Ngabe uke uzizwe sengathi uncike kakhulu kwabanye abantu ukuze ukhulise imizwa yakho futhi akusekele?
Yize kukuhle ukuba nenethiwekhi yabantu abaseduze kwakho abakuthandayo nabakunakekelayo, kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukuzibheka.
Ngokufunda ukuthi ungazimela kanjani ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo, uzothola izindlela zokuthuthukisa inhlalakahle yakho.
Kungani uthembele kwabanye?
Ingxenye yokuqala yayo yonke le nqubo ukuzihlola - indlela enhle yokuqala konke, empeleni!
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi uvelaphi ukuze ukwazi ukusungula lapho ufuna ukufika khona nokuthi yini ofuna ukuyizuza.
Qala ngokubheka ukuthi kungani ukufisela lokhu ukunakwa noma imvume kwabanye abantu.
Kuzwakala kufingqiwe, kepha kungaba yinto oyenzayo ebuntwaneni bakho.
Uma ukhule nabazali abahlukanisile noma abahlukene, kungachaza ukuthi kungani uzizwa ungazinzi futhi ungavikelekile ezicini eziningi zempilo yakho.
Ubungani bakho obudlule nobudlelwano bakho nakho kungakhanyisa ngokuziphatha kwakho kwamanje.
Uma uke wangena ubudlelwane obuncikile noma ubenobungani obuseduze kakhulu esikhathini esedlule, kungenzeka ujwayele ukuthembela kothile ekuqinisekisweni, ekucacisweni, nasekuqondisweni.
Ukuzindla kuyisihluthulelo lapha!
Hlala phansi ube neseshini efanele yokufuna umphefumulo: sikhuluma ngencwadi yokubhalela, ukucabangisisa ngezinto, ukufaka amakhodi ngemibala - imisebenzi!
Ngenkathi le nqubo imayelana nokuthola ukuthula ngaphakathi kwakho nokufunda ukukhululeka ngokuzimela kwakho, kusalungile ukuthi uhlanganyele nabanye abantu.
Uvunyelwe usizo oluthile endleleni, futhi abanye abantu nakanjani kufanele babe nokufaka okuthokozisayo nokuhlukile okungasiza ekukhanyiseni ngokuziphatha kwakho kwamanje.
Qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma ngalokhu nabantu obathembayo, abakwazi kahle.
Lokhu kumayelana nokuzakha wena, ngakho-ke eyakho i- abangani abasondelene nawe noma amalungu omndeni azobe ekhona ukukuxhasa ohambweni lwakho lokuzimela ngokomzwelo.
Thola izinto ezikwenza uzizwe kamnandi.
Okulandelayo, sekuyisikhathi sokwakha injabulo yakho.
Siyazi, akulula njengoba kuzwakala, kodwa futhi akunzima njengoba ucabanga!
Qala ngokungeza umsebenzi omusha owodwa esimisweni sakho isonto ngalinye.
Kubalulekile ukuthatha izinto ngejubane lakho - uma uzijaha, uzibeka engcupheni yokuzizwa ukhungathekile, ushile, futhi ususwe ngokuphelele kuwo wonke umqondo ngemuva kwalokhu.
Yenza uhlu lwezinto ezikwenza uzizwe kahle, kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi usuvele uyazi ukuthi ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuhle impela ekubukeni kwakho ngempilo, ngakho-ke engeza esimisweni sesonto ozoqala ngaso.
Uma ungenzi ukuzivocavoca okuningi okwamanje, qala ngokuhamba amabanga alula ukuze ujwayeze umzimba wakho ukuba usebenze.
Ungasebenza kuze kube sekugijimeni kwamasonto onke noma ngezikhathi zokuzivocavoca, noma ungazama ukubhukuda uma ungakwenzanga isikhashana (noma ngaphambili).
I-Yoga nama-Pilates ayizindlela ezithandekayo zokubheka umzimba wakho nokusebenza engqondweni yakho, futhi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ukudala kukusiza uzizwe kahle ngawe - lokho kungaba ukudweba, ukudweba, noma ukwenza umculo.
Yonke le misebenzi izwakala iqondile futhi ungahle ungaboni ekuqaleni ukuthi izokuthinta kanjani.
