Uzizwa ukude noshade naye muva nje?
Mhlawumbe awukwazi ukudlula impikiswano noma uzizwe sengathi ezothando zinciphile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kepha ngesimo sengqondo esifanele nezinguquko ezimbalwa, ungabuyela ezimeni ezingcono.
Ubudlelwano budinga umzamo wokuchuma. Uma usushadile, kulula ukuphazanyiswa yiyo yonke enye into osuke uyenzile empilweni futhi uyeke ukunikeza ubudlelwane bakho ukunakwa okufanele.
Uma uzizwa unqanyuliwe kozakwenu, bona lokhu njengekholi yokuvuka ukuze uqale ukubeka phambili omunye nomunye futhi.
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Uzizwa sengathi wena noshade naye nidinga usizo ukuze nikwazi ukuxhuma kabusha? Funda ukuze ubone amathiphu aphezulu wokuthi ungaqala kanjani:
1. Khuluma nabo.
Kuthatha nina nobabili ukuvuselela ukuxhumana, ngakho-ke uma uzizwa ukude noshade naye, phumela obala nabo futhi ukhulume ngokufuna ukubuyisela ubudlelwano bakho endaweni enhle.
Cabanga ngokuthi ngabe uzizwa unqanyuliwe yini kubo ngenxa yento abayenzile ukukucasula. Uma kunodaba olungaxazululeki phakathi kwakho, ungahle uzivalele kubo ngokunganakile.
Uma ishiywe, inkinga izobola enhliziyweni yobuhlobo bakho ikuhlukanise. Ukukhuluma nabo ngalolu daba kuzokusiza uthole ukuvalwa okudingayo kuyo futhi kukuvumele ukuthi niqhubeke nobabili.
Uma udinga okuningi kumlingani wakho maqondana nokunakwa futhi uthando , ubakhulise ngendlela eyakhayo, unikeze izibonelo zokuthi bangakunika kanjani okudingayo. Ngeke bazi ukuthi abenzi okwanele ngaphandle kokuthi ubatshele.
Vuleleka ngemizwa yakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi, noma ngabe ushadile, akusho ukuthi umlingani wakho angafunda umqondo wakho. Uzodinga ukuxhaswa kwabo ukuze wenze ushintsho oluhle emshadweni wakho, ngakho-ke qala ngokukhuluma nabo futhi ubuke ukuthi izinto zihamba kanjani.
2. Thola umzimba.
Siyakhohlwa ukuthi ukuthinta ngokomzimba kunamthelela muni kithina. Ukumanga okuhlala isikhathi eside, ukwangana okuqinile, noma ibhulashi lesandla konke kungazuma kabusha i-chemistry phakathi kwakho.
Uma uzizwa sengathi ulahlekelwe yinhlansi, yenza umzamo wokwenza ukuxhumana okuningi ngokomzimba nomlingani wakho.
Okuthile okuncane njengoku ukuthinta ingalo yabo njengoba ukhuluma nabo noma ukubamba isandla futhi ngenkathi uhamba , kunganele ukukukhumbuza bobabili isibopho esikhethekile onaso komunye nomunye.
Ukusondelana kuyingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwano futhi kungahlehliselwa eceleni ngenxa yokukhathala kanye nezikhathi ezimatasa. Ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuyinto ekhethekile enabelana ngayo kuphela, ngakho-ke yisebenzise njengethuluzi lokubuyisa lolo xhumo olufunayo.
Ukukhumbuza oshade naye ngendlela okuzwakala ngayo ukuthintwa nokubakhuthaza ukuba benze okufanayo kungaba yikho konke okudingekayo ukukwenza uzizwe uxhumekile futhi uphinde ubambe umlingo ubudlelwano bakho obukade bungekho.
3. Thatha uhambo oluya emzileni wenkumbulo.
Chitha isikhathi udlula ezithombeni ezindala noma zama ukuphinda usebenzise elinye lamadethi akho owathandayo.
Ukukhumbula ngezikhathi ezimnandi ndawonye kungaba umsebenzi ojabulisayo, okubuyisa lezo zinkumbulo ezijabulisayo nokunikhumbuza nobabili nakho konke okuhle okwabiwe eninakho njengombhangqwana.
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Uma uzizwa sengathi uhlukanisiwe ngenxa yokuthi ubanjwe yikho konke ngaphandle komshado wakho, ukubuyela emuva ngezinkumbulo ezithile ezijabulisayo kungakukhumbuza abantu obukade unabo bonke.
