Iminyaka yakho yamashumi amabili akuyona iminyaka eyishumi uzokhohlwa ngokuxhamazela. Iminyaka eyishumi elula phakathi kweminyaka engama-20thusuku lokuzalwa nosuku oshaye ngalo i-3.0 enkulu yilawo aqopha ngempela ukuthi ungumuntu onjani.
Ngenkathi sonke silahlekile phakathi neminyaka yethu yobusha, eminyakeni yethu yama-20 siqala ukuthola ukuthi umhlaba ungakanani bese sizwa ukuthi siphokophelephi.
Sishaye iminyaka eyishumi siseyizingane, futhi kakhulu njengoba kungabonakala ngathi ukuthi asenzi kangako ukukhula ngenkathi siphakathi kwawo, siphumelela kolunye uhlangothi njengabantu abadala abasebenza ngokugcwele.
Ngenkathi sikhula ngokusemthethweni siseneminyaka engu-18, iningi lethu, kuze kube okungenani phakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amabili lapho siqala khona ukuzwa noma yini esondele 'ekukhuleni.'
Empeleni, ngokujabulisayo, ososayensi baye bakwenza okusanda kumenyezelwa ukuthi ubuchopho bethu empeleni abukakhuli ngokugcwele size sibe neminyaka engama-25. Angazi ngawe, kodwa lokho kuchaza okunengekayo mayelana neminyaka engamashumi amabili.
Kunezinhlu ezingenakubalwa laphaya ezisitshela lokho thina kufanele yenzani eminyakeni yethu engamashumi amabili, kepha ibaluleke njengalezo zinto kufanele ubeke phambili yizinto okufanele uzibone wenza iphuzu lokuzigwema kule minyaka eyishumi ebalulekile.
Wonke umuntu wehlukile futhi ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokuphila impilo yakho, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi izikhombisi ezimbalwa ngendlela efanele azikwazi ukusenza sonke izwe lokuhle.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa okufanele uqaphele ukukwenza eminyakeni engamashumi amabili.
1. Ukuzama ukwenza impilo yakho ibukeke ngendlela ethile ngesikhathi usuneminyaka engama-30.
Kunombono odumile wokuthi iminyaka yobudala engama-30 uhlobo lwesilinganiso, nokuthi uma singawathikisanga amabhokisi athile ngesikhathi sifika lapho khona-ke ‘siyahluleka.’
Lo ngumbono owagxotshwa kithi ngumphakathi lapho siseminyakeni yethu yobusha futhi u-30 ubukeka sengathi sekuyiminyaka elula. Kepha njengoba lelo qophamlando lisondela eduze kwethu, singaqala ukwenza izinqumo ezingabazisayo njengoba sizizwa sengathi kufanele senze lawo mabhokisi akhethwe ukuthi siyafuna noma cha.
Abantu abaningi babona amashumi amathathu esondela futhi banquma ukuthi kufanele bashade noma bathenge indlu noma benze into efanayo 'yabantu abadala' ukufakazela ukuthi banamadada alandelanayo.
Ukwenza izinqumo ezinkulu kangaka zokuphila ngoba nje uzizwa sengathi isikhathi siyaphela, kunokuba ngoba ufuna ngempela, kungenzeka kube yindlela yokwenza inhlekelele.
2. Ukulungiselela noma yini engaphansi kokungcono kakhulu.
Kunesikhathi nendawo yokuvumelana, futhi nakanjani akulungile manje. Kufanele ukhethe ngabantu ochitha isikhathi sakho nabo futhi wabelane ngempilo yakho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kepha kufanele ugcine isibhakabhaka esiphakeme eminyakeni engamashumi amabili.
Ungavumeli ubudlelwano obanele ngokwanele. Cela umhlaba.
3. Hhayi uphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka .
Indawo yakho yokunethezeka iyindawo ethandekayo, efudumele, ethokomele, kepha akukho lutho olujabulisayo olwake lwenzeka lapho. Izinto ezinhle ziqala ukwenzeka uma ukhipha ikhala lakho ngaphandle kwayo bese uzama izinto ezintsha, uye ezindaweni ezintsha, futhi uhlangane nabantu abasha.
Isikhathi sokuphoqa imingcele yakho manje, ngenkathi (mhlawumbe) usenakho ukuguquguquka nenkululeko yokuzama izinto ezintsha futhi unesibopho kuwe kuphela.
Uma unephupho elibasa umlilo kodwa futhi uhlobo luyakwesabisa , njengokuhamba umhlaba noma ukuqala ibhizinisi lakho, ungakulibazisi ke. Manje yisikhathi sokwenza.
4. Ukuzicindezela.
Inhlangano ikufaka ingcindezi eyanele, ngakho-ke ungayifaki nakuwe. Zisike kancane. Impela, sebenza kanzima. Zidudule. Kodwa ungazishayi uma izinto zingahambi kahle.
Ungaziphoqi ukwenza into engazizwa ikulungele ngoba nje yilokho umphakathi okutshela ukuthi kufanele ukwenze.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
umyeni wami wangishiya enkosikazi yakhe
- Okufanele Uyeke Ukwenza Ngosuku Ozoba Neminyaka engama-30
- Amaphutha ama-4 Abantu abaningi abawenzayo ngemuva kokuguqula ama-30
- Izinhlobo Eziyi-10 Zezinhloso Zokuzibeka Empilweni (Ngezibonelo)
- Ungazicabangela Kanjani Futhi Ungamukeli Nje Okutshelwa Abanye
- Izimpawu Ezi-11 Ezincanyana Ohamba Nazo Enkingeni Yekota-Yempilo
- Izinto eziyi-8 Iningi labantu elizithatha isikhathi sokuphila ukuze uzifunde
5. Ukuqhathanisa.
Abantu baye baba njalo beziqhathanisa kulabo ababazungezile kusukela osukwini lwamachashazi, kepha ukusa kwezokuxhumana kuyenze yanda inkinga. Ukuqhathanisa-itis yisifo esibi esingaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho uma usivumela.
