Ngabe ujwayelene nale nkulumo, 'Okuwukuphela kwento okufanele sesabe ukwesaba uqobo.' ?
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Kungaba umusho osetshenziswe ngokweqile, kodwa kuyiqiniso.
Abantu abaningi bakhutshazwe ukwesaba nokukhathazeka nsuku zonke. Bahlaselwa yizinto ezingase zingahambi kahle, izifo abangaba nazo, nezinto ezimbi ezingavela.
Lokho kusho, ukwesaba okuningi kusezingqondweni kuphela futhi akukaze kwenzeke empeleni.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukucabanga okwesabekayo kuvame ukuba kubi kakhulu kunalokho okungaba khona. Ngenxa yalokho, abantu abaningi bahlupheka ngokungadingekile, bekhathazeka ngezinto ezingafezeki.
Ngabe uhlala ngokwesaba noma ukukhathazeka njalo?
Ake sikuhlonzele lokhu, ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka futhi uqale ukuphila ngendlela obuhlose ngayo.
1. Thola ukuthi Kuyini Ngempela Owesabayo
Bhala phansi zonke izinto ozesabayo noma ozikhathazayo ngazo njalo.
Lezi kungaba yizinkinga ezinkulu ezikugcina uphapheme ebusuku, noma ama-frets amancane aqhamuka kwesinye isikhathi.
Kubhale phansi konke ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nakho ngakunye ngokufanele. Ngokwenza njalo, ungathola ukuthi zivelaphi, nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nazo.
Ukwesaba okubalulwe ngezansi okunye okungenzeka ukuthi kuthinte impilo yakho ngokuqhubekayo, kepha amathiphu abiwe angakusiza ukuthi usebenze nakwabanye abaningana.
Ukwesaba Ukufa
Okunye ukwesaba okukhulu abantu abanakho ukwesaba ukufa. Iqiniso liyatshelwa, lokhu ngokuvamile kuyisisekelo sokwesaba okuningi ababhekana nakho. Ukwesaba ukugula noma ukulimala nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa zombili kubangelwa ukwesaba ukufa, isibonelo.
Ngokushesha lapho ungenza ukuthula nokufa kwakho okuseduze, ngokushesha uzokwazi ukugqashula kulo mjikelezo wokwesaba.
Ngibhale udaba nge ubhekene nokwesaba ukufa futhi inikeza izincomo eziningana zokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezinkathazo ezahlukahlukene ezihlobene nokufa.
Uma usenze ukuthula nokufa, okunye ukwesaba okuningi kuyanyamalala. Ufunda ukuhlala kumzuzu wamanje futhi ukwazise konke onakho njengamanje, esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngalokho okudlulile, nokuthi kungenzeka yini.
Ukwesaba Okuthile Okubi Okuzokwenzeka Kuwe
Olunye uhlobo lokwesaba olukhubaza futhi lucasule abantu abaningi umcabango wokuthi kukhona okubi okwenzekayo kubo.
Bangasaba ukushayela ngoba bangalimala engozini yemoto. Noma bangaba yi-hypochondriac ngenxa yakho konke ukugula abangahle bakuthole.
Lokhu kwesaba kuvame ukuvela emqondweni wokuntuleka kokulawula. Eqinisweni, zivame ukuvela ngenxa yezinkinga zobuntwana kunokuba kube nezinkinga zangempela ezisuselwa kwezempilo.
Masithi umuntu othile wakhulela endaweni eyihlukumezayo lapho uhlobo oluthile losongo lwaluzungeza khona wonke amakhona. Bangaba yi-hypervigilant, futhi bakhule beziqinisa ukuze bagcine behlelwe yinto ethile embi.
Lapho sebesendaweni lapho bephephe futhi bavikeleke khona, bafushane ngokujikeleza okuncane. Azikho izinsongo ezisondele ukuthi baziqaphele noma kufanele balwe, ngakho-ke izingqondo zabo ziza nezinto abazodideka ngazo.
Uma kunjalo ngawe, zama ukuthola ukuthi konke lokhu kususelaphi ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nakho emthonjeni. Ungahle udinge usizo lomelaphi noma umeluleki ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungaqondisa kanjani izindlela zakudala zokucabanga, futhi lokho kulungile impela. Cabanga nje njengokuqondisa kabusha umfudlana ungene endleleni enempilo futhi ebushelelezi.
Ukwesaba Okuthile Okubi Okwehlela Othandekayo
Lokhu kungenye ukwesaba okuvela ngokungabi namandla okulawula. Lapho sithanda abanye (futhi laba kungaba ngabangane babantu noma abangebona abantu), ukulahlekelwa yibo kungalimaza ngokuphelele. Kubuhlungu futhi njengesihogo uma belimala noma begula.
Sizama ukuvikela labo esibathandayo ngangokunokwenzeka, sizama ukubagcina bephephile ekuguleni noma ekulimaleni. Lokhu kungokwenzuzo yabo nokwethu - asifuni ukuthi bahlupheke, futhi asifuni ukuzwa ubuhlungu obuhambisana nokubabona belimala.
