Bangaki abantu obaziyo empeleni abaphila izimpilo ababehlale bephupha ngazo?
Amathuba ukuthi wazi abambalwa kuphela, futhi iningi labangani bakho lenza imisebenzi ekhokha izikweletu noma ehlala ezindaweni ezikhululekile nezikahle, kunalezo ezondla imiphefumulo yabo.
izimpawu zomuntu obandayo onenhliziyo ebandayo
Kuthiwani ngawe?
Ngabe ujabulile lapho ukhona? Ngalokho okwenzayo?
Uma impendulo ikuyo yonke indawo kusuka ku- “meh” kuya “esihogweni cha,” yini ekuvimba ekuphishekeleni lokho obekulokhu uphupha ukukwenza?
Ngezansi kunezinkolelo eziyisishiyagalombili ngokuvamile ezivimba abantu ukuthi baphile izimpilo abebelokhu bezifuna. Ngabe kukhona okusebenza kuwe?
1. Sengimdala Kakhulu Ukuqala Kabusha
Tshela lokho kuDoreetha Daniels waseCalifornia, owathola iziqu zeSocial Sciences eneminyaka engama-99. UJulia Child akazange afunde ukupheka waze waba neminyaka engama-40 (wabhala incwadi yakhe yokuqala yokupheka eneminyaka engama-50), kanti u-Alan Rickman washiya isithombe design yokuphishekela ukulingisa: wathola i-gig yakhe yokuqala yangempela eneminyaka engu-42 (njengoHans Gruber Okunzima ) nomsebenzi wakhe wakhuphuka lapho.
Cha, awumdala kakhulu ukuthi ungaqala into entsha nejabulisayo.
Kungaba nezinselelo ezithile ekuphishekeleni izindlela ezithile ngenxa yezibopho noma izingqinamba zomzimba, kepha sinekhono elimangalisayo lokuzivumelanisa nanoma yini nje.
wayeneminyaka emingaki u-ric flair ngenkathi efa
Uma ukhathazekile ngobudala, ukuthi indawo ongathanda ukuyisebenzela izothakasela abasebenzi abasebasha kuphela, khuluma nabaphezulu lapho bese ubuza imibono yabo ngokuthembeka. Kunezinzuzo eziningi zokuqasha umuntu oqale umsebenzi wesibili, okungabalwa okubandakanya ukuqaphela ukuzinikela komuntu nokubekezela kwakhe. Umuntu okhethe ukuqondiswa okusha futhi wasebenza kanzima ukufeza izinhloso zabo ukhanga kakhulu kunengane esanda kuphuma ohlelweni lwesikole ababezwelana kakhulu ngayo.
2.Ngingahluleka
“Uma Ngingawa?”
“Hawu kodwa sithandwa sami, uma ungandiza?” - U-Erin Hansen
Sonke ukwehluleka kwengozi lapho sizama okuthile okusha. Isihogo, sizibeka engcupheni yokwehluleka lapho senza izinto esizenze izikhathi eziyinkulungwane ngaphambili, kusuka ekuqhekekeni kweqanda epanini lokuthosa kuze kube lula ukwenza imoto ibe semgwaqweni omkhulu. Iqanda lingahle liphuke epanini, noma imoto ingashayiswa enye imoto. Ingabe lokho kuyasivimba?
Wonke amabhizinisi amasha ayingozi, futhi kuhlale kukhona nokwehluleka. Lokho kusho ukuthi kukhona nokwenzeka kokuphumelela, akunjalo?
Ukuphela kwendlela yokuqinisekisa ngokuphelele ukuthi uzokwehluleka kokuthile ukungazami nakancane… bese uzozizonda ngenxa yobugwala bakho obubonayo.
3. Angikufanele Lokho Kuphila
Yini esihogweni engenza ucabange lokho? Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ngandlela thile awuyifanele injabulo? Ukuthi abantu kuphela abanezimo ezithile zokuphila abavunyelwe 'ukulandela amaphupho abo?
Nuhhhh. Cha.
Noma ucabanga ukuthi wenze into embi kakhulu futhi, ngenxa yalokho, akakufanelekeli ukugcwaliseka nenjabulo, yeka leyo ndlela yokucabanga njengamanje. Ufanelekile olwakho uthando nozwela, futhi uqinisekile ukuthi isihogo sifanelwe yinoma iyiphi injabulo ongayikhipha empilweni.
Yenza kwenzeke.
4. Ngeke Ngenze Imali Eningi Ukwenza Lokhu
Kuliqiniso, ungahle ungaphumeleli, kepha futhi ungaphumelela ngempela. Noma, uma lokhu empeleni kungekona ukuphishekelwa okuzokuqoqela ingcosana yengcebo, ungazithola ujabulile kakhulu futhi uzolile ukwedlula lokhu manje, kanti lokho akusilo yini uhlobo oluyingqayizivele lomcebo?
Bheka indela noma indela yakho ejwayelekile yamaBuddha: zingokuqukethwe okuhle okulahlekile, futhi azinayo enye into ngaphandle kwengubo noma ezimbili kanye nesitsha sokucela.
wenzani lapho ur bored
Uma imali ikukhathaza kakhulu, zinike isikhathi uzibuze ukuthi udinga malini ngempela. Yenza isabelomali, thola ukuthi kungadinga malini ukufeza amaphupho akho, bese ubona ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukuhlela indlela ebucayi nohlelo lokubuyela emuva ukuze ufeze izinhloso zakho.