Emashumini amabili okuqala ezimpilo zethu, senza into efanayo njengabo bonke abanye ubudala wethu. Lapho isikole sesiphelile, izindlela zethu ziqala ukwehluka kancane, kepha abaningi bethu baya emfundweni eqhubekayo, futhi sonke sihlala esikebheni esisodwa.
Kulapho ufika eminyakeni yakho yokuqala yamashumi amabili lapho wonke umuntu eqala ukuphothula iziqu, ukukhushulwa, ukuthola umshado, noma nokuba nezingane. Yilapho izimpilo zawo wonke umuntu zihamba ngayo yonke inhlobo yezindlela ezihlukile.
Impilo yakho ngeke isafana naleyo yentombazane ohlebe ngayo ngabafana ekilasini lesayensi ngenkathi uneminyaka eyi-13.
Kulula kakhulu ukuchitha isikhathi sakho ubheka izifunzo zemithombo yezokuxhumana zabanye abantu futhi uziqinisekise ukuthi bathole impilo ephelele futhi nguwe owenza konke okungalungile.
Mane ukhumbule ukuthi abazobe behlanganyela izingcezu ezimbi nezwe, njengoba nje ubungeke, nokuthi yibo, futhi nguwe.
Ukuphela komuntu okufanele uziqhathanise naye ngumuntu obuyizolo, ngonyaka odlule naseminyakeni eyishumi edlule. Bheka emuva bese ucabanga ukuthi uhambe kangakanani nokuthi usukhule kangakanani.
6. Ukwenza konke ngemali.
Manje angikukhuthazi ukunganaki okuphelele kwezezimali, kepha kukhona umugqa omuhle phakathi kokungakhathali kakhulu nemali yakho nokwenza imali kuqala kwakho.
Ungathathi umsebenzi ngenxa nje yeholo eliphakeme uma wazi ukuthi ngeke ujabule kuwo. Musa ukukhetha indlela yakho yomsebenzi ngokususelwa kuyo yonke imali ozoyenza, uzitshele ukuthi uzozijabulisa lapho usuthathe umhlalaphansi.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, awusoze wakwazi ukuthatha umhlalaphansi (ngiyaxolisa ukwesaba, kodwa kuyiqiniso).
Qiniseka ukuthi ubeka imali ohlangothini lwezinsuku zemvula, kodwa uma unemali engenayo qiniseka ukuthi uyayithokozela nawe, njengoba ungazi ukuthi yini elindile ekhoneni.
7. Ukukhononda ngokuthi umatasa kangakanani.
Kubukeka kuyimfashini kulezi zinsuku ukuhlala ububula ngokuthi umatasa kangakanani.
Lokhu kungenzeka kubangelwa ukwethuka kokungena emhlabeni wabantu abadala futhi uqaphele unezibopho ezingaki . Iqiniso elinzima: impilo engaphambi kwengama-20 ngokoqobo ingumdlalo wengane uma kuqhathaniswa nokuba umuntu omdala ovuthiwe.
Isikhathi esiningi osichitha ukhononda ngokuthi impilo yakho yobungcweti neyenhlalo imatasatasa kangakanani, isikhathi esincane osichitha empeleni senza izinto zenziwe.
Lokho kusho, ngenkathi kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi awenzi ngokweqile, kufanele ujabule ngokuba matasa kwakho.
Impilo ngeke ihlale ivuselela kangako, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi awuphuthumi kuyo ngokungaboni, kepha uzinika isikhathi sokubheka ngawe futhi uyijabulele.
8. Usaphendukela ebhange likamama nobaba.
Kungenzeka ukuthi izintambo ze-apron zinqamule lapho uneminyaka eyi-18, kepha iningi lethu linenhlanhla eyanele yokuba nabazali abajabule ukuqhubeka nokusisekela kuze kube seminyakeni yamashumi amabili
Ukuthi bayakujabulela ukukwenza, noma kunjalo, akusho ukuthi kufanele uyicele. Yize kukuhle ukwazi ukuthi bazohlala bekhona uma ubadinga ngokweqiniso, ukufunda ukuzimela ngokwakho kunika amandla.
Impela, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, kepha umuzwa wokuzimela kweqiniso uwufanele umzabalazo.
9. Ukucabanga ukuthi awukwazi ukuhlulwa.
Lapho sesineminyaka engamashumi amabili, sivame ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi asithinteki nhlobo. Awuyena.
Unesibopho sokuzinakekela kanye nempilo yakho futhi ungazibeki engcupheni ebulima. Akekho umuntu oyisiqhingi, futhi akuwena wedwa ozohlupheka uma okuthile kungenzeka kuwe.
Uma umama wakho efuna ukuthi umthumelele imibhalo ukumqinisekisa ukuthi ulungile, thumela ngaphandle kokububula. Akusona isikhumba esikhaleni sakho, futhi ulapho kuphela lapho ukhona ngenxa yakhe.
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10. Ukukhathazeka ngokuguqula iminyaka engama-30.
Abantu abaningi kakhulu balahlekelwa ubuthongo ngomqondo wokuhlanganisa iminyaka engama-30, kodwa ukukhathazeka ngakho ngeke kwehlise isikhathi.
Iminyaka yakho yamashumi amathathu izoba yiminyaka eyishumi enhle futhi uzoba mdala, uhlakaniphe, futhi ube nombono ohluke ngokuphelele ngempilo, ngakho-ke akunasizathu sokuchitha iminyaka yakho yamashumi amabili ukhathazeka ngalokho okuzayo. Phila manje .
