Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwethu kubonakala kungumsebenzi onzima ezweni eliya ngokuya lizimisele kuwo wonke umuntu onqwabelana ngenombolo enkulu yokuxhumana nabantu. Ngaphansi kwelensi engaguquguquki enjalo, uzwela kwabanye luthathela indawo umbukwane ukuze sithole ukuthandwa, ukuchofoza, ukubukwa, noma ukuswayipha zonke izimo zokuzijabulisa eziphuma emhlabeni 'wezenhlalo' ziye empilweni yangempela.
Siyakukhohlwa lokho asisona isikhungo sakho konke, imicabango yethu ayilona iqiniso eliqinisekisiwe, futhi futhi asikhululekile ekukhucululeni amadolo ethu ngezikhathi ezithile emigwaqweni yokuziphatha enamadwala eLife.
Uma izimpilo zethu zithinteke kakhulu ngezikhathi zethu zobuchwepheshe, zenhlalo, singathola ukuthula kancane emuva lapho sizwa khona empeleni lokho umuntu akushoyo kunokumphendula njengokungathi bayisikhathi sosuku?
Empeleni futhi akunakuphikwa.
Singashintsha.
Singaguqula.
Futhi kuqala ngothando…
Uzwela Othandweni Lwakho Lokuphila
okukodwa) Ake sithi usebudlelwaneni (njengoba iningi lethu linjalo). Lobu budlelwano bungaba busha noma bungase bube yisikhathi eside. Kunoma ikuphi, ufuna ukuthi iqhakaze kunokuba ibe yindawo engenamuntu egcwele izimbabazane. Ukuvuleleka ku- izidingo , imizwa, nemicabango yabanye kungamanzi kulelizwe. Ukwandisa uzwela lwakho kuzokukwenza unake kakhudlwana, okusho ukuthi uzosusa izinkinga ngaphambi kokuba zibe izindaba ezishumeke ngokujulile. Ingadi yakho iyakhula.
ezimbili) Izosiza ku- ukuxhumana , okuyi kwandisa ukusondelana , okwandayo ukusondelana. Gudluza i-nudge wink. Uma imvamisa ekhuphukile ekuhlangabezaneni nezincithakalo ze-nibbly yesithandwa sakho ayifanele ushintsho oluthile, singavala isitolo bese sibona ukuthi yini eku-telly manje.
3) Kungenzeka uzithole ekutholeni ukwanga okuningi okuningi. Ama-Hugs afakazelwe ukuthi athuthukisa amasosha omzimba ngokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Ama-Hugs akhulisa umuzwa womuntu wokusekelwa komphakathi futhi anciphise umuzwa wokuhlukaniswa izwe eliqhutshwa yindida liyadala. Futhi ukwangana kwenza abantu ababili abangakaze bahlangane ngaphambili bezwe ukuxhumana okusheshayo. Cabanga nje ukuthi ingezani phakathi kwabathandi!
4) Uzwela isiza umuntu ukubeka phambili . Izinto ezingabalulekile ebeziba yimisele emikhulu (kepha ebeziqala ukuhambisana nohlu lwezinto ezingichazayo) ziqala ukubuyela emuva, ziphele, futhi - onkulunkulu abavumayo - bawe. Kungani? Ngoba uzwela nalo luyanda umuzwa , futhi usheshe ubone ukuthi izinto eziyinkinga obucabanga ukuthi zibaluleke ngokweqile… akunjalo.
Ukubumbana Komndeni
Abanye bethu bezwa amagama athi 'ukuhlangana kwemindeni' bese bacabanga ngokushesha 'iMpi Yezwe Yesithathu.' Uma ubudlelwano bezothando bungaba khona kamnandi emikhakheni yezimbabazane, imindeni ingashiswa emhlabathini ngamadwala entaba-mlilo aveza amajikijolo amancanyana lapho u-Anti Meg othandekayo ezama ukubhaka abe uphayi.
Imindeni yethu imvamisa iyilabo okungenani empathic Ezweni esizigcinayo, ikakhulu ngoba sifundiswa ukuthi kufanele sibekezelele noma yikuphi ukudla komndeni. (Ngingaphezulu kakhulu kokuthi 'Igazi lingaba likhulu kunamanzi, kepha kungenzeka uphume igazi ngaphambi kokubulawa ukoma' ukuthambekela.)
5) Uma ukwahlulela yamukelwa njengomndeni ongenakugwemeka onamandla - yize kungenjalo - cabanga umehluko uma wonke umuntu emndenini ezwe ezwa, ebonwa, futhi ehlonishwa. Cabanga ngokwanda kothando, ukunakekelwa, nokucatshangelwa ngaphakathi komndeni. Ukufunda ukuthi uzwela luyini nokuthi kungani kubalulekile kuzokwenza lokhu. Kuyaxaka ukuthi isingeniso sethu sokuqala kumayunithi ezenhlalo yiso esigubha i- ukungabi naluzwela .
Ukukhathalela kusho ukuqinisa nokwakha izibopho zangempela ezingaphezu kwe-DNA nje!
Amathemba Emisebenzi
Sonke sibabonile abantu abenza iphuzu kubo bazonde konke ngemisebenzi yabo . Lokhu akusho ukuthi ayikho imisebenzi ephelele yemiphefumulo. Bona: 90% wezwe elithuthukile. Kepha labo bantu abathandekayo, abavaleke kabuhlungu kuyaqabukela babonakale beqhubekela phambili, behlehla, benyuka noma behla: bahlala ngqo lapho bakhona.
