Isizotha (ibizo): ukuziphatha okunenhlonipho nokucabangela abanye abantu.
Amagama afanayo: inhlonipho, isizotha, inhlonipho, ukuhlonipha, imikhuba emihle, imikhuba emihle, ubungcweti, ubuqhawe, ubumnene, ukulima, umusa, ubuhlakani, ubuhlakani, ukucabangela, ukucabangela, ukucabangela, ukuqonda, ubumbano.
Kumahlanya ethu futhi avame ukuzicabangela ngokweqile 21stUkuba khona kwekhulu leminyaka, kulula ukucabanga ukuthi imikhuba emihle yasendulo kanye nokuhlonipha kuthunyelwe emlandweni.
Umqondo wenhlonipho nokuziphatha ngokucabangelayo awunikezwa ukunakwa okukhulu emhlabeni lapho kubonakala sengathi kumayelana ‘nami’ nomjaho ophezulu.
Abantu abanenhlonipho, kubonakala sengathi baba uhlobo olusengozini yokuqothulwa!
Kodwa-ke, okuxakayo ngukuthi, sisathanda ukwenza njalo yahlulela abantu ukuthi bahlonipha kanjani (noma cha) kithi.
Ukuhlangana lapho sizizwa khona ukuthi kukhulunywe kabi ngathi noma siphathwe ngendlela engahlonipheki kungasicasula isikhashana.
Kungaze kufike ekuthinteni imizwa yethu nangendlela esisingatha ngayo ezinye izimo njengoba usuku noma isonto lethu liqhubeka.
Iqiniso lokuthi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuzwakala ngokujule kangaka kusikisela ukuthi amakhono ezenhlalo 'athambile' njengokuhlonipha empeleni ayisidingo esidingekayo somuntu.
Futhi kuvela ukuthi ...
Konke kubangelwa ukuvela komuntu.
Kunesizathu esizwakalayo sokuthi le mithetho yokuxhumana nomphakathi yavela eminyakeni eyizinkulungwane ezingenakubalwa yokuphila komuntu.
Bakha iqembu lomphakathi elibambisanayo, elihlangene futhi banikele ekusindeni kwezinhlobo.
Onke amasiko, noma ngabe aqhelelene futhi ahluke kangakanani kithina, anemikhuba echazwa ngamasiko awo ngamanye. Imithetho ingahluka, kepha kuzoba nekhodi yokuziphatha eqinile ezosebenza.
Lokho kusho okuningi mayelana nokuthi zidingeka kanjani lezi zimiso ekugcineni umphakathi, akunjalo?
Ngakho-ke, iqiniso ukuthi uyavumelana noma cha nomqondo ‘wemikhuba’ ezingeni elingaphezulu, uzohlulelwa yibo futhi uzokwahlulela abanye ngendlela efanayo.
Sithande noma cha, amakhono ethu kwezenhlalo, noma ukungabi nawo, kuyingxenye enkulu yokuthi singobani nokuthi abanye basibona kanjani.
Imivimbo ehlukene yabantu abahlukene.
Ngenkathi sisezindabeni zokwahlulela, izwi lokuxwayisa ngokwenza ukuqagela nokubeka uphawu kumuntu njengokungahloniphi noma okungahloniphi…
Ungacabangi ngokuzenzakalela, kulezi zikhathi ezixhumene nomhlaba jikelele, ukuthi abanye banezinkambiso ezifanayo nezakho.
Lokho ocabanga ukuthi kuhloniphekile, abanye bangakuthola kudida, kucasula, noma kucasule.
Nasi isibonelo somuntu siqu: Nginguthisha wesiNgisi wezikhulumi zezinye izilimi osenze isikhathi sakhe ekilasini lamasiko amaningi.
Ngifunde ukuthi ukuthanda kwethu amasiko ngokuthi 'ngiyacela,' 'ngiyabonga,' nokuthi 'ngiyaxolisa' (imvamisa lapho singaqondile nakancane), kubukwa yilabo abavela phesheya kwezilwandle ngemibono esukela kokungakholelwa kuye ekucasukeni.
