Umuntu olele eceleni kwesithandwa sakhe sokulala angahle abe nesithombe esingazelelwe sokuthi kungaba lula kanjani ukubabulala belele. Lowo mcabango ungabethusa futhi ubacasule. Bangase balale bevukile ubusuku bonke, bethuswe ukuthi umcabango onjalo ungake ufike ezingqondweni zabo.
lapho umthanda ngempela umfana
Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ngabo ngokucabanga ngento enjalo?
Ngabe le micabango iyizimpawu zokuxwayisa zokuqala zabo zokuba ababulali abanobuhlanya?
Ngabe banesifiso esinganakile sokubulala umlingani wabo?
Hhayi, cha. Okungahleliwe - futhi okuvame ukuba nobudlova noma okunye okuphazamisayo - imicabango efana nalena yaziwa ngokuthi 'imicabango engathandeki,' futhi wonke umuntu unayo.
Wonke umuntu.
Bavame ukusikhulula lapho bevela, ngoba imvamisa baphuma lapho futhi babonakala sengathi bavela ebumnyameni obukhulu bengqondo yethu. Ngempela, kuyimicabango engahleliwe ohlelweni olukhulu lobuchopho bethu obusebenza njalo.
Ukungena Okusiphazamisayo
Imicabango yethu ayiyeki ukusebenza, kepha isikhathi esiningi asiyinaki imicabango ephuma ebuchosheni bethu phakathi nosuku, ngoba ayisithinti ngempela ngokomzwelo izinga.
Nasi isibonelo: uhleli etafuleni lakho emsebenzini, uzama ukugxila entweni efanele ukuphela kosuku, futhi ngokuzumayo (uphume MANJE), uyazibuza ukuthi i-lasagna ibinganambitha kanjani uma yenziwe ngezingcezu ze-pizza esele esikhundleni sama-noodle ajwayelekile. Ungahle ume isikhashana ucabange ngalokho, ucabange ukuthi “huh, lokho kungahle kube kuhle impela,” bese uqhubeka nokusebenza ngaphandle kokunaka lowo mcabango.
Uma, noma kunjalo, ubususwe umcabango lapho uzibuza khona ukuthi inja yakho inganambitha kanjani, ubungathola ukuthi isitimela sakho somcabango siphume ngokuphelele, futhi ubuzochitha amahora ambalwa alandelayo uzibuza nge-WTF NGOKUQINISEKILE?! Uyayithanda inja yakho ne-OMG ungacabanga kanjani ngento enjalo?
Ungahle ulayishe zonke izithombe zenja yakho ocingweni lwakho futhi ukhale konke ukuthi umcabango omubi kangaka wake weqa engqondweni yakho nokuthi ungumuntu owesabekayo kanjani futhi awusoze wadla inyama futhi uzogona uMnu. Woofles izingcezu lapho ufika ekhaya futhi futhi…
Zombili lezo ziyizibonelo zemicabango yokungena ngaphakathi, kodwa i-lasagna pizza travesty (noma ubuhlakani?) Ichithwa kalula ngoba ayisona isihloko esiyindabamlonyeni esinokubuyela emuva okuqinile ngokomzwelo. Lowo mcabango ungaphuma uphume emqondweni wakho kalula njengoba ugelezela ngaphakathi ngoba i-psyche yakho ivele yaqaphela ukuthi ingumuntu ongena okwesikhashana, futhi ayizange ihlale phezu kwawo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukusabela okunzima kwamadolo emcabangweni nje wokulimaza umuntu omthandayo, ingasaphathwa eyokumudla, kushaye amabala abuhlungu kuwo wonke amangqamuzana akho ampunga. Ukudla inyama yenja kuwumkhuba omkhulu emasikweni amaningi, futhi iningi lethu lifundiswa kusukela ngosuku lokuqala ukuthi izinja zingabangane futhi asibadli abangane bethu. Izilwane ezifuywayo zingamalungu omndeni kithina, futhi sinezibopho zomzwelo ezinamandla ngempela kubo, ngakho-ke lapho umcabango ongahleliwe uthinta inhliziyo ngazo zombili izinhlungu zenhliziyo kanye nesigubhu esingavumelekile… kukhona i-cacophony yengqondo enganakekelwa.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ukube Ubungafunda Imicabango Yabantu, Ungafunda Lokhu Ngawe
- Iziqinisekiso Ezi-6 Zokuphinda Lapho Ucabanga Ngokweqile
- I-Psychology Of Sublimation Nendlela Yokuyisebenzisa Empilweni Yakho
Ukuhlala Kwenza Imicabango Engajulile Iqine Kakhulu
Lapho kufika umcabango ongaqondakali onjenge-puppy pie, sivame ukuwulungisa, okuvele kunikeze amandla. Esikhundleni sokuyinyakazisa nje bese siyidedela, sihlale, siyihlafune, sizame ukuqonda ukuthi isukaphi nokuthi kungani. Ngabe unesifiso esithile sokudla inja yakho? Ingabe lo mcabango uyisibonakaliso sesixwayiso sokuqala sesifo sengqondo esibi? Njll
uma lolu thando lungahlala impilo yonke
Imicabango efana nalokhu iyavunguza ngaphandle futhi isenze sikhathazeke ngoba asifuni ukuba nayo, kodwa sizizwe singenamandla okuyilawula. Ngokomzimba, singabonisa izimpawu ezifana nokushaya kwenhliziyo ngoba imizwa emibi idala impendulo yokulwa / yezindiza ngaphakathi kwethu.