Ungahle uthande (izindatshana ziyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- “Ngenzani Ngokuphila Kwami?” - Isikhathi Sokuthola
- Ngaphambi kokuzivuselela kabusha, Qiniseka ukuthi ubuza lo mbuzo
- Izinto eziyi-8 Iningi labantu elizithatha isikhathi sokuphila ukuze uzifunde
- Izindleko Ezimanzi Namanga nokuthi Ungakunqoba Kanjani
- Izici Ezinhle Zobuntu eziheha Injabulo Nobudlelwano obunempilo
- Ungayibona Kanjani Inkinga Engaphansi (Futhi Izinyathelo Ezi-5 Zokunqoba)
5. Ngiyi-Wrong ______ Ukuphila Lelo Phupho
Yini ekuvimbayo? Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ubulili bakho, isizinda samasiko, ubude, isisindo, iminyaka, ulwazi, isimo senhlalo, noma umzimba ngandlela thile 'akulungile' ephusheni ofisa ukulilandela?
F * ck lokho. Cha, ngokungathi sina: F * CK THAT.
Kukhona ompetha besilisa abanitha futhi abagibeli bezintaba besifazane namamodeli we-transgender kanye nabakhi be-quadriplegic futhi, futhi, futhi…
Uma uzimisele ngokulandela iphupho, kwenze. Ukuthatha ithuba kuyethusa, kepha ukuhlala nokuzisola kuyesabeka (futhi sh * ttier) kude kakhulu.
6. Anginaso Isikhathi Noma Imali Yokuguqula Impilo Yami
Lokhu kuyinkohliso, kepha ngokuthembeka? Kunezindlela ezungeze noma yini. Uma unengxenye yezingane eziyishumi nambili, kepha uhlala ufuna ukwenza iziqu ze-uni, bheka i-Open University noma ezinye izinhlelo zebanga: ungenza isifundo esisodwa ngasikhathi. Kuzothatha isikhathi eside, kepha uzofika lapho.
Uma, esikhundleni salokho, ufuna ukuqala ibhizinisi lakho, bheka izibonelelo kanye nemalimboleko nokuthi yini: ungahle ufaneleke ngaphezu kwalokho ocabanga ngakho.
ungasho kanjani uma ngithanda umfana
Ngokuqondene nesikhathi… kahle, senza isikhathi salokho okubalulekile kithina, akunjalo? Kungenziwa.
7. Kuyiqiniso
Ngokusho kobani? Ngubani oshashalaza ngamaphupho akho futhi akutshele ukuthi awukwazanga ukuwafeza? Abalungile.
Ukuthi okuthile kuhluke kancani nesiqubulo esijwayelekile, akusho ukuthi 'akunangqondo.' Uma omunye umuntu, noma ikuphi, noma ngasiphi isikhathi, enze into efanayo, kusobala ukuthi ingokoqobo futhi kungenzeka, akunjalo?
Umuntu ongazibeki engcupheni, angenzi lutho, akanalutho, akalutho, futhi akabi yilutho. Angakugwema ukuhlupheka nosizi, kepha akakwazi nje ukufunda, ukuzwa, ukuguquka, ukukhula noma ukuthanda.
Eboshwe yi-certitude yakhe, uyisigqila esilahle inkululeko yakhe.
Umuntu ozibeka engozini kuphela okhululekile ngokweqiniso. - Leo Buscaliayini i-kevin o leary inenani elifanele
8. Ngizolahlekelwa Yinhlonipho Nokuxhaswa Ngabantu
Uma ungummeli ophupha ngokufundisa nge-scuba diving eThailand impilo yakho yonke, maningi amathuba okuthi uzokwesaba ukuthi abantu bazocabangani uma ungalandela lelo phupho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ufake iminyaka yokufunda, wasebenza ngemuva kwakho ukuze uphumelele ukuhlolwa kwebha, wathola umsebenzi enkampanini enhle, futhi manje wenza imali eyi-gajillion ngonyaka.
Kungani unganikela ngakho konke lokho ukuze uzipholele nge-wetsuit eyizinkulungwane zamamayela ukusuka ekhaya?
Mhlawumbe ngoba kungakuthokozisa, futhi impilo ilahliwe kakhulu ukuthi ungenzi okhuthaza umphefumulo wakho.
Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi abantu abasempilweni yakho bangakuhleka usulu noma benqabe ukuxhasa lo msebenzi, ngokusobala impela, unabantu abangalungile abaseduze kwakho. Gcina abantu empilweni yakho abathuthukisa impilo yakho - labo abazokwenza njalo khuthaza amaphupho akho futhi ube yi-cheerleader yakho lapho untengantenga.
Uma inhliziyo yakho ingaphansi kolwandle, bese uyilandela: kungcono ukuthatha leyo ngozi bese udala izinkumbulo ezinhle zeminyaka kunokuzibamba ngenxa ukuthi abanye abantu bangacabangani , futhi uzisole ngalesi sinqumo impilo yakho yonke.
Abantu abaningi bayazibambezela ukuphila izimpilo abazifunayo ngempela ngoba besaba ukwehluleka, ukuhlekwa usulu, ukungabi nokuvikeleka empilweni yamuva, njll. Nansi into: asazi ukuthi isikhathi esisele esisele . Lokho akumele kusatshiswe noma kulungiswe ekufeni, kepha kunalokho sikwamukele ukuthi ukuphela kwesikhathi esingaqiniseka ukuthi sinaso yilesi sikhathi esiqondile.
Ukwazi ukuthi sinesikhathi esilinganiselwe kule planethi kungaba yisikhuthazo esikhulu sokuphishekela izimpilo ezisigcwalisayo futhi zisigcwalise ngenjabulo, kunokungena ebubini obuthile ukuze siklonyeliswe ngokufa ekugcineni kwakho konke lokho kungcola.
Uma ungalokothi ulinge lutho,
lapho usuku seluphelile,
ayikho into ozoyizuza.– Neil Gaiman
