Umbhali nosomlomo oshukumisayo ongasekho, uDale Carnegie, uthe kuhlale kunezinkulumo ezintathu ngayo yonke oyinikezayo.
- Lowo ubuwenza
- Le oyinikezile
- Lowo ofisa ukuthi umnikeze
Inhloso yethu kufanele kube ukuthola lezi zinkulumo ezintathu zihambisane kakhulu ngangokunokwenzeka komunye nomunye. Kungenzeka singaze sikwenze ngokuphelele, kepha singasondela ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lokhu ngeke kwenzeke ngengozi noma ngengozi. Kuzokwenzeka kuphela ngokulandela isethi yemihlahlandlela ethembekile.
Uma silandela imihlahlandlela, umphumela kufanele ube inkulumo enhle kakhulu efeza injongo yayo.
Akukho Okubambela Ukulungiselela
Ayikho nje into engathatha indawo yokulungiselela. Ngisho nezikhulumi ezihamba phambili kumele zilungiselele.
ngibona sengathi angisiyena owalapha
Eqinisweni, ukulungiselela yisona sizathu esiyinhloko sokuba yizikhulumi ezinhle. Akuvele kwenzeke - noma ngabe unekhono noma unesiphiwo esithile.
Ungalokothi ukhohlise ngokulungiselela. Uzozisola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukulungiselela kuqala ngaphambi kosuku lokukhuluma. Inqubo yokulungiselela singahlukanisa izigaba ezi-6.
- Ukufaneleka
- Ukusetha
- Okuqukethwe
- Ukulethwa
- Isiphetho
- Ukuhlola
Ngisho nesigaba sokuHlola siyindlela yokulungiselela, njengoba sikulungiselela okwakho inkulumo elandelayo.
Ukufaneleka
Kufanele uqale ngokubheka ukuthi kungani ukhethelwe ukwenza le nkulumo ethile.
Yiluphi ulwazi onalo abanye abangenalo? Yibuphi ubuchwepheshe obudinga ukwabiwa? Yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho abanye abangakuzuza ngokwazi? Yimaphi amakhono adinga ukudlulisela kubalaleli bakho?
Ukubuza lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo kuzokusiza ucabange ngalokho ofuna ukukusho nokuthi ufuna ukukusho kanjani.
Ukusetha
Le nkulumo izokwenziwa kuphi? Ngabe kuzoba khona izihlalo zenkundla? Amathebula ane-silverware eguqukayo? Ingabe igumbi lizoba nomsindo omkhulu? Ngabe uzokwazi ukuhambahamba noma kufanele uhlale endaweni eyodwa?
Ngabe izethameli zakho zizoba nolwazi olujwayelekile ngesihloko sakho, noma lokhu kuzoba okuqukethwe okusha sha kubo? Ngabe ababukeli bazoba badala noma babancane? Abesilisa noma abesifazane? Umsebenzi owodwa noma ingxube? Ingabe lokhu kunendaba?
Okuqukethwe
Okuqukethwe kuyisihluthulelo. Akekho othintekayo noma oshukunyiswa yi ukulethwa kahle kwenkulumo embi.
Inkulumo enhle ayilethwa kahle kuphela - inezinto nokuqukethwe okuqinile. Izinkulumo ezinokuqukethwe okubuthakathaka azifezi lutho ngaphandle kokucasula izethameli.
Uzofuna ukunikela isikhathi esiningi kulokho ohlose ukukusho nokuthi uhlose ukukusho kanjani. Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzigcine engqondweni njengoba usebenza kokuqukethwe yinkulumo yakho.
Thola inhloso noma inhloso yenkulumo yakho.
Yini ofuna ukuyifeza ngenkulumo yakho? Cishe zonke izinkulumo ziwela kwesinye sezigaba ezi-2. Inkulumo ihloselwe uku:
- Ukukhuthaza
- Izinsiza kusebenza
Lokho wukuthi, inkulumo yenzelwe nxenxa izethameli ukuthi zenze okuthile. Ukwenza isenzo sohlobo oluthile. Noma okungenani ucabangele ukuthatha isenzo.
