Namuhla, njengazo zonke izinsuku, siphila emhlabeni omatasa kakhulu futhi ophithizelayo ogcwele okulindelwe kulowo nalowo muntu.
izinkondlo ezikhuluma ngokufa kothandekayo
Izinkambiso nezinkolelo zomphakathi ezivela kwabanye zenza isithunzi esinzima sokuqagela ezimpilweni zethu, imvamisa nangaphambi kokuba sizalwe. Izinhlelo zesimanje zemfundo nomsebenzi zingumthombo ongapheli wengcindezi enkulu, echichima izingqondo nemizimba yethu. Ngisho nekhefu elincane kakhulu kufanele libalwe futhi lingene kusheduli eligcwele imisebenzi nezibopho.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi abantu ababucayi kakhulu basindwa kalula, ngakho-ke abahlonyelwe kahle ukubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo nezikhuthazayo ngokuqhubekayo. Ukuntula ukuqonda kahle lolu daba kuvame ukuphoqa leyo miphefumulo ebuthaka ukuba izifunele isixazululo.
Bavame ukuphendukela ezintweni eziluthayo ukuze badambise isiphepho esingokomzwelo esenzeka ngaphakathi ezinhliziyweni zabo. Lapho ingqondo yakho ehluphekayo ikubulala, ngisho nomuthi onemiphumela emibi kakhulu ubukeka njengobubi obuncane, njengoba uzama ngamandla ukuphatha umzuzu wamanje. Le ndlela yokuzikindishiza, yize iyingozi kakhulu, iyisenzo sokusinda.
Ukwakha Umkhuba
Ngingumuntu obuthakathaka futhi ngingeniswe ngokwami futhi ngiye ngabona ukungabonakali kwesenzo esiguqula kancane kancane sibe yiphethini. Kuqala ngokuzuma ukuthola ukukhululeka esimweni esesabekayo: ake sisebenzise isibonelo sokuphuza ibhodlela likaJack Daniels ngemuva kokwehlukana.
Umcimbi onjalo uvamile, futhi abantu abaningi bazozama uhlobo oluthile lwe-anesthesia yokuzenzela ukuze bavivinye ukusebenza kwayo lapho singumlingisi ophambili embukisweni wethu odabukisayo.
Ngabe usasikhumbula isikhathi lapho wawusebenzisa khona utshwala ukuze wehlise intukuthelo nosizi lwakho njengoba wehla kancane kancane ebuhlungwini benhliziyo yakho? Uma impendulo yakho inguyebo, kunethuba eliphakeme kakhulu lokuthi - uma isimo esingesihle siziphinda - uzophinda ubuyekeze isigcawu esifanayo, ufuna isimilo owaziyo ukuthi sizobhekana nosizi futhi.
Ingqondo yethu ibamba iqhaza ekwakheni umkhuba ngaphandle kokuhlaziya imiphumela yayo: ungenza ngokuzenzakalela ukufinyelela ibhodlela kalula njengoba wenza umkhuba wokuxubha amazinyo akho njalo ekuseni.
Abantu ababucayi kakhulu abathintwa hhayi okwabo kuphela, kepha futhi nemizwa yabanye abantu izinhlelo zabo zezinzwa zihlala zixwayiswe kakhulu, zicubungula inkuthazo enikezwa yimihlaba yomibili: ingaphakathi nengaphandle.
Ngisho nezinto ezincane kakhulu zingaphula izinhliziyo zabo futhi zikugcwalise ngosizi olungachazeki izinsuku eziningi: ngesinye isikhathi ngazithola sengikhala nje ngoba umphathi wemali esitolo wangithethisa ngokuthinta isikali esinesisindo. Ubutha nentukuthelo yakhe kwabangela ukungalingani ngokomzwelo kimi.
Sishiywe ngaphandle kwesihlangu futhi yonke into ifika kithi, ngakho-ke singazizwa sinesifiso sokufuna ukukhululeka kaningi kakhulu kunabanye, sakhe imikhuba eyingozi ngokushesha futhi sizilahlekele kuyo ngamandla amakhulu.