Umqondo walokhu ukuthi uqala ukubona amakhono akho… amandla akho.
Kulula kakhulu ukukwenza uzizwe sengathi asikho okuhle ngalutho noma ukuthi asinalutho oluthokozisayo ngathi, futhi lokho kungasenza sincike kakhulu kulabo abasizungezile.
Ukuzethemba kwethu kungazuza ngempela ngokuba nezinto esizithandayo nezinto esizithandayo, futhi sifunde ukuthi thina can yenza izinto!
Yamukela isikhathi sodwa - futhi usamukele!
Isikhathi esisodwa into abaningi bethu abakuthola kunzima ukuyiqonda.
Uma usuvele uyazi ukuthi uncike kakhulu kulabo abaseduze kwakho ngenjabulo yakho, ukukhululeka ngokuba wedwa kuzokusiza kakhulu.
Ukusuka ekuzizungezeni nabantu abasinaka nokuqinisekisa ukuba sodwa kungazizwa kusabeka kakhulu futhi kusabisa.
Ngokwamukela ukuthi sizoba sodwa ngezikhathi ezithile empilweni, singathola izindlela zokukhululeka ngakho - noma sikujabulele - kunokuzama konke okusemandleni ukukugwema.
Ngokwenqaba imizwa yesizungu engaqhamuka, sakha izinga lecala nokwesaba okuzungezile.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi siqala ukwesaba ukuba sodwa futhi ngaleyo ndlela sithembele nakakhulu kwabanye abantu ngenjabulo yethu.
Ngokwamukela ukuthi sizoba sodwa, singasebenzela ekutholeni izindlela zokukujabulela.
Isikhathi sisodwa sivame ukuzizwa sesabeka ngoba asinalutho esingenalutho.
Siyazi ukuthi sizoba sodwa futhi yilokho kuphela esizilungisa kukho - lokho yize.
Ngokuhlela izinto zokugcwalisa leso sikhathi sisodwa, singaqala ukusisebenzisa ngokugcwele.
Uyomangala ukuthi usheshe ukujwayele kanjani ukuba wedwa nokuthi uzokwazi kangakanani ukukwenza ngaleso sikhathi, noma ngabe kungumsebenzi oyisicefe noma imisebenzi yasekhaya noma imisebenzi emnandi njengobusuku be-movie eyodwa, izikhathi zokupheka, noma ukucula ngokuzwakalayo ngenkathi umanzi kubhavu!
Cabanga ngezindlela ezimnandi zokugcwalisa isikhathi sakho ngaphambi kokuba uthole 'isikhathi sodwa' esikhulu esizayo.
Ngale ndlela uzoqala ukubheka phambili ekubeni wedwa kunokuba ukwesabe.
Cabanga ngakho njengesikhathi sethuba, hhayi isizungu.
Yisikhathi sokukhipha izinto ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, isikhathi sokuphumula kungekho omunye umuntu ongahlulela, isikhathi sokusebenza ngezinto eziyimfihlo ofuna ukuzigcina kuwe!
Yenza uhlu lwalezi zinketho bese uqala ukusebenza ngalo.
Isikhathi sizodlula futhi uzoqala ukuthembela kuwe ukuze wakhe lezi zikhathi ezimnandi zodwa, uzakhele impilo yakho futhi uzenzele injabulo, ngokwemibandela yakho.
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Qamba kabusha 'okungekuhle'
Uma usucabangele ukuthi yini ekwenza uzizwe ungajabule noma ukhathazekile, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuyibhala kabusha.
Ungahle uziqinisekise ukuthi awukwazi ukuzizwa kahle ngoba awukhangi, uyisicefe, isilima , njll.
Uma lezi zinto 'ezimbi' zisekhanda lakho ngesizathu, kuhlole lokho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi othile ukhulume into oyichaze kabi noma waze wakhumbula kabi.
Ungahle ukhumbule isimo lapho wazizwa unqatshelwe kwezothando - kungenzeka ukuthi waqonda kabi okwakwenzeka noma empeleni sasikhona esinye isizathu salokho.
Mhlawumbe umuntu onentshisekelo kuye wayengenantshisekelo, noma mhlawumbe isikhathi sasicishiwe noma izimo zazingabalungele (babedlula i-ex, befuna ukungashadi njll.).