Noma inkulumo yenzelwe nika amandla noma uhlomise izethameli. Ukuhlomisela izethameli umsebenzi othile, umsebenzi noma iphrojekthi ethile.
Ukusiza ukugxila enkulumweni futhi ucacise inhloso yayo, kuwumqondo omuhle ukwenza lokho yisho inhloso kwenkulumo ku isiphakamiso esilula. Inkulumo yokuncenga inesiphakamiso esinjengalesi:
- Isakhamuzi ngasinye kufanele sivote okhethweni ngenxa yezizathu ezi-5 ezilandelayo.
- Wonke umuntu kufanele azijwayeze nsuku zonke lezi zinzuzo eziyishumi zezempilo.
Inkulumo yokuhlomisa yehlukile. Inhloso yawo akukhona ukunxenxa izethameli ukuthi zithathe isenzo okungenzeka ukuthi zazingasicabanganga - ukwenza izethameli zikwazi ukwenza isenzo esezivele zithonyiwe ukuthi zisithathe.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbili zohlobo lokuhlomisa lwesiphakamiso:
- Ungakhululeka ngokwezimali ngalezi zinyathelo ezi-6 ezilandelayo.
- Noma ngubani angabhaka uphaya we-apula ophelele ngokulandela lezi zinyathelo eziyi-8.
Ngaphandle kokuthi wazi ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyifeza ngenkulumo yakho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokufeza. Njengoba i-quip iqhubeka: 'Uma ungahlosile ngalutho, nakanjani uzokushaya.' Ngakho-ke lwela okuthile. Ungahlosile ngalutho.
Uzolazi ithagethi yakho ngokuveza umgomo wenkulumo yakho ngesitatimende sesiphakamiso esilula nesicacile. Ngabe ufuna inkulumo yakho ikholise? Ngabe ufuna inkulumo yakho ihlomise? Yilapho udinga ukuqala khona.
Yenza isihloko sicindezele.
Uzofuna ukudala isidingo esizokhulunywa nenkulumo. Ezinye izidingo zisobala. Ezinye izidingo ozodinga ukuzikhipha ukuze izithameli zakho zazi ukuthi zinazo.
Uzofuna ukuthi bazizwe bona angeke akwazi ukungalaleli kulokho ozokwabelana ngakho. Ungahle ubuze umbuzo onjengokuthi:
- Uyigcina kanjani impilo enhle uma unesikhathi esincane sokuzinikela kuyo?
- Ungaqhubekela phambili kanjani ngokwezimali lapho ukwehla kwamandla emali kudla ukukhuphuka kwakho okuncane?
- Kungani kufanele usebenzise isikhathi sokufunda kanti awusenaso isikhathi sokudla nokulala?
ngazi kanjani ukuthi ngiyathandeka noma cha
Yenza ucwaningo lwakho.
Noma ngabe usazi kahle isihloko sakho, kuzodingeka wenze ucwaningo oluthile. Qiniseka ukuthi lokho 'okwaziyo' yilokho okuyikho ngempela. Qiniseka ukuthi ungowamanje. Akukho okudala ukungathembeki njengolwazi oluphelelwe yisikhathi.
Noma ngabe ungungoti endabeni yakho, kuzodingeka uthole ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani okwamanje okwaziyo. Ungalokothi udide ukuthi “wazi kanjani” nokuthi “bonisa kanjani.”