Ukubona ukuthi ushintshe kanjani ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kungaba ukuqaphela okudingayo ukuze ubeke phambili izinto ezibalulekile kuwe empilweni bese uqala ukufaka umzamo omkhulu emshadweni wakho.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi ukukhumbula izikhathi ezimnandi kuzonikhuthaza nobabili ukuthi niqale ukuhlela ezinye izinsuku nezinsuku lapho eningakha khona izinkumbulo ezintsha futhi nizuze kakhulu ebudlelwaneni benu futhi.
4. Qala ukuphola futhi.
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Ukuqala kobudlelwano obusha kuhlale kujabulisa. Nenza umzamo komunye nomunye, nizinika isikhathi sokugqoka futhi nikhethe indawo enhle enizoya kuyo.
Lapho nje sesikhululekile lapho sisondelene futhi sishada, singayeka ukubeka phambili ubusuku bosuku futhi esikhundleni salokho siwele kumkhuba wama-PJs nezindlela zokuthatha.
Kuhle ukuthi usufinyelele eqophelweni lapho nijabule khona ngokuphelele ukuba wedwa futhi ningasizwa isidingo sokuhlaba umxhwele. Kepha ngokuhlela ubusuku obujwayelekile bezinsuku, wenza isikhathi sokuzijabulisa futhi ukhombise ukuthi uyakukhathalela ukubukeka nokuzizwa kahle koshade naye.
Wonke umuntu uthandeka ngokwengeziwe lapho ebukeka futhi ezizwa engcono kakhulu, ngakho-ke shintsha i-tracksuit yakho ngengubo enhle bese usebenzisa isikhathi esithile esizinikele ekwenzeni okuthile okuhle ndawonye.
Akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi uye endaweni yokudlela kanokusho, okubalulekile wukuchitha isikhathi sigxile komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka nokuba nethuba elidingeka kakhulu lokuphinda nixhumane njengabantu abashadile.
5. Yenza uhlu lwamabhakede.
Lapho uqala ukungena ebudlelwaneni nothile, unawo wonke la mathemba namaphupho wokuthi yini enizoyenza ndawonye nazo zonke izinto enizozenza. Kungaba amaphupho amakhulu njengokuthenga indlu ndawonye, noma izinhlelo ezincane kakhulu njengokuya eholidini.
Njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka emshadweni futhi nabelane ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi futhi senifeze izinhloso zakho eziningi, uyeka ukuhlela izinto okufanele nizisebenzele njengombhangqwana. Uqala ukuzizwa udangele ebudlelwaneni bakho, ungenalutho ongabheka phambili kulo. Kungakwenza ucabange ukuthi senilahlekelwe wuthando komunye nomunye.
Ukuhlala phansi uhlele uhlu lwamabhakede nomlingani wakho kuyindlela elula yokubuyisa isasasa elivela ezinsukwini zenu zokuqala ndawonye.
Zama ukufaka kuhlu izinto, ezinkulu nezincane, enifuna nizenze nobabili, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi yizinto eningazenza ndawonye. Kungakunika ukuqonda okusha kumlingani wakho nakuwe uqobo njengoba uhlela izinto ezintsha ofuna ukuzizuza ndawonye.
Zinikeze isikhathi sangempela futhi uvakashele njalo uhlu ukumaka imisebenzi oyifezile.
Ngeke nje nibe nezinto enizibheke njengezithandani, nenze izinkumbulo ezintsha ndawonye, kodwa nizoba nomuzwa owabiwe wokuphumelela ekuqedeleni uhlu lwenu.
Sethemba ukuthi uzokhuthazeka ukuthi uqhubeke ucindezele imingcele yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho njengabantu abashadile, uvimbele impilo ukuthi ingaze ibe yisicefe.
6. Nikezanani ngokuphelele.
Sonke sinecala lako… nichitha isikhathi noshade naye kodwa nobabili nihleli niphenya amafoni enu, nibheka imithombo yezokuxhumana noma niphendula abangane.
Kuwumkhuba oyingozi ukubambeka ngoba noma ngabe nicabanga ukuthi nichitha isikhathi ndawonye, aninikezi ukunaka kwenu ngokuphelele.
Ukungazinaki ezinye iziphazamiso kuba nzima nakakhulu uma ungeza umsebenzi noma izingane ekuxubeni. Lapho kuhlale kukhona okunye okufanele kwenziwe, ukugxila kumlingani wakho kuyeka ukuba seqhulwini.
Ukuthi ujwayele ukuthi umlingani wakho abe khona ngaso sonke isikhathi, akusho ukuthi abakufanele ukunakwa ngokugcwele lapho uthola ithuba. Kuyizimpawu zokuhloniphana ukubeka ukugxila kwakho ngokuphelele kulokho okushoyo nokwenzayo ngokubambisana.
Qiniseka, ngobusuku bezinsuku okungenani, ukuthi nenza umzamo oqinile wokubeka amafoni enu futhi nizibekele isikhathi senu nobabili. Nobabili niyokwazisa ukulalelisisa futhi kuzokunika ithuba lokuxhuma kahle futhi wabelane ngesikhathi esithile esibalulekile.
7. Chithani isikhathi ndawonye ngokunenjongo.
Yize singathi sihlale ubusuku bendawonye, isigamu sibuka insipho ku-TV ngenkathi sibheka izingcingo zethu futhi simemeza sithi 'linda, ngubani owenze ini?' Njalo kaningi komunye nomunye, akubalwa ncamashi.
Ukuthi nisondelene egumbini elilodwa, akusho ukuthi nichitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye.
Futhi akusho ukuthi ukubukela i-TV ndawonye akunakuba nenjongo. Imayelana nokuthi uwuthinta kanjani umsebenzi nokuthi ngabe uwenza ngentshiseko noma ngokungenzi lutho.
Uma ufuna ukubuka okuthile, khetha i-movie ndawonye, khiphani ama-snacks eniwathandayo ukuwabelana, bekani izingcingo zenu bese ninaka sengathi nise-cinema ngosuku. Uma upheka isidlo sakusihlwa, kwenze umsebenzi eniwenzayo nobabili, nixoxe futhi nihlanganyele.
Ukusondela ngenhloso emsebenzini ndawonye kunokuwela kumkhuba kungenye yezindlela ezilula zokuthola isikhathi sokuxhuma kabusha nsuku zonke.
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Imayelana nokwenza ukukhetha ukuthi wazi umlingani wakho futhi ubanikeze ukunaka kunokuba ube sendaweni efanayo.
Angeke kube yizinsuku ezimnandi njalo nezimanga ezijabulisayo, kepha ukuguqula isimo senu sendlela enichitha ngayo isikhathi ndawonye kuzoqala ngokushesha ukukwenza kube nenjongo kini nobabili.
8. Batshele ukuthi yini oyithandayo ngabo.
Sonke siyathanda ukuzwa into enhle ishiwo ngathi kanye ngesikhashana. Lapho seniqala ukwazana, kuyimvelo ukuncoma omunye nomunye, kodwa lokhu kuyinto engaphuma ebudlelwaneni uma kuqhubeka isikhathi eside.
Ukwenza umzamo omkhulu wokuncoma owakwakho ngamazwi, futhi ikakhulukazi, ubatshele izinto ozithandayo ngabo, kungaba yindlela yokunikhuthaza nobabili ukuba niphinde nixhumane.
Ngeke nje uncome oshade naye, kodwa ukusho izinto ozithandayo ngazo kuyisikhumbuzo kuwe ngazo zonke izinto ozibonga ngazo.
Ngokushesha ungahle ubone ukuthi ubazisa kangakanani, ngenkathi ubanikeza nokuzethemba okukhulu. Lapho bezwa ukuncoma okuvela kuwe, maningi amathuba okuthi bazibuyise, babuyise enye yaleyo nhlansi yothando oyilahlekile.
9. Cabanga impilo ngaphandle kwabo.
Akuwona umcabango omuhle onawo, kepha uma ulwela ngempela ukuthola lokho kuxhumana noshade naye, kungakuhle ucabange ukuthi impilo ibizohluka kanjani ngaphandle kwabo.
Kuthiwa asazi ukuthi yini esinayo ize ihambe, futhi akuyona into engavamile ukuba necala lokuthathelana phansi njengoba umshado wakho uqhubeka.
Ukusebenzisa isikhathi esithile ukucabanga ngempela ngokuthi impilo ibizoba njani ngaphandle komlingani wakho akuyona into emnandi, kepha ukubona ukuthi zikuthinta kanjani nsuku zonke futhi okungasho ukuthi ukungabi nabo lapho kungaba yinto eshaqisayo ohlelweni lwakho oludingayo ukuqala ukuzibandakanya kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ukuba nesikhala komunye nomunye nokungabi nabo nhlobo izimo ezihluke ngokuphelele. Kuphilile ukuba nesikhathi sakho ebuhlotsheni, kepha ukungabi nabalingani bakho nhlobo futhi ucabangele ukuthi lokho kungazizwa kanjani ngempela kungakwenza ukwazise onakho lokho okuncane kakhulu.
Qala ukusebenzisa kahle izikhathi eninazo ndawonye nokwazisa ngenkuthalo. Ngokuzibandakanya kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho, uzothola ukuthi uqala kangakanani ukuzuza ngakho.
10. Shake up isimiso sakho.
Gwema ukubambeka enkambisweni efanayo futhi unyakazise izinto ngezimanga ezithile zomlingani wakho.
Uma usenkingeni, ungabanjwa ngokweqile kuphethini efanayo yansuku zonke bese uqala ukucisha kusukela esikhathini osichithe noshade naye ngokuzimela kwakho konke.
Ukushintsha inqubo yakho noma ukuhlela ukumangala okuzenzekelayo kuzonithinta nobabili ekuphumeni kwenu futhi kubuyise ukunaka kwenu futhi komunye nomunye.
Akuthathi into enkulu ukushintsha izinto, noma yimuphi umehluko owenzayo ngemuva kwesikhathi sokubambeka enkambisweni efanayo yansuku zonke kuzonipha amandla futhi nobabili futhi kuqale ukubuyisela ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho.
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Kungaba ukubenzela omunye wemisebenzi yabo, ukubamangaza ngokudla abakuthandayo, noma ukuhlela ubusuku bosuku. Gcina omunye komunye ezinzwaneni zakho ngemibono ejabulisayo nezandla zomzimba futhi ugweme ukugwinywa ukuphindaphinda.
11. Zinikele ndawonye.
Lokhu akugcini ngokubandakanya nina nobabili ukuthatha isikhathi sokwenza okuthile okunenjongo ndawonye, kodwa nizobe nisiza abanye kanye nani.
Akukho okufana nokuzithandela ukubuyisela impilo esimeni lapho uzizwa ulahlekile kancane. Ukwenza lo msebenzi owenzayo nomlingani wakho kungakusiza ukuxhuma kabusha kokuhle okuvamile futhi nibone okuhle komunye nomunye futhi.
Kungaba noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuzithandela, noma ngabe uhlanganyela nabantu, umphakathi wakho, noma isibonelelo.
Ukuhlangana ndawonye ngenxa yesizathu esihle kuzonenza iqembu futhi futhi kungakusiza ukwazise onakho ezimpilweni zakho nakomunye nomunye.
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12. Yakhani into ndawonye.
Okukhulu noma okuncane, akunandaba, kepha kuhle ungakhethi okuthile okuzocindezela kakhulu nokucindezela ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kungaba lula njengekhithi yokwakha ikhaya noma iphrojekthi ye-DIY obukade usho ukuyizungeza yendlu yakho. Ingxenye esemqoka yalokhu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi kuyinto nobabili eningazibandakanya kuyo futhi niyenze ngokubambisana.
Ukwakha okuthile ndawonye kusho ukuthi kufanele nibe nesikhathi sokugxila kuphrojekthi eyabiwe. Uzoba nesikhathi sokuxoxa uphinde uxhume kabusha ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, njengoba ubeka amandla akho emgomweni ofanayo.
Impumelelo yephrojekthi izoncika ekubeni nobabili nilalele futhi nihlanganyele omunye nomunye ngendlela enhle nekhuthazayo. Ungaqala ukuncoma ngokwemvelo, nisizane futhi nisekelane, nonke nisebenzela ukukuphinda nixhumane nobudlelwano benu futhi nikukhumbuze ukuthi umkhathalela kangakanani lo omunye umuntu.
Uma iphrojekthi isiqediwe uzoba nokwaneliseka kokwazi ukuthi bekuyinto eniyizuze ngokubambisana futhi nibe yisikhumbuzo seqembu elikhulu eniyikho.
Umshado awusoze wachuma ngaphandle kokuthi uvunyelwe. Enhliziyweni yempilo oyakhe ndawonye, umsebenzi, indlu, umndeni, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu ababili obusadinga ukunakwa.
Intshisekelo yethu komunye nomunye izoshintsha futhi ikhule ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Sonke sinecala lokungenzi ubuhlobo bethu buze kuqala kunalokho sinake kakhulu konke okunye okusizungezile.
Uma ufuna ukubuyisa amanye amakhemikhali nokuxhuma owawunakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho, khona-ke usuke wakunaka kakhulu njengoba wenza emuva ngaleso sikhathi. Funa izinto ezintsha ongazazisa komunye nomunye, ukuncoma nokuthandana ngothando komunye nomunye noma ngabe ninesikhathi esingakanani nindawonye.
Umzamo omncane uhamba ibanga elide ekugcineni leyo nhlansi iphila phakathi kwakho. Thembela ekuxhumaneni obenakho nalo muntu obeqine ngokwanele ukukwenza ukhethe ukuchitha impilo yakho nabo. Lokho kuxhumana phakathi kwakho kusekhona, futhi ngokubhekisisa okuncane kungachuma.
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