Ngaphambi kokuzivuselela kabusha, Qiniseka ukuthi ubuza lo mbuzo

Ingabe ucabanga ukuzivuselela kabusha? Ngemuva kwalokho kufanele ufunde lokhu ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuthi uqale.

Kulezi zinsuku, awukwazi ukucindezela umagazini noma uphequlule i-inthanethi ngaphandle kokubhekana nezindaba zabantu abazibuyisele amandla abo, bathola injabulo nokuthula.

Kwabanye abantu, ushintsho lungahle lube olucashile, njengokwenza Ushintsho olungcono lapho bethola khona isitayela esisha sezinwele noma ikhabethe elihlukile, ngakho-ke babukeka behlukile kulowo ababeyikho ngaphambili.





Abanye bangathatha indlela eyeqisa ngokwedlulele, bashintshe izindlela zomsebenzi nendawo abakuyo, njengokulahla umsebenzi njengommeli noma umnikazi webhange lokutshala imali ukukhulisa i-kale nokukhulisa izinkukhu epulazini elisemaphandleni elihamba izwe lonke.

Ukwenza izinguquko ezinkulu ezimpilweni zethu kungaba yi-cathartic emangalisayo, kepha ngaphambi kokuthatha noma yiziphi izinyathelo zokwenza lokho, kunombuzo owodwa odinga ukubhekiswa ngokwethembeka:



Ekwenzeni lolu shintsho, ingabe uya noma usuka kuyena uqobo?

Ubuqiniso Vs. Ukulingisa

“Kuwe uqobo yiba yiqiniso” isisho okufanele sisilandele sonke. Kodwa-ke abantu abangenakubalwa bazenza okunye ngaphandle kwalokho abayikho ngaphakathi ngaphakathi - ukuthi bafuna ukuba yini ngempela - ukuze balingane nemibuthano yomphakathi abakholelwa ukuthi kufanele babe yingxenye yayo.



Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuchitha isikhumba esidala esingasakulungeli ukuze uzenze uqobo lwakho uqobo, nokunikela ngemvunulo ocabanga ukuthi abanye abantu bazoyithanda kakhulu.

Wake wazama ukuzenza into ongekho ebude besikhathi esithile? Kuyakhathaza ngokuphelele ukugcina i-façade isikhathi eside, futhi noma kungaba mnandi ukuzifaka kuleyo ndima isikhashana, kungekudala ungagcina impela lusizi nokucasuka.

Izinto ziba nzima kakhulu uma izimpilo zabanye abantu zigcina zihlanganiswe ngokuphelele nge-façade obukade uyigqokile.

Isibonelo, ake sithi kunomfana ofuna ngempela ukuphila impilo yokuzulazula, ehamba emhlabeni wonke futhi abambe amatoho emapulazini aphilayo ngenkathi ebhala incwadi abephupha ukuyakha njalo.

Mhlawumbe uvela emndenini ocebile ongayiphika into enjalo, ngakho-ke yize azama ukuvukela izifiso zabo lapho esemncane ngokujoyina iqembu le-punk nokwenza imizuliswano embalwa ekuvuseleleni, ekugcineni wagqoka ingubo ngomuntu abazoziqhenya ngomzamo wokungena kuye.

Imincintiswano yeminyaka embalwa yegalufu namakilabhu okudla kwakusihlwa kamuva, uzithola eseshade nomlingani omuhle angamthandi, enengane (noma emithathu) uyamzonda ngokumubamba empilweni angayifuni.

Yize bekuzoba nzima kakhulu ukunqamula uzipho ekuqaleni, bekungeke yini ukuthembeka ekuthambekeni kwakhe okuyiqiniso kube yisinqumo esingcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi?

Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):

Kungani Uzenza?

Kungaba khona noma yiziphi izizathu zokuthi kungani abantu bezifaka kabusha endaweni ebasusa ebuqinisweni kunokuba babhekise kukho, kepha isizathu esiyinhloko ukwamukelwa okulula.

Uke waqaphela ukuthi bangaki abantu abanekhabethe lomsebenzi elihluke ngokuphelele kunendlela abagqoka ngayo ngesikhathi sabo? Kwabaningi, umsebenzi abawenzayo uyindima abayidlalayo, kunokuba bazelule ubuqiniso babo.

Umsebenzi owanelisayo ohlanganisa isimo sangempela somuntu ukunethezeka okungajwayelekile. Iningi likhetha imisebenzi elicabanga ukuthi lizozinza futhi lingenise imali kunokuba likhuthaze umphefumulo.

Lapho umuntu amukela umsebenzi onengqondo kunokuba ube nentshisekelo, imvamisa ubasusa kude kakhulu kobuqu babo obungokoqobo kunokuba bebehlosile ekuqaleni.

Kulula ukusunduza imingcele futhi kufakwe izici zokuncika kweqiniso komuntu ezintweni ezifana nezingubo zokugqoka nezethebula ledeski lapho umuntu eyisisebenzi esisezingeni eliphansi, kepha uma nje ukukhushulwa sekuqala ukwenzeka, izinto kufanele zishintshe.