Kungokwemvelo ukwakha izimo ezinhlokweni zethu nokwakha izimo okungenzeka ukuthi azenzekanga empeleni.
Kubuye kungenampilo, noma kunjalo, futhi ngendlela emangalisayo ukuzilimaza !
Njengoba usebenzela ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukudedela izimo ‘ezingezinhle’ ezikuholela ekulangazeleleni ukunakwa nokuqinisekiswa.
Sebenzisa amandla engqondo yakho ngokuhle…
Kunokuthi, 'Angiwutholanga lowo msebenzi ngoba angihlakaniphile ngokwanele,' zitshele ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi kunezinto ezingcono ezingaphambili zakho.
Buyisela kabusha izinto ezenzekile uma usuthulile futhi unengqondo.
Kuyasiza impela ukubhala lolu hlobo lwento phansi, ngoba kulula ukusuka ekuzizweni ulungile ngokuthile ukugxumela ngqo emuva engqondweni yokukhathazeka oqale ngayo.
Bheka emuva ohlwini lwakho isikhathi ngasinye lapho uqala ukuphatheka kabi ngento ethile eyenzeke esikhathini esedlule.
Uzothola ngokushesha ukuthi awudingi ukubiza umngani ukuze akhulume ngokuthize (futhi!) Okwenzekile ezinyangeni ezedlule.
Ungavele uhlole iphephabhuku lakho , zikhumbuze ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi awucabangi okunengqondo ngenxa yengcindezi, futhi uvuselele isimo ngendlela enhle.
Ithole ngokubhala.
Ngokusebenzela ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo, uzojabulela izinzuzo eziningi kakhulu.
Kungaba kuhle impela ukubhala phansi okulindele ukuthi kwenzeke kanye nalokho ofuna ukwenzeka.
Okuningi kuyachaza, kunjalo, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi akukufanele ukuzikhumbuza njalo kaningi!
Yenza uhlu ongabhekisa kulo uma unenkinga. Izokukhumbuza ukuthi usebenzela ini futhi izokubonisa nenqubekela phambili oyenzayo.
Njalo lapho uza ukuhlola uhlu lwakho, uzokwazi ukuphawula izinto eziningi!
Kuyanelisa ngempela ukubona ngenkuthalo ukuthi umehluko omkhulu kangakanani owenzayo engqondweni yakho, ngakho-ke ukuba nohlu lomzimba olubhalwe phansi kwenye indawo kuzokusiza kakhulu.
Ungasebenzisa futhi lolu hlu ukuzakhela imantra - qala usuku ngalunye ngokuzifundela uhla ngokuzwakalayo phambi kwesibuko.
Noma kungani ungazenzeli okurekhodwayo okulalelwayo okhuluma ngalokho ofuna ukukufeza (futhi kungani) ukudlala ebusuku ngenkathi usiya ekulaleni noma ukusebenzisa njengesisekelo sesikhathi sokuzindla?
Lezi zenzo zingazizwa zingasile kancane, kodwa khumbula ukuthi uzenzela wena - zinike isikhathi sokuthola indawo ethule lapho ungeke uphazanyiswe khona.
Ukukhuluma nombono wakho kungenzeka uzizwe wesabisa ngendlela exakile noma enamahloni, kepha akekho omunye umuntu ongabona noma ezwe! Uzojwayela maduze ngokwanele…
Bonisa ukuthi ufuna ukwenzani - zikubone ngeso lengqondo kwenzeka futhi ucabange izimo lapho ukwazi khona ukwenza izinto ofuna ukuzithola kulo mkhuba.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna ukuzizwa ukwazi ukwenza izinqumo uwedwa, noma uyeke ukuthembela kwabanye ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho noma ukubaluleka kwakho.
Khulumisana ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka.
Futhi, lokhu kumayelana nokuthi uthole ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo futhi ufunde ukukhululeka nokuzethemba wedwa, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ube yindlubu futhi ugweme konke ukuxhumana nabantu!
Khuluma nabantu obathembayo mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Qaphela ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani ngalolu phiko - kubalulekile ukuthi ungabuyeli emikhubeni yakudala yokuthembela kulabo abaseduze kwakho.