Ekujuleni komlutha wami bengithi umhlaba ungifaka ubuthi mina kufanele sikhiphe ubuthi egazini lami ngiwufake ngegciwane ngotshwala. Okuvame ukuvala iluphu - ngokwenza wena uzizwe ungelutho - ukwenqatshwa kwabanye nokungavunyelwa ngonya okusekelwe emibonweni engeyona yeqiniso.
Okuthunyelwe okuhlobene (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Amathiphu angu-17 okusinda ama-Empaths nabantu abanozwelo kakhulu
- Kungani Uzizwa Ukhungathekile Futhi Yini Ongayenza Ngayo
- Iziqinisekiso Ezinamandla Ezi-6 Zokulwa Nokucindezelwa Nokukhathazeka
- Ngaphakathi Engqondweni Yomuntu Ozwela Phakeme
- Izinzuzo ezingaziwa zokuba ngumuntu ozwela kakhulu
- Izinto Eziyi-12 Abantu Abazwela Kakhulu Abazibonayo, Ukuthi Abanye Abaningi Abazi
Izimbangela Nokuthi Ungazinqoba Kanjani
Lapho usuyisigqila, umfutho okucindezela ekuphindaphindeni iphutha lakho ubizwa ngokuthi yi-trigger. Kungaba umuzwa oxhunyaniswe 'nokwelashwa' ngumqondo wethu ongazi lutho, indawo, noma ngisho nephunga. Ukubona indawo lapho ubuzitika khona ngenjabulo yakho eyenqatshelwe noma ukuhlangana nomuntu obekugcina enkampanini kuzobuyisa izinkumbulo futhi kukulinge ukuziphindaphinda.
Futhi, kunzima kakhulu kumuntu ozwela kakhulu ukugwema izimbangela, ngoba zizovela kaningi ngenxa yekhono labo elimangalisayo lokubhalisa yonke imininingwane futhi zibophezele kwizimo ezingokomzwelo ezihambisanayo (ngokwesibonelo iphunga lama-aphula lingavusa umuzwa wenjabulo nokuphepha ngenxa yophaya we-apula ugogo wakho abekade ukukuphatha ngawo).
Ukuzwa ingoma owabhema ngokuzithandela ugwayi, ngisho nonyaka ngemuva kokuyeka, kuzodala isifiso esivuthayo sokuthenga iphakethe lamaKamela, ngikholwe.
Ukwelashwa okunikezwe ezikhungweni ezilwa nokulutha kugxile kakhulu ekuboneni izimbangela nasekufundeni ukuthi ungazigwema kanjani futhi ubhekane nazo uma ingekho enye indlela. Ukhiye wokugcina ulele ukufaka iphethini esikhundleni sendlela entsha yokuqeda izingxabano.
Ukuveza imizwa ngobuciko kuyindlela enhle kubantu abazwela kakhulu njengoba bathambekele ekwenzeni ngendlela emangalisayo isenzo sokudala futhi badedele okungcwatshwe ekujuleni okumnyama kakhulu kwengqondo kungaba yinto eyinselele futhi ehlanza ngokujulile.
Ukukhipha omunye umuntu ngokungaziwa nge-intanethi kuyindlela enhle futhi ikuvumela ukuthi uhlale un-incognito futhi uvikele ukwahlulela okunzima okuvela kothile ojwayelene naye (kunezindawo ezimbalwa ezinhle zokwenza lokhu - zama iGoogling “the comfort spot”). Ukuhlela usuku lwakho nakho kubalulekile ukuze ugweme izikhathi lapho ungenalutho futhi lapho ukucabanga ngokweqile kungabamba.
Iseluleko esibaluleke kakhulu engingasinika wonke umuntu ozwela kakhulu olwa nokuluthwa yilezi: lalela wena. Vula inhliziyo yakho uzilalele ngokweqiniso ngaphandle kokushintsha imibono noma okulindelwe. Uyazi ukuthi yini oyidingayo ngokuthembela ku- umuzwa ukuze wakhe kabusha ukuxhumana ngemizwa yakho. Zibone njengoba zinjalo, ziluhlaza futhi zinhle futhi uphinde uzimise emhlabeni okwamukela.