Inkinga ukuthi 'ukuphepha' kuyinkohliso.
Akuyona into emnandi ukwenza ukuthula nayo, kodwa iyiqiniso. Sizama ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi thina nalabo esibathandayo siphephile futhi sivikelwe ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, kodwa lokho kuyingubo yokuvikela thina hhayi iqiniso.
ukuhlekisa abanye ukuze uzizwe ungcono
Noma ngubani wethu angalimala noma abulawe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku. Kuyiqiniso elinzima ukubhekana nalo, kodwa futhi - ngokushesha nje lapho wenza ukuthula nalo, uyeka ukulisaba.
Esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngazo zonke izinto ezingonakala, uyakwazisa onakho ngenkathi usenakho. Awuthathi lutho kalula, futhi ungachithi isikhathi.
Thanda futhi unakekele labo obakhathalelayo, zama ukwenza izimpilo zabo zigcwaliseke futhi zijabulise ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi ungakhethi izimpi ngezinto ezingabalulekile.
Yiba khona, ube nomusa, futhi lapho okungenakugwemeka kwenzeka, ngeke uzisole.
Ukwesaba Ukwehluleka
Impela, ungahluleka. Kepha futhi ungaphumelela.
Zimbalwa iziqinisekiso empilweni, futhi wonke amathuba atholakalayo angagcina ehlulekile.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, njengoba umthetho wezilinganiso uyilokhu okuyikho, kunamathuba amaningi okuthi ithuba olithathayo liholele empumelelweni.
Zama ukuthatha izingozi ezincane ukuzijwayeza wena empumelelweni encane nasekuhlulekeni okuncane.
Ngokuhlangenwe nakho ngakunye, zama ukungadangali, noma ukuzithemba ngokweqile. Ukuzama ukucubungula okwenzekile nge-stoicism esinqunyelwe, ngaphandle kokunamathiselwe noma okulindelwe nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Ukwesaba Ubungozi / Ukuguquka
Abantu abaningi bachitha isikhathi eside kakhulu ezimeni ezibenza bangajabuli ngoba besaba ukuthi yini enye indlela engaba khona.
Cabanga ngendoda ebishade nonkosikazi wayo iminyaka engama-60 yize ebazi zisuka nje emshadweni wabo ukuthi uyisitabane. Kepha kunokuba abhekane nalelo qiniso kanye nesiyaluyalu ebelizodala empilweni yakhe, wazama ukugcina inkohliso yokujwayelekile.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, unkosikazi wakhe wachitha impilo yakhe enganakiwe futhi ecindezelekile, ezondikhathaza ngamaphilisi ezinhlungu.
Hlobo luni lwempilo ababengaba nalo uma ngabe babephile ngeqiniso labo? Ukube babelandele ukugcwaliseka nenjabulo esikhundleni sokugcina kabi isimo esasikhona?
Ukwesaba ukuthi yini eseceleni kolunye uhlangothi lokwenza isinqumo esikhulu esingakuvimba ekutheni usithathe. Kepha uma ungagcwaliseki, ungajabule, futhi ucasukile empilweni encane ephephile ozenzele yona, akuyona yini ingozi enkulu hhayi ukwenza ushintsho?
kanjani ukungakhathaleli ukuthi abantu bacabangani
Ngabe isidleke entofontofo ozenzele sona sesiphenduke ikheji?
2. Gxila Ekuziphatheni Nasezenzakalweni
Emasosheni, 'ukwesaba' akukhulunywa neze. Esikhundleni salokho, kunezinto ezimbili okudingeka kubhekwane nazo: isimilo kanye nokwenzeka.
UMorale ubhekisa ekugcineni umdlandla nokuzethemba kwamasosha, ngenkathi izehlakalo zisho ukulindela zonke izinto 'ezimbi' ezingenzeka, nokuzihlelela kusengaphambili.
Awukhathazeki ngokungabi nezinhlamvu ezanele: upakisha okungeziwe. Asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka ngendlala noma ngamakhaza: gqoka izingubo ezifudumele futhi uthathe ukudla okuningi kunalokho ocabanga ukuthi uzokudinga.
Lo mbono wezempi olula ungawufaka kalula empilweni yakho.
Qaphela ukwesaba nokukhathazeka kwakho, bese unquma ukuthi iziphi izingozi ezingadingeka, nokuthi yini ekusebenzelayo ukuze uthuthukise isimilo.
Uyesaba yini ukugula? Dala uhlelo lokunakekela uma kwenzeka, bese unezinto ongazidinga ekhaya uma kwenzeka.
Ingabe uyesaba ukulahlekelwa amaphepha abalulekile ngenkathi usohambweni? Yenza amakhophi uwashiye kulabo obathembayo, ikhophi elengeziwe nommeli wakho, nelinye ebhokisini lakho lediphozi lokuphepha.
Qhubeka uzikhumbuze amandla akho bese uqaphela ubufakazi empilweni yakho obukhombisa ukuthi unekhono futhi uqine kangakanani - ngethembe, ikhona uma uyivula amehlo akho kuyo. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukugcina umoya wakho uphezulu noma ngabe ubhekene nani.
