Ukuvelela. Ngenye yalawo magama anezincazelo ezinhle nezimbi.
Zisuka ekuzalweni, siyakhuthazwa yenza konke okusemandleni ethu futhi ufinyelele izinkanyezi, uphakamisa ukuthi ukuvelela kuyisici esihle.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ibinzana esizwa kaningi ‘ukufuna ukuvelela okunonya,’ nakuba bembalwa kithi abangakhathalela ukuchazwa njengabanonya.
Ngumuntu ozimisele ukulwa nendlela yakhe eya phezulu ngaphandle kokunikeza umcabango wesibili ngekusasa lalabo ababanyathela endleleni.
‘Umdlalo’ ungaguquka kalula kalula esifisweni sokuzuza ube yisidingo esikhulu sokushaya abanye noma ngabe kubiza malini. Umphumela waleso simo awusoze waba muhle.
Akukona yini ukwazi ukuthi igama elilodwa kufanele libe nezincazelo ezimbili ezahlukahlukene kangaka?
Akuyona Inkundla Yokudlala Ezingeni
Ngaphambi kokuba ngidlulele ekugxileni okuyinhloko kwalesi siqephu, angikwazi ukumelana nokusho ukuthi igama alinazo nje ezinye izincazelo, kepha kunokwehluka okuhlukile okususelwa ebulilini ngendlela isifiso esibukwa ngayo.
Yize ngokwesiko kunconywa emphakathini wethu ukuthi owesilisa abe nesifiso, okuphambene kunjalo ngabesifazane. Iningi labantu lisengakhululekile ngomqondo wowesifazane ophokophelela ukuphumela obala nangamazwi.
Ucwaningo olwembulayo yiColumbia University yaqala ukuphenya le mbono.
Ababambe iqhaza ocwaningweni banikezwe imininingwane ngosomabhizinisi abasebenza ngokuzikhandla futhi bacela imicabango yabo kulowo muntu njengozakwabo.
Amaphesenti angama-50 eqembu anikezwa igama lalowo owayengenele ukhetho njengoHoward kanti abanye babekholelwa ukuthi igama lalinguHeidi.
Umbono weqembu le-'Howard 'lalowo owayengenele ukhetho wawuncomekayo, nokho iqembu lika'Heidi' lazizwa ukuthi ukude nokuba nguzakwethu ofanele futhi limkholelwa ukuthi uyazithanda.
Njengoba kukhonjisiwe kulolu cwaningo, ngokungangabazeki owesifazane obukelayo ubhekwa kabi, kuyilapho indoda enesifiso sokubukwa ibonwa njengeyigugu. Kuyathakazelisa futhi akulungile!
Elinye iqiniso elihlobene nobulili ukuthi abesifazane abazimisele kakhulu bambalwa futhi bayaqhubeka phakathi kwabalingani babo besilisa.
Ngokuyinhloko lokhu kungaphansi kwesimo senhlalo, okudala ukuthi abesifazane bathambekele kakhulu ekukhulumeni okungeyikho okwehlisa amandla abo okufeza izifiso zabo nokufinyelela amandla abo aphelele.
Ngenhlanhla, abesifazane bekhulu lama-20 leminyaka, kusukela enkundleni yezemidlalo kuya egumbini lokufundela, bathatha lezi zincazelo ezingezinhle zesifiso sabesifazane phambili, kodwa ngokusobala kusenomsebenzi okufanele wenziwe ekushintsheni le mibono enezintambo ezinzima.
Manje sengikususile lokho esifubeni sami, singabuyela esihlokweni esiseduze…
Amandla Avumayo Woshintsho
Ngaphandle kwesifiso, kungathathwa ngokuphepha ukuthi thina bantu ngabe sisahlala emihumeni. Kungumshayeli womuntu wokufeza oletha ushintsho bese uthuthuka.
Inqobo nje uma ihanjiswe ngendlela efanele, ukuvelela kungafinyelela imiphumela emangalisayo.