Futhi nokho ukwehluleka kwabo ukusebenzisa la magama ‘omlingo’ lapho bekhuluma isiNgisi kubonwa njengokudelela.
Ngakho-ke, into ehloniphekile okufanele yenziwe uma kukhulunywa ngokushintshana ngamasiko akukhona ukusebenzisa izindlela zethu zokuhlonipha abantu abavela kumasiko ehlukene.
S'fiso Ncwane
Indaba yemikhuba emihle ekugcineni iholela ekuboniseni ukuhloniphana.
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Uma ungabahloniphi abanye, khona-ke ukubamba umnyango uvulele othile noma ukukhumbula amagama kungukugqoka iwindi nje futhi akusho lutho. Usazobonakala ungenanhlonipho.
Uma u khombisa inhlonipho kwabanye , maningi amathuba okuthi nabo benze okufanayo.
Iphrofayili Yomuntu Onesizotha
Ukufunda imikhuba emihle, ukucabangela abanye, nokuba nenhlonipho kuqala kusukela eminyakeni yokuqala kakhulu yokukhula kwethu.
Kungenzeka uzithole ubabaza abanye ababonakala beveza inhlonipho ngaphakathi kwabo bengazami kangako.
Qiniseka ukuthi akuyona imizamo. Kuyindlela yokuziphatha efundwe isikhathi eside futhi igxilile kakhulu.
Mhlawumbe uzizwa sengathi imikhuba yakho ingakwenza ngokuxubha kancane. Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, ngicabanga ukuthi sonke singenza ngesikhumbuzi esincane sendlela efanele yokuziphatha!
Ngakho-ke ake sibheke ezinye zezinto abantu abanesizotha abazenzayo nabangazenzi - ngokuhleleka okuthile.
1. Bona ungahluleli abanye
Ngakho-ke, ngikhulume ngegama elithi 'J' amahlandla ambalwa kulesi siqeshana, kepha ukwahlulela kuyinto umuntu ohloniphekile angaze akwenze.
Kukangaki wenza isinqumo esisheshayo ngobuntu bomuntu omusha noma izimo futhi kwadingeka wenze i-U-turn esheshayo lapho ubazi kangcono?
Kulula kakhulu, futhi kunomusa, ukugwema isifiso sokwahlulela kwasekuqaleni.
2. Ababelani ngemininingwane yomuntu siqu
Umuntu onemikhuba emihle uyamelana nesifiso so-oh-so-human sokuhlanganyela imininingwane esondelene nempilo yakhe, kungaba yiqiniso noma inkinga nje.
Awusoze wababamba bekhuluma ngokuthi bahola malini, ngokwesibonelo, nemininingwane yama-hemorrhoids abo ngomusa izohlala lapho bekhona - isuswe ingabonakali!
3. Abasabalalisi noma balalele inhlebo
Ukukwazi ukuveza ingcosana yolwazi enamanzi ngomuntu omjwayele noma osebenza naye kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuba yingxenye yesixuku 'esikhona'.
Futhi ukulalela Ngokuzimisela komunye umuntu oxoxa izinganekwane kusho ukuthi uku-track yangaphakathi, wenelisa isidingo somuntu sokuba ngumuntu ...
Kepha esikhathini esifushane kuphela, ngoba akekho umuntu othemba inhlebo.
Abantu abanesizotha abanandaba nalokhu kungaziphathi kahle futhi bayohlala bevala izindlebe ekuhlebeni, noma ngabe izinganekwane zihehe kanjani.
Lokhu kubenza babe ngabalingani abathembekile. Kungakho bathambekele ekugcineni abangane babo ngenkathi abanye bekhokha inani lokuhleba njengoba abangane babo bebashiya.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Ungabamukela Kanjani Abanye Ngokuthi Bangobani (Kunokuthi Ufune Ukuba Babe Bani)
- Izimpawu Ezi-9 Zokuhlakanipha Okuphakeme Komphakathi
- Ukubhekana Nabantu Abangaze Baxolise Noma Bavume ukuthi Abalungile
- Izizathu eziyi-13 zokuthi kungani abantu bengakulaleli
4. Abayicindezeli imibono yabo kwabanye
I-loudmouth ehlala iphusha imibono yabo evame ukuphikisana kuzo zonke izingxoxo ayikaze ithandwe.