Singaba nesifo sokucindezela ngokweqile (OCD) ngoba ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho sibheka isithombe senja, lokho kucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka siyidle kuyafika engqondweni, okubangela ukukhathazeka futhi kusenze sikukhathalele ngokushayela umcabango kude.
Sihlala siyibhekisisa imicabango efana nalena, kepha sona isenzo sokungena ukuze ubone ukuthi basekhona yini singabenza bavele, ngendlela efanayo yokuthi kuklebhula ibhandishi losimende enxebeni ukuze kubhekwe ukuthi ngabe ukuphulukiswa kuzodala yini. ukuvula futhi.
Le Micabango Yejwayelekile Ngokuphelele, Nawe Unjalo
Uma ngabe kwenzeka into efana nalena kuwe, donsa umoya, bese wehlise umoya. Kuhle kakhulu wonke umuntu owake wazi ukuthi uke waba nemicabango efana nalena, kepha kuyaqabukela siyivuma kwabanye abantu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma besiphazamisa, ngokungangabazeki bazophazamisa abanye, futhi sibhekana nokwanele ukukhathazeka komphakathi futhi imposter syndrome ngaphandle kokufaka amanye amafutha kulowo mlilo, ngiyabonga kakhulu.
Le micabango ivela ezweni lasendle le- ukungazi kwethu izingqondo, lapho kuvela khona bonke ubuciko bethu. Yilapho abaculi nababhali bethola ugqozi lokudweba nezindaba, nalapho amaphupho ethu azalwa khona.
Ukube ubungavuka ngolunye usuku ekuseni ngemuva kokubhekana nephupho lapho uzithole ushaya phansi i-pupper yakho, kungenzeka ukuthi ucabange 'ukungcola okungcwele, lelo bekuyiphupho elibi' bese ulinyakazisa njengoba uphuza ikhofi lakho lasekuseni. Ungase ugone inja yakho isikhathi eside kunokujwayelekile, kodwa ubungeke uphazamiseke kakhulu ngoba, vele, bekuyiphupho nje, akunjalo?
Njengoba le micabango isukela kokungazi, kungenzeka ukuthi ikhuthazwa yinto ekucasulayo noma ekuphazamisayo ngokungazi. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubukhe phezulu ngendaba yabantu abadla izinja kwelinye izwe futhi ikuphazamise ngalowo mzuzu, kepha uyikhuphele eceleni ngoba ukuthole kukuphazamisa.
Ngokuyicindezela, kungenzeka ukuthi yazifaka kokungazi kahle kwengqondo kwakho yaze yenziwa enye into, eyangena ngaphambili futhi yakususa kuleyo phrojekthi obekufanele usebenzele kuyo.
Ukhiye wokubhekana nale micabango engathandeki ilele ngokuphelele kuyo indlela esisabela ngayo kubo . Uma bekushaqisa okwamanje, kulungile ukuchitha isikhathi esifushane ucabanga ukuthi 'wow, lokho kudidekile lapho, bese udedela umcabango.
Bazi ngalokho abayikho, bese uzama ukungabi nalo uhlobo oluthile lokuzonda kubo isenzo sokwenyanya yikho okuzokwenza ukuthi uhlale ungena engqondweni yakho. Ungazami nokulibona ngeso lengqondo lindiza lisuka kuwe ngendlela yokuzindla yeVulcan vele ugxile kokunye, futhi ungalokhu ubuyisela imicabango yakho emuva ku-interloper ukuze ubone ukuthi ngabe ayikasekho yini.
Uma uhlushwa i-OCD, isifo sokukhathazeka, i-PTSD, noma ukudangala, kungaba nzima kakhulu kuwe ukuvumela le micabango ihambe, futhi lokho kulungile impela. Vele uzame ukwehlisa umoya, bese uzama izindlela ezahlukahlukene ukukusiza ukudlula kuzo. Uma imicabango engathandeki ikucasula futhi iphazamise impilo yakho yansuku zonke, khuluma nodokotela wakho noma omunye umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo. Bangasebenza nawe ukuthola inqubo esebenza kangcono kuwe, ukukusiza ufunde ukuthi ungaziyeka kanjani lezi zinhlobo zemicabango lapho zivela.