Ukucaphuna uNeel Burton, udokotela wezifo zengqondo nombhali we Izulu Nesihogo: I-Psychology of the Emotions:
Iningi lempumelelo enkulu yomuntu yimikhiqizo, noma izingozi, zezifiso zabo.
unemizwa ngami
Uqhubeka echaza ukuthi, ngokwesilinganiso, abantu abathanda izikhundla bathola amazinga aphezulu emfundo kanye nemali engenayo, bakhe imisebenzi ehlonishwayo, futhi babike amazinga aphakeme kakhulu okweneliseka kwempilo.
Icebo, kubonakala sengathi ukuthuthuka uphilile isifiso, lapho umdlandla onentshiseko angakwazi ukuhlanganisa isifiso sabo sempumelelo ngaphandle kokunyathela bonke ozakwabo endleleni yabo yokuya phezulu.
Ukuzinyeza Kuyisici Esikhawulayo
Njengoba ukufisa kuveza ngokusobala izinzuzo ezinjalo, ake sigxile emiphumeleni yesifiso 'esinempilo', ngokungafani nokuhlukahluka okunonya.
Yiziphi izinqubo zokucabanga kanye nesimo esenza impumelelo noma ukwehluleka?
Okusemqoka ukuthi iningi lethu lilinganiselwe emandleni ethu okufeza ngokusakazwa okungapheli kokunganaki nokungabaza emakhanda ethu. Ukunikela kule micabango engasizi ngalutho kusenza isitha sethu esibi kakhulu.
Futhi ngenkathi lokho kungabaza okukhohlisayo kubeka amabhuleki empumelelweni yethu, abantu abazimiseleyo baya phambili.
KwakunguHenry Ford owasho kahle, emuva ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20:
Noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi uyakwazi, noma ucabanga ukuthi awukwazi, mhlawumbe uqinisile.
Ngokubheka impumelelo yakhe eyinganekwane futhi ehlala njalo embonini yezimoto, ngicabanga ukuthi kuphephile ukucabanga ukuthi wayengumuntu ovelele ngokuziqhenya owayezibekela imigomo ephakeme kakhulu futhi waziphoqa ukuze ayifeze.
AmaGremlins okuzingabaza
Akungabazeki ukuthi uma uvumela ukuthi ukholwe ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza okuthile, kufakazelwe ukuthi uzokwehluleka noma, okubi nakakhulu, ngeke uze ushiye nezitebhisi zokuqala.
Akukona ukuthi siyantula emibonweni noma ezifisweni, kepha ukuthi asinakho ukuhumusha isifiso sisebenze. Ngemuva kwakho konke, abaphuphayo nabafezile bahlukaniswa kuphela ngokuba nesibindi sokuqala.
Ngokuphikisana nathi abazithandabuzayo, abantu abanesifiso sokuvelela banenkolelo engenakunyakaziswa emandleni abo okuphumelela futhi yilokho okubavumela ukuthi badlulele phambili lapho abanye bema khona ngokugcwele.
Kuyikhono elithandwa kakhulu yilabo abahlushwa ama-gremlins wokungabaza.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Incwadi Evulekile Kulabo Abangenaso Isifiso Sokuvelela, Abangenawo Amagoli, Futhi Abangenawo Amaphupho
- Uma Ufuna Ukuphumelela Kunoma Yini, Uzodinga Lawa Amakhono Empilo angama-32
- Izinto Ezi-7 Abantu Abaphumelelayo Abalokothi Bahlehle Phambili
- Imikhuba Emincane Abantu Abaphumelelayo Abangachithi Isikhathi Sabo Kuqhubeke
- Nikela Ngezinto Eziyi-20 Uma Ufuna Ukuphumelela Empilweni
Ukungabaza Abantu Abafuna Ukuvelela Benqaba Ukunikela Kuzo
Ake sibheke okunye kokungabaza okuphikisanayo abantu abathanda ukuvelela abenqaba ukuvumela futhi babheke ukuthi lokhu kubanikeza kanjani umngcele…
1. Ngeke Ngiphumelele Kulokhu
Awusoze wezwa umuntu ozifunela isikhundla ethi ngeke aphumelele empilweni noma emsebenzini othile.
Ukuvelela kungumgqugquzeli wangaphakathi, ngakho-ke bakholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi, noma ngabe kufanele balwele kangakanani impumelelo futhi noma ngabe kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani, ekugcineni bazofika lapho.