Le mibono ilethwa noma ngabe iceliwe noma cha - imvamisa ayitholakalanga.
Uphawu lomuntu ohloniphekile nonenhlonipho ukuzibamba ekuphoqeleleni imicabango yabo kwabanye.
Yebo, kunjalo, uma bebuzwa bazokwabelana ngemibono yabo, kepha bazovulekela imibono ehlukene futhi babe nengxoxo elinganiselayo.
Abasoze baphikelela ekutheni uguqulele endleleni yabo yokucabanga.
5. Abazikhuhli izindaba ezibalulekile
Abanye abantu bazokwenza noma yini ukugwema ukuxakaniseka kwengxoxo nomuntu osanda kushonelwa noma obudlelwano bakhe busanda kufakwa noma obekezelele okunye ukuhlukumezeka komuntu siqu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi abaziphethe kahle bazothola indlela yokulusukumela lolu daba ngokukhulu ukushesha ukugwema ukwengeza amahloni noma ukucasuka njengoba umuntu onebhadi elinda ngokukhathazeka ngodaba olunameva noma isehlakalo esibuhlungu.
Akukaze kube yinto elula ukuyenza, kepha kunomusa kakhulu ukuvuma ukucasuka ezimpilweni zabangani bethu noma esisebenza nabo kunokukuziba. Abantu abanesizotha bayakuhlonipha lokhu.
6. Bahlale bezwakalisa ukubonga kwabo
Ukubonisa ukwazisa okuqotho ngesenzo esithile, isipho, noma umoya wokungenisa izihambi kuhamba phambili ohlwini lwezinto ezenziwa ngabantu abanesizotha.
Ngeke ubathole bedubula i-liner eyodwa nge-imeyili noma ngomyalezo bethi ‘ngiyabonga.’
Futhi ngeke benze ukucabanga ukuthi umngani wabo noma isihlobo sabo bazokwazi nje 'ukwazi' ukuthi babe nesikhathi esimnandi noma basithokozele isipho ngoba badumise amagama ambalwa ngalokho.
Cha, umuntu ohloniphekile uzohlala ezinika isikhathi ukubhala amagama ambalwa ekhadini bese elithumela ngendlela yakudala ngeposi lomnenke. Noma bazo yithi ngiyabonga ngenye indlela ezwakalayo .
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Eqinisweni, lokhu kuthatha isikhathi esincane ukukwenza kepha kusuka enhliziyweni kakhulu ekuboniseni ukwazisa kwangempela. Isitoko sakho sizokhuphuka kakhulu emehlweni omamukeli, impela!
7. Bazobeka abanye ngokukhululeka
Lapho ebhekene nesikhathi esingaba nzima, umuntu ohloniphekile uzohlala ethola indlela emnene nefanele yokusabalalisa noma ikuphi ukuqina, amahloni, noma ukukhathazeka kwabanye.
Bazokwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukunciphisa noma yikuphi ukungakhululeki okuzwiwa abanye nganoma yisiphi isizathu.
Udinga ukuba nozwela ukuze ubone isimo esinjalo futhi lena enye ikhwalithi ejwayelekile yomuntu ohloniphekile.
8. Bangabalaleli abalalelayo
Ngeke ubambe umuntu ohloniphekile ebheka ewashini lakhe ngenkathi ukhuluma nabo noma, okubi nakakhulu, ubheke ehlombe lakho ukubona ukuthi ngabe kukhona umuntu othakazelisa kakhulu noma 'owusizo' ongene egumbini.
Ngeke futhi ubone amehlo abo ecwebezela phakathi kwengxoxo maphakathi. Futhi ngokunganaki ngibheka ifoni yabo ngezibuyekezo zemidiya yomphakathi ngenkathi ukhuluma? Ngeke!
Abantu abanesizotha banekhono ‘lokulalela ngenkuthalo.’
