Sonke besikhona - uhlangana nomuntu omkhulu, uthandane, futhi ufuna ukusebenzisa sonke isikhathi sakho naye.
Ziyamangalisa, ngemuva kwakho konke, ngakho-ke yini engalungile ngokuzicwilisa ngokuphelele esigabeni se-honeymoon?
Yize umlingani wakho nobudlelwano bakho bukwenza uzizwe bukhulu kangakanani, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ukuzimela okuthile.
Ukuzimela ebudlelwaneni kuhle kuwe, kepha futhi kusho ukuthi ukubambisana kuzoba nempilo enhle futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kusebenze isikhathi eside.
Nakhu ukuthi…
1. Jabulela isikhathi sodwa.
Siyazi, siyazi - kungani uhlala wedwa lapho ukwazi ukuba nomuntu omthandayo?
Asisho ukuthi udinga ukukhawulela kakhulu ukuthi ubona umlingani wakho kangakanani, kepha udinga ukusebenza ngokuzikhandla ekusebenziseni isikhathi esithile wedwa!
Le yindlela enhle yokuzisiza ukuthi usethe kabusha okuncane bese uzihlolela ngokwakho.
Uma sihlala nomlingani ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi phakathi nezinsuku zokuqala, silahlekelwa ukuzimela kwethu futhi sibambeke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni size sikhohlwe ukubheka ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngakho konke lokho.
Kwesinye isikhathi, kumane kwenzeke njengesivunguvungu futhi sisele sizwa ukujabula kodwa singenzi lutho - asizange sikhethe ngenkuthalo ukungena, kepha nokho silapha, nsuku zonke, sichitha yonke imizuzu yokuvuka endaweni yabo nabo.
Ngokuzinika isikhathi sokuba wedwa, ungabona futhi ucabange kahle ngokwanele ukuhlola ukuthi uzizwa kanjani empeleni.
Ingabe ujabulile ngempela ngendlela izinto ezihamba ngayo? Ngabe uyafuna ukwehlisa ijubane, kepha awuzange uqaphele ukuthi uzizwe ngaleyo ndlela ngoba konke kuvele… kwenzeka?
Lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo zikusiza ukuthi ugcine izinga lokuzimela elinempilo njengoba uzicabangela wena, wenza okulungele wena, futhi wenza izinqumo ngentshiseko kunokumane ukhukhuleke kuzo.
2. Gcina ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane.
Konke kulula kakhulu ukuzicwilisa ngokuphelele ebudlelwaneni bakho nasempilweni yomlingani wakho - futhi le yindlela enhle yokubonisa ukuzibophezela kwakho kubo.
Noma kunjalo, futhi udinga ukugcina i- okwakho impilo iyahamba!
Qhubeka ubone abangani abangekho kubhamuza lomngani bobabili enabelana ngalo nozakwenu.
Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba ungahluka kancane kubo - mhlawumbe, phakathi nosuku lokuqala lobudlelwano, awukhululekile ngo-100% ukuba uwena 100% wesikhathi. Nabangane abakwaziyo unomphela, noma kunjalo, ungaba nguwe futhi uphumule futhi ukudedele.
Abangani bakho bazokukhumbuza ukuthi uqhubeka kangakanani empilweni yakho ngaphandle kwezingcezu zothando! Kuhle ukukhumbula ukuthi unokwesekwa nothando oluvela kubantu okungebona abalingani bakho.
Yize izinto zingase zimangaze manje, nakanjani uzoba nezikhathi ezinzima ebudlelwaneni bakho - lokho nje kuyimpilo, okubuhlungu.
Kubalulekile ukugcina ubungani bakho ukuze, lapho udinga umuntu ongaphendukela kuye ukuthola izeluleko zobudlelwano noma udinga ihlombe ozokhala kulo, awukaze uhlukanise wonke umuntu ngaphandle komlingani wakho!
3. Phuma ebhokisini lothando ngezikhathi ezithile.
Khumbula ukuthi umhlaba wangempela ukhona. Kulula kakhulu ukusongelwa kakhulu kubhamuza lothando uze ukhohlwe okwenzekayo emhlabeni obanzi.
Thatha isikhathi sokuba ngabantu ababili nje abakhona emhlabeni wangempela - hamba uyodla isidlo sasemini uhlale ngaphesheya komunye nomunye, udle ukudla kwakho, futhi usebenzise isikhathi emphakathini.