Umuntu angatshelwa ukuthi angathanda ukunyuselwa uma ezidayise izinwele zakhe zibuyele ku-hue yemvelo, noma ayeke ukugqoka ukuxoxa namasudi akhe, ngakho-ke uyashintsha. Ngemuva kwalokho kufanele bafunde ukuthi baziphathe kanjani ngendlela ethile lapho bexhumana nebhodi labaqondisi, ngakho-ke lokho kungenye ungqimba lwemaski ongashaya ngalo ngempama.

ngiyaxolisa kakhulu ngokulahleka kwakho

… Ngakho-ke kuyaqhubeka, ungqimba ngensika. Uma kubhekwa ukuthi singakanani isikhathi esisichitha sisebenza phakathi nezimpilo zethu, kungaba lula ukuthi sikhohlwe ukuthi singobani ngempela lapho sichitha amahora angama-40 + ngesonto sizenza umuntu esingeyena. (Noma ngaphezulu kwalokho, uma abantu esingena ebudlelwaneni nabo bekholelwa ukuthi siyisifihla-buso ababonayo, kunokuba sibe yilowo osigqokile.)

Izindlela Ezinhle Zokuzivuselela

Esikhundleni sokusondela ekuvuseleleni ngokubuza ukuthi yini ongayishintsha ukuze abanye abantu bakuthande futhi bakwamukele ngokwengeziwe, indlela engcono ukuzibuza ukuthi yiziphi izici zempilo yakho ocabanga ukuthi ungazishintsha (noma kufanele) uziphile ukuze uphile ngokwangempela, nokuningi kuhambisana nokuthi ungubani ngempela.

Lokhu kungaba yindlela eshubile ngoba abantu abaningi abazi ngempela ukuthi bangobani ngaphakathi sonke sifihla futhi silingise kakhulu kangangokuba umuntu ojwayelekile akakwazanga ukubhala iphrofayli ecacile ngaye uma kufanele.

Uma uzizwa sengathi ukuhlanganiswa kabusha kuhlelekile, ungaqala ngokuthi ukwethembeka ngempela ngawe, uvuma izindlela zokuziphatha ongathanda ukuzishintsha. Lokhu kungaba yinoma yini kusuka ukuzindela okungapheli noma ukugwema, ngezindlela ongonakalisa ngazo ubudlelwane kaninginingi.

Ukusebenza ekushintsheni le mikhuba kungaba nemiphumela emihle, efinyelela isikhathi eside kuyo yonke impilo yakho, kepha kungaba nzima ukuzisebenzela ngokwakho. Ukuthola usizo kumelaphi noma umqeqeshi wempilo kungaba isenzo esihlakaniphile ukuze kwenziwe ushintsho lwangempela, oluhlala njalo.

Khumbula ukuthi ungaqala kancane! Ukuzivuselela kabusha akusho ukuguqula impilo yakho ubhekise phansi ngokuphelele ukulungisa impilo okungaholela ekuguqulweni okuhlala isikhathi eside kokunye okunengqondo ngaphezu kokuthengisa zonke izimpahla zakho ukuze uhlale ku-yurt eNepal.

Uma uzama ukuhlala ngokucabanga ngokwengeziwe futhi kumzuzu wamanje ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka, ngokwesibonelo, ungabeka eceleni imizuzu embalwa yemizuzu eyi-15 ngosuku (into yokuqala ekuseni neyokugcina kusihlwa, ake yisho) ngokuzindla okunengqondo. Uma lokho kukusebenzela, ungakhuphula kube ngamabhulokhi wemizuzu engama-30.

Uma uzizwa uthanda ukushintsha imisebenzi, zama ukuya etohweni lomsebenzi wakho wamanje bese uthatha elinye igigi lesikhashana enkambeni yakho osanda kuyikhetha ukuhlola amanzi ngaphambi kokuntywila ngokuphelele.

Ushintsho oluyiqiniso alulula, ikakhulukazi ngoba lubandakanya ukuzibuza imibuzo enzima kakhulu nokuvuma eminye amaqiniso lokho kungaba nzima ukukwamukela. Ukuba qotho ngempela ezimpendulweni zakho kungaveza izici obukade ugwema ukuza nazo, kungaba ngenxa yokwesaba wena noma ukuthi kungenzeka udumaze futhi ulimaze abanye.

Ungathola ukuthi usufinyelele umkhawulo wamandla akho okuba yinto ongeyona, futhi ongasoze waba yiyo, futhi ukushintsha lokho kuzophonsa impilo yakho (kanye nezimpilo zabantu osondelene nabo) ezinxushunxushwini isikhashana, kepha ekugcineni, uzoba nokujabula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Kulula ukuthuthela endaweni entsha noma ushintshe ikhabethe lakho, kepha ukushintsha imisebenzi noma ukuqeda ukubambisana okungasasebenzi yindaba ehluke ngokuphelele.

Ekugcineni, nokho, lesi simo size kuwe ngokuthembeka kuwe mayelana nokuthi ungubani manje, ufuna ukuba ngubani, nokuthola indlela esuka komunye iye komunye.