Amandla okuzikhulumela okuhle awakwazi ukubukelwa phansi. Okuhlukile nakho kuyiqiniso, ngakho-ke ukuzitshela ukuthi uzohluleka yisiphrofetho esizigcwalisayo. Amandla amagama - noma engakhulunywa futhi asekhanda lakho kuphela - makhulu.
2. Abanye Abantu Bazongihleka
Akukaze kwenzeke kumuntu ozifunela udumo ukuthi ngeke bathathwe ngokungathi sína ngabanye.
Bazihlonipha kakhulu bona kanye namakhono abo okwenza ukuthi bahlonishwe ontanga nabaphathi ngokufanayo. Uma ungazithathi ngokungathí sina, khona-ke nabanye ngeke.
Ukuthuthukisa ukuzihlonipha nokufunda ukwazisa okwenziwe nguwe kuyisisekelo sokwakha endleleni eya empumelelweni.
3. Kuzoba Kubi Uma Ngihluleka
Ukwesaba ukwehluleka akuyona into ethwalisa abantu abathambekele emigomweni. Bayakuqonda ukuthi ukwehluleka akukubi konke, hhayi ngoba uvame ukufunda okuningi emaphutheni kunasempumelelweni.
Indlela yabo ukuthatha izingozi ezibaliwe, ezinye zazo ezikhokhayo kanti ezinye ezingakhokhi.
Ukhiye wokuzethemba kwabo ukuqonda kwabo ukuthi ukwehluleka ukuphuma emgqeni wokuqala ukwehluleka okukhulu kunakho konke.
4. Kunzima Kakhulu
Ngeke ubambe umuntu onesifiso sokukhononda ekhala ngokuthi umsebenzi unzima kakhulu noma ngeke akwazi ukuwenza.
Banokuqonda kwangaphakathi kokuthi akukho lutho empilweni oluza kalula, noma okungenani akukho lutho okufanele ube nalo.
Ngokunjalo, bavele babhekise amakhanda phansi bese benza umzamo odingekayo ukuze bafinyelele enhlosweni yabo.
Njengoba umbhali wokuzisiza uNapoleon Hill esho:
Abanye abantu baphupha ngempumelelo, kanti abanye bavuka basebenze kanzima kuyo.
5. Ziningi Izinto Ezimi Endleleni Yami
Uma uthwele ukungazithembi, kungenzeka ukuthi uzobona izinselelo nezinkinga eziqubukayo njengezithiyo ezingenakunqotshwa empumelelweni yakho.
Ngokuphambene, abantu abanesifiso sokuvelela abanikezeli ezimweni zengqondo ezinjalo zokwehlulwa. Imvamisa, bayawajabulela la maqhubu emgwaqeni, beqonda ukuthi ubunzima obusendleleni benza ukuba isiphetho sokugcina sibe mnandi kakhulu.
angikuthandi ngawe
6. Akusona Isikhathi Esifanele
Isikhathi esiningi sichithwa ngokuhlehlisa nokulinda 'umzuzu ophelele' ukuqala emsebenzini noma kuphrojekthi.
Eqinisweni, izaba zokubambezeleka zingahlehliswa kangangokuba ekugcineni akwenzeki lutho.
Abantu abafuna ukuvelela bayakuqonda ukuthi ukulinda okungapheli kokuthi izinkanyezi ziqondaniswe kahle kumane kungukuchitha isikhathi esiyigugu. Baqala nje futhi bagxile emandleni abo emgomweni wokugcina .
ukufunda ukudedela okwedlule
Njengoba isazi sefilosofi sasendulo samaShayina uLao Tzu asho:
Uhambo lwamamayela ayinkulungwane luqala ngesinyathelo esisodwa.
Uma ungalokothi uthathe leso sinyathelo sokuqala, ngokusobala akekho oya ndawo, ngokoqobo noma ngokomfanekiso. Isikhathi esihle sokuqala manje, noma ngabe kuyisinyathelo-sengane - yeka ngezaba esezivele!
7. Kungenzeka Ngingajabuleli Impumelelo
Abantu abafisa ukuvelela abachithi amandla abo bakhathazeke ngokuthi bazobhekana kanjani nempumelelo uma kungenzeka.