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungakhuluma Kanjani Ngokucacile, Yeka Ukumemeza, Futhi Uzwakale Njalo
- Izizathu eziyi-13 zokuthi kungani abantu bengakulaleli
- 8 Izithiyo Zokuxhumana Okuphumelelayo
- Ungazwakala Kanjani Ngokuhlakanipha Futhi Ukhulume Ngokuningana
- Izindlela Ezi-8 Abesilisa Nabesifazane Abaxhumana Ngokwehlukile
- Izimfihlo eziyi-8 Zokuxhumana Okusebenzayo
Sebenzisa izinto ezinhle zokusekela.
Sebenzisa imifanekiso emihle ukukhanyisa futhi ucacise amaphuzu akho. Faka izindaba ezinikeza impilo imiqondo oyethula. Yabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu okuqinisa iqiniso ozama ukulidlulisa.
Thola izingcaphuno ezinhle eziqinisekisa ubuqiniso balokho okufunayo. Sebenzisa ama-analogies afundisa okungaziwa ngendlela yokwaziwa.
Bhala inkulumo yakho igama nezwi.
Lapho usuyinciphisile le ndaba, ubhale isitatimende sakho sokuphakanyiswa esicacisa injongo yenkulumo yakho, futhi ucabangisise ngalokho ofuna ukukusho nokuthi ufuna ukukusho kanjani - uzolungela bhala inkulumo yakho ephepheni.
Noma, ngokunokwenzeka, kukhompyutha yakho.
Bhala phansi wonke amagama ohlose ukuwasho.
Njengomthetho, kungcono ukuqala ngohlaka. Bhala amaphuzu akho ayinhloko, bese ugcwalisa amaphoyinti amancane ngokufanele. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uhlala kumlayezo. Kuyasiza futhi ukuqinisekisa ukugeleza okunengqondo kuya emibonweni yakho nasemaphoyinti.
Buyekeza inkulumo yakho ebhaliwe.
Lapho uqeda ukubhala inkulumo yakho, buyela emuva kuyo ngokucophelela. Funa izindlela zokusho kangcono lokho okushilo. Ingabe likhona igama elingcono? Ngabe ikhona indlela ongakusho ngayo ngokucace kakhudlwana? Nge-punch eningi?
Khumbula ukuthi inkulumo iyefana nokuxhumana okubhaliwe, kodwa ayifani. Kunezinto ezisebenza kahle ephepheni ezingasebenzi nhlobo uma kukhulunywa. Okuphambene nakho kuyiqiniso.
Kugcine kulula. Izethameli zizokwazisa okulula. Njengoba u-Albert Einstein asho, kufanele kube lula ngangokunokwenzeka - kepha kungabi lula.
Lapho uqiniseka ukuthi inkulumo yakho ayinakuthuthukiswa ngesikhathi esisele sokulungiselela, yigijime ngokuyifunda ngokuzwakalayo.
Zama ukuyifunda ngendlela ozokhuluma ngayo. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuhlala engqondweni yakho indlela engcono yokukusho.
Akufanele uhlose ukuphelela. Ukuphelela akunzima ngokwedlulele ukukufeza, akudingekile. Inkulumo yakho ingaba yinhle ngaphandle kokuphelela.
Uzodinga futhi ukuvumela isikhathi sokupholisha ukulethwa kwakho - ngakho-ke ungasebenzisi sonke isikhathi onaso nje ukubhala inkulumo. Kuyingxenye ebalulekile, kepha yingxenye eyodwa kuphela.
Esikhathini esithile kuzodingeka uyeke ukusebenza kokuqukethwe kwenkulumo yakho, bese udlulela esigabeni sokulethwa. Awunayo kuze kube phakade ukulungiselela.
Ukulethwa
Akukhathalekile ukuthi inhle kangakanani inkulumo yakho ephepheni - okubalulekile ukuthi ihlangana kanjani lapho kukhulunywa. Inkulumo iyaphakama noma iwele ekulethweni. Ezinye izinto ezibalulekile okufanele uzikhumbule:
- Qala ngesingeniso esihle esixhuma nezethameli futhi sibameme ukuthi balalele ngokuqhubekayo. Ungawina noma ulahlekelwe yizithameli kumasekhondi okuqala angama-60 - ngakho-ke yenza umbono wakho wokuqala ube muhle. Yiba ngumuntu ukuze bakuthande, okuzobenza bathambekele ekulaleleni.