3. Naka Okuhle, Hhayi Okubi
Sinamandla amaningi nokunaka kuphela esingakunikeza. Uma kukhulunywa ngezici ezahlukahlukene zokuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke, kufanele sikhethe ukuthi sizinaka kangakanani lezo zinto ukuthi sizinaka kangakanani.
Yini oyinakile?
Ngabe uchitha amahora amaningi ulahla imithombo yezokuxhumana futhi uthuka ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezishiwo lapho?
Noma ngabe wenza izinto ozijabulelayo, futhi uthela ukukhanya emhlabeni?
Kunzima kakhulu ukwesaba ukuthatha ingqondo yakho lapho umatasa uphila impilo yakho, wenza izinto ezinhle, futhi uzifaka emsebenzini noma ezintweni othanda ukuzenza othola ziyanelisa.
Uvalo lususa ukunaka kwakho. Qondisa ingqondo yakho kokunye futhi ukwesaba kuzokwehla. Phinda lokhu kaningi ngokwanele futhi ukwesaba kuzosheshe kube nzima ukukhulisa ikhanda layo elibi kwasekuqaleni.
4. Dala Mantra Ukukusiza Lapho Ukwesaba Kuvela
Ekhuluma ngokuqondisa kabusha ingqondo yakho, abantu abaningi babamba ngekhanda imithandazo, izingcaphuno, noma amazwi aphindaphindwayo abasiza ukuthi basebenze ngokwesaba lapho kuvela.
Imicabango yethu yenza lukhulu ukudala iqiniso lethu, ngakho-ke gxilisa amandla akho kulokho ongathanda ukukuhlakulela.
Bheka izingcaphuno bese amazwi aphindaphindwayo (noma bhala okwakho), bese ukuphinda lapho uzizwa wesaba.
I-litany ngokumelene nokwesaba okuvela kuFrank Herbert's Dune yayiyintandokazi yami eminyakeni edlule lapho ngangibhekene nobunzima obukhulu:
yiziphi izichasiso ezintathu ezichaza wena
Akufanele ngesabe.
Uvalo luyabulala ingqondo.
Ukwesaba ukufa okuncane okuletha ukuqedwa ngokuphelele.
Ngizobhekana nokwesaba kwami.
Ngizoyivumela idlule kimi futhi idlule kimi.
Futhi lapho isidlulile, ngizophendula iso langaphakathi ukuze ngibone indlela yalo.
Lapho ukwesaba kuye khona, ngeke kube khona lutho.
Mina kuphela ngizohlala.
5. Yeka Ukufihla Izaba
Lapho uhlala ngokwesaba, uzothola noma isiphi isizathu esingaba khona sokungenzi okuthile okukusabisayo.
Uzokwenza izaba zokungabheki ukwesaba engqondweni yakho. Izinto ezifana nokuthi, 'Ngimdala kakhulu kulokho,' 'Ngimatasa kakhulu,' noma 'izingane zami zidinga ukuzinza.'
Kepha lezo zinto ziyiqiniso kuphela engqondweni yakho. Alikho iqiniso empeleni elithi lezi zinto kufanele zikuvimbe ekuthatheni isinyathelo.
Ukuziyeka ekwenzeni izaba zokuthi kungani ungeke wenze okuthile, vele uqhubeke wenze izibopho ezincane ngakho.
Izinto eziningi azidingi ukuba nokuxhuma okukodwa okukhulu kokholo kokungaziwa. Zingahlelelwa futhi zenziwe kancane kancane kuze kube yilapho ukweqa kungasakusabisi.
Ngabe ufuna ukuqala ibhizinisi lakho? Kuqale njengokuxokozela ohlangothini futhi kancane kancane ufunde izintambo bese uletha amaklayenti noma amakhasimende ngamunye ngamunye uze uzizwe uzethemba ngokwanele ukuthi ungashiya umsebenzi wakho unomphela.
Ingabe uyakwesaba ukushayela noma ukufunda ukushayela? Thatha izifundo eziningi kunalokho obekudingeka kuwe ukuthola ilayisense lakho ukuze ujwayele ukulisebenzisa, imemori yemisipha ethe xaxa, ukuzethemba ngokwengeziwe emakhonweni akho. Uma usuphumelele ukuhlolwa kwakho, qiniseka ukuthi uthola ukuzijwayeza okuningi ngamabanga amafushane kanye / noma nomgibeli ozolile nonolwazi wokukugcina unenkampani. Ukwesaba kwakho kuzokwehla kungekudala.
Akukho lutho empilweni okufanele lwesatshwe - kuphela ukuze kuqondwe.
Ngendlela efanayo ukuthi impilo yangempela ivela ekunqumeni imbangela yokugula kunokufihla izimpawu zayo, uma usuqonda umthombo yokwesaba kwakho, ungayekethisa.
Futhi-ke uzobe unganqandeki.
Ngabe awunasiqiniseko sokuthi kungani uhlala ngokwesaba kangaka? Ufuna ukufika empandeni yokwesaba kwakho? Khuluma nomelaphi namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
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