Ungakhuluma ngokwenzekayo, kunjalo, vele wazi ukuthi manje unezinga elisha lokuzazi futhi wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuthi uhlale uzimela ngangokunokwenzeka uma kukhulunywa ngemizwa yakho.
Awudingi ukuzizwa sengathi kufanele uhambe ubandayo - kusalungile ukufuna imibono yabantu nokuzibandakanya empilweni yakho…
… Kumayelana nokufunda ukubeka ibanga phakathi kwakho nokuvunyelwa abanye.
Ukuthola umbono ongaphandle kungasiza impela uma kukhulunywa ngokuzisebenza ngokwakho, njengokuphikisana njengoba lokho kungazwakala!
Ithalente laseMelika uJanis joplin
Cishe uzothola ukuthi ukujabulele impela ukukhuluma ngenqubekela phambili oyenzayo, noma uzozizwa kahle lapho othandekayo ephawula ngakho.
Yabelana ngezindaba zokuthi usebenza kahle kanjani ngesikhathi sodwa, ukuthi usigcwalisa ngani, bese ubuza ukuthi iziphi iziphakamiso abanazo.
Bona ukuthi abanye abantu baphatha kanjani, noma baphathe kanjani, imizwa noma izimo ezifanayo.
Uzothola ukuthi abantu abaningi bake badlula kokufanayo, noma basenemizwa yokuba nesizungu noma isidingo sokulima isiqinisekiso ngezikhathi ezithile.
Lokho kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele futhi akuyona into okudingeka uyiqede nganoma iyiphi indlela, into nje enempilo yokunciphisa.
Cabanga ngakho njengekhekhe - akukuhle nsuku zonke, kodwa kulungile ukuzitika njalo kaningi!
Fake it uze uyenze .
Sizokushiya nezeluleko ezisebenza ezimweni eziningi - zikhohlise uze uzenze.
Uma konke okunye kwehluleka, zitshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani futhi ukwenze kube okuhle.
Ungenza sengathi uzizwa umuhle, noma ngabe wenza lokho nje - ukuzenzisa.
Kubalulekile uku zingene emikhubeni emihle namaphethini wokuziphatha, nokuzikholisa ukuthi usuvele ukuwo kuyindlela enhle yokwenza ukuthi inamathele empeleni.
Yinkulumo esiyikhipha kakhulu, impela, kepha siyayithanda - 'ama-neurons ahlangana ndawonye ngocingo.'
Lokhu kusho okuthile ngokweqiniso uma kukhulunywa ngezingqondo zethu nangobuchopho bethu.
Ngokwenza sengathi sikhululekile ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe nokuzimela, izingqondo zethu zizoqala ukukukholwa futhi sizozethemba ngokwengeziwe kuleso sici sezimpilo zethu.
Ngokuqhubeka nokwenza sengathi sizizwa ngaleyo ndlela ngokweqiniso, ubuchopho bethu buzoqala ukuphinda busebenze, futhi.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kunokuxhumana okuthile ngokomzimba okwenziwe ebuchosheni bethu okuxhumanisa indlela eyodwa yokuziphatha nokunye.
Isibonelo, 'Ngizizwa kabi ngami namuhla' kungashesha, futhi ngokuqinile, kuxhunyaniswe ne 'Ngidinga ukushayela umngani ucingo bese ngikhalela ucingo ihora lonke.'
Lapho sithembela ngokwengeziwe kwabanye ngenjabulo yethu noma ukuzethemba kwethu, kulapho ubuchopho bethu bufunda khona ukuthi 'siyakudinga' lokho kuhlangana ukudala leyo mizwa emihle.
Ngokuxhumanisa umcabango ngamunye ongemuhle nento ethe xaxa, njengokuthi “Ngiyakwazi ukuphumula ngiziphumulele ekhaya ngedwa, ngilalele umculo engiwuthandayo futhi ngipheke ukudla engikuthandayo,” ubuchopho bethu bufunda ukuthi singakwazi ukuzondla ngokomzwelo.
Le micabango ezongena esikhundleni izosika kulabo abathembele kubo futhi uzoqala ukwakha izixhumanisi eziqinile kunalezo ezizimele, ezizithandayo kunalokho.