Abasindwa ukungabaza ngamakhono abo futhi bamukela impumelelo yabo njengomvuzo olungile wokusebenza kwabo kanzima, isimo sengqondo esihle , nomoya wokuhweba.
8. Abanye Banethalente Elidlula Lami
Ukwenza ukuqhathanisa phakathi kwamakhono akho nawabanye kuhlale kungumqondo omubi. Nakanjani uzophela ukholelwa ukuthi uphansi .
Uma uhlala uzama ukulingisa abanye okholelwa ukuthi ‘bangcono’ kunawe, kungenzeka ukuthi uzohluleka njalo.
Lokho kuzolulaza ukuzethemba kwakho kuphela futhi kuqinise umbono wakho wokuzenyeza kwakho.
Ngokuphambene, abantu abanesifiso sokuvelela babonakala benomqondo wemvelo wamandla abo kanye nekhono labo futhi abachithi isikhathi sabo ngokwenza ukuqhathanisa okunjalo.
Udinga ukwamukela futhi thokozela amakhono akho ahlukile futhi uhlose ukuba yinguqulo yakho engcono kakhulu. Ukudonsa isifiso sokuziqhathanisa nabangani nabasebenza nabo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esihle kakhulu.
Bheka indlela ezisebenza ngayo, nakanjani, futhi uvulekele ukufunda kuzo. Kepha ungavumeli leyo mizwelo emibi kakhulu - umona nentukuthelo - ingene.
Khumbula ukuthi awuyena lowo muntu onguye - yiqiniso kuwe!
9. Ngivele Ngingemuhle / Angifanele
Uma izilungiselelo zakho ezizenzakalelayo zisho ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele noma kufanelekile ngokwanele , lapho-ke maningi amathuba okuthi uyeke lapho uhlangabezana namaqhubu angenakugwemeka emgwaqeni.
Abantu abanesifiso sokuvelela abayeki futhi abakaze basho ukuthi abalungile ngokwanele.
Njengoba ingoma iqhubeka, 'Lapho ukuhamba kuba nzima, abanzima bayaqhubeka.'
Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kufingqa kahle isimo sengqondo sabantu abanokuvelela abanenkinga abahlangabezana nayo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umlingani obaluleke kakhulu wokuvelela ukuphikelela.
Vele Ungavumi Ukunganaki
Ngicabanga ukuthi sesisungule ukuthi ukungabi nasifiso kungaba isitha somuntu uqobo kakhulu.
Izinkolelo zokuzikhawulela, imikhuba emibi, kanye nemicabango engemihle kanye / noma eyehlulekayo konke kungafinyelela ekulimaleni okungenzeka, okuholele ekungafezekini nasekunganelisweni.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abanesifiso sokuvelela banenkolelo ejulile kubo kanye namandla abo okuwathola. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bakholelwa ukuthi banamandla okuguqula umdlalo.
Ukuvelela akudingeki ukuthi kube mayelana nempumelelo futhi ngokuqinisekile hhayi ngokunyathela indlela yakho eya phezulu.
Kungaba ngokwenza amakhono akho ahlukile futhi uzizwe waneliseka okuza nakho.
Njengoba umdwebi wamakhathuni nosomahlaya uFrank Tyger ekubeka:
Ukuvelela wumdlandla onenjongo.
Lolo thando lungakusiza ekutholeni iminyango emisha, kepha kudinga uthando nesibindi ukuyivula bese unqamula uye kolunye uhlangothi.
Nezwi Lokugcina KuLao Tzu…
Ngiyethemba ukuthi lawa magama ahlakaniphile azokukhuthaza ukuthi ulahle ukungabaza okusabekayo, ubeke amehlo akho emvuzweni, futhi ufeze amandla akho ahlukile.
Sinethuba elilodwa kuphela kulokhu kuphila, ngakho-ke ngeke yini kube yihlazo ukungasisebenzisi ngokunenzuzo isikhathi sethu esisinikiwe ngokuxebuka futhi sinikeze ukungabi nalusizo?
Qaphela ukuthi unisela ini amaphupho akho. Banisele ngokukhathazeka nokwesaba futhi uzokhiqiza ukhula oluminyanisa impilo kusuka ephusheni lakho. Banisele ngethemba nangezixazululo futhi uzohlakulela impumelelo. - uLao Tzu