Abagcini ngokukhombisa ukunaka kwabo okuphelele ngokuthi ukugcina ukubonana ngaso sonke isikhathi , bazobuye banqekuzise amakhanda noma bamoyizele futhi basho lokho okuvumayo, ngakho-ke isikhulumi siyazethemba ukuqhubeka nokukhuluma.
Uma isihloko esingabajabulisi, awusoze wazi, ngoba banekhono lokuqondisa kabusha ingxoxo ngobuqili obunjalo ongeke uze ububone!
9. Bayakuvumela ukhulume ngawe
Ukunwetshwa kwendlela yokulalela okusebenzayo yikhono lomuntu ohloniphekile wokubuza imibuzo ehlakaniphile nephathelene nawe.
Masibhekane nakho, imvamisa kuyisihloko esiyithandayo.
Uma othile ekuvumela ukuthi ukhulume iminyaka eminingi ngezimpumelelo zakho noma amahla-ndla empilweni yakho futhi abonakale enentshisekelo, ngabe yingxoxo enhle leyo, akunjalo?
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ujabulela ukukhanya kokujabulela ukuxhumana nalowo muntu omuhle kakhulu, lapho uzobona khona ukuthi awazi lutho ngabo ngenkathi bezwile indaba yakho yokuphila.
10. Ngeke balikhohlwe igama lakho
Lokhu kusobala. Sonke siyazi ukuthi kuyimikhuba emihle ukubiza abanye ngamagama (okulungile!).
Abanye bethu basola inkumbulo engemihle ngokwehluleka kwethu ukwenza lokhu, kepha, eqinisweni, akunzima kangako ukunaka lapho kwenziwa izethulo.
Kulungile futhi ukubuza futhi ukuthi awuzange ulibambe yini igama okokuqala. Kungcono kunokuba ubanjwe lapho kufanele wethule lowo muntu komunye umuntu bese ungenawo umkhondo.
Mhlawumbe uzobona ukuthi umuntu ohloniphekile ongaphazami uzophinda alibuyisele kuwe igama lakho ngesikhathi sokuxoxa.
Akuyona iqhinga lokusetshenziswa ngokweqile njengoba kungacasula, kepha ithuluzi eliwusizo lokufaka igama kwimemori yakho noma kunjalo.
Izinto ezinhle kakhulu empilweni zikhululekile.
Kukhona isaga esisebenza kahle saseSlovenia emigqeni ethi 'inhlonipho ayibizi lutho kodwa ithela okuningi.'
Kuyiqiniso.
Yize imikhuba emihle ingabizi lutho, ingenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni abanye abantu abazizwa ngayo ngawe.
Ngokomongo webhizinisi, lokho futhi kuya kwenhlangano oyimele, ngakho-ke imivuzo etholakala ngokuba nenhlonipho ingaba yiphrofeshinali kanye neyakho uqobo.
Kude nomqondo ophelelwe yisikhathi.
Kulezi zikhathi ezehlukanisayo, inhlonipho, inhlonipho, nawo wonke lawa amanye amagama afanayo angenhla awakaze abaluleke kakhulu.
Ngishilo ngenhla ukuthi ukuhlangana kanjani ne- umuntu onolaka futhi ukungabi nesimilo kungakushiya uzizwe ulimele.
Kuthiwani ngokucabanga ngalokho okwenza ukuhwebelana nomunye umuntu kube okungenakulibaleka ngendlela enhle?
Yebo, cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi inhlonipho, ukucabangela, ukuhloniphana, ukucabanga - ngingaqhubeka…
Zuza izinzuzo zokuhlonipha.
Konke lokhu kulandela ukulandela iseluleko esingaphelelwa yisikhathi sokuthi 'yenzani kwabanye njengoba nifuna benze kini.'
Futhi into enhle ngokuba nenhlonipho nenhlonipho ukuthi abanye banamathuba amaningi okuthi babe nenhlonipho nenhlonipho ngokubuyisela, ngakho-ke uvuna lokho okuhlwanyelayo.
Ngizoshiya igama lokugcina kuRoy T. Bennett, umbhali oshukumisayo ka Ukukhanya Okusenhliziyweni :
Phatha wonke umuntu ngenhlonipho nangomusa, hhayi ngoba emuhle, kodwa ngoba unjalo.