- Kunezindlela eziningi ongaqala ngazo. Kodwa ngicela ungaqali ngencazelo ekhathazayo yesiminyaminya ohlangabezane naso endleleni eya endaweni. Noma ulwa kanjani nomkhuhlane. Noma kanjani ungalalanga kakhulu izolo ebusuku. Blah, blah, blah. Uzokwenza izithameli zakho zifune ukuthatha isihlwathi noma zilibangise ekuphumeni. Ungakwenzi. Qala ngaphakathi.
- Ungahle uthande ukuqala okuthile okuhlekisayo . Mhlawumbe akulona ihlaya, ngaphandle uma ungumchazi onamancoko onekhono. Vele uhambe nokuthile okuhlekisayo - kulula futhi kuvame ukusebenza ngempumelelo.
- Inhloso yakho lapha ukunikeza izethameli zakho isizathu sokulalela lokho ozokwabelana ngakho. Sungula ukuthembeka kwakho kusenesikhathi ukuze bazi ukuthi ungathenjwa. Mamatheka. Sebenzisa izwi okungelona elaseshashalazini. Lena akuyona indawo yaseshashalazini - yinkulumo.
- Lungiselela izithameli zakho lokho okuzayo ngaphandle kokweba ukuduma kwakho. Banikeze nje ngokwanele ukuze bafune ukuzwa okuningi. Hhayi okuncane kakhulu. Hhayi kakhulu.
- Ezinye izindlela zokuqalisa zifaka:
- Ikhotheshini ekhangayo
- Indaba ehlekisayo noma umcimbi
- Ukutholakala okusha kusuka ocwaningweni olunqenqemeni
- Inkinga eyaziwayo edinga ukuxazululwa
- TO umbuzo ocindezelayo lokho kumele kuphendulwe
- Isidingo esivamile wonke umuntu anaso
- Indida yohlobo oluthile
- Bashiye belangazelela, bengazondi. Isho ngokwanele, kodwa hhayi kakhulu. Shiya izethameli zifisa ukusho okuningi. Ungabashiyi befisa ukuthi ngabe ume imizuzu eyi-10 ngaphambili. Bashiye befuna okungaphezu kwamandla akho, kepha banike okwanele ukuhlangabezana nenhloso yenkulumo yakho.
- Zijwayeze lokho ozokushumayela. Prakthiza inkulumo yakho uze uyithole kahle. Khulumela phezulu. Ungamane ufunde inkulumo yakho buthule. Khumbula, ukukhuluma kwakho kuzoba njalo yezwa - hhayi funda. Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani imisindo - hhayi ukuthi ifundeka kanjani.
- Sebenzisa amanothi. Lungiselela amanothi alula, acacile futhi amafushane avela embhalweni wakho wesandla. Ungazami ukubamba ngekhanda inkulumo yakho. Kuzozwakala ngekhanda kuphela. Futhi kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukuletha.
- Ungafundi umbhalo wakho wesandla futhi. Kunalokho, sebenzisa amanothi alungiselelwe kahle amboza amaphuzu akho ayinhloko kuphela. Usuyazi vele ukuthi ufuna ukusho ini ngoba ubhale igama negama. Amanothi awokuvuselela kuphela engqondweni yakho lokho osuvele wanquma ukuthi bekuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukusho.
- Amanothi azokukhulula kubushiqela bokukhumbula inkulumo yakho noma ukufunda inkulumo yakho. Amanothi azokusiza khululeka kakhudlwana , ingacindezelekile kangako, futhi ingokwemvelo ngokwengeziwe. Prakthiza inkulumo yakho ngamanothi akho kuphela.
- Sebenzisa ukushukuma okungokwemvelo, okungaphoqiwe okuxhumana kunokuphazamisa.
- Buka abenzi bokukhuluma abakhulu ku-intanethi futhi ufunde kubo. Ungazami ukuzikopisha ngqo, kepha funda izimiso ngokuzibuka futhi uzifunde. Funda kumakhosi. Bukela ezinye izingxoxo ze-Ted Talks . Iningi lazo lihle kakhulu. Uzofunda ngokufunda izinkulumo eziphumelelayo.
- Prakthiza inkulumo yakho phambi kwesibuko. Sebenzisa irekhoda yedijithali ukurekhoda inkulumo yakho. Ungafunda okuningi ngokulalela ukulethwa kwakho. Ungabona imikhuba ofuna ukuyisusa. Zijwayeze ukukhuluma kwakho phambi komngane bese umema impendulo yabo. Ithuluzi elihle kakhulu ividiyo. Ividiyo ngokwakho uzijwayeza ukukhuluma kwakho. Ingcebo yolwazi ongayisebenzisa.
- Ukuzilolonga akwenzi okuphelele. Kepha ukuzijwayeza kuzokusondeza ekupheleleni. Zimbalwa kakhulu izinkulumo eziphelele. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi izinkulumo eziningi zihle kakhulu. Ukugqama kuyinjongo yakho, hhayi ukuphelela.
- Beka isikhathi enkulumweni yakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ngeke weqe isikhathi osinikeziwe. Wonke umuntu uzobonga.
Isiphetho
- Inkulumo yakho kufanele ibe nesiphetho. Awudingi ukuthi, 'Ekuphetheni.' Ngisho nezithameli ezihamba kancane zizokuthola. Nikeza isifinyezo esicacile salokho owabelane ngakho. Isifinyezo kufanele sicacise futhi siphinde amaphuzu asemqoka.
- Khumbuza izithameli zakho ngalokho okufanele zikukholwe manje, noma ukuthi manje kufanele zikwazi kanjani - ngoba zihlanganyele nenkulumo yakho. Bangase bangakwenzi lokho obakhuthaze ukuba bakwenze, kodwa kufanele okungenani bakucabangele uma inkulumo yakho ifinyelela uphawu. Noma kufanele bazethembe ukuthi bahlonyiselwe ukubhekana nenselelo entsha.
- Qiniseka ukuthi unikeza izethameli zakho izindlela ezithile zokuthatha. Inselelo efanelekile ivame ukufaneleka. Ungabakhalimeli. Mema nje ngokuzethemba. Isikhalazo sokugcina ngokuvamile siyasiza futhi siyaziswa.
Ukuhlola
- Akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzothula inkulumo ephelele - ngakho ungalindeli. Uzofuna ukwethula inkulumo enhle kakhulu - ngakho-ke hlela uku. Lapho inkulumo yakho isiphelile, qiniseka ukuthi uzinike isikhathi sokuyihlola. Kuzokusiza ukuthi uthuthuke, futhi izinkulumo zakho zesikhathi esizayo kufanele zibe ngcono futhi zibe ngcono.
- Buka ividiyo noma ulalele okuqoshiwe kwenkulumo yakho bese ubhala izinto obungazenza kangcono futhi uzenze kangcono ngokuzayo. Bheka izindlela zokukhuluma eziphazamisa, ezicasulayo noma ezidukisayo. Zisuse ngokuzayo.
- Funa izindawo obungacaciswanga kahle kuzo futhi ufunde ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani ngokucace kakhudlwana ngokuzayo. Nikeza othile ikhophi lenkulumo yakho ongakunika impendulo ebalulekile.
Uma ufuna inkulumo yakho incenge, ihlomise, ibe nomthelela, ikhuthaze… noma ivuselele - landela le mihlahlandlela.
Manje, hamba uyikhiphe epaki! Ngikufisela inhlanhla.