Ukukhushulwa nokukhula kwenzeka yonke indawo kepha ngaphansi kwezinyawo zabo. (Hhayi ukusho ukuthi amajezi awaphumeleli, ngoba, futhi, u-90% womhlaba othuthukile, kepha inhliziyo enozwelo ichaza ukuchuma ngezindlela ezihlala zizuzisa kakhulu kunokumane nje kube isimo nengcebo.)
6) Ukuzwela okwandisiwe, ukubeka ngokusobala, kuzokwenza kubonakale sengathi udelela okungaphezu kokuchuma kwakho. Ukubonakala njengomdlali weqembu onakekela i- impumelelo okuphelele (okungukuthi labo abaseduze kwakho) kuzovula iminyango eminingi, mhlawumbe iminyango ekuholelayo kude kusuka enkampanini A iye endaweni entsha ngokuphelele nenkampani B!
7) Futhi njengoba kuvela amathuba, intshisekelo yomuntu iyakhula… okuvula amathuba amaningi kakhulu! Izincwadi zokuncoma ziyehla “Yebo, usebenze lapha” nokuningi “Bekuyinjabulo ukuba naye lapha!”
Injabulo izala injabulo. Lokho kuthwala ukuphindaphinda kusuka manje kuze kube yilapho i-cinder yokugcina iwa kusuka ethopheni yenkanyezi yokugcina yenkanyezi. Kungenzeka uzalise lowo msebenzi omusha futhi ongcono obungazi ukuthi uzokulindela.
Uzwela lubalulekile enjabulweni.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Kungani Ukuntuleka Kozwela Kungatholakali KumaNarcissists NaseSociopaths
- Amakhono ama-5 Wokusebenzisana Abaluleke Kakhulu Emsebenzini Wakho, Ubudlelwano Nempilo
- Izinto ezi-4 Abantu Abazwelayo
- Nika Abantu Lezi Zinto Ezi-3 Zokubajabulisa
Ubungani
8) Indlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza shintsha ukujwayela-imikhumbi ibe ubungane empeleni ukuba nobungane. Ukuze ube nobungane empeleni, kufanele unakekele ngaphezu kwakho. Kufanele ukhathalele ukuthi abanye abantu bazizwa kanjani mayelana nokuthi wenzani futhi uthini.
Ukuthi umngani oyedwa wonke umuntu angakhuluma naye uyinhlanganisela yokuxhumana okuningi kwabantu, kusuka emaphathini kuya ekuhlanganeni kuya ekudleni okuthulile kuya emisebenzini yesonto, ngoba kusebenza kusuka kumuzwa wothando olugelezela ngaphandle kunokugeleza kwangaphakathi Ngibone!
Ukwanda kozwela kusho abantu funa ukuba seduze kwakho bafuna ukukufaka ezingxenyeni ezijabulisa kakhulu ezimpilweni zabo ngoba, ngokulula nje, injabulo yenzani? (Bheka ngenhla.)
Umuzwa Wakho Wencazelo
9) Ekugcineni, ukukhulisa ukuzwelana kwakho kuguqula u-o-u. Hhayi izinzuzo zangaphandle, ezimangazayo, kepha injini yenyama ehamba yodwa ehamba kuleli dwala elikhulu, eliluhlaza elizungeza emkhathini njengebhande eliyisaga eliphuma esihogweni. Yonke imihlomulo efakwe kuhlu kuze kube manje iba yinzuzo ngaphakathi kwakho okuncane okudala.
10) Ukuzwela okwandisiwe kukuvula kumqondo wakho wokuxhumana. Uyabona ukuthi, noma ngabe yini, awuwedwa. Othile ngaphandle uzwela wena. Uyigugu, uyadingeka, futhi kukhona abakulungele nabazimisele ngesikhashana nje ukwehlisa noma yimuphi umthwalo okubehlela uze ukwazi ukubuyela ezinyaweni zakho. Ezweni lokuzwela okwandisiwe, ubalulekile. Ubaluleke kakhulu.
Lokhu kukuholela ekutheni ubone ukuthi abantu, uma benikezwa ithuba lokuba bababazekayo, bazobabazeka. Kususa umsindo nezindonga esitshelwa ukuthi 'impilo yanamuhla' (ngendlela efanayo efanayo lapho sitshelwa ukuthi igazi lijiyile kune… uthola ukukhukhuleka), ukuxhumana kwethu komunye nomunye kuba yizinto eziqinisa impilo ngokumangazayo. Abantu bafuna ukukugubha njengoba kufanele ufune ukuwagubha.
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Kuguquliwe
Siguqula izimpilo zethu ngezinqe ezinkulu nezincane, ngokubonakala okuhle noma okubi njengokuphonswa kwemali, lapho iqiniso likhona uguquko olubikezelwayo: okungena yilokho okuvelayo. Ukwakha isisindo semisipha, sengeza izinsimbi. Ukukhulisa ukukhathazeka esinakho komunye nomunye, sidinga ukuzungeza ngokucatshangelwa kwangempela, umuzwa wokuxhuma, kanye nokuzimisela ukuvumela izingqondo nezinhliziyo zethu ukuba ziqhakaze ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene.
Impilo-ke isuka ekubeni yetiye elilodwa elikude elihlala likhipha umusi ekuniseleni linganikeza amaconsi afana nemvula epholile, eyamukelekayo.
Umhlaba ongcono, nozwela kakhulu awunakwenzeka, futhi izinzuzo ziyamangalisa.
