazizwa njalo ukuthi udinga ukuveza umbono wakho khona manjalo, noma nhlobo.
3. Uvalelise ‘kokumnyama nokumhlophe.’
Zama ukungenzi izinqumo ngokushesha. Zimbalwa izinto empilweni ezimnyama nomhlophe empeleni.
Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukuhlola okwenzekayo ngokubheka phakathi kwemigqa yezindawo ezimpunga. Ukuhlala ocingweni isikhashana kuzokunikeza ithuba lokubuka izinto ngombono obanzi.
Ukuthatha ukubuka konke okubheka ukungaqiniseki okungaba khona kunamaqiniso amnyama nomhlophe kuzokusiza ukuthi unikeze izeluleko ezithe xaxa, uma kudingeka.
Noma iziphi izinqumo ezihlobene kungenzeka zibe ngcono.
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4. Yakha ingqondo ebuzayo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi usufinyelele ekugcineni kwemfundo yakho esemthethweni, kepha ukufunda akugcini lapho.
Uma uyeka ukondla ingqondo yakho ngokuhlangenwe nakho okusha - ukukhulisa nokujulisa ukuqonda kwakho - kuzodlala amandla.
Umbhali wefilosofi u-Anais Nin ukubeka ngale ndlela:
“Impilo yinqubo yokuba yinhlanganisela yamazwe okumele sidlule kuwo. Lapho abantu behluleka khona ukuthi bafisa ukukhetha izwe futhi bahlale kulo. Lolu hlobo lokufa. ”
Ukuze uhlakaniphe, udinga ukuvula ingqondo yakho, wenze ilukuluku lakho lemvelo lisebenze, futhi uzilungiselele ukuzama.
Lambela imibono emisha nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha. Yebo, uzowenza amaphutha, kodwa ayingxenye yenqubo.
Ukhiye ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okuningi okuhlukile ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngamunye uzonezela ebubanzini nasekujuleni kokuqonda kwakho.
Isimiso esiyisihluthulelo seBuddhist umqondo we ‘Ingqondo yabaqalayo,’ lowo ogcwele isimangaliso sokutholwa.
Cabanga ngemizwa yengane yokwesaba lapho ibona amandla olwandle ngokokuqala ngqa lokho kuyindlela yokuphila oyidingayo.
Ngokuhlangenwe nakho ngakunye okusondele kulo mbono onjengowengane kuzofika ukuhlakanipha nokuqonda okuthe xaxa.
5. Funda, funda, funda.
Funda ohambweni lwakho lokufunda, funda embhedeni, funda ethoyilethi. Funda izincwadi, omagazini namaphephandaba. Funda amabhulogi, funda izincazelo zomphakathi, funda amahlaya, funda imisebenzi yabacabangi abakhulu befilosofi. Funda amanoveli noma izindaba eziqanjiwe zobugebengu. Funda mayelana nezinto ozithandayo noma umkhakha wakho wobuchwepheshe.
Joyina umtapo wezincwadi noma ufunde ku-intanethi. Vele ufunde.
Kepha qiniseka ukuthi ucabanga ngakho konke okufundayo, wakhe imibono futhi, uma kungenzeka, ukhulume ngalokho okufundile nabangane nozakwabo.
Noma yini oyifundayo, izokusiza ukwakha isihlenga solwazi (ulwazi olwedlula amaqiniso asekilasini kuphela).
Endleleni uzofunda ukuthi abanye babhekane kanjani nezimo ezingezinhle ongahle ubhekane nazo.
Kukhona iqiniso eliningi kuleso sisho esithi: 'Sizilahlekisela ezincwadini esizithola sikhona, nathi.'
6. Ukuthobeka okuncane kuhamba ibanga elide.
Njengoba kungabonakala ngokucacile kwizingcaphuno zabacabangi abakhulu ngenhla, ukuvuma ukuthi kuncane kangakanani esikwaziyo empeleni kuyitshe legumbi lokuhlakanipha kweqiniso.
Futhi-ke isiko lethu limayelana nokuziphakamisa. Ukuthola lowo msebenzi we-peachy, kudingeka ukuthengisa okugcwele kokuthengisa. Futhi kuyalinga ukwenza ihaba, ukukhulisa ikhono elanele ngokuphelele elisethwe libe yinto engaphezulu kwendawo yakho yokududuza yangempela.
Lokho akusho ukuthi udinga ukuyeka ukuzihlonipha kwakho nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ukudweba isithombe sangempela sangempela kuwe, kunokuba kube yiphuzu elithile lobuhle bebhizinisi, ekugcineni kuzokuthola inhlonipho ethe xaxa.
Ukwamukela ukulinganiselwa kwakho kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile endleleni eya ekuhlakanipheni okukhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthobeka okuncane kuzokuvumela ukuthi uhloniphe futhi ubonge amakhono abanye esikhundleni sokubesaba.
Ngizozuzani kulokhu?
Ake sibuyele umehluko phakathi kobuhlakani nokuhlakanipha.
Akukho ukungabaza okuncane ukuthi ukusebenzisa i-IQ ngokugcwele esabusiswa ngakho ngesikhathi sokuzalwa futhi siminyanisa ulwazi oluyiqiniso ezingqondweni zethu ezisindelwe ngokweqile kungaletha imivuzo yezezimali nempumelelo yezinto ezibonakalayo.
Kepha maqondana nokwaneliseka kwempilo jikelele, ukuhlakanipha kungumnqobi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ukuthola ukuhlakanipha kwenza umuntu oyindilinga futhi ogcwaliseke ngokuqinisekile.
Uzohlonyiselwa kangcono ukusingatha amahla-ndla nempilo futhi uzwisane nobunzima obutholwa ngumndeni wakho, abangane, kanye nozakwenu.
Njengoba isazi sefilosofi yasendulo nembongi uRumi sabhala:
“Izolo benginobuhlakani, ngakho bengifuna ukushintsha umhlaba. Namuhla ngihlakaniphile, ngakho ngiyaziguqula. ”
Futhi uma uwalalela amazwi akhe ahlakaniphile futhi uzishintshe, lezi zinguquko ezithuthukisa impilo ungazithola:
- Ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono
- Uzwela olukhulu
- Ikhono elingcono lokubhekana nobunzima
- Umbono wethemba elengeziwe
- Mancane amathuba okuthi uzizwe unesizungu
Ukusibuyisela lapho saqala khona, ngamazwi ahlakaniphile kaDkt Carey, ukuhlakanipha kuyisihluthulelo sokuphila impilo ephelele.
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