Kungenzeka ukuthi wawujwayele ukudla udlwathuzeliswa kusofa, uphakelana futhi ube yisigqebhezana esinyanyekayo. Lokhu kuhle kakhulu futhi mhlawumbe kukwenza uzizwe ujabule kakhulu, kepha udinga ukwazi ukusebenza njengabantu (kanye nabantu) emhlabeni wangempela, futhi, uma lobu budlelwano buzohlala njalo.
Lokhu futhi kuyisikhumbuzo esihle sokuthi uzimele nokuthi ukhona ngaphandle kobudlelwano bakho.
Ningenza izinto ezimnandi ndawonye ngaphandle komgodi wakho weduvet, ningaya emnyuziyamu ndawonye kodwa ngamunye uzulazule emakamelweni ahlukene, ungazenzela into yakho ngenkathi ukunye nomunye umuntu.
4. Qhubeka wenze izinto ozithandayo.
Ngakho-ke, uphuthelwe ikilasi lakho le-yoga lamasonto onke amahlandla ambalwa, futhi bayekile ukuzivocavoca ngebhola ukuze bakwazi ukulala nawe ngoMgqibelo ekuseni. Kuyathandeka, yebo? Ngiphilile? Cha.
Ukuze ulondoloze izinga elihle lokuzimela ebudlelwaneni bakho, nobabili kudingeka niqhubeke nenza izinto ebenizenza.
Asisho ukuthi awukwazi ukunciphisa kancane noma wenze ukuyekethisa okuthile, kepha udinga ukuthi ulunge ngokuhlukana kwesinye isikhathi.
Singabanjwa kalula ekuthandeni ukwenza izinto ngoba nje sihlangana nazo nomlingani wethu. Lokhu kujwayelekile kepha kungenza izinto zibe nzima kakhulu kulayini.
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Ungahle ungakhathazeki ukweqa isigaba manje, kepha ungaqala ukucasukela umlingani wakho ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho esiningi.
Ungahle ubone ukuthi uyabakhumbula abangane bakho be-yoga, noma ukuthi ama-headstand akho avele aba mabi kakhulu - lokhu ngeke kube yiphutha likazakwenu, noma ngabe ufuna ukubasola kangakanani ngakho!
Ukugwema ukulahlekelwa yizingxenye zobuntu bakho nokuqala ukucasula umlingani wakho, hlala ezintweni ozithandayo, qhubeka wenze izinto ezikuthokozisayo, futhi uthole izindlela zokujabulela ukwahlukana.
5. Namathela ezindinganisweni zakho.
Lapho sijoyina izimpilo zethu nomunye umuntu, izinto eziningi ziyahlangana futhi okunye ukuyekethisa ngokwemvelo kudinga ukwenziwa.
Ngalesi sigaba, kulula kakhulu ukulahla ezinye zezinjongo zakho futhi umemezele ngenjabulo ukuthi uzokwenza noma yini umlingani wakho ayifunayo.
Yize lokhu kuyancomeka ngandlela thile, kungaholela nasezindabeni ezingezansi, lapho ngokungazelelwe ubona ukuthi ukuhamba nezindinganiso zabo esikhundleni sezakho akuyona into obucabanga ukuthi kuzoba yiyo.
Esikhundleni sokuba nalezi zingxoxo ezingathandeki futhi ubuyele emuva kulokho okushilo, beka unyawo lwakho phansi manje futhi ugcine ukuzimela kwakho kusukela ngosuku lokuqala.
Impela, usengakwazi ukwenza ukuyekethisa futhi ube nguzakwethu onempilo, ongenzeleli, kodwa akufanele umane ulahle konke okholelwa kukho kumlingani wakho.
6. Beka imingcele enempilo.
Ingxenye yokuzimela ebuhlotsheni ukugcina lezo zinto ezibalulekile kuwe.
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Lokho kungasho ukuthi uchitha njalo ngoLwesithathu endlini kamama wakho, ngoba yilokho obukwenza njalo.
Lo ngumngcele onempilo okufanele usethwe kusenesikhathi, futhi kusiza ukubeka okulindelwe okungokoqobo kini nobabili ukuthi ubuhlobo benu buzobukeka kanjani.
Ungaxhumana futhi nomlingani wakho ngokwethembeka ngeminye imingcele - mhlawumbe uma usebenza usendaweni yabo usuku lonke ngesonto, badinga ukuhlonipha ukuthi awukwazi ukuphazanyiswa.
Ngokulinganayo, bangakucela ukuthi ubanikeze indawo yokuzijabulisa nabangane noma yokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo online.
Khumbula ukuthi ukubeka imingcele akukona ukulinganiselwa noma imikhawulo, kumayelana nokulinganisela okunempilo nezindlela zesikhathi eside zokuqinisa ubudlelwano bakho.
Imingcele ikusiza ukuthi ubambelele empilweni owawunayo ngaphambi kokuba ungene ebudlelwaneni, futhi yilokho okuzokuxhasa ngempela nobabili ngokuzayo.
Udinga futhi ukwamukela ukuthi umlingani wakho angafuna ukwenza okufanayo. Ekuqaleni kungazwisa ubuhlungu ukuthi bafuna ukugcina impelasonto ngenyanga ikhululekile ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane, kepha empeleni kufanele uzizwe ubonga ukuthi bazimele futhi banempilo ngaphandle kwakho!
Kusho ukuthi mancane amathuba okuthi bakhule benenzondo yokuthi uwena kuphela umthombo wabo ubungane , futhi kunempilo ukuthi bagcina izici zempilo yabo ngaphandle kobuhlobo bakho.
7. Yazi ukuthi imiphi imizwa eyakho, futhi engeyona.
Lolu hlobo lweza ngaphansi komkhawulo-ukusetha kusuka phezulu njengoba kusho ukubeka imingcele engokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwemizwa engeyakho ngeqiniso naleyo oyifunxa kumlingani wakho bese uzenzela iphutha lakho.
Mhlawumbe banengcindezi emsebenzini futhi lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi banemizwelo futhi bakude. Yize kungokwemvelo ukuthintwa yilokhu, akufanele uthathe ukucindezeleka kwabo futhi ukwenze okwakho.
Ukuzimela ebuhlotsheni kusho ukukwazi ukugcina ukulinganisela kwakho ngokomzwelo lapho bengakwazi ukugcina okwabo, futhi okuphambene nalokho.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, kwesinye isikhathi kuzoba khona izimo ezishiya umuzwa wakho ucindezelekile noma udabuke noma uthukuthele. Uma ungakwazi ukwehlukanisa imizwa yakho neyomlingani wakho, nobabili nizosebenzisa sonke isikhathi senu ngaphansi komthwalo omkhulu ongokomzwelo.
8. Ungavumeli isimo sobudlelwano bakho sikunqumele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Kulungile, lokhu akulula neze ukukwenza, kepha uma imizwa yakho nemicabango yakho kuhlale kumayelana nobudlelwano bakho, uzibekela ukuwa.
Kungaba ukumamatheka konke manje, kepha bonke ubudlelwano buzoshaya izigaxa ezimbalwa emgwaqeni, futhi kungokwemvelo ukuthintwa yilezi zigcobho ezinamawala.
Kepha uma uvumela zonke ezinye izici zempilo yakho - umsebenzi wakho, obunye ubudlelwane bakho, amaphupho akho, inhlalakahle yakho yengqondo - zithinteke, uyeka amandla akho okunquma ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Ukugcina ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo, ungafunda ukuhlukanisa imicabango yakho nemizwa yakho ngobudlelwano bakho ukuze ingaphumi kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho - noma okungenani, hhayi kakhulu.
Ake sihlukane nalokhu: ukuzimela ebudlelwaneni akusho ukuthi awusoze wambona umlingani wakho, noma ukuthi udinga ukunciphisa kakhulu isikhathi osichitha ndawonye!
Konke kumayelana nokugcina ezinye izici ezisemqoka empilweni yakho ngaphambi kokuba uhlangane nazo, futhi kuyindlela enempilo yokuqinisekisa ukuthi unobudlelwano obulinganiselayo.
Imibhangqwana echitha sonke isikhathi sokuvuka komunye nomunye ingabonakala ngathi iyathandwa, kepha ekugcineni iyoqala ukucasulana futhi isolelane ngokungabi nabangane abasondelene noma ngokuba nesithukuthezi ngoba idele konke ukuzilibazisa kwayo ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa ndawonye.
Gwema konke lokhu ngokusungula imingcele ethile enempilo nokugcina umuzwa wokuzimela kusenesikhathi ebudlelwaneni. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukungabikho kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ithanda